Why do people worry and suffer, and why do people worry?

Life can't be all smooth sailing, when you are in a bad mood, or when you encounter unhappy things, or when you encounter difficulties at work, or when you don't speculate with others for more than half a sentence, or when you are unwell, you may be troubled and painful. That's it!

Because only by experiencing happiness and pain can individuals achieve the simultaneous growth of physical age and psychological age, and eventually grow into a person with a sound personality, responsibility, and action.

Every day in life. We will encounter troubles and pains. The first thing to do is to start from the heart.

Lower your desires and standards for demanding others, and don't judge others by your own standards. Be tolerant of others. Be tolerant of others.

Happiness comes from within. 70。Be wise.

Nothing you do should be separated from wisdom, if you are wiser. Correspondingly, you will have less worries and pains. Plus hard work.

Both are indispensable. Be serious in whatever you do? Look before you leap.

Study hard and do your job well. It will reduce your worries and pain.

As long as it's not a fool. There are all troubles and pains. Because people have seven emotions and six desires. Be pure-hearted and have few desires. It's impossible. Especially in today's day and age, competition is fierce. People may have more troubles.

Why is it troubled and painful? , because there are complex interpersonal relationships, complex entanglements of interests, and too many desires, any one of which is not handled well will be annoying and painful.

Human beings have three major instincts: competition, survival, and reproduction. Troubles, pain, etc., are inseparable from these three instincts.

Everything in a person's life is not all smooth sailing, because people's relationships are particularly complicated, their own desires are too much, and many things cannot rely on your own desires and ideas, if you don't handle it well, it will make people troubled and painful.

People have thoughts and brains, and they will be troubled when they encounter troubles, and they will be very painful and sad when they encounter painful things. People know common sense, but if people want to open, they will solve it, they will communicate, and they should not always be troubled and painful.

There will be troubles and pains in people's lives, there is no smooth sailing, to face it strongly, you will break through all difficulties, there is no hurdle that cannot be passed, the rain is over, and tomorrow will be better.

In fact, if we want to explain why there are troubles and pains, then through some of our life experiences, people have seven emotions and six desires, and irritability and pain are the meaningless life.

It is normal for people to have troubles, because people grow up and think about problems. When faced with a problem that cannot be solved, it becomes annoying. Troubles are mainly in three aspects, 1. The society in which we live has something that makes us dissatisfied, we will feel that the world is unfair, we have given ourselves too few things, and others are very good, so we will have a sense of imbalance, we will be powerless, and we will have troubles.

2. Family problems can also cause troubles. 3. Interpersonal communication can also bring troubles.

When troubles come, use them as motivation to solve them and overcome them, and you will take a big step forward. When troubles come, you can do things that interest you, such as traveling, shopping, chatting, listening, and releasing stress. Or find a place where no one is and shout loudly.

Build confidence that you will be able to solve your problems and cheer up. The most effective solution is to exercise, play basketball or soccer when you have time. Relax your brain during exercise.

Don't think about anything, wait until your mind is cool down to think of a solution.

Annoyances are not innate, they are imposed on everyone by society, and as we get older, they become more and more. Man cannot be completely detached from society, so he categorically cannot get rid of the troubles imposed by society.

Troubles are all around you all the time, but you can't feel them all the time. Just like Chinese medicine, any pair of Chinese medicine must have a medicine primer to exert its medicinal effect, and the same is true for troubles. The first medicine for troubles is loneliness.

When a person is lonely, he will inexplicably think of a lot of unpleasant things, such as work, study, life, interpersonal relationships, girlfriends, etc., maybe these troubles were around you before, but you can only clearly feel the troubles they bring you when you are lonely. The second is feeling down, when you encounter something that makes you feel depressed, you will feel annoyed, and you will think of more things that annoy you because of it, and at times like these, believe me, annoyance will make you feel suffocated! Our Concerns:

40% of them don't happen because worry is a product of over-fatigue in the brain. 30% are regretting their previous decisions, which cannot be rewritten. 12% is because I care too much about what others say about me, and most of these comments are not objective and correct.

10% is because we are too worried, and this fear of command makes the situation worse. 8% is normal because we do have problems in our lives that need to be addressed.

Do you see? Troubles are not innate, they are imposed on everyone by society, and as we get older, they will become more and more. Man cannot be completely detached from society, so he categorically cannot get rid of the troubles imposed by society. Troubles are all around you all the time, but you can't feel them all the time.

Just like Chinese medicine, any pair of Chinese medicine must have a medicine primer to exert its medicinal effect, and the same is true for troubles. The first medicine for troubles is loneliness. When a person is lonely, he will inexplicably think of a lot of unpleasant things, such as work, study, life, interpersonal relationships, girlfriends, etc., maybe these troubles were around you before, but you can only clearly feel the troubles they bring you when you are lonely.

The second is feeling down, when you encounter something that makes you feel depressed, you will feel annoyed, and you will think of more things that annoy you because of it, and at times like these, believe me, annoyance will make you feel suffocated!

Afflictions are one's own dissatisfaction and desires for things. Because people have thoughts and their own desires, they will have their own views and pursuits about things, and when there is a gap between what they want and what they get, they will be troubled.

It is recommended to work hard, plan your goals, and complete them step by step, and when your desires are satisfied, you will be satisfied and will not be troubled.

As the saying goes, there are three things in the world: one is "one's own business", the second is "other people's business", and the third is "God's business". Troubles come from: forgetting "one's own business", caring about "other people's business", worrying about "God's business".

Modern people's troubles are becoming more and more, from trivial matters to national events, and the minutiae of life do not affect people's mood all the time.

