Less than a month after the divorce, my husband had a new girlfriend, and I was very heartbroken

Don't know how old you are? What are the main reasons for the divorce of the two of you?

Less than a month after your divorce, your ex-husband has a new girlfriend and you feel heartache. This is a very normal thing. Perhaps in your opinion, after the divorce, both people need to have a period of calm, and both people need to reflect on themselves.

Or that you haven't let go of your past life, because you used to have a lot of happy times. Psychological counselor.

Be able to understand the pain in your heart. It's just that the counselor doesn't want you to be immersed in heartache for a long time. You are divorced, he is already your ex-husband, and the two of you will be passers-by in the future.

It is recommended that you give yourself some time to adjust your mood, get out of the confusion, and arrange your future life.

If you are willing to communicate, you can talk about your details and the counsellor will try to help you.

Have fun!

Even if they are all divorced, your ex-husband has a new girlfriend in less than a month, which means that he no longer has a place for you in his heart, so there is no heartache to let go, live your life happily, and one day you will meet someone who loves you.

Since the two of them chose to divorce, he asked the fairy to have a friend, and you are also making a boyfriend. In this way, you will also have someone who feels sorry for you, and you will also have new feelings. It should be a good thing.

In fact, there was someone before the divorce, so he divorced, and you were in the dark.

Alas, like this kind of ruthless and unrighteous person, you let go is the smartest choice, since you have come to the step of divorce, it means that he makes you very dissatisfied, you must not be happy with him, separated, you should be happy, right?

I think since you're divorced, you're going to open it first. Don't talk about the old days. Relive your new life.

Since the divorce just can't go on, why care about him? Live the rest of your life.

With a new love, it confirms that you have chosen correctly, you will not be happy with such a man, do your own thing, don't live in memory, the past should always pass, and strive to find your own happiness.

Since you are divorced, it means that your fate is over, what can you do if you don't let go? Don't embarrass yourself, cheer up and live a more exciting life. Live for yourself, live a quality life, and be worthy of yourself.

Time is a good medicine Now that you're divorced, you can't catch up and forget about him People are already married, they have a new relationship and a new life, and they have blacked you out again, proving that there is no room for recovery Heartache is normal Because you still have feelings for him Forget about it, start your new life, let time forget it, meet new people, start a new life, go out.

Everything will pass.

Let time tell.

Seriously, a lot of the time that's it.

Imagination will be more useful than those are useful.

If you don't look for it, you can find one yourself.

There must be a reason for leaving.

There will be no separations for no reason.

It's that simple.

Really so. Don't overthink it.

Time will smooth out the pain in your heart, and one day you will find happiness and forget the past.

It hurts, men are all the same.

Manifestations of immaturity.

If they don't have children, you can adopt them in large numbers.

Don't let him think that he is a fragrant glutton, and some people are robbing. A second-hand item is not a big **.

He will never accept him if he does not swear to live a good life in front of you and your family.

You have to be mentally prepared, once you come back, don't talk about this marriage, just turn the page, and really turn the page. It's a lesson you can't afford to lose.

If there is a child, priority should be given to adopting him for the sake of the child.

Good luck!!

Wait, this calendar chain is a manifestation of no confidence, either the exclamation is to shirk the responsibility of the limbs, or perfunctory, there is always a result is better than no result, not to mention that this has been hanging you, it is even more unbelievable.

This is the time to communicate with his new girlfriend. And tell her in front of this girlfriend that he has a sovereign position and let him give it up.

In that case, why do you have to wait for this person, it is better to have a new relationship.

Give up the other person, his promise to you is just an excuse and is cheating you, so you should still give up.

If that's the case, then don't remarry, your ex-husband is just hanging on to you, and he doesn't really want to remarry.

Clause.

First, figure out what is the reason why your ex-husband is pursuing you again. Generally speaking, the ex-husband pursues the original partner again, either he is very lonely and depressed after the divorce, or he misses the good of the original partner again, at least the original partner knows the roots, or he can no longer find someone better than the original partner! After knowing the reason, you can persuade your ex-husband to give up this plan.

