What should I do if a person is hot and cold to you, like he likes you but doesn t like you?

Be yourself, like yourself first and then like others

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1. Busy with your own business

When a girl (boy) doesn't reply to your messages, you will feel very lost, this is because you value his (her) reply too much, and care about his attitude towards you, but in case he (she) is really busy, so I don't think there is any need to take the other party's message too seriously, busy with your own things, do what you should do first, and then contact the person you like when you are free. Even husband and wife can't get tired of being together every day, and they all have their own things to be busy with.

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2. Review yourself

There must be a reason why that person is hot and cold to you, and it's time to reflect on what you did wrong. If you are good enough in all aspects, there will definitely be one or a few points that attract him (her) to be interested in you, so you can improve yourself first and enrich yourself. If you have become very good, and he (she) is still cold and hot to you, then it is his (her) problem, not your problem.

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3. Learn to give up

Whether you really like it or not, he (she) is hot and cold to you, there is no need to look at your face, that will only make him (her) hate you more.

The author believes that the most important thing is to improve your abilities in all aspects, you are living for yourself, living for your dreams, when you are good enough, those who are excellent together will naturally approach you and get along with you. So don't worry about some people not replying to your messages, you can do your own thing, busy yourself, and if he or she really cares about you, he will definitely take the initiative to contact you.

Girls are a vulnerable group", "don't think too well of men", "men are hot and cold, they don't love" This politically correct view just prevents some girls from discovering really good men.

The reason for the feeling of "hot and cold" is twofold:

The first is the objective fact, that is, the other party does behave like this (a high probability of a veteran in the love field, the verification cost is too high, and it is directly passed);

This situation is a trap for the other party to deliberately let you take the initiative to give away your head. Whether you are tempted or not, you may fall into the trap of the other party. Because the other party uses "emotional manipulation" to mentally beat you.

The beginning of a person's fall is when you begin to struggle to interpret the other person's behavior and psychology. At the moment of emotional upset, you will unconsciously put too much attention and thought into the other person, deepening your "sunk cost". The opponent uses the "intermittent reinforcement effect", and as long as you have two more rounds, you can be killed.

On the other hand, there is a bias in subjective feelings.

Under normal circumstances, a mature man is stable, in addition to playing the male protagonist of a romantic drama in your world, he also needs to play the role of boss, employee, son and other roles in his own world (very busy, no time to change).

A reliable man is fickle 90% of the time, while a girl is fickle, and the fickle perspective looks at the target of the infickle and often comes to the conclusion that "the other party is hot and cold".

There is a very simple law of physics, a self-centered, moving train without a b number, looking out of its window, the whole world is hurrying away.

So, when you're facing a gold mine, the most important thing is to dig !!

In a word, the girlfriends who teach you how to judge the gold mine, they have already dug it themselves.

If a person likes you, he will not be cold or hot to you. If that's the case, he probably wants to fish for your appetite and arouse your interest in him, and such a person should be very purposeful.

Then you show your own attitude, if you don't like you, you will also have a faint relationship, if you like him, you will seize the opportunity to make the relationship go further. Otherwise, the attitude is uncomfortable.

A person is hot and cold to you, like you but not like you, then you have to see whether you like him or not. If you like him, you take the initiative to confess to him. Look at his attitude.

Do you usually give him benefits? If you send him a red envelope and he accepts it, it may be to get benefits, or you often help him, maybe you are taking advantage of you or a spare tire.

When some people are not together at the beginning, they are like the kind of happy enemies, they are hot and cold, they ignore them, and sometimes they are very enthusiastic about you. This kind of thing is understandable, after all, from acquaintance to non-acquaintance, there is a process between this.

Maintain the rhythm of your own life, don't be led astray by others, why let others dominate your own life? I'm fortunate to lose my life, look at it easy.

If you want to get away with it, then you ignore him.

Just because a person is hot or cold to you doesn't mean they don't love you, you won't always feel the other person's coldness, and you won't always feel the passion for you.

Maybe it's just looking for a sense of existence, but I don't want to be nice to you.

When he reappears, he usually pretends that nothing has happened, just through his actions, to make you aware of it.

The best way to do this is to cool with cold and heat with heat. When the other party is cold, you put it down, and don't get too close.

You may need to use some skills to test the sincerity of the other party, and don't act in a panic first.

A person is hot and cold to you, like like but not like like, how to determine the other person's heart? Shine through.

1.They only look for you when they're bored. His attitude towards you is not to see if he wants you, but to see if he is annoyed.

To put it bluntly, you may just be a tool to relieve his negative emotions, and when he doesn't have negative emotions, even if he can play games for fun, he may not think of looking for you. In the same way, one minute he is still chatting with you, and the next second he can leave right away, because his motivation to chat with you depends only on whether he needs you now. Always forgetting you.

There's nothing inherently wrong with forgetfulness, it's just that he's surprisingly forgetful about what happened between the two. Even what was said and done the day before will not be remembered the next day. At the same time, he doesn't care about your weaknesses and bottom lines – because he can't remember.

One second he makes you angry, the next he could make the same mistake. The word "don't care enough" runs through your relationship. As soon as he said it, the next second he hurt people as always, knowingly committing crimes.

There are only present and superficial feelings, but they do not carry over to any future and deep relationships.

2.He was much more positive before, and I hope you can be more positive too. Maybe he felt that he had taken the initiative too many times before, and he had paid too much for you before, so at this time, he hoped that you could take the initiative for him.

In fact, sometimes boys also want girls to take the initiative with themselves. Huai regret Maybe you can't see his efforts, but maybe what he pays behind the scenes is something you can't imagine. So, if you have a little feeling for him, then you might as well try to take the initiative and he will be very happy!

3.He doesn't like you at all, so he doesn't want to reply to you, which is also the most heart-wrenching fact. When you are chatting with someone of the opposite sex, you like the other person very much, and when you face the other person, you are very enthusiastic and proactive; Every time, you take the initiative to send a message to the other person, but your enthusiasm only brings the other person's indifference.

He loves to ignore you, hot and cold; For the sake of politeness, I'll reply to you a few words, and then I'll be silent. You have to understand the other person's feelings. People who are hot and cold to you just don't like you enough to like you.

He may like you, but he must not love you enough.

Show his heart to him, take the initiative to communicate, say some constructive words, test the other party, Suiyin said to him some topics that he was interested in, and took the initiative to invite him to watch movies and eat at specific festivals.

You can sit down with him directly and talk seriously, if he gives you a clear reply, it means that he really likes it, if he is ambiguous and hides, it means that this person is not sincere. Finch stool.

Reveal your feelings for him appropriately, don't be too obvious, it can be a joke, see how he reacts to you, and avoid embarrassment if not.