Xiao S was once disliked because she was a girl, what is so terrible about a patriarchal family?

Preference for sons over daughters is a backward ideology, and there are even extreme people who abandon newborn baby girls.

There are many families who dot on boys very much, although they don't say "patriarchy", but they still like boys in their hearts, especially the older generation, such as grandparents, who especially like grandchildren, and leave them with anything delicious. The grandchildren also make the same mistake, always being more partial to their grandchildren, and can even meet their unreasonable requirements, which can be said to be extremely fond of them.

However, it is this love that hurts the boys. Boys are under a lot of pressure in society, not only in their careers, but also in their families. But as adults, spoiled boys lack the ability to be independent, find it difficult to take responsibility, and often suffer double setbacks in career and love.

Families that don't pay attention to girls In some families, few people care about girls. Parents often don't care about their daughters' academic performance. Daughters always need to make sacrifices, and sons can get all the pampering if they don't do anything.

Grandparents often express dislike for their granddaughters. Girls who grow up in such a family will hate their family in their hearts.

From the perspective of history and tradition, Chinese society has always been a patriarchal society, and it has always had a huge social foundation for the superiority of men and the inferiority of women. From the perspective of the Chinese clan concept, men can pass on the lineage. The same is true in the concept of family, the same surname is a family, the opposite sex is a relative, and only people with the same surname are a family.

From the perspective of local customs and social influences, for example, married daughters are like water spilled out, and raising children can prevent old age, these concepts are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

Men can take on the responsibility of providing for the elderly. Generally speaking, the maintenance of parents is male-dominated and implemented, and we generally do not impose mandatory requirements on daughters. Even if our daughter doesn't provide for her retirement, there are very few people who blame her.

Therefore, patriarchy is a social phenomenon that is softened by various factors such as history, tradition, society, ideology, etc. Although it is a backward ideology, it is not without reason.

I think the most terrible thing about patriarchal families is that it has a psychological impact on children, making them feel very unconfident and feel that they are the one who is at fault, thus hurting themselves.

It is terrible that it may ruin a girl's life, and this kind of family will allow a girl to grow up in an unfair environment, which will hurt the girl's heart, become very inferior, and affect her life.

The most terrible thing is that it will assimilate the girl's mind and make the girl think that this concept is correct. When girls grow up, they will continue to pass on this idea to the next generation.

Patriarchal families are terrible, and they tend to place special emphasis on boys, while often despising women, causing all kinds of injustices and even abusing women.

These families are likely to be very unfair to their daughters, often dislike their daughters, and will also treat their sons and daughters differently, and also have very backward concepts.

This kind of family is very terrible, it will make the growth of the two children change very differently, the boy will have better resources and be particularly smart, while the girl can only struggle on her own, and the values of the two people are completely different.

Patriarchy, first of all, is very unfair to female comrades, they are all their own children, and they all like it, but in that environment, they don't like it; At the same time, it is very unfair to children.

Patriarchal families regard boys as the pillar of the family, as the object of inheritance, and as the support for the elderly in the future, so they dote on boys in every way. As for girls, parents will make girls sacrifice their rights in order to make boys better, and even become "younger brothers".

In China's traditional patriarchal clan system, which has lasted for thousands of years, the gender division of labor is particularly obvious, and women have basically no human rights in the family. Even in Chinese, for example"The woman's view"、"The kindness of a woman"and other words clearly implicit discrimination against women's talents. Until the current civilized society, there are still some backward local rural areas, adhering to it"There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is great"The feudal ideology stipulated that women who did not give birth to a boy could not attend weddings, or even the funerals of their elders.

The son bears the responsibility of passing on the family lineage and providing for the elderly, while the daughter will eventually marry and become a wife, like water spilled out, which deepens the parents' willingness to have sons but not daughters. That's exactly what it is"Inherit the family name and raise children to prevent old age"The traditional concept has directly led to the current imbalance in the ratio of male to female population in China.

Anyone who has watched Xiao S's show will feel that this woman should have lived in an optimistic environment since she was a child, and she has not suffered. Xiao S and Big S often participate in variety shows, but in contrast, Big S's personality is more calm, and he also looks like a sister. And Xiao S, whether he gets along with his family in life or talks to other stars at work, he doesn't look very serious.

Therefore, when Xu's mother and Xiao S talked about the issue of patriarchy in the show, everyone felt a little heavy, but they didn't expect that Xiao S had been disliked because she was a girl. Fortunately, Xu's mother later felt that it was good to give birth to a daughter, and Xiao S's childhood was not affected. Now that Xiao S has given birth to three daughters in a row, there must be pressure.

The patriarchal mentality is still more serious in some places, but don't let this kind of thinking affect your life.

First, it is best to leave this environment. I've seen a lot of girls who grew up in patriarchal families, and in the end they have some character flaws. For example, when I was a child, because my parents preferred sons over girls, girls especially loved to hide snacks when they grew up.

Childhood shadows almost take a lifetime to go **. Therefore, if you have the ability, you should leave such an environment as soon as possible, and it is difficult for people's minds to be changed.

Second, no matter what others think, you can't be led astray. Whether you are being patriarchal or your daughter being despised, you must keep your original idea and not be led astray by this thought. If your parents are patriarchal, don't doubt yourself and believe that you can't be worse than a boy.

If it is a child, then you don't care about others, you have the ability to educate your child well, and you don't have to care about others.

Third, the idea of preference for sons over women is very harmful. In the past, patriarchal thinking has harmed many people, such as those who only let boys go to school and do not allow girls to study. Society is progressing, and many people have abandoned this kind of thinking, and boys and girls should be treated fairly.