For example, if your ex-husband still has feelings for him, then don't say anything that hurts him; If the ex-husband wants to get back together, just because he solves his physical needs, then there is really no need to be too polite to him.

Clause. Second, when refusing, it also depends on what kind of person your ex-husband is. Some men are more direct and have low emotional intelligence, if the rejection is not very clear and resolute, it is easy for him to feel that he still has a play, so as to continue to pursue you. Once you find out that you don't mean that, you will become angry and may even do something that hurts you.

And some men can understand it at a glance, and if you make this fact clear to him, he can also accept the reality and leave good wishes for each other.

Clause. Fourth, if your ex-husband is not bad, but your relationship ended because it was not suitable, you might as well introduce your ex-husband to a new partner, first, you know your ex-husband, know what your ex-husband is suitable for, and what is not suitable, and second, it can be regarded as consolidating the relationship between you and your friends. With the trust endorsement of your ex-wife, I believe your friend will also feel more reliable.

In my opinion, this shouldn't be a problem at all.

If the subject really knows that he doesn't like him and doesn't want to live with him anymore, then he won't ask the question at all and just refuse outright. I usually find this very troublesome, either because the subject has no feelings for her ex-husband, or because the subject is worried that she can't marry or can't find a better person.

It's very simple, the first point, if two people divorce because of factors other than feelings, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the immaturity of each other and not enough responsibility, then it is normal to have feelings for each other, after all, marriage is also very important to a person, and you are not really in a relationship breakdown, and many things seem to have a turnaround.

But the subject has to think clearly, why did you divorce at that time, and what is your bottom line for feelings and marriage? If you can't figure it out, and you feel that it's okay to divorce or get back together, then you will definitely not be able to live this life, and there will be more conflicts in the future, and then you have to get divorced, why bother?

If it's the second point, the subject thinks that there will be no such shop after this village, in case he is no longer young and divorced, no one wants it, will he be lonely in this life? Then what I want to say is that women must not think like this, do not think of themselves as a commodity to be chosen by others, and there is a shelf life.

If you don't love yourself and don't value your own value, then who can blame you for being disliked?

Is it just for the sake of having a husband that you want to find someone you don't want to love for the rest of your life, are you tired or painful?

So, women, you must find someone you love and love yourself at the same time, you will know what happiness is, living in the moral kidnapping of others, you will only ask such boring questions.

If you don't want to live with him, don't promise him to get back together. Since you are clear about your wishes, you boldly express your thoughts and explicitly reject him.

Xiaojuan and her ex-husband are like this, because their ex-husband is too mother-in-law, and they are not rich, they have to live with their mother-in-law, every time there is a family conflict, it is Xiaojuan who is scolded and suppressed in the end. And the conflicts in the family continued, wave after wave, one after another, and finally in an outbreak, she firmly decided to divorce.

It turned out that they would go back and take the initiative to beg for remarriage when they saw that Xiaojuan was dead, but they didn't expect that after half a year, there was still no movement. The ex-husband secretly went to see her, and found that she seemed to be doing better, so he hurriedly reunited with her and offered all kinds of courtesy. But in retrospect, all Xiaojuan's love for him has been wiped out, so he still resolutely refused.

If the fundamental contradiction of divorce is not alleviated, the fundamental problem is still there, and it really does not have to be again because it is likely to be separated again because of the same problem, so why bother?

Your ex-husband wants to get back together with you, and if you don't want to, then don't get back together.

Two days ago, I thought the hottest hot spot was the reunion of Xue Zhiqian and his ex-wife. On September 8, Xue Zhiqian and his ex-wife Gao Leixin successively posted on Weibo to indicate their reunion. Xue Zhiqian first posted:

I remember when you came to me, I had nothing, I don't want to look for it anymore, please let me give you everything, anyway, we are not young anymore, then love again". Seeing this, netizens also expressed their blessings.

But not all divorces and reunions can be like Xue Zhiqian and his ex-wife, the two of them are willing to get back together. If you don't want to, don't give him another chance to remarry.

