What should a person who likes to talk about right and wrong deal with?

Loving someone is actually very simple and simple! Love doesn't need to be out of the blue, it's true! For love, we don't expect it to be perfect, but we can make it true.

Today's society is a society with overflowing feelings, and love has long become fast food. What will happen in the future, who thinks so far? So love becomes a pillow when you are lonely, a traveling companion when you are lonely; It becomes an excuse for some people to achieve their goals, and even becomes a slave to money ...

At this time, love has lost its beautiful aura and has become realistic and worldly... Is there still true love in this society? Yes, but very little, modern people do not know how to cherish love, when they have it, they will suck the essence of love recklessly, do not water, do not fertilize, so the flower of love will not be long before it withers...

When love went away, I found that the beautiful love I was striving for was once so close to me, but unfortunately there is no regret medicine in this world... So when you have a good love, cherish it ... To love someone is to care about him and want him to be happy, and his joys, sorrows and sorrows also affect my emotions, but I just want him to be happy.

If you love someone just to make him love you, then you are misinterpreting the meaning of love. If he could live happier without you, then you should be happy, shouldn't you? Your fulfillment may make it a lot easier for each other, friend, why bother so much, there are many unfair things in the world.

The fate is determined by heaven, and the share is artificial, maybe you are not suitable to be together. Bury that love deep in your heart, as long as you silently bless him, one day you will also be blessed by God and meet your real him. Now if you have the same mindset as I do, you will be happy.

It's not wrong to love someone, it's just that we love the wrong person

Raising oneself relatively by belittling others is a typical villain. The best way is to stay away, no one will want to associate with him after others understand him, and then there will be a downset, so that he will not be able to turn over for the rest of his life.

Some people always like to talk about right and wrong behind their backs, first of all, because they dare not say it in front of others, and saying right and wrong behind their backs is to vent their emotions, such as dissatisfaction with a certain person, and disgust, on the other hand, they are actually raising their own value by suppressing others. Hoping that one's point of view will be recognized by others, so as to get satisfaction, this is the reason why many people like to talk about other people's rights and wrongs behind their backs. There are even times when these rights and wrongs are not true, and may be partially fabricated.

So try not to talk about other people's rights and wrongs behind your back, even if others have told you that.

In the relationship, from his words and deeds can be seen whether his character is good, if there are people behind the people is not to praise others, but to pick people's faults, saying people's shortcomings, so this person has negative energy, must not be friends, I am a friend should be full of positive energy, see the benefits of others, see the strengths of others, so that this person is worth making, if people like the above say bad things about others, that is a villain, should beware of him, don't get too close to her, want, If you can be estranged, you will be estranged, otherwise he will also say yours, and also say that you are the host, it is not worth it to go to Xi, make a positive person, this is the way to make friends.

The reason for saying bad things about people behind their backs is their own insecurity. People will suppress others in order to elevate their own value, especially behind the scenes. On the other hand, it is true that speaking ill of people and filing their shortcomings is a very enjoyable activity for human beings.

However, this is not true. According to the karmic effect, if you speak ill of others, others will also speak ill of you, and when the time comes, you will give back to yourself. And if you say bad things about people, you will eventually be known by the parties.

So, don't speak ill of people behind your back, especially women. The reason should be a negative evaluation of others and the desire to get the consent of others. I think it's normal to say that people are bad behind your back, but it's a problem to fabricate other people's stories or reveal other people's private information out of your own selfish interests.

Things gather in kind, people in groups! Always remember that whoever can say right and wrong in front of you will say the same thing about you in front of others!

Talking about people's rights and wrongs is because they are jealous that others have more than him, and they can't change this reality, so they talk about people's rights and wrongs everywhere.

However, the body is not afraid of shadows, be yourself, and walk your own path.

Let others do the talking!

The more others say, the more you have to do your duty calmly!

In the end, he will also know that no matter how she reverses right and wrong, it is just nonsense!

Others will also see him for what he really is.

Remember, no matter what time it is, as long as we are good to ourselves, worthy of ourselves, worthy of our family and friends.

Then let those who are jealous of you speak!

And oh, because you are very good, so others will be jealous and will say right and wrong.

You still have to be happy!

Not only has it been recognized by everyone, but also seen those bad guys clearly.

Soft persimmon psychology.

Frankly speaking, this kind of person is very calculating, they are well versed in the way of socializing, they are always able to exploit all kinds of loopholes, and they will use different methods to achieve their own goals in the face of different people. Whenever I see those who have suffered losses but are silent, their psychology of pinching soft persimmons immediately begins to move.

The reason why they have been able to succeed again and again is precisely because of their extremely low sense of social morality and rogue mentality. All kinds of struggle experiences have made them tried and tested repeatedly, so the soft persimmon psychology has become their logic and experience, and it has become a kind of communicative inertia.

In their consciousness, there are two common human natures: introspection and order. When there is a problem, they will strike first, using the methods of questioning, doubting and scolding to deter the other party, find the problem from their own side, and let the other party fall into an illusion that they are wrong, and they will not find the reason from him, but feel sorry for him.

The reflex arc of people is relatively long, and by the time they react to what is going on, the matter is often over.

Mis-transfers and emotional garbage**.

Psychologists point out that self-blame and self-imposed pressure are more likely to damage a person's mood than anger. Those who are unreasonable take advantage of precisely this. For example, if something goes wrong, they will put the main blame on you, which is a classic mistransfer.

There is a special defense mechanism in their minds, so that they can't tolerate the feeling that the mistake is self-inflicted, so those who cooperate or collaborate with them become the object of their blame. At the end of the day, it's that they don't want to take responsibility alone, and they always want the people around them to bear the same bad experience as they do.

