Why do some people like to speak ill of others behind their backs and gossip about others

Because they are idle, because they are bad, this kind of person is a villain, and after a long time, everyone will naturally know who they are, and someone will treat them. If someone says bad things about you, don't be in a hurry to tear your face with him (her), you just pretend not to know, and then praise him (her) behind your back, and slowly everyone will know that he (she) is a villain, and you are a kind gentleman, and no one will like to be with people who always say bad things about others, unless they smell like. And if it's a wave of people sitting together and gossiping every day, don't bother with them, no one can do it and everyone likes it, and these people are pure idle, you just do your own thing, but don't be bullied by others, sometimes they (they) are testing your bottom line, so there must be a bottom line, to tell a joke, if you sit there, you hear a group of people chattering and whispering bad things about you, then you just laugh and look at them for 10 seconds, and see if they are panicked.

Such a person just has no quality, don't pay attention to him, let him say go, time will change everything.

Frankly speaking, this kind of person is very calculating, they are well versed in the way of socializing, they are always able to exploit all kinds of loopholes, and they will use different methods to achieve their own goals in the face of different people. Whenever I see those who have suffered losses but are silent, their psychology of pinching soft persimmons immediately begins to move.

The reason why they have been able to succeed again and again is precisely because of their extremely low sense of social morality and rogue mentality. All kinds of struggle experiences have made them tried and tested repeatedly, so the soft persimmon psychology has become their logic and experience, and it has become a kind of communicative inertia.

In their consciousness, there are two common human natures: introspection and order. When there is a problem, they will strike first, using the methods of questioning, doubting and scolding to deter the other party, find the problem from their own side, and let the other party fall into an illusion that they are wrong, and they will not find the reason from him, but feel sorry for him.

The reflex arc of people is relatively long, and by the time they react to what is going on, the matter is often over.

Mis-transfers and emotional garbage**.

Psychologists point out that self-blame and self-imposed pressure are more likely to damage a person's mood than anger. Those who are unreasonable take advantage of precisely this. For example, if something goes wrong, they will put the main blame on you, which is a classic mistransfer.

There is a special defense mechanism in their minds, so that they can't tolerate the feeling that the mistake is self-inflicted, so those who cooperate or collaborate with them become the object of their blame. At the end of the day, it's that they don't want to take responsibility alone, and they always want the people around them to bear the same bad experience as they do.

Of course, none of us are stupid, it's just that sometimes we choose to be silent. But how can we possibly remain calm after suffering a lot of dumb losses? At this time, it is inevitable to be angry, not only angry with those scumbags, but also angry with yourself, and even angry with the whole society.

We are angry, why would we cooperate with such a person? Why would such a scumbag let himself meet? Why are you so stupid, you have been tricked by this kind of person, and you still know it later.

From a psychological point of view, it is normal for us to have such a reaction, and it also reveals a signal from our subconscious: I will not become such a scumbag, will I make the people around me think I am stupid because of this incident, will I be so bad in the future, etc.

Although these feelings are human nature, we must not do nothing and perish in silence. After all, they won't be merciful the next time they meet you. In fact, when facing this kind of person, we can use the ancient art of war, that is, to return the other way to the other.

First of all, make your position clear, stop acting as their soft persimmon, and have a sense of boundary with anyone, so that others dare not cross the line easily, or let them know what serious consequences will be if they step on the line, and punish them with small punishments, instead of blindly remaining silent and gentlemanly.