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Although some dads really love their children and pay a lot for their children, it is difficult to make money in normal times, but whether these children will be realized, they can understand, but the mother does laundry and cooking for them, and patiently plays with them every day, chats, etc., most of these dads can't do it, which is why the children think the dad is strange! Therefore, the role of Bao Dad is very important.
<> cherishing the role of the father in the child is a decisive image of a man, if the father refuses, they will have less of this brave and strong impression in learning, and the object of learning is transformed into cherishing the mother, so that even men can become flexible, which will give people a feeling of unbearable and unbearable! Therefore, it is very important to cherish the role of the father. Bao Dad's negligence for his daughter, they will reject Bao Dad, which also makes them feel love since they were young, when they grow up, if someone treats them a little better, they will feel love, and in today's society, the basic trick of deceiving the emotional man is based on the country, do you want your daughter to embark on this road in the future?
The child is really very susceptible to the influence of outsiders, someone says bad things about you in his ear day after day, year after year, even if he knows that you are a good person and you are a mother, but he will still be affected by these words and alienate you, of course, it is not excluded that the mother herself is doing well enough, in short, to bring the child to him. Don't worry. People have to learn to grow up.
My daughter doesn't understand why you got divorced, but she'll understand when she's a mother herself. Children usually get along with their mothers for a long time, it can be said that compared with their fathers, they love their mothers more, if the father's attitude towards the mother is not good, or even yelling at the mother, these situations are absorbed by the child, out of the desire to protect, their disgust with the father will be enhanced.
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The daughter should communicate in time, tell the current husband that he is his uncle, the two should be familiar with each other, and the husband should also be close to the daughter, play with the daughter, shorten the distance with the daughter, and give the daughter a certain amount of time to accept the reality.
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In life, you should let your daughter and her husband get along often, and you should also let the two of you go to the amusement park when you are resting, and you can take your daughter to watch a movie to make your daughter familiar with this person.
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You can communicate with your daughter, or ask your husband to care more about her daughter, and build trust between two people through the details of life.
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There will be a lot of friction and contradictions between two people, especially with their own marriage, marriage is very complicated, and the husband is a second marriage, and it is not very comfortable to see his daughter, what should I do?
Here I would like to share some of my thoughts and suggestions.
1. Take the initiative to communicate with your husband's daughter, get along with each other like friends, and get to know each other.
Married to her husband for the second time, and her husband has a daughter, it is understandable that this is a normal emotion in your heart, but after all, you are married to him, and the right and wrong of marriage do not involve children, so at this time you can try to communicate with your husband's daughter, you can first get along with her like a friend, and get to know each other well, because as long as you understand it, under the same roof.
It will also gradually get along.
2. Take the initiative to organize parent-child travel, go out to play, go shopping, feel the scenery outside, and soothe your mood.
When you see that your husband's daughter is uncomfortable, at this time you need to regulate your emotions and mood, you can try to take the initiative to organize parent-child travel, the family goes out to feel the outside world, see the outside scenery, so that not only can regulate their emotions, can enhance each other's direct feelings, see the scenery of nature, the mood will also be comfortable, so that when getting along, your heart will also be released, so that it will be easier to accept it slowly.
3. Chat with friends and express your inner emotions and thoughts.
It takes time to accept that your husband is married for the second time, and her husband has a daughter, so you may not be emotionally comfortable with your husband, and you will also consider his feelings and embarrassment, so at this time you can find your friends to come out and express your inner emotions and thoughts freely, so as to release them to your mental health.
It also helps, and friends outsiders can also give you better advice, which is also a great help.
Therefore, in the face of his second marriage, the husband with a daughter feels uncomfortable with him, and he can try to adjust himself through the above ways. Accept it slowly, so that you can get along more harmoniously.
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To adjust their mentality, although the stepmother is very bad, but before getting married, you know that there is a child, since you have chosen, you have to work hard to do a good job, and the child is innocent, everyone wants to guard their own mother, if you can't treat her like a mother, then please be merciful, the child is not wrong.
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Since you are married to your husband, I think you should treat his daughter well, and then care and love his daughter a little more, raise him as your own daughter, and love the house and Wu, if you like him, you must like his daughter, and learn to accept and face it.
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Since you have chosen your current husband, then be more understanding and tolerant.
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When encountering such a situation, you should choose to accept yourself, and you can slowly adapt to the advantages of the other party.
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Now marriage is not the same as in the past, if there are problems between the two parties, couples with more will choose divorce instead of forbearance, and there are not a few remarried families, and the problem that needs to be faced is how to explain with the children and what attitude to face them in the future. Men and women who have children are not worried about themselves the most, but about their children, and if they both have children, they may pay more attention to each other's children than their own. So today, let's take a look at what my husband is married to the second time, and his daughter is unwilling to be close to me?
1.Learn to redouble your child's affection.
After remarriage, if the family wants to get along well, they must learn to accept each other's children. Some people don't like children, especially naughty children, but since you have chosen to remarry them, then you have to tolerate everything about them. When you hate your child, think more about how good he is to you, think more about what the child looks like when he is cute, eliminate the psychology of hating children, try to accept the child, and then treat the child as his own biological child, give the child double the care, and slowly, the child will learn to accept you and listen to you, so that your other half will also feel comfortable with you and will feel that you are a very sensible person.
