I m just getting divorced and wondering if it s better after divorce?

It will be better after the divorce, although you have just entered the state of divorce, you will feel lost for a while, but after the divorce you will also feel very relaxed, you will have more time to pursue the life you want, and you will live better and better.

Just entering the divorce stage, it will not be better after the divorce. Maybe the present moment is a liberation for you. It's not going to be good in the long run.

After reading your narrative and understanding your current situation, I can understand the panic and anxiety in your heart, you are worried that you will not be able to cope with yourself after the divorce, and you don't know how to face loneliness, right? You said that because the man outside of marriage can't promise you a future and can't leave his family to be with you, you have shaken the idea of divorce, which is what I am more puzzled about, why? Ten years of sexless and loveless marriage, what has made you persist until now?

What makes you shake your thoughts of divorce even after being beaten today?

In fact, whether you are divorced or not has nothing to do with your extramarital affairs, even if there is no appearance of that man, your marriage has already existed in name only, and you choose to divorce because you are responsible for yourself and consider yourself. It's not that you're trapped in a dark cage waiting for someone else to save you. I hope you can see the reality clearly, instead of still relying on a man and a marriage after experiencing such a marriage, and let yourself be stored in a fantasy.

If you don't understand your own problems in the relationship, you will unconsciously substitute your inner beliefs and traumas into the next relationship, and you will keep repeating your fate. You are anxious about the future, you can't face loneliness and hardship, but in fact, in this ten years of marriage, you are facing the loneliness and hardship of two people, aren't you? No one can be your lifesaver, only you can save you.

Be aware of yourself: >1Why has ten years of sexless and loveless marriage made you last until now? What keeps you from leaving him?

2.What gives you emotional sustenance for a "extramarital" man, and what satisfaction does he give you? What is the real reason why you want to be with him?

3.You said that you were fed up with a sexless and loveless marriage, but because you didn't dare to face loneliness and loneliness, you wavered from the idea of divorce, is this a contradiction? Are you really willing to continue to put up with it?

4.Realize why you focus on the outside world, why do you rely on men to change your life? Your power went**?

5.Is enduring the neglect of your partner, enduring pain and grievances, a way of life that you have been accustomed to since childhood? Be aware if you are replicating childhood trauma.

6.If others can't commit you to a relationship, you won't know what to do in the future, which means that you don't dare to face life alone, and you are tantamount to entrusting your life to others. You don't know how to love yourself, you know?

7.You're like a wounded and helpless child, full of fear in your heart, wanting to run away and having nowhere to stay, and finally the person you're waiting for shows up, and he becomes your light in the dark, right?

But with such expectations, you will always allow yourself to live in the dark, and you will always be in the dark to find that little light. Unless you become strong yourself, become powerful, and turn yourself into a ball of light, you can illuminate not only yourself, but others as well. Be aware of your own belief patterns, understand yourself, understand what you really want, sort out the direction for your future self, and the light is not in the hands of others, but in your own heart.

I think that after the divorce, I may have a better life, I must study more, constantly improve my ability, and I must have the courage to start a new life.

Divorce must be because life is not happy now, so life after divorce may be better, and the possibility of happiness is greater, and there are three reasons for this:

First, after the divorce, the financial independence will no longer cause conflicts over economic issues. There are many reasons for divorce, and some of them may be due to financial problems. When the economy is established, the financial power will be their own.

You can use your money however you want, and you can buy whatever you want.

Second, after the divorce, your personality can be brought into full play, and your habits of life are free. I will no longer be angry because of the difference in my three views. You can do whatever you want about your lifestyle and living habits, and you don't have to look at other people's eyes to do rough things.

Eat as much as you want, drink as much as you want, and take a journey that you can take as soon as you go, and you can achieve it immediately.

Third, after the divorce, if you want to love, you will love, and your feelings may have a good home. Because I once loved, because I once hated, after all, it has passed, and there is no good ending. Now the opportunity is here, Qi Tong, take advantage of it!

When you meet someone who is destined, love boldly! Enjoy life!

In short, after the divorce, there are many opportunities, and happiness may come to you!

I think it will be better.

Because it certainly won't be worse than it is now.