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My mother-in-law brought the baby for herself, and I think that the cost of daily necessities and three meals a day should be paid by my husband. After all, my mother-in-law is old, and it is very difficult to spend a lot of money. However, a mother-in-law who does not pull out a dime is not very good, and if the conditions allow, try to spend as little as possible.
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I think it's better to pay for daily necessities and three meals a day, because after all, it's already good for your mother-in-law to come to your house to bring you children, and if you let the family pay for it, it will cause conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
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Daily necessities, three meals a day must be out of the daughter-in-law, after all, the mother-in-law has no income to take the child, even if there is income, the mother-in-law is willing to help the best, and she should not say anything if she is unwilling.
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In fact, I think this matter is relatively normal, after all, my mother-in-law is also old, she helps you take care of the children, you are reasonable, and you also need to give some so-called living expenses to express your heart. So I think it's still a very normal thing, and you can also think about it.
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I think it should be given. Mother-in-law helps take care of the children, there will be no economy, in fact, she does not speak, she can also take the initiative to pay the living expenses, the two sides understand each other, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more harmonious.
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I think it's normal. Because it costs a lot when taking care of children, and their own money needs to be kept for the elderly, we can leave some living expenses for the elderly.
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It depends on the specific family situation. If the parents-in-law have no financial ability or poor financial ability, they will definitely have to pay living expenses. I am afraid that my parents-in-law are not short of money, and there is a psychology of enjoyment, bias or distrust of money and security, etc., these psychology are often contradictions and are the killers of family atmosphere.
Xiao F's husband is an only child, his parents-in-law are young, and his family conditions are good, but his parents-in-law are trendy. They just think that they are not obligated to take care of the children, and they think that they are helping their sons and daughters-in-law with their children, and the sons and daughters-in-law should pay, and they must make themselves happy to help take care of the children. I didn't agree with each other, I didn't help bring money, the two of them went around the world and enjoyed life, how beautiful!
Xiao Z's husband has a younger brother, because their conditions are better, and her mother-in-law always prefers her younger brother. Xiao Z is filial piety, understands that it is not easy for her mother-in-law to help take care of the children, gives her mother-in-law some money every month, buys clothes and cosmetics for her mother-in-law, and buys new TVs and new bed sheets for her mother-in-law at home. Later, I found out that my mother-in-law gave all his thoughts to his younger brother and sister-in-law.
At first, I was okay with it, but as things accumulated, my psychology slowly changed and became unbalanced.
Xiao H is more spicy, everything he does is lightning when he arrives, no matter what he says, he blurts out what he thinks. My mother-in-law was always afraid that she would be unreliable, thinking that only with money could she have confidence. During the period of taking care of the children, Xiao H gave him all the living expenses that he could save, saying that he kept them for the elderly.
Xiao H was angry when he mentioned this living expenses, thinking that he didn't trust him when he gave money.
Little X's in-laws are older and very frugal. The daily living expenses, the in-laws have basically saved, run a passbook at home, and explain the specific situation of saving money to Xiao X every time they go home. Once the child paid the kindergarten tuition, the mother-in-law took out more than 10,000 yuan at once and asked the child to pay the tuition.
Such a mother-in-law is worth learning! Thumbs up!
It is not easy for in-laws, whether they take children or not, young people should regularly give their in-laws some money, so that the elderly can work at ease, live comfortably, and rest assured in the future. If the in-laws really have other psychology, they still have to find a way to solve it. Contradictions are like a quagmire, and it is difficult to get out if you fall into them.
I also wish the family harmony and happiness!
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I think this is really reasonable, after all, it is very hard to take care of children, mother-in-law they also have their own personal life, why not let grandma take it, but let grandma take it, at this time we have to understand it with our hearts.
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In fact, the most important thing between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to have appropriate language exchange and communication in life. If the mother-in-law is really short of money, even if she doesn't give you a child, as a son and daughter-in-law, she should also give it to her. And if she wants to borrow the child to save a little pocket money by herself, it is also reasonable.
After all, as an elderly man, it is indeed not easy to bring a son and grandson again. So the daughter-in-law should understand her mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law didn't say exactly how much, everything is up to you. After all, it is a family, and family affection is more important than money.
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I think it's understandable, after all, the elderly themselves can obviously recuperate, but they still help take care of the children, taking care of the children is really a very tiring thing, they can help us take care of the children, but this is not an obligation, so they can give them living expenses.
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I think it's normal for a mother-in-law to have to pay for living expenses with her children. Even if she didn't ask for it, her son and daughter-in-law should take the initiative to give it. The daily expenses are also not small, the mother-in-law has already contributed, and there is not necessarily an income, so there is no need to let the in-laws pay again.
