After the divorce, what should I do when I see my children becoming more and more like my ex husband

I think that's normal, because you think about things, but you have to think about it, it's your own child. Don't hook up with your ex-husband in any way, because the child is innocent and independent, don't hook up with your ex-husband.

There is no way around it, you should get used to it, after all, this is because it is genetically determined, the child is your own, and divorce has caused a lot of harm to the child. So be sure to be kind to your children.

After the divorce, I see that the child is becoming more and more like my ex-husband, and I get angry when I look at it, this is your problem, the child is innocent, he was born to you and your ex-husband, and he naturally looks like him, this is a natural law that cannot be changed, and what you want to change should be your mentality.

It's normal for a child to be like his dad, and his genetics won't change because you break off your relationship with his dad. The child is your own flesh and blood, since it is raised by you, you should give him unconditional maternal love, let him grow up healthy and happy, and you can't add your grievances with your ex-husband to him, you are angry with your ex-husband, and you can't be angry with innocent children. I hope you put yourself in their shoes:

The mother looks at the child and gets angry, how unfortunate the child is, how pitiful!

If you do this kind of thing, you can only relax yourself, don't think more about some of the previous things, this is also some destined things, there is no way to change anything, put your mood well, and live happily.

Is it true that you have such a mentality, you and your ex-husband's children, you don't want him to be like whom, your marriage is unhappy, what does it have to do with your children, you don't feel sorry for your children, if he can choose, you don't want to be born in such a family.

After the divorce, seeing the children more and more like their ex-husbands, they get angry when they look at them, it should be that you have not come out of the shadow of divorce, and you have not completely forgotten your ex-husband. In fact, it is a normal thing for children to be like their fathers, what you should do is to change your mentality, you don't have to be too entangled in the past, only if you let go completely, you won't care about who your child is like. Finally, I wish you all the best and a happy life every day.

After the divorce, I see that the children are becoming more and more like my ex-husband, and I get angry when I look at them, so return the children to my ex-husband, and you don't take the children.

Otherwise, you will also make the child become a distorted personality, which will hurt the child's future growth, and the child will grow up to be unspeakably violent.

That's what you can do.

Hello dear, this situation is also normal. Maybe something happened to you with your ex-husband and you are very dissatisfied with him, but we need to think differently, the child is following you now, he is also a piece of meat that fell from your body, he is also very innocent, and now he only belongs to you, so you can try to accept this situation slowly, communicate more with the child, and give the child more care.

You must not think like that. The ex-husband is the ex-husband, and the child is the child. The child is innocent.

If you have such a ** with your child, then the child may hate you too. You know, you also give life to your children. Then who does the child go to?

Don't be too anxious, think that the child still has a part like you, or think that this is your own child.

You have to adjust your mentality. Don't think about your ex-husband anymore when you leave. Angry means you haven't let go...

Hello, I'm glad to answer this question for you, so I personally think that after your divorce, you look at the children more and more like your ex-husband, and look angry, so do you think you can retrain it? How old is he now? If he is under the age of 15, you can still train him, but if he is now sixteen or seventeen, then it is difficult to make him change again.

This may be because the resentment in your heart has not been eliminated. But it doesn't matter, the child is with you and educates him more, so that he can recognize the true face of his old man, so that the child will not have less contact with him in the future. Let your old public betray their relatives and leave this more hatred.

After the divorce, you see that the child is becoming more and more like your ex-husband, and you get angry when you look at the child, which means that you have not yet come out of this shadow in your heart, but the child is innocent, and some anger should not happen to the child.

First of all, you relax your mind, this is very normal, your ex-husband's children are like ex-husbands, they are related by blood, you don't have to be angry.

Children are innocent, we must learn to forget the past, strive for a better future, life must always move forward, children are hope.

If your own children are getting more and more angry, then you are mentally ill and should see a psychiatrist to see you.

Although the child is like the ex-husband, he is not the ex-husband, the child is innocent, and the hatred for the ex-husband cannot be transferred to the child.