The source of human troubles.

1.Life stress.

There are old and young, dealing with various problems between lovers and family members. Whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or the son-in-law comes to the door, the rights and wrongs between friends, and there are a few lovers, then it will be busier. The desire is endless, everyone wants to make the family's living conditions better, which invisibly accelerates the pace of their own life, how can they stabilize and harmonize their family life without making more money!

Therefore, many people still fantasize and work hard.

2.Interpersonal communication.

The importance of interpersonal relations is indescribable, the impact of interpersonal relationships on people is imperceptible, and after a long time, they will turn the principle of establishing and maintaining interpersonal relationships into their own value system, so as to regulate and control their own behavior, obtain correct social and cultural norms and social roles, and never improve the quality of individuals.

How to improve interpersonal skills is also a problem, after all, interpersonal skills are the most important thing for us, and they can have a lot of impact on our lives.

3.Work is not going well.

A thousand people have a thousand reasons not to want to go to work. The premise of achieving economic freedom is to have an economy that is sufficient to support life**, so work has become a choice that we have to make. After graduation, young people start looking for jobs with a vision of the workplace, but in the end they find that graduation is equivalent to unemployment, and middle-aged people have long regarded work as a habit after several years in the workplace.

In the face of unsatisfactory work, middle-aged people who have a house, a car and a baby can only admit it.

The reason why people are troubled is that their inner desires are too strong, and such desires make them lose their sense of balance in life, so there will be troubles, so in order to make life without troubles, we must make our pattern bigger.

People are troubled because their own demands have not been fulfilled, and then they have expectations and expectations, but in the end they do not get the results they want, and then they will have troubles.

People's troubles are often ** in the desires of the heart.

For example, he obviously wants to buy something, but he has not enough money, so he will naturally be troubled.

For example, he really wants to get something, but the current situation tells him that he can't get it, so he is annoyed

People have seven emotions and six desires, when desires are not well controlled, they will think a lot, so if they are not satisfied, they will have troubles, or the troubles caused by too many desires and too high, no desires and a light body.

People will be troubled by their desires, and they will have all kinds of problems because they can't satisfy their desires; To put it simply, because people are not content, there is a saying that contentment is always happy.

That is, people think too much and do too little, because there is no consumption, there is no change, and these thoughts are attributed to sadness and depression, and what they can't get will always be in turmoil, and they can't change but want, that is, they will be troubled.

There are a lot of things that people worry about, the most important thing is that people have too many desires, we imagine for a while, which person has no desires, and when the desires are not obtained, they will have troubles. Therefore, we should not cling to things that are beyond our ability to cause suffering on our own, so that there is no need.

Why are people troubled, this is because people have all kinds of desires, and if this desire is not satisfied, people will be troubled, we are often full of various expectations in life, but when our expectations do not meet our needs, we will feel disappointed, and then we will have troubles.

What do people worry about? People will have troubles because they are greedy, and people will have troubles because they have feelings.

Why do people get troubled? I've been thinking about this lately because things aren't going the way I envisioned them to? Or is it not to your liking?

When people are most helpless, it is probably when their relatives are sick, they have no money in their hands, and they are forced to work overtime. The most uncomfortable thing for people is probably that their relatives don't understand, their lover wants to leave, and they are deceived by their friends. Most of us think that the suffering in the world is the reason for the lack of money. But it's not, there's no money, it's just one of them.

It's not the most bitter, it's just a basic kind of bitterness.

The bitterness of the world is the bitterness of the family, and the sweetest is the sweetness of the family. The bitterness given at home is the source of all the suffering in the world, and the sweetness given at home is also the beginning of all the sweetness in the world. Bitter and sweet are actually people who are separated, but the ultimate bitterness and the ultimate sweetness are not separated, but each person's home generally gives them a taste, either bitter or sweet.

Bitter, how bitter? Have you ever eaten Yellow Lotus? Have you ever tasted lotus hearts?

That kind of suffering is just a pediatric for the suffering at home. That kind of bitterness is only temporary, it is that you eat a piece of candy, you eat a mouthful of food, and even if you don't eat anything else, it will disappear in a few days. But the bitterness of the family is deep to the bone marrow, soaked in the blood, and has its taste from the inside out, whether it has been a year, two years, or three years...The bitterness is still there, and of course, so is the sweetness.

It's just that I only have bitterness, not sweetness. So, I don't know what sweet tastes like. So, it's normal for my life to be bitter.

Because the taste given to me in my house is bitter. Therefore, people like me are not pleasing to others, and I have never thought of pleasing others, because no one will ask for their own hardships. Therefore, if others ignore me, dislike me, insult me, and want to beat me, I will not resist, at least not at that time, resisting is meaningless, and it will only make me more bitter.

No one wants to be close to me for this kind of suffering, let alone help me, and I don't want to be close to others and ask others for help, because others will not help me, which will only make me more annoying, attention, and exclusion, and it also shows my pity and incompetence, and others will only look at me and laugh at me. They will know that I am so weak and my status is so low, which may increase the number and magnitude of others bullying me.

If you are bullied a lot, you will understand what is the best way to protect yourself, that is, when others bully you, you don't resist, you have to endure it, because you can't beat others, unless you are sure that you can beat him. Or, if you have a place to hide, don't resist, because the resistance of the weak will only be more violent by the perpetrator. You don't want to stay in the same place with the abuser all the time, you have to become strong, even if it's a bitter fruit, you have to be the hardest fruit.

However, when you have not become hard, you have not become strong, and you can only be slaughtered by others, please learn to escape, learn to endure, okay?