How do I understand my empty cup mentality ?

Have you ever met a type of person in your life who will say "I know, I have seen it, I understand" when you tell him anything, and even his mantra is "I know". No matter what she says, she has to have the upper hand as if she knows the most and the others guess it, but the actual problem cannot be solved, and what she knows is only superficial. When others kindly reminded her, she also said in a tone of "I know what I want you to talk about".

I know! ”

It's really hard to communicate with this kind of person.

Because such a person is a typical cognitive solidification, his brain is usually based on previous knowledge and cognition, and it is difficult to absorb some new knowledge and cognition, which leads him to understand the current things with inherent cognition, forming the so-called "I know." ”

Why is there such a person?

Actually, it's down to our cognitive state:

According to the Dunning-Kruger psychological effect, people generally have four cognitive states: 95% of people are in the first cognitive state of the wild species, which is called "I don't know", or "self-righteousness". The 4% of people are in the second state, which is called knowing that they don't know, and this state is called having a sense of awe.

People are in a state of knowing what they know, and people in this state are easy to grasp the law of the development of things and solve problems. Only people who don't know what they know, we call this state of "empty cup mentality".

There are more than 95% of people like you and me in this world, who are busy all day long, and it is difficult to accept new things, so they want to empty the "cup" in their hearts, and completely empty the many things they value and care about and the glorious past from the mentality, but only when the heart is emptied, will there be an external luck to let go, in order to have a bigger one. This is the most important mindset that everyone who wants to develop again must have.

The empty cup mentality is to let us imagine ourselves as an empty cup and become humble, which allows us not to be limited by past knowledge and experience, but to let us have an attitude of denying or emptying the past, and look at the new environment and new things from a new perspective.

Such an empty cup not only allows us to not be bound by the inherent cognition of the past, but also allows our brains to be in an open and divergent state of thinking, so as to have a deeper insight into new things.

This kind of humble and studious attitude is a state of admitting one's ignorance and taking the present as the starting point of cognition, and such a conscious and ignorant state of mind will stimulate one's curiosity.

Psychology believes that curiosity is the psychological tendency of an individual to pay attention, think, and ask questions when encountering novel things or being in new external conditions. Curiosity is one of the intrinsic motivations of individual learning, and it is also the original motivation of individuals to seek knowledge.

The empty cup mentality is to cognitively admit that "my life has an end, and there is no end to knowledge", and realize that the energy to answer the limit with personal bridges is not enough to pursue infinite knowledge and wisdom, and everyone always has something to ignore.

The empty cup mentality is embodied in words and deeds is modesty. Full of losses, humble benefits. All the gains and losses of the past can be cleared, and the empty cup can be filled with new things and ideas.

Of course, the prerequisite for modesty here is to be modest but not hypocritical, and hypocritical but not pretending. The deliberate "Versailles" seems to be inadvertent, but it is actually a show off, more like a performance act.

On the opposite side of "modesty" is "complacency". The cup is complacent, and it is difficult to get a drop of water. Some people often talk to others when they are talking to others, or interrupt others from time to time, do not listen to the opinions of others, and eagerly express their "high opinions".

Tracing back to the source, it is to pay too much attention to oneself and ignore others, forming the external manifestation of stubbornness, and the ego is too heavy and must be eliminated in order to tolerate others and other things.

The cup is empty, it can accommodate people and things.

Don't forget, empty your brain and let the beauty of the world pass through. At this point, you need an empty cup mentality.

What is it? Why? How? These three questions flashed through my mind. It needs to be answered one by one.

What is the empty cup mentality? There is also "emptiness" in the Buddha's verses, which is as wide as the earth, as deep as the universe, and can contain all things. Figurative metaphor, an empty cup of Zeming.

Actually, it is not a "vacuum", except that the air contained in it can be filled by any heavier substance. The so-called empty cup mentality is to pour out those heavier, colored, and attributed substances, and accept new colors, new attributes, new shapes...Because I have a life and an end, and there is no end to learning. Are you ready for the cup that holds the good and evil, the beautiful and the ugly, the true and the false?

The more years passed, the more I felt that there was nothing in the world but myself. They're just passing through you. That long river of time, empty yourself at any time, maybe you feel it the most. When reminiscing about the past, it is like a treasure.

Although at different times and places, the contents are different, but I am still me, I am still the same cup, the same shape, the same color, the same attributes, only those things that are really liked and accepted by "me" can slightly change "me", and this change is the result of my active choice. There is an expectation of growth, which is called freedom, responsibility, and peace with the situation.

How to make an empty cup?

1.Quit complaining.

First of all, it is necessary to quit complaining in front of people, complaining in front of others, except for the only purpose of killing time, it is really meaningless. The time to kill oneself is to commit suicide slowly. It doesn't make sense for me to pretend to be nonsense.