2.Chat like a friend.
Anyone who has watched "The Little Prince" knows that when he was a child, he drew a python that swallowed a baby elephant, but the adults thought it was a hat, and firmly believed that he had no talent for painting. Isn't this very similar to what we usually do, rarely think about problems from the perspective of children, and always use the majesty of parents to tell children: Is it right for you to do this, is it good?
When chatting with your child, you have to be like a friend, know how to listen, after listening to the child's ideas, don't put on a parental posture, to comment on the child's ideas, only really stand in the child's perspective to chat with the child, the child will be willing to share with you his interesting things in school and life.
3.Do what you like.
Children also have their own interests and hobbies, and you can also start from this aspect and get along with him according to his preferences, for example, if he likes Ultraman's toys, you can take the time to collect the part of Ultraman toys that he doesn't have. The most important thing to get along with a child is to coax him first, as long as he is happy, then you will find that getting along with children is still very easy and happy, and when children feel that getting along with you is a very happy thing, your relationship with each other can get better and better.
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My husband is married for the second time, and his daughter doesn't want to be close to me, so I should do this: be more patient, spend more time with his daughter, go shopping, buy clothes, go to the amusement park with her, etc.
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As soon as possible, bring yourself into the wife, mother's position is good to communicate with each other, usually cook more dishes that the other party likes to eat, care more about each other, don't manage each other too much, give each other a certain amount of personal space, and take each other to participate in some group activities.
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You can give her more company in daily life, take care of her more, take her out shopping, communicate with her when the child shows negative emotions, don't give guidance, it is difficult to replace the position of the mother in her heart, you can try to be friends with her.
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I think this is very normal, after all, you are not her real mother, you should not be too anxious, care more about the child, respect the child, and use your sincerity to impress her.
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If your husband's daughter is always keeping her distance from you, you can tell your husband about this and let him communicate with his daughter. After that, you should also communicate with your stepdaughter on an equal footing so that she understands that you will treat her better and will not bully her. Children are actually more sensitive, and will feel that this person is really good to them, and then they will gradually accept you.
This situation is quite normal, after all, the husband's daughter is older and knows that he has a mother and you are the new mother. If your husband's daughter doesn't reject you so much, but just keeps a proper distance from you, you don't need to worry too much. As the time spent together increases, the relationship between two people will become better and better, and it will not be so bad.
If you are uncomfortable with this situation, you can also get close to your husband's daughter and maintain a good relationship with him. Slowly, your daughter will recognize your goodness and will tell you what is in her heart. Feelings come out of getting along, and they can't be too forced.
Girls are more fond of dolls and delicacies, and stepmothers can buy some small toys for their daughters. Slowly, your daughter will be happier, and she will forget the past and get closer to you. However, there are two situations, the first case, the daughter is younger, and the relationship with the stepmother will become more harmonious.
In the second case, the daughter is older and has her own ideas. Stepmothers can treat each other as equals and don't control each other in everything. In this way, your daughter will feel more comfortable, and you will be able to live happily on your own, and there will be no big conflicts between the two parties.
After all, the two are not related by blood.
A lot of things are not suitable for saying.
Feelings are actually a two-way street, and not a person's efforts can be reciprocated. Some children are more slow to heat, and loneliness should be patient, don't be so anxious, and slowly the child will accept you and compare with you.
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Her daughter keeps her distance from you, which means that the child is not small, after all, it is not your own child, in the spirit of more things is better than less, you just try to be good to her, buy food, buy clothes, don't always talk about her, scold her, that's fine.
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You don't want to repair the relationship, you just need to do your own thing, usually do what you should do as a mother, it's fine, and the rest will take its course.
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You should calm yourself down first, and then find an appropriate time to communicate with the other person in a calm tone to understand what she really thinks.
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You have to be a little patient and careful, good people have good rewards. We divorce to avoid the first conflict, and we should not avoid the contradiction again. I think the family is not a serious place, the family should be a place of modesty and tolerance, if we can't be humble and tolerant, we don't want to enter the palace of marriage, because they can't be humble and tolerant, and marriage will make us very miserable.
Thank you for having me. Have a good talk with your husband and find out why you are in trouble. Look at the problem**, since two people walking together is fate, don't believe in your character, your character is too open.
Make your husband insecure, or you're too casual. Either your husband is stingy, or he was hurt in his first marriage. Understand each other, communicate more with your husband, give him a sense of security, and let time prove it over time!
Don't let him feel like you're his friend. When you have a child, you have to live well. Consider the other person's feelings before doing anything.
I'm sure you'll handle family conflicts well. Sometimes I feel wronged and want to give up, but I feel that it is not easy for us to start a family, and now we still live like this. Sometimes I think that a second marriage is also a family composed of two people, and two people also have to work marriage.
In my heart, lower the other party's requirements and be more tolerant, there is no need to think that we are a second marriage, we will guard against each other in our hearts.
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