Of course, none of us are stupid, it's just that sometimes we choose to be silent. But how can we possibly remain calm after suffering a lot of dumb losses? At this time, it is inevitable to be angry, not only angry with those scumbags, but also angry with yourself, and even angry with the whole society.

We are angry, why would we cooperate with such a person? Why would such a scumbag let himself meet? Why are you so stupid, you have been tricked by this kind of person, and you still know it later.

There are many people who have the habit of talking about right and wrong behind people's backs, and most of them are "wrong" - saying bad things about others. This kind of attack is usually said on the premise of non-profit, so the person who says that he feels that he does not bear the responsibility in the moral sense, so he lets himself go, and others also have the habit of listening to it, so they do not reflect on and stop their "evil behavior".

Solution: When someone is talking about you behind your back, you should first feel happy, at least you are not forgotten by people, and it is good to be noticed all the time, so put your mind at ease, okay?

Second, go your own way and let others say it, and don't break your wings for the sake of what others say or think.

Finally, if hearing the words in your ears is very intolerable, you have three options: 1 When they are"The fairy fart is extraordinary"It doesn't matter if we think about you, because we are mortals, and the thoughts and sayings of the immortals are not something we can understand,2 Quarrel with them, too much reasoning is to prompt the other party to be unscrupulous, sometimes you don't need to speak, scold once, next time they will pay great attention to the way they treat you, our society can't get rid of the pressure of force on us for the time being3 Learn to be silent, China is a typical nation that sympathizes with the disadvantaged, your silence will only allow people to not speak out of sympathy, because in the face of your innocent eyes, They're going to come and comfort you, you know?

Learn these three ways, skillfully use, you will slowly get rid of troubles, and you will find that you are such a girl who can play psychological tactics, your self-confidence will increase day by day, then in the future, there is really no talk about you, either you are doing very well, they have nothing to say, or you have become extremely strong, they no longer dare to say, but, if it is relatives and friends, let them talk about it, don't we often talk about them, sometimes just because they are our relatives and friends, and not strangers, aren't they?

I feel that those people who like to talk about right and wrong are generally very boring, and they want to communicate with others and have no topic, so in ** talk nonsense, I think what they say is right and wrong, just listen to it, they don't make friends like this, it's up to the individual!

You have to correct your attitude first, you have to understand that it is not good to do this, you don't take what she said to heart, just forget it. If you think that this person is still very important to you, then you have to find a suitable time to clearly tell her that this habit of talking about other people's rights and wrongs all day long is really a very bad thing, if she can understand that she is not right to do this and no longer do it, then you can still be friends, if she still feels that she is okay with this, and she still does her own thing, then you have to distance yourself from this kind of person. If you are not such a good friend, then you just listen to him, ignore him, and reduce your contacts in the future, because you don't know if this kind of person will also play with your rights and wrongs behind your back, there is no need to waste your expressions, and others will think that you are in a group with this kind of person, and they will think that you are also this kind of nonsense person, so the gains outweigh the losses.

I used to have a friend in junior high school who was like this all day long just saying bad things about others, every time I walked with him, she would start to say how wrong this classmate was, what was wrong with that classmate, etc., I thought she was just in a bad mood at first, but I didn't expect her to be like this for a few days, I realized that it wasn't a matter of mood, although I didn't listen to those words, but it doesn't mean that I like to listen, and then I said this problem, she smiled, I know that she still thinks that she is not ** wrong like this, I will no longer be as close to her as before, and I have thought that if she is like this, she will also say my right and wrong, but I will not regret it at all.

Righteous men and gentlemen will not gossip behind their backs, although there is a saying: heaven.

Only women and villains are difficult to raise! But women should also be decent women! And you shouldn't gossip around and become a long-tongued woman, as the old saying goes.

What is a long-tongued woman? It refers to women who chew the root of people's tongues behind their backs! In layman's terms, it is to talk to others about what others are not and spread those gossip that you find interesting.

Such women mostly appear in the older stage, and girls are rare, so it should be rare, but there are already some people around us who have signs of becoming this kind of person! They are the ones who face you and say that others are not good, and the saddest thing is that most of them are women! That's why it's said that the friendship between girls is not as strong as the friendship between boys, and girls are really sometimes too gossip and too much, and they will always inadvertently hurt people.

Personally, I think that when people say to me that others are not, I should reflect on myself. As the saying goes, there is no wind and no waves, if a person can do everything, is he still afraid of gossip? All that gossip will be self-defeating.

It is said that everyone has two bags, and the bag in front of them is the advantage, and the bag behind is the disadvantage.

This is also the reason why some people can often find a lot of shortcomings in others. Let's take friends as an example, I really still want to talk about positive energy topics and hobbies, and occasionally talk about the interpersonal circle is not bad, but I am very reluctant to hear friends talk about others, especially gossip about others, it is obvious that it is someone else, and the person who listens will be very uncomfortable, and the person who said it is just cool to say it to himself, and after speaking, it will make the person who listens to it have a change, this change is for the person who said, just imagine that your friends can remember so many bad things about a person, and list them one by one! So would this person say the same thing about himself to another person?

As soon as I think of this, I will become more and more unable to listen in an instant, and even a determined listener can only be blindfolded in the face of this situation, and resolutely decide to turn away. If I meet such a friend, this is also my choice, I will not say that others are bad, nor will I say good, bad is slander! Well, that's flattery!

None of this is a good thing for me. In short, I will never have the patience to listen to it, for fear that I will be affected, after all, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black! I should have stayed farther away from them, of course, this is a psychological and emotional distance, not a physical distance, and it is absolutely inevitable that we will meet in reality.