What our attitude towards others should be, what our attitude towards others affects

Your attitude towards a person is important, important. Your attitude towards this person determines how you perceive her in the future; Her attitude towards him can also change her performance in the future.

Once upon a time, there was a man in the countryside who forgot to take an axe out of his cellar when he was storing seeds in his cellar. A few days later, when he was about to use his axe again, he realized that his axe had been lost. Where did the axe go?

He searched everywhere behind the door, under the table, in the house where the firewood and grass were piled up, but he still couldn't find it, and he suspected that the neighbor's child had stolen it, so he secretly paid attention to the child. He looked at the child's walking posture as if he had stolen an axe; He observed the child's expression as if he had stolen an axe; He listened to the child's tone of voice, more like he had stolen an axe. In short, in his eyes, the child's every move looked like he was stealing an axe.

After a few more days, the man was going to the cellar again to store his belongings. When he dug open the cellar door and went down to the cellar, he found his axe lying on the floor of his cellar.

The next day, when he looked at the neighbor's child again, his every move, word and deed, and even his smile did not look like a thief at all!

Therefore, as parents, leaders, or friends, we cannot look at people with colored glasses, nor can we guess others based on subjective assumptions.

Can our attitude towards a person change that person's performance and achievement?

A university in San Francisco once did such an experiment, one day the president called three faculty members into the office and said that there were 90 of the best students who needed to be taught by the most capable of teaching, and in the coming year, let them learn according to their level, and see what happens to the best teachers teaching the best students? Next, under the guidance of these teachers, the students are also like fish in water. After a year, these students are 20 to 30 percent higher than other children.

At this time, the principal gathered the three teachers together and told them: I must tell you, the students you teach are actually mediocre qualifications, not as smart as you think, these 90 students are just selected by me at random, the teacher said that it is not more proof of our teaching ability, the principal said, in fact, I have one more thing to hide from you, you are not the most capable teacher in the first place, and your name is also the first three randomly selected by me, so what is going on? Why are they all doing so well?

In fact, this is closely related to our expectations and our attitudes. Teachers and students have high expectations, which may be wrong, but they directly determine the attitude of teachers and students, as well as their performance and results during the year.

So how we have attitudes and expectations towards our children, family, friends and others directly or indirectly affects the performance of others!

Other people's attitudes require your attention, but not indiscriminately. First of all, you have to have a correct understanding of yourself and have a strong sense of self-confidence. Then you have to make an evaluation of the attitude of others towards you, whether he is right or wrong, this is what you should understand.

In the end, it is to make a decision about the right and wrong of his attitude, and if it is right, he must change himself and correct his mistakes. Ignore what is wrong, or argue with reason.

Whether you are a big person or a small character, don't show a condescending appearance to people with a lower status than you, let alone look at people with indifference and arrogance, and look at yourself low. Only in this way, in times of crisis, will you be able to get help from others. Pay attention to the people around you, they are the ones who make your life better.

Be a man, don't use your own size to ferry people.

Use your own "heart ruler" to measure others, everyone is not enough size;

Use your own "heart scale" to weigh others, everyone is not enough;

Measure others with their own "mentality", and everyone is not in their way;

Using one's own "heart eye" to ask others is out of place for everyone;

Using one's own "heart" to accommodate others, everyone is at fault.

Crossing others is like crossing oneself, and crossing oneself is also crossing others.

If you can't see it, you carry it.

If you can't put it down, just remember it.

I was reluctant to imitate Qi, so I kept it.

Just talking about the rights and wrongs of others, it turns out that he is not perfect;

only talks about the strengths and weaknesses of others, and it turns out that he also has flaws;

Looking at the rights and wrongs of others, it turns out that he is not a saint.

People must know how to stop in moderation.

Remember at all times to leave some leeway in life, not to be complacent when you get, and not to be depressed when you lose.

Leave a high uproar for others to occupy, leave a little road for others to take, and leave a little time for yourself to think.