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It's normal, it's already very good for my mother-in-law to help bring it, but I can't pay for my children's expenses and the elders have to pay for it, which is too unfilial.
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I think it is appropriate for the elderly to take care of their children and give living expenses, in fact, after the elderly take their children, that is, bring up our generation, they have already completed their obligations, and then bring grandchildren, it is also very hard.
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I think that even if you don't take care of the child, you have to pay living expenses, and my mother-in-law will definitely make some delicious food for the nutrition of the baby, so it is even more necessary for us to give her some living expenses.
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I feel very aggrieved, other people's mothers-in-law are free to take care of children, but my mother-in-law asks us for living expenses.
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It's normal, my own children should have been raised by myself, and my mother-in-law helped take care of it because of blood and emotional factors.
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After the daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, the mother-in-law came to the house to take the child to do housework, which is indeed a very hard thing for an elderly mother-in-law. But the mother-in-law asked for living expenses, should it be? The mother-in-law is the mother of her husband and the grandmother of the child, and they are very close to each other.
For the mother-in-law to take care of the child, the mother-in-law can also help take the child free of charge if she is willing; But in fact, if the mother-in-law asks for living expenses, the request is not excessive, because legally, the mother-in-law is not obliged to take her grandchildren. Assuming that your mother-in-law does not come to take care of your children, you pay for a babysitter, more than every month.
Five or six thousand, or less.
About three or four thousand yuan, and spending money to hire people, it may not be as dedicated as his mother-in-law. The mother-in-law offered to ask for living expenses, as a daughter-in-law, she may have some thoughts: the mother-in-law needs to pay for her own grandchildren, is it that the mother-in-law does not care for her grandson, or does she regard the money too important and does not want to pay?
From the position of her mother-in-law, she wants to do her best to help her son and daughter-in-law, do housework well, and take good care of the children. But it is also possible that the mother-in-law is nervous and needs money, or wants to pay more, just exchanging labor for a little living expenses.
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I don't think there's a problem, the pay and the gain are equal, it's more expensive to ask for a confinement sister, and there is no guarantee of her behavior.
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I think this is a matter of course, the old man is so old, and he still has to take care of the children.
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I think that's a good fit. Mother-in-law comes to take the children to do housework for you, and you can't go out to earn money, and most of the things that your mother-in-law buys are for your family of three, and the mother-in-law also eats a mouthful of food, and what money can you spend when you have time to go out with your children. The mother-in-law can't run out of money, so let her father-in-law come and send her money.
My sister took care of her daughter's children for three years. And the house where my niece lives now was also bought by my sister and brother-in-law, because my aunt's family is poor and has no father. During the past three years, my sister began to have her own savings, and always bought things for her daughter's family of three, and slowly they got used to it.
My sister and brother-in-law are in a greenhouse, and they are very profitable, but this job is not easy to do alone, my sister comes to see the children, and my brother-in-law can't do it alone, and I buy a house and borrow debts, so my brother-in-law has to go out to work to make money. After a long time, my sister has no money, but my niece and my niece don't buy vegetables or anything, so my sister can only ask my brother-in-law for money to spend. Sometimes my brother-in-law can't come, and my sister doesn't have money.
My sister has been in the village for a prosperous day, and suddenly she has no money, what do you think it feels like in your heart? Later, I had no choice but to ask her daughter. This is very awkward with a daughter, but there is no way, let alone a daughter-in-law.
You should take the initiative to give your mother-in-law living expenses. The family doesn't have to talk about wages or anything, it hurts feelings like that, let's just talk about family affection, even if your mother-in-law doesn't bring you children and comes to live in your house, you have to take care of eating and drinking. So it's normal to give living expenses.
Coax your mother-in-law to be happy, she will take care of the children for you to do housework, and you can go to work with peace of mind, which is better than anything else. It's better than finding a babysitter and not worrying. Grandma loves her grandson sincerely, you are very blessed, how good it is for your mother-in-law to take care of the children and do housework.
Be content. My in-laws haven't brought their children for a day, and my daughter is in kindergarten and they come to care for the elderly, and we also take the initiative to give living expenses.
It is also possible to bring a child to your mother-in-law, you give up your job to take the child unnecessary, if the financial conditions allow, you can invite an aunt to the house to take you yourself can often see his growth, and then you can send him to the nursery, and then go to kindergarten, preschool, school, etc. Mother-in-law will also exchange knowledge with her when she takes you, and often go home to see. FYI!
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