The second is to quit complaining about inner monologues, especially those of negative energy. Of course, quitting can be a bit harder. However, when you realize that you are complaining, think carefully about how to improve the content of your complaint, and if you can't improve it, learn to bear it.

In this way, at least I am a cup without negative energy.

2.Persistent growth.

There's nothing more rewarding than growing up with time spent on it. There's nothing more rewarding than growing up with time spent on it. Say important things several times.

Therefore, when the empty "cup" is filled again, we must dress up the things that make us grow and perceive. Growing up is when you feel better and more valuable as you grow old.

3.Be friends with time.

Be friends with time, and don't rush into that perfect state. When the water is full, it overflows, and when the moon is full, it loses. Once the cup is filled, it is immediately emptied.

The important experience of being friends with time can also be described as trying to record details, filling time with content as much as possible, and trying to keep one's attention on the important things, or growth. Review your time spent (attention) every day.

4.Be patient, especially when it comes to listening to others.

Patience is the friend of time, and patience helps us fill it with substance.

The empty cup mentality refers to a state of mind that challenges oneself and is never satisfied. In learning and living, we all need to have an empty cup mentality.

A cup is empty before it is poured into the liquid and after it is emptied, and so can we do it in our hearts. In life, we maintain an empty cup mentality, that is, we have a curiosity about all things, are willing to chase, explore, and enrich ourselves with new knowledge. At the same time, we also need to empty ourselves from time to time, eliminate our negative emotions such as procrastination, troubles, and slackness, and meet life with a positive state.

An empty cup mentality can make us more humble and inclusive. As we get older, we become more and more stereotyped, often taking it for granted that this should be the case. And the empty cup mentality can allow us to jump out of the circle of our own fixed thinking, stand in the perspective of a bystander, and re-examine this matter, and there is often a better way.

In this way, we can see our own problems and humbly accept the advice of others.

An empty cup mentality allows us to reduce our dependence on material things. In life, I always like to stock up on dispensable things for various reasons. These things are like chicken ribs, they may not be easy to use, but it is a pity to throw them away.

In this case, we can discard these items, discard what is not necessary, and make more room for what is more needed. This mask can avoid the entanglement of multiple choices and can also make your life more orderly.

The empty cup mentality also makes our lives easier. The reason why people are tired is not because they have too few choices, but because they think too much. The empty cup mentality can help us do a mental cleaning:

Don't indulge in the pain of the past, come out early; Don't drill the tip of the horns in case of trouble, save the trouble of tangling; Don't indulge in the achievements of the past and get complacent, don't stick to your own way of behaving and hold back. Empty yourself and move forward happily.

Buddhism talks about emptiness, which is not really emptiness, but emptiness at the level of subjective consciousness. This kind of emptiness allows people to jump out of the attributes of matter to look at matter, to look at problems from an objective point of view, to use "emptiness" to contain all things, and to use "emptiness" to cleanse the soul. The empty cup mentality is such a mentality, Sunzhou!

Requirements for the empty cup mentality:

1. The empty cup mentality is a kind of insatiable self-challenge.

It is to reorganize the knowledge you have at any time, empty the outdated, leave room for the entry of new knowledge, and ensure that your knowledge is always up-to-date; It is to never be complacent, always to learn, and always to keep the vitality of the heart.

2. The empty cup mentality is the continuous abandonment and denial of the self.

The development of things is achieved through negation. The movement, change and development of things is the result of the synergy between "external negation" and "internal negation", and it is the movement process of self-improvement and self-development of things.

3. The empty cup mentality is to constantly cleanse your brain and heart.

The real bath should be to wash the body externally and the heart inside, and wash the external and internal outdated things, the weeds of the soul, the garbage of the brain, etc., all of them, so as to wash the body clean, refreshing and refreshing.

4. The empty cup mentality is to keep learning and keep pace with the times.

In the era of knowledge economy, with the rapid development of science and technology and the acceleration of knowledge updating, if we do not learn new knowledge and methods with an open mind, even if the original professional knowledge is very solid, it will also be eliminated by the trend of social progress.

Extended Materials. Origin Story:

In ancient times, a person with a deep knowledge of Buddhism heard that there was a respected old Zen master in a certain temple, so he went to visit. When the old Zen master's disciples received him, he was arrogant and thought, "I am a person with deep attainments in Buddhism, how old are you?"

Later, the old Zen master received him very respectfully and made tea for him. But when pouring water, it was clear that the cup was full, and the old Zen master kept pouring it. He was puzzled and asked, "Master, why do you pour it into the cup when it is already full?" ”

The master said, "Yes, since it is full, why should it be poured?" "What the Zen master means is, since you are already very knowledgeable, why do you want to come to me for advice? This is where the "empty cup mentality" originates.