Why are children who grow up in doting prone to emotional problems?

If they are too arrogant, they will not know how to be considerate of others, they are often self-centered, and they can't get along with others at all, so they are prone to conflicts with others, and problems will become bigger and bigger.

Children who grow up doting are more fragile and selfish. When you need to establish a romantic relationship with other people as an adult, you don't know how to tolerate and forbear, and you always want to take and not give.

Children who grow up in doting will always be self-centered, only enjoy, do not know how to give, and love is to care for each other, once you always ask, do not know how to return, is there a problem?

The psychological problems and manifestations of doting children who grow up are as follows:

1. Dote on the child's arrogant and perverse personality.

The direct consequence of the child being spoiled is arrogance, because all the concessions of the parents, but also to meet all their requirements, including a lot of unreasonable requirements, his bones to develop the idea that he is the boss, parents have to listen to him, dare to ride on the head of the parents to talk and do things, do not know how to make concessions, do not know how to be tolerant, but also can not stand the grievances, arrogant personality in the eyes of no one, perverse and arbitrary.

2. Spoiling makes children lose interest in learning.

Due to our doting, the various abilities of children are covered, and if such low-ability children devote themselves to learning and life, they will encounter many problems.

Such children will encounter various obstacles in learning, so the child loses interest in learning, does not like to study, and finally gets tired of school, or even drops out of school. When these children's academic performance declines, other problems follow.

3. Spoiling confuses children's values.

Children who grow up in a doting environment have some confused values in their brains. Because he has been living in a doting environment, he can do whatever he wants, and then he will feel that he does not need these right values, and he will feel that he can be satisfied, and even his mind will be stuck in that feeling.

When he goes out into society, a series of problems will occur. Such children are in a state of confusion about many issues, such as questions of principle, questions of values, etc. This is all the result of doting on children.

4. Dote on your child's life and make your child's life lazy.

Children are allowed to eat, live, play, and study irregularly, do whatever they want, sleep lazy, skip meals, wander during the day, and watch TV late at night. When such a child grows up, he lacks self-motivation and curiosity, and he can get by.

5. Spoiling makes children become selfish.

Children who are overly spoiled, because they have been surrounded by their parents' doting for a long time, do not know how to think about others, do not compare their hearts with their hearts, do not consider problems from the perspective of others, and are self-centered, selfish and self-interested.

If parents spoil their children too much, they will lose a logical judgment and understanding of the real world. When you grow up, you will definitely be forced to suffer more difficulties in life because your personality and ideas are out of step with the world.

Such children have no sense of urgency, no boundaries, willfulness, selfishness, inability to get along with the team, and will be abandoned by the team or become marginalized.

There will be a lot of questions, because this rolling key is likely to lead to the child's lack of independence, will lead to the child's lack of self-care ability, and may also lead to the child is very rebellious, which will lead to the child's very willful, which is not conducive to the child's character cultivation and development.

The problem is that it will be very willful, and it will be very disrespectful to parents, and sometimes Ji Qingqi can't understand the painstaking efforts of parents. You can do whatever you want, and you will be more casual. It will also be more arrogant.

Dote on the child who grew up is not very good, interpersonal skills do not have a good personality, the temper is more irritable, do not respect others in the rock, affect the child's values, the child will have a negative character.

There will be serious problems, then the clan may be selfish, do things, no bottom line, no principles, will often offend others, and behave in a particularly flamboyant manner.

First, not being filial to one's parents. Second, a short temper. Third, rebellion. Fourth, arrogance. Fifth, love to cry. These doting are easy problems to develop.

For children who grow up doting, it is easy to develop a special willfulness of children, regardless of the feelings of other people, feeling that the whole world revolves around him, and the ability to resist pressure is also very small, and the children who grow up doting will be particularly proud and complacent.

The problems that are easy to develop are, never take the initiative to work, basically unable to take care of oneself in life, very big temper, do not take anyone in his eyes, do everything according to conditions, never share with others, especially selfish, and also very withdrawn, no good friends.

Never take the initiative to work, life is basically unable to take care of itself, "clothes to reach out, food to open the mouth" is the most prominent feature of the spoiled child, everything can "call mother" absolutely do not do. The temper is bigger than the cow, and anyone who doesn't pay attention to the spoiled child will make a big noise and lose his temper on any occasion, as long as there is something unsatisfactory, no matter who triggers his "reverse scale". This kind of child is very "self", and there is no more important person in the world.

Everything must talk about "conditions", long-term doting will make children ignore friendship and family feelings, and when encountering anything, we must talk about conditions.

There must be such a situation, in the eyes of parents, the child is the crystallization of the happiness of the whole family, and cannot be overly pampered, but they do not know that this kind of thinking is harmful to the child.

As the saying goes, "Spoiling a child is like killing a child." "If a child is not disciplined by his parents as a child, he will be disciplined more harshly by society when he grows up. If a child has these behaviors, it means that they are spoiled!

1. Ignoring the feelings of others Because after the birth of the child, the whole family regards the child as the center of the family, revolves around the child every day, and tries their best to meet any conditions put forward by the child, resulting in some children being self-centered and ignoring the feelings of others. No matter how old these children are, they feel that anyone in the world should be of service to them, but they never think about what others think, so they only know what to ask for, but they don't know what to reciprocate.

These self-centered children, once their parents cannot meet his demands, may yell at their parents and love to "command" their parents in their daily lives. When they grow up and enter society, it is difficult for these children, who have been highly praised since childhood, to make friends. Their behavior often makes those around them feel uncomfortable and may be ostracized by those around them.

2.Without independence, some parents always feel that their children are still young and can't withstand the wind and rain, so they have to kiss everything, and they don't even let their children do simple housework. Some children are not able to dress themselves until they are in elementary school.

In the TV show "Metamorphosis", a 16-year-old child needs to be fed by his parents, which is the embodiment of being spoiled by his parents. Children who have lived in this environment for a long time are generally less independent and rely heavily on their parents to do things.

When they do anything, their first instinct is to hope that their parents can do it for them, and if they can't do it, they will shift the blame to others. After entering society, children who grow up in "arranged families" will waver in dealing with problems, have no decision-making ability, and want to ask their parents for help over trivial matters.