The child is also your child, and you can't blame the child for anything you have with your ex-husband.

I don't think you should think so, after all, this is also your child, your biological flesh and blood, no matter who he looks like? He's your child, too!

If you are not like your ex-husband, your character is problematic and the child is innocent

Summary. The marriage between you is a matter for the two of you, the child is just a person you need to raise, and the relationship is a matter for each other.

Because the children of my husband's ex-wife are always quarreling and want to divorce, what should I do?

Dear, when you encounter this situation, you must be sensible, because when we choose to be with the husband we choose, at that time, it must have been a tacit approval of his family, and the child was innocent, but according to your marriage, the burning spine has caused him to be upside down and displaced, so if you keep quarreling with the child now, a big reason is also because the child is now young, ignorant, and has been quarreling with his parents, and he can't understand your labor.

So when you encounter this situation, you also need to distinguish what kind of attitude your current husband has towards you, and whether it is good for you?

The marriage between you is a matter for the two of you, the child is just a person you need to raise, and the relationship is a matter for each other.

Your ex-husband may still have a grudge or resentment towards you, and feel that your departure from the family has hurt him, so he is reluctant to let you see the children.

Another possibility is that the ex-husband has his own arrangements and plans and does not want you to see the child at this time, perhaps because he and the child have an agreement to block Fengsen or need to enter the base to dismantle the special arrangement.

The last possibility is that the ex-husband himself has a desire to control and wants to control the life and growth of the children alone, so he is unwilling to let you interfere too much. This situation may require both of you to communicate and negotiate to find a way to help your child grow healthily.

This can show that the ex-husband still has some emotional obstacles, so that he can't accept that you are looking at the child. You may need to spend time with your ex-husband trying to figure out his thoughts and feelings, and respect his opinion.

It shows that the grievance has not been resolved, and it is normal for the ex-wife to go to see the child, and the ex-husband is using this to sanction the ex-wife.

I got divorced because of my ex-mother-in-law's instigation and greed.

Because the child is only more than a year old and needs to be taken care of by adults, he often lives with his ex-in-laws, who are not used to many things, and often have some small contradictions, and sometimes they will say bad things about me behind my back, instigating the relationship between my ex-husband and me, but my ex-husband still listens to his mother.

Later, when I had a quarrel, my ex-mother-in-law said that I would transfer the ownership of the car I bought to my son, but the family would divorce, and I wanted to go back to my parents' house, and they wouldn't let me take the child away.

In a fit of anger, Wu Chun and I went back to my parents' house by myself, and the children stayed at my in-laws' house.

Because of this incident, the conflict between me and my in-laws has reached the point where it cannot be reconciled, and my ex-husband blindly goes towards his mother, and he can't go on anymore, so we divorced.

For practical reasons, I don't have a child, the child is still young and needs someone to take care of him, I can't quit my job to take care of him at home, I can't raise him without income, and my parents are busy and don't have time to help me take care of the child.

My ex-husband's mother has been at home since she retired, and I think this is her own grandson, and she will have a problem with me, but it is impossible to treat her grandson badly.

After the divorce, it was decided like this, the children returned to my ex-husband, and I paid child support on time every month, but one day later this month, my ex-husband and his mother beat ** to scold and curse me viciously.

And they didn't let me see the child, every time I went to see the child, they embarrassed me, kicked me away, and didn't let me see the child.

I went to consult a lawyer and the lawyer said that I could negotiate with them by deferring child support, but I didn't, they value money so much that they don't know what they will do if they don't pay them on time.

I just don't understand, even if it's divorced, everyone is good to get together and disperse, it's a big deal to die and not get along, but the child is also my child, although I don't have custody, but I also gave child support, why don't you let me see the child?

I just want to know what kind of psychology they have, they are divorced, why can't they let me watch the children happily and use the children to embarrass me?

Does it have anything to do with watching your children and not seeing you?

If your problem is not resolved, please describe your problem in detail.

Summary. First of all, I didn't understand what you meant. You and your husband are divorced, so whose custody of the children is in whose hands?

You are still single after the divorce, so you must be alone with your children. Therefore, you need to explain your situation clearly, and I will help you analyze it according to your situation, give you methods and suggestions, and solve the confusion you encounter.

Why after the divorce, suddenly the ex-husband has to be alone with the children.

First of all, I didn't understand what you meant. You and your husband are divorced, so whose custody of the children is in whose hands? You divorced people who are still single after the big lead, so you and your children must be alone.

I will help you analyze your situation according to your situation, give you methods and suggestions, and solve the confusion you encounter.

Child custody is with me.

I'm single. Another problem is that I think your husband has to be alone with the children. Maybe he thinks that the custody of the child is with you, and he takes up life with you, and suddenly he wants to be with the child, then he may also be thinking about himself, how can the child have no relationship with him in the future?

Or if he finds that your child is with you and may be with him for a short time, then he may alienate the relationship between them.

From childhood to adulthood, children don't care about children.

How old are you?

When you say you're single, does that mean your ex-husband has a family now?

I don't have a family.

Yes. That is to say, if you suddenly feel your ex-husband now, then, in fact, it has indeed changed.

Because a person will change depending on something. How old is your ex-husband?

What will change, he thinks only about himself, not about someone else.

He won't think about it, he won't change, so why does he suddenly want to be with his child now when he didn't care about the child before?

Son? As a person grows older, he changes in his environment, or in his mind.

For example, after he started a family again, the relationship between the husband and wife is not good, then he may miss it at this time. The closest people, such as children.

Respect the people you can rely on in the future, and maybe you only have children.

Summary. Hello, I would like to ask if the court awarded the child to the ex-husband at the time of divorce?

Hello, I would like to ask if the court awarded the child to the ex-husband at the time of divorce?

How much time do you spend with your children?

We divorced by agreement and I gave him the child, and now he finds the woman who always harasses me and scolds my child.

The woman wouldn't let me see the child.

It sounds really complicated, and this woman is particularly teasing Lu for not respecting children and not caring for children, so the chain letter Yishan said that at this stage, we need to seek help from our ex-husband to see what kind of wishes he has. Whether you can understand your child's feelings. In addition, we need to create some opportunities to meet with our children as much as possible to see if our ex-husband can help build a relationship.

If both parties are really not cooperative, we may need to seek some school teachers or ** institutions to join.

If you choose to remarry after the divorce, you are still more sensitive to the remarried and reorganized family, and you should pay more attention when dealing with the problem. Let's talk about how to manage each other's children when remarrying.

How to manage each other's children when remarrying.

1. Create a good family atmosphere: A good family atmosphere is conducive to the physical and mental health of the children of the remarried family, and is conducive to the harmonious relationship between the husband and wife. Take a little more time to communicate with your children every day, take them for walks, parties, travel, visit relatives, etc.

From time to time, there is a small family evening party on the weekend, and the husband and wife perform some programs that are beneficial to the children, and also let the children tell jokes, tell stories, read poems, sing and dance, and so on. A good family atmosphere for remarried families is beneficial but harmless.

2. Treat children equally: Children from remarried families are generally sensitive and suspicious when they come to a new family and new environment. Husband and wife should treat each other's children equally, don't only care about their own children, favor their own children, and ignore each other's children, don't care less about them, and even often beat and scold, which will not only affect the children's perception of you, but will also seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife in the long run, and the consequences are unimaginable.

3. Let the children become good friends: Let the children study, play, and walk together, and share delicious and fun with each other, so that the children can become good friends who talk about everything. Even if the children don't live together, let them see each other often, get together and become friends.

Don't let them develop a withdrawn, selfish personality.

4. Take care of your own children: Maybe you will care more for your children from the bottom of your heart, but for the sake of family peace and harmony, please take care of your children first and cultivate their caring, generous, optimistic and tolerant character. When necessary, you should give more love to each other's children, smile more, care more, and the feelings will be deeper.