If I meet someone with a patriarchal mentality, I will choose to stay away from them and try to minimize my contact with them. Because I think men and women should be equal, and I can't change them, then I'll change myself.

When encountering patriarchal thinking, it is most important to be more independent and strong, and to use your own strength to change the opinions of others.

At this time, the most important thing to do is to let yourself grow slowly, and don't care too much about such things, after all, there is no way to avoid this phenomenon, what you can do is to keep yourself in a good attitude.

When encountering patriarchal thinking, you should use your own strength to prove that you are also very good, and you will have your own world in your career.

When encountering patriarchal thoughts, you must reason with the other party, and never let the other party have such wrong thoughts.

I can only accept it gladly, because I am very young, and I have no ability to resist, nor do I have the ability to live alone.

In fact, you will also directly and openly retaliate, because you don't like this situation, and you won't let yourself be treated like this.

It should be made clear to the older generation, and the current society has been particularly open, and there are very few people who have the idea of preference for sons over daughters.

In the previous era, many families had the idea of preference for sons, the grandfather of the family wanted the eldest grandson, the father wanted the eldest son, because the so-called boys could be passed on from generation to generation, so some families would be distressed because the child born was a girl, and even disliked the child.

When we encounter such a time, we should criticize and educate him, because now boys and girls are the same.

Xiao S was once disliked because she was a girl, she had two older sisters, and Xiao S was also the youngest girl in the family. Xiao S on his social platform, ** In order to give birth to a boy, Xiao S also found all kinds of home remedies, because Xiao S has three daughters. Like her mother, she has three daughters, and she feels very happy, and even thinks about having a boy when she thinks about it.

In fact, celebrities also hope that they can have a boy, and they only have the idea of inheriting their ancestry. <>

Xiao S has three daughters, and Xiao S's real name is Xu Xidi.

Di in this is also to be able to attract the statement of his younger brother. Even Xiao S's nickname Tingting was to stop giving birth to girls, so she had such a name, and she attached great importance to having a boy in Xiao S's mother's era. But because Xiao S's mother gave birth to three daughters, the children were disliked in the family, and even Xiao S claimed on his social platform that he is very happy now that he has three daughters.

I also want to break the concept of the elderly in the family, thinking that having a daughter is the same happiness. <>

Giving birth to a boy Nowadays, young people are not paying too much attention to giving birth to boys and girls, thinking that daughters and sons are raised equally. But considering that daughters are going to marry when they grow up, they will still want sons. Because my son will be able to be by his side when he is old.

After the daughter gets married, she can only accompany her in-law's house, in fact, she is often in the hospital now, and you can also see that most of the people who take care of her parents' bedside are daughters. Some people even think that having a boy will only cause their own financial burden. <>

Patriarchal phenomenonNowadays, the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters has also been effectively controlled. Even when it comes to giving birth to a boy or girl, many people are willing to have a daughter, because they consider that their daughter is their intimate little padded jacket. When it comes to everything, daughters tend to be much more attentive than sons.

But in fact, whether it is a boy or a girl, they all have their own goodness, which has a certain relationship with the family's cultivation of children.

She has two older sisters, Da S is a well-known sister, and the two of them also have an eldest sister, who is not a person in the entertainment industry and is not seen by everyone very much, but Xiao S sometimes appears when he shares his family**.

She has two older sisters, and Xiao S is disliked because her parents want a boy, but the one who was born a girl is Xiao S, so she is disliked.

Xiao S has two older sisters, she is the third daughter in their family, because the older generation is patriarchal, so Xiao S was once disliked by her grandfather because she was a girl.

Xiao S has two older sisters, she is the third girl in the family, and she herself has three daughters.

Xiao S has two older sisters, the eldest sister is called Xu Xixian, who is an amateur and married to a businessman. The second sister's name is Xu Xiyuan, married Wang Xiaofei, and gave birth to a son and a daughter. She herself has three daughters.

Girls and boys are the flesh and blood of their parents, but why is there a preference for sons? I think the reason is that only one girl marries into someone else's family, and she can't inherit the ancestral business and can't serve her parents. Boys stay at home all their lives.

Now the concept of rural areas is heavier. It is for this reason that large cities are relatively weak, because neither girls nor boys live with their parents, so naturally there is no comparison.

In fact, not only in rural areas, but also in urban areas, people still prefer sons over daughters. This kind of thing is not to say that it will change, and it seems to be human nature, and it is unlikely to change at all. In the past, there was a need for male labor in the countryside, and if a girl was born, it would feel like he was losing money.

Because girls are definitely not as good at work as boys, and it is really not worth it to have an extra mouth to feed. If boys have more children, families will have more labor, more land to grow, and more food to produce. And a boy who doesn't need much food at all, the family will be much richer.

But now, in fact, farming doesn't make much money, so many men go out to work. But even so, raising a boy is more useful than raising a girl. At least when doing physical work and accompanying their parents to go out to see a doctor, boys should be more relaxed and not too burdened.

In fact, the same is true for cities.

We often see families with a second child. If their first child is a girl, they will definitely have a second child. The aim is to have a boy.

If their first child is a boy, they will not choose to have a second child. The reason is obvious, it is enough to have a boy, and there is no need to have another boy or girl. So it's impossible to change the idea, and there's no need to change anything.

Parents only need to be nice to girls in their own homes, and there is absolutely no need to pursue so-called equality. Because there is no absolute fairness in this world, everything is relative.

So we should not have this kind of thinking, we should treat it equally, we should not have this kind of thinking.