How do you build your network?

Connections are needed everywhere. In the workplace, you need your workplace connections, how to establish your own connections in a short period of time. This also requires skill.

And in the journey of life, connections are very important.

For example, how big your stage is will also depend on how wide your network is, people with wide connections will have a large platform for development, and people with few connections will have such a small life circle and it is difficult to develop.

This is not something that can be done by just saying one or two sentences, it takes a lot of skills, and here are 3 tips with you, you can share your experience with each other.

1. Learn to appreciate others, everything starts with friendliness.

It is often said that life is like a mirror, if you smile at it, it will smile at you, and if you get angry at it, it will get angry too.

In the same way, if you smile kindly at someone, they will smile at you, you will appreciate and praise others, and they will return the favor.

If you look at the other person with malicious eyes, the other person will also treat you with anger.

Just as blooming flowers attract butterflies, and rotting leaves attract flies.

Therefore, if you want to communicate with others and build a wider network, you need to learn to appreciate others, and appreciating others starts with friendliness and opens your kindness.

2. Empathy, calm communication.

When interpersonally, you must know how to empathize and use "empathy" to feel the other person's thoughts.

For example, when getting along with your boss, you need to figure out your boss's mind, look at your own problems from his point of view, grasp the boss's needs, what kind of employees does he want? What kind of subordinates will be beneficial to him?

These need to be understood through empathy.

I once saw the saying, "If you want to know if someone else's shoes fit, put on someone else's shoes and take a walk." ”

If you want to know what the other person is thinking, you need to go into his inner world and communicate from the other person's point of view.

Communicating with each other in this way can gain the trust of the other party and establish a friendly and trusting interpersonal relationship with each other, which will be helpful to your career and life.

3. Leave three points of leeway to speak, and do things calmly.

As the saying goes, "a good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people and is cold in June", a nice word will bring people closer to each other, and a bad word will make intimate people alienated.

This shows how important talking is for interpersonal communication.

A person who can talk is good at communication, and his interpersonal relationship will be very good, and he can't speak, and he can kill others with a word, and he has few friends around him.

When interacting with others, you don't need to talk too much, you need to leave three points of leeway for others to retreat.

This is not only for oneself to take the opportunity to establish a good network, but also to reflect one's self-cultivation.

A person with self-cultivation can win the trust of others even more.

There is a method for building interpersonal relationships, and the most important law in interpersonal relationships in psychology is:

1. The law: how you want others to treat you, you first treat others.

Why is it the law of **, which tells us that like ** is eternal and unchanging.

That is, to compare your heart with your heart, so that others can feel your sincerity. It's like the advertising slogan:

Think first: Hello can be good to me; