What happened to the crying and grumpy children when they grew up?

I was a left-behind child when I was a child.

It can be said that my aunt brought me up, and when I returned to my hometown during the Spring Festival this year, she also mentioned that I was really a super crybaby when I was a child, and my temper was big and stubborn! The aunts and uncles around me said the same thing. However, what they didn't expect was that when I grew up, I had a gentle personality, was considerate of my parents, respected my elders, cared for my brothers and sisters, was optimistic and confident, and ......had excellent gradesAfter work, I have a good relationship with colleagues and friends, my career is smooth, and my family is very harmonious and happy.

These are really not boasts. Looking back, I loved to cry when I was a child, probably because my parents were not around, and I was aggrieved and sad in my heart, so the slightest dissatisfaction was about to explode, and I felt that the whole world owed me. In general, I just don't get enough attention, so I have to cry, I want to attract the care of the caregivers, I want to attract the guilt of my parents, I want them to come back to be by my side, and give me all the love.

Of course, these "scheming" of children only attract the disgust and annoyance of adults. Going to elementary school.

After the fourth and fifth grades, I learned to write essays and keep a diary, and I began to record my feelings every day. Unconsciously, compared with his peers, his composition level was among the best in the class, and he was praised by the head teacher's Chinese teacher many times. Since then, I have fallen in love with writing, I have fallen in love with Chinese lessons, and from my teacher, I have borrowed countless famous books, read them hungrily every day, and immersed myself in them, feeling full and rich in my heart.

Probably since then, I rarely lose my temper at every turn, and I have found more interesting topics with teachers, classmates, friends, parents and family, and my mentality has changed a lot.

I don't cry or make trouble since I was a child, I eat and sleep, sleep and eat, nothing is good, my brother is different, he was born and cried for 70 days, and he also cried after elementary school, deliberately looking for trouble, and has a bad temper, and now he has graduated from graduate school, and his job is stable, filial piety to his parents, give his parents money, give me this sister's New Year's money, pocket money, buy a lot of small clothes for my baby, and invite me to eat every time I come back, because he has been going to school in the field, and his work is also in the field, Changsha, and the house he bought has not cost the family a penny! For me, my parents were so nice! A child who is particularly motivated and strong is only in his twenties!

I bought it for my baby, very careful!

loves to lose his temper, but when he grows up, he has no ambition, and his interest is slim. Emotional intelligence is very important in the workplace, and if you have a bad temper, you won't get into trouble. It is in vain to have the ability.

The first thing to exercise children's emotional intelligence from an early age is for parents to talk to their children, such as: A few days ago, my son broke the handle of the cabinet on the balcony at home. I was so scared that I didn't dare to come out, and I stayed in the cupboard all the time.

Violent parents: It must be beating and scolding, and the child must have learned to do the wrong thing, so deal with it like this. Doting Parents:

It's okay. I tell my child: First of all, you haven't met, the most important thing.

Anyway, mom loves you the most, and secondly, you see if there is a way to make up for it. When the child heard what I said, he was very active in thinking about it. In the workplace, I have seen too many people lose their temper because of the unfairness of their boss, or other problems of their own, and such people have little chance of promotion.

In the workplace, the most important thing is to have an attitude towards problems, which tests emotional intelligence.

When I was a kid, I was crying and had a bad temper. When I was a child, I was often teased by an older brother in the neighborhood, and every time he passed by my door after school, he would play tricks on me in my yard until I cried. My mom didn't care about me, and every time I cried, she scolded me, and I got even angrier.

My mom scolded me for not even knowing how to joke. I feel like I was raised by adults and children when I was a child, and it was very annoying, but I couldn't do anything about them, so I could only cry and lose my temper. So they told me that I was crying and had a big temper since I was a child.

When I grow up, I understand a lot of truths, so naturally I won't cry anymore and I won't lose my temper anymore. Some people say that when he was a child, he loved to cry and had 3 children, if his parents allowed him to cry and allow him to vent his emotions, he would have a good temper and be very gentle when he grew up.

has been doted on by the family, the living conditions are not bad, or there are not too many setbacks and ups and downs in the process of growing up, then the child may still be doing his own work, more narcissistic, self-righteous, interpersonal relationships are not very good, the relationship between husband and wife and other family relationships are not too close, everyone is in a state of toleration, or they can't bear it and ignore it. On the surface, the scenery is good, but the heart is empty, and I don't know where to go.

My cousin is such a person, he is the only son in the family, when he was a child, he was more domineering, no matter what he wanted, he would lose his temper as long as he was a little less than he wanted, when he was one or two years old, he would cry and make a fuss, and when he was older, he would lie on the ground and play with others, and he would often fight with others when he went to school, and later he was in junior high school and played games in Internet cafes all day long, and often asked his parents for money, and if he didn't do it, he would lose his temper and throw things. His mother belongs to the weaker type, everything listens to her husband, his father is busy with work, he doesn't have much time to take care of the children, and when he comes home by chance, the father and son will quarrel if they can't say three words, almost every reunion ends in a beating, and now his cousin is also married and has children, but he still maintains the consistent style of his childhood, he plays for a few months on the job, soaks in the mahjong hall day and night, and plays various game consoles, the last time he played the shark machine, he owed more than 10,000 yuan, or his father helped pay it back. His father is not in good health now, he only cut a kidney and a liver a few years ago, and he has never been to see his father when he was hospitalized, even when his father was at his worst, he never said a soft word to his father.

Become a spoiled category. When I was a child, I loved to cry, and in this regard, I saw that my way was very useful to others, and when I grew up, if there was no other particularly big influence in the environment, I might be more likely to use coquettish ways to attract the attention of others, and if it was excessive, it would be annoying, but if it was applied properly, it was also a very high emotional intelligence, very good interpersonal relationship, and a very good type of person.

In the process of growing up, I was frustrated, because of a bad temper, which caused a major blow to myself, and then found a problem and changed myself, and finally my mood improved, and some even got out of the predicament and made achievements in some areas. This kind of person will have great achievements, because he has experienced both good and bad, has a wide range of experience, and it is easier for people to be indifferent.

In our lives, many children are arrogant and unreasonable, they will only cry when they encounter things, and their temper is particularly stubborn, which has a certain relationship with their parents' education.

First of all, we must know that the child has such a situation, which has a lot to do with the education of the parents, because the child has no right or wrong for things, so at this time it is necessary for parents to assist in helping the child to change it, many parents will be because there is only one child in the family, so they will spoil the child excessively, so as to meet any requirements of the child, so they will develop a selfish and domineering and unreasonable character for the child, so the parents do not follow the child in life, The child will cry and be stubborn. Secondly, many children's grandparents will indulge children, so we must pay attention to the way of educating children should be reasonable, when children have bad behaviors, we must help children correct in time, and at the same time tell children the mistakes of doing so, when children make mistakes, parents should not be overly spoiled, and the children should not be overly dependent on children, which is very bad for children.

In addition, if the child makes a mistake, parents must punish the child appropriately, so that the child can remember it for a long time, and at the same time, it can be changed in time. You must know that if the parents are temperamental, then the child will also imitate the behavior of the parents, so that there is a phenomenon of crying temper, so parents should also pay attention to the way they educate their children, if they are like this in the spring of life, they can't force the child to change, which is difficult, and it also takes a certain amount of time.

At this time, parents should not laugh at classmates, nor scold their children, use language appropriately to impress their children, and at the same time tell their children some truths, so that children can quickly change.

There is a relationship, it may be that the parents are more sensitive, it may be that the parents often indulge their children, and it may be that the personality of the parents is like this.

Yes, this has something to do with adults, which means that the education methods of adults are inappropriate, so children will have this temper.

Yes, definitely. Adults do not educate children well and spoil children very much, so it will lead children to develop such a character.

When parents find that their children like to cry when they accompany their children, and the child's temper is still more stubborn, first of all, parents should realize that this is inseparable from the way adults educate them. At the same time, the problems that arise in the children will definitely have similar problems in the parents, especially for the children with a stubborn temper. When parents educate their children, they will find that no matter how parents call their children, children are not willing to deal with parents at all.

First of all, when parents educate their children with strong tempers, they must patiently inform their children what should be done about such things, and only when parents use the right education methods can they reduce the problem of children's tempers.

When some mothers are taking care of their children, they find that their children always like to cry when they have nothing to do in their lives. Parents will also feel very angry from the bottom of their hearts when they see their children crying, because every parent will like their children to cry and hope that their children can face every day happily. When parents see that their children love to cry, they must first understand what the child is crying for, and only when parents understand the reason for their child's crying can they comfort their child.

There are many children's tempers in life, and most of them are influenced by their parents, resulting in children's tempers being more stubborn. In life, you will see some men who are more stubborn, and for men, when educating children, they will find that the generality of children's temper and personality will come with the character of their father. Therefore, parents must use the right method when educating their children, and when their children are stubborn, parents need to patiently enlighten their children in their ears.

As a parent, you should be aware that when your child is young, if your child has a stubborn temper, your parents will always go against your child. It may be that the child will not rebel against the parents yet, but when the child grows up, he will find that as long as the parents do not do what the child says. Children will rebel against their parents, and even rebel directly.

This is a high bend that has something to do with adults, at a very early age, parents did not educate their children, and always thought that they were spoiling their children, and by the children, they would make the children become particularly stubborn.

It has something to do with adults, because adults have not disciplined their children well, and they always spoil their children, so they will cause children to cry very much, and then their temper is particularly stubborn.

Children love to cry, stubborn temper I think a big rubber fiber may be the first as dust due to the influence of adults, because the parents' temper is too good, the child's temper will become very big, the impact is still there.

Yes, because adults do not educate children well, resulting in children with poor personalities and cowardice, they love to cry and have a very stubborn temper.

It is related, if parents are not particularly good at their children's education, their children's emotions will not be particularly stable and will become particularly stubborn.

The temper gradually became irritable, and now she goes to and from school every day, plus there is a lot of homework in junior high school, she originally procrastinated when she did her homework, and she had to write until ten o'clock every time to finish, and her temper became worse and worse. Everyone has emotions, children are the same, often emotional, many parents are secretly anxious, if the child has an emotional reaction, parents should first use empathy and listening skills to accept the child's emotions. Guide him to adjust his cognition and look at the things that bother him from a different perspective.

Why do children become more and more grumpy and crying?

1. As the closest person to the child, parents play a vital role in their own emotions and emotional regulation of their children, that is to say, excessive emotion of parents will cause unimaginable harm to children.

2. Children are full of curiosity about the world, especially when a child learns to walk, parents will feel that the child has become very difficult to carry, and nothing around him can escape his grasp. This is actually a child's perception of the world by exploring the world around him.

3. When parents with rough personality or parents of acute children see their children's bad emotions venting, they always can't help but directly suppress them in a rude way to curb their children's venting, which seems obvious, but in fact, children stop out of fear, emotional brains are suppressed, and bad emotions are suppressed.

How to guide children to cry when their temper is getting more and more irritable?

1. After the child's tantrum is over, don't focus on the "tantrum", but on the child. When your child refuses and loses his temper with you when you make a request, wait until he has lost his temper and calmly repeat the request to him. You need to be resolute and let your child know that tantrums don't do anything and that they're just wasting time.

2. Shopping, supermarkets, children in public tantrums may make you feel embarrassed and angry, but you should try to make yourself look calm. Don't hit and scold your child, not only will it not work, but it will get worse. You have to calmly take your child to a place where there is no one, such as the bathroom, in the car, and if there is no audience, he may end his behavior.