Think about why you left this man in the first place. If this man was not good to you at the beginning, and often used alcohol to commit domestic violence against you, and you divorced him, then congratulations, you jumped out of the sea of suffering. At this time, if he comes to you again, let you give him a chance, and promise not to make such a mistake again.

Just listen to these words, don't take them seriously, I never wanted to change for you before, and after remarrying again, don't expect him to change anymore.

If he didn't commit domestic violence against you, but there is no feeling between you, you should not go back to remarry at this time. Because you will still live the same life as before, it will not change much, and maybe you will still want to get a divorce when the time comes. Don't let sensibility and morality override yourself for a while, think about the consequences of remarrying this man again, and think twice before acting.

In my opinion, if you don't want to do it and don't accept the reunion, then don't take the initiative to agree to remarry, then you will be hurt by the time.

Since you are divorced and you don't want to reunite with him, then show your attitude directly, tell him that you will not live with him again, and your tone must be resolute and there can be no wavering.

Being able to ask this question shows that you are still hesitant in your heart, and you can understand this mentality.

No matter what reason the two divorced at the beginning, as a woman, the pressure on them after the divorce must be much greater than that of men, and the time to get out of the shadow of divorce is relatively longer than that of men, and psychologically it is a blow.

People are always accustomed to living in the eyes of others, and like to use the evaluation of others to affirm their own sense of worth, which is a kind of inferiority complex.

Divorced women have a heavier inferiority complex, they may be afraid of others gossiping, afraid of others asking them how they got divorced, etc., and want to escape from other people's fingers.

At this time, the ex-husband came to pursue you again, just to ease your psychological pressure, you were afraid that others would say that the divorce was because of you, and now the ex-husband's re-pursuit happens to be the most powerful proof, it can let everyone see that the main reason for your divorce is the man's problem, because the truth is better than the ordinary, if you are not good, the man will not come to pursue you again.

The ex-husband comes to pursue your behavior again, on the one hand, it can give you self-confidence, and on the other hand, it can also satisfy the vanity of the woman.

After divorce, no matter what the reason is, people will self-deny, thinking that they are not good enough to dissolve the marriage, and his re-pursuit behavior makes you confident again, and you will find that the dissolution of marriage is sometimes not that you are not good enough, but that the other party is not the person you are looking for.

In the face of her ex-husband's re-pursuit and the premise that she doesn't want to get back together, how can she not shake herself that she really has to consider, the biggest weakness of a woman is that she is soft-hearted.

If you don't want to have anything to do with a person, then make it clear to the other party, don't give the other party hope, have a clear attitude, and then don't pay attention to him after speaking, it's none of your business to toss as he tosses, and after a long time, the other party will automatically give up after seeing that there is no hope of reuniting.

Then don't talk to him, why do you have to jump into the fire pit when you finally recover your free body?

I know that the people around you will definitely persuade you to remarry, after all, one day husband and wife for a hundred days, after all, two people have been in a relationship for many years, if you have children, they will also advise you to think more about your children, but those who persuade you to remarry have never considered for you.

Marriage is your own business, and only when you get joy and happiness in marriage can such a marriage be meaningful and worthy of nostalgia.

If you are divorced, it means that there are many problems in your marriage, and these problems may be irreconcilable, so you will choose to divorce.

Your ex-husband is chasing you again, it doesn't mean how much he loves you, maybe after leaving you, he finds that life is not as good as before, and life is not good, so he chases you back in order to live a better life for himself.

And what I want to tell you is that no matter what others say, no matter what your ex-husband pursues, you don't care, the only thing you have to ask is your heart, whether you still want to go back to your former married life.

If your heart is resistant, reject your ex-husband decisively, because a man who can't bring you happiness is not worth your time.

Nowadays, women in society are becoming more and more independent, whether they are spiritually independent or financially independent, they are getting better and better, even better than many men of the same age, so there are many older unmarried young women.

There is prejudice against older unmarried young women in society, thinking that they are pathetic and pitiful, but they live a colorful life, not afraid of the eyes of others, and live their own lives, I admire such women, and I believe that you who are divorced can also shine your own light.