What should I do when faced with parents who don t love me?

In the face of my parents who don't love me, I choose to reconcile with myself, so my parents are casual, and nothing they do can affect a person who reconciles with me.

Why do you say that you are reconciled?

For some people, their parents' behavior can no longer be forgiven, no matter how excessive their parents' behavior is, in order not to block themselves, but also to let themselves go, and make themselves feel that they are the most worthy of love in the world, they can only ignore any behavior of their parents and love themselves fiercely. After all, what can you do without reconciliation? Watching them get sick and die of old age without anyone to accompany you makes your unloved heart more comfortable?

The answer is definitely no.

Finally, I want to say that I still believe that there are still many parents who love their children in this world, and parents bring themselves into this world, no matter what the purpose of the beginning, as long as you grew up with your parents, you should be grateful, thank your parents for not abandoning you, thank your parents for raising you in addition to verbal violence and occasional physical violence, after all, how much can we love our parents? Our love for our parents is not always the same as that of our parents.

For parents who don't love themselves, do your best to repay the kindness of nurturing (remember that it's ability.

After you have eaten enough, you can meet the needs of your parents.

In the face of parents who don't love me, I don't think it's necessary to reconcile with them, but to reconcile with myself.

Many people will have this experience, when they were young, some of their parents' words, behaviors, and violence have brought a lot of harm to themselves, and even in adulthood, they still feel that it is a lifetime of pain. Even if their parents begin to grow old, they still don't love themselves, and in the long-term relationship with them, those wounds that seem to have long healed will still ache faintly at the slightest breeze.

Many counselors believe that 80 percent of children's problems are due to their parents, and that their parents' problems are 80 percent due to their own parents' problems when they were young. Isn't there a way out of this cycle? Do you have to reconcile with them so that you can be relieved?

I don't think necessarily, the real reconciliation is reconciliation with ourselves, we can't let our parents who don't love us suddenly love us, and we can't go against our hearts to mend the rift between our parents. What we have to do is not to escape, not to complain, but to face and then forgive, this is the real reconciliation, reconciliation with ourselves.

For parents who don't love themselves, we may have endless grievances about our parents' complaints and forbearance. So when you grow up, whenever you encounter problems in your life, you are likely to feel that your parents neglect you too much and fail your parenting style to educate and grow up that leads to your current situation.

But why can we easily forgive other classmates, colleagues, friends, and even strangers who have hurt us, but refuse to forgive our parents? Maybe it's just because we haven't gotten rid of the idea that our parents should take care of us. Because of the natural blood relationship between us and our parents, we will feel that everything is taken for granted, and we should be respected and loved by our parents, and we should be protected and materially guaranteed by them.

But we may forget that parents are flawed parents. They are just ordinary people with all kinds of flaws and shortcomings. They have also experienced pain and resentment when they were children, and they have done everything they can when they become parents.

In fact, they did the best they could. As a parent, it is inevitable to make mistakes in front of your children, even very serious ones. You must know that even Freud himself, who proposed that "childhood experience affects a lifetime", was a father who was criticized by his own children.

Therefore, whether you feel love in your parents or not, you must learn to face such a parent-child relationship positively, let yourself be a person with a rich heart, learn to forgive, and not fall into the quagmire of emotions, so that you can grow and become strong in the relationship between your parents.

First of all, I want to say that if you can ask such a question, you must have a problem in your heart, why do you say that you face parents who don't love you? How can parents not love themselves?

I think there may be no parents in this world who don't love their children, in fact, they are a little biased towards the situation of having many children, but what parent doesn't love their children?

After all, blood is thicker than water, and it is all flesh that falls from one's body, who do you think would not like to love their children? I don't think so.

Some people may say that my parents don't love me, and that they don't treat me well, but have you put yourself in your parents' shoes? What they do and what you do as a child, not necessarily follow your are good parents, they all love you is love you or don't love you, in fact, parents treat their children, they are all if the child wants, they do their best to give the child, that is when they do not have that condition, there is no way, for the child to do something wrong, some parents are doting, do not care about the child, do wrong to the child, and think that he does so, but that is harmful to the child, Some children feel that such parents love themselves before they have an accident, they don't say anything, and what they do is right? Such parents are good, but some parents are not like this, they are out of a political point of view, as long as the child does not do it right, they will come forward to criticize the child for doing it, and encourage them, so that the parents are right, but for the children, some children will think that such parents do not love themselves enough, and what they do is wrong Parents have never been?

If you don't praise yourself, everything is criticism, but have you thought about it? Is it right to love what you do? If what you do is wrong, then your parents are also right to criticize you, they criticize you for the sake of their children, who can walk the right path in the future and have a better future, and criticize you, it may seem like this to you, that is, parents don't love themselves, in fact, this is not the case, but when you ask such a question, saying what to do in the face of parents who don't love you?

I think the most important thing is that you have to think about it from the perspective of your parents, don't look at it from one side, look at it from both sides, find fault with yourself, do you have any problems? It's impossible for your parents to love you, I think you still have to think about things carefully, and you will know what is going on if you want to understand it.

If you can't repair the emotional rift with your parents, you can seek emotional support outside of your parents and experience the love and care of others. For example, the support of friends, the intimacy of lovers, and social relationships outside the family may in turn nourish the relationship between you and your parents, and become another kind of emotional support.

Feeling that my parents don't love me, and facing my parents who don't love me and suffering, this kind of trauma is not repaired overnight. Try to put away your guilt and say how you really feel, your parents may not be as fragile and powerless as you think, and ending the transmission of pain will be beneficial for both yourself and him in the long run.

