What is it like for mother in law and daughter in law to have a quarrel?

Generally, when this kind of thing happens, the mother-in-law has always been the king and hegemon at home, arguing with the mother-in-law and arguing with the daughter-in-law, the husband and son have no opinions, and they are used to it.

I have lived with my in-laws for seven years, I don't want to say anything, and I don't want to go home for the New Year!

When we were at our worst, we didn't go in and out of the door, and the old woman was partial to her eldest daughter-in-law and our children, and she didn't care, just the old family's children, so I didn't want to go back for a few years!

I didn't take much with him before, and this year, in order to get a household registration, I stayed at his house for half a year, and now my husband himself hates his mother and hates his family, and after the baby is done, my husband will leave immediately, and I will go back to my house, in my husband's words, he will never want to go back to his house for the rest of his life.

The in-laws are only good to their grandchildren, every day the grandchildren are long and the grandchildren are short, the three people who eat well every day close the door to eat, Cong Lai does not call his son and daughter-in-law, and smiles like a flower on the face of outsiders, and the daughter-in-law does not ask a word when he cleans up the house, not to mention the money, and always feels that it is a great gift to us to see the children and spend money on the children for us.

It didn't make a fuss, because I wouldn't tolerate it at the beginning, right is right or wrong, and it was wrong to want me to be angry, so now they won't say anything heavy in front of me.

I made so much trouble, and I felt so many grievances in my heart! But this time on my birthday, my parents-in-law took the initiative to come over and gave me money and said that I would buy a dress, although I didn't ask for it! But I have forgiven in my heart, I am so soft-hearted, but I didn't give it to others, I was my husband's parents!

There is no great hatred, sincerity for sincerity.

My mother-in-law has been sarcastic about me for two years, and I haven't made a sound! Because she's older, and second, I also want to be good, but she still has to inch in, and she pretends to be confused, and I quarrel with his son! His son came home and asked her, but she didn't admit it, and then I told his relatives, and they asked her again, but she didn't admit it!

I guess I can't admit it, so I won't say it again! Give her a step! Otherwise, think I'm stupid.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, the baby is two years old, yesterday the family made a fuss, we are ready to divorce, my mother, the neighbors are up, he said that I am not good everywhere with the strength of wine, how to say that her father and her mother are not good, how not to work, a long face for his mother, said that his father and mother have been wronged for the past two years, saying that I am a useless person, my two years of hard work and grievances, the fence is not in the eyes, my mother sees everything in her eyes, so stupid and do not know how to feel sorry for me People still need to live together.

There is a generation gap, no one is perfect, no one can say that they are the best, but who can be the most perfect, tolerate each other and accommodate it! That's it for distant marriage! There is no place to say it! I haven't had a place to go out, and I can't afford to hurt myself.

Whenever the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a quarrel, we always blindly emphasize that the daughter-in-law must be filial, tolerant, and generous, but we are open to the mother-in-law. As a result, the more the daughter-in-law retreats, the more arrogant the mother-in-law becomes, which is also the reason why there have always been far more "evil mothers-in-law" than "bad daughters-in-law" since ancient times. The crux of the problem is not whether the daughter-in-law respects her mother-in-law, but the mother's refusal to treat her daughter-in-law as a family member.

When I first came home, there were many people in my family, my parents also had a big nephew, plus the two of us were a total of 5 people, my home was a three-bedroom and a living room, the first night home, my mother said that she couldn't sleep, and wanted the two of us to sleep in a room, I think it's nothing, but my girlfriend used the first time to come to the house as an excuse, life and death were not uniform, and said a bunch of things like disrespecting her, so we had the first quarrel.

I've also experienced this, in the first year, she was always outside to tell me right and wrong, like an outsider to me, always sowing discord between me and my husband, I put up with her, but she became more and more serious, now I can't bear her, I will have a showdown with her, now I ignore her, she doesn't dare to do anything to me.

I have lived with my in-laws for three years, and it is all tears to say, if you can suppress yourself and take care of the overall situation, regardless of the return, just want to pay the Buddha's influence on others, and learn from Lei Feng without leaving a name, you can still consider living together.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, the most important thing is to respect and understand each other, your mother-in-law is also for your good, you have to understand, your husband is also very difficult between you and your mother-in-law, you can tell your husband what you think, let him communicate more with his mother-in-law, and you should also be more considerate of the elderly. You can also tell your mother-in-law what you think, so that your mother-in-law doesn't always care about your affairs, you also have to care more about your husband, don't let your husband be caught in the middle and be embarrassed, your mother-in-law is not an unreasonable person, she should understand you.

The daughter-in-law is always right. All right.

Summary. In fact, it is not necessarily clear who suffers, but it is certain that no one can get a bargain! To put it more bluntly, it does more harm than good.

Especially for women, once they have a bad relationship with their mother-in-law, they are easy to be attacked by the in-laws, even their own men. will also be cold, his man keeps saying that he loves himself, but in fact it is all fake, and he is worthless in front of the man's family.

In fact, it is not necessarily clear who suffers, but it is certain that no one can get a bargain! To put it more bluntly, it does more harm than good. Especially for women to come to Yinsui, once they don't have a good relationship with their mother-in-law, it is easy to be attacked by the in-laws' family, and even Feng Fool includes his own man.

will also be cold, his man keeps saying that he loves himself, but in fact it is all fake, and he is worthless in front of the man's family.

In addition, many women face a bad relationship between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, not only because they have no ability to clean up the mess, but because they habitually deteriorate the relationship. And firmly destroy the world Huai believes that I also have a mother's family, so I am not afraid of you. In fact, this is not a relationship that is not afraid of returning to purity, after all, a woman lives in her mother-in-law's house, and maintaining a good family relationship is seeking happiness for herself.

If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deteriorates, it is supported by the mother's family, and this life will not go on. Moreover, once it rises to the contradiction and conflict between the two slim friends, it is easy to accelerate the divorce of the couple.

After arguing with my mother-in-law and tearing my face, I got along as follows:

1. Avoid unnecessary contact.

In fact, after getting married, it is a family of two people, so there is no need to be too close between your family and your mother-in-law, and there have been conflicts before, and both parties are uncomfortable when you meet too much, so unnecessary contact can be avoided, after all, your mother-in-law is not her own mother, and she will not condone some of your behavior. If you encounter some festivals that must be met, such as the Mid-Autumn Festival, the Spring Festival, etc., then try to avoid being alone after meeting, so that your husband can adjust the atmosphere in the middle. But don't meet unless you need to.

2. Get as far away as possible.

If you have the conditions, you can actually live farther away from your in-laws' house, and it is the best situation if you are in other places, after all, your daughter-in-law and mother-in-law will have more or less conflicts when they get along. If you are in the local area, you should stay as far away as possible when buying a house or renting a house. Maybe when you get married, your mother-in-law will ask her son to live in a little bit, and she can help you take care of your children in the future, but just listen to it, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been together for a long time, and it is impossible not to have conflicts.

3. Stay away.

Since the face has been torn with the mother-in-law, it means that the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is difficult to repair Sun Hu, and the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is generally not good, because the mother-in-law is very strong, and there is no room for this relationship to turn around, so the best way is to stay away. Of course, the respect here is only for the daughter-in-law, if the son really protects his wife, he will also see the situation clearly, and will not ask the daughter-in-law to have a relationship with the mother-in-law.

If the mother-in-law really misses her son, then she can contact her son, and there is no need to involve the daughter-in-law. In other words, the daughter-in-law can also be completely independent and not get along with her mother-in-law, and it may be enough to meet three or four times a year, and meeting less will increase each other's goodwill. Maybe after a long time, the contradiction will disappear.

To deal with this kind of stubborn old man, in fact, there is only one way, that is, to be indifferent to her, and after a long time, the old man's attitude will change.

It's not easy to get along with. Once an egg has cracked, it is difficult to heal again.