Your so-called dislove may just be that you don't care about it, because the specific situation is not clear, so it is not good, but there are very few parents in the world who do not love their children, and it is possible that you just do not communicate well.

After all, parents are their dearest relatives, they should love you, but they may have higher requirements for their children, hoping that their children are better than themselves, if their children do not meet her requirements, she will have a stain and impatience.

We can't choose our own parents, we meet parents who don't love you, you just need to fulfill your own responsibilities and obligations, you can gradually alienate them, you don't have to meet, and you don't need to be burdened, raising grace is greater than giving birth, so we just need to keep our own hearts, there is no need to be demanding that our parents must love themselves, this matter is not transferred by our own will, so we should love ourselves well, protect what we want to protect, and don't demand some things that we can't control, If we don't like it, we artificially isolate it, or even cut off contact, and that's not a problem.

There are no parents who don't love their children, it's just that they love you differently. Although I don't know what happened between the subject and his parents, it makes the subject feel that his parents don't love him, but he still suggests that the subject can look at his parents rationally.

1.Parents are partial, and the most correct thing to do at this time is not to worry about them. Because if you think about it from another perspective, you will find that it is not easy for parents, although they are partial, but it may not be a kind of growth for you, because they are partial, so they don't have a lot of time to take care of you, and you learn to be self-reliant early, which is not a good thing.

And parents also have their difficulties, after all, they have many children, and it is impossible to take care of them all. So in the face of such a situation, you can try to understand your parents, it is not easy for parents, no matter how partiality they are, at least they will raise you.

2.Facing unreasonable parents. You can try to be more understanding and generous, and there will be no right and wrong.

Maybe they're unreasonable, but you're sensible. A reasonable person will not have to deal with a reasonable person. Not to mention their own parents?

You can choose to live separately, after all, living together for a long time is not pleasant for both parties. Instead, they live separately, and everyone will live comfortably. Separation does not mean disobedience.

Living separately is just to reduce conflicts, and everyone has an easy life.

In short, there is no parent who does not love their children, and it may be different for parents to give up on their children. Sometimes parents are ruthless and just want their children to survive better. Therefore, it is recommended that the subject be able to understand and support more.

If you really can't live together, you might as well live separately. You'll all have a good time that way.

In a word, see through but not say it. watched a TV series called the Big Exam. There is an Internet addict father in it, and his son always tells him to go out to work, not to play games at home and eat soft rice.

I think his son's approach is too rigid, although it is forcing his father to go out to work. But he also made their relationship more stiff. At the same time, it also affects one's own learning and one's cultivation, in short, this kind of behavior greatly affects oneself and development.

If he can be more flexible, on the one hand, he coaxes his parents to be happy, and on the other hand, he secretly does a very good job in his studies, so that he can be regarded as a person who has the ambition to do great things. Not all the people around us are great, they all need to grow, they all have their own problems, so sometimes we know that it is someone else's fault, and we just have to know it in our hearts. Another example, my dad loves to drink and can't do without wine, and now he goes outside to drink, and my mother says loudly to him, I only said one sentence, pay attention to proportion, don't forget to wear a mask, grandma also said, let you drink less.

I didn't say anything on Mom's side. In this way, the two sides are round, and no one is guilty. They are happy and I am happy.

To see through but not to say that is to think about one's own development, one's own future, and one's own future. Maybe it's because you have too many words and you have to lose, the disaster comes from the mouth, whether our parents love us or not, it's not the most important thing, just have a number, don't let them affect us, we have to love others in the future.

Is that really the case? Is it really right to see through it or not to say it? You must know that good communication is good for health, and on the contrary, in the long run, refusing to communicate and rarely communicating with your parents will not only make others unable to know you and understand your situation, but also make people fall into a situation of being alone, because there is a lack of communication between people, and external forces cannot help you, especially when you need help!

Therefore, in the final analysis, it seems to be a realm, but there are huge health and safety hidden dangers behind it, especially for children who are psychologically fragile. Because adults may still have immunity, and some children are a little dependent on adults' words!

It's right to take the initiative to solve problems, but you can't keep your mouth shut and don't communicate, because there is nothing that can't be solved by communication! One more person has more strength, unity is strength!

Therefore, if there is a problem, it is necessary to communicate, you can have a good conversation with your parents, find more topics by yourself, and you can also use this to exercise your communication skills and oral speaking skills.

I believe that if you talk more and talk more, your parents will naturally understand you, because your parents and you need to understand each other. Try finding topics to talk to them about every day.

After all, they are giving their own lives, and they just need to fulfill their obligations to support them in the future!

If you feel that your parents don't love you, you must not think that it is your fault. Don't think that they will love you as long as you meet their requirements, meet their standards, and agree with their harsh criticism of you. Don't give up on yourself, break the jar, and think that no one loves me anyway, and I have to live like this for the rest of my life!

It's punishing yourself for someone else's mistakes, even if you take your own life, your parents don't love you or don't love you!

Parents don't love me, ok, if you don't love it, you don't love it, there is no rule that parents must love their children, and parents who don't love their children abound. Stop all acts of hurting yourself in exchange for the love of your parents. Take your attention back to yourself, whether it's reading, making money, taking the path you should take, accumulating strength, and working hard to grow.

It's their fault that they don't love you! Not only do they not love you, they don't love themselves either! It can be said that it is precisely because they do not love themselves that they do not love you!

Parents who don't love their children must be struggling in pain and suffering in their hearts. They may live in a state of confusion every day without realizing it, or they may not know what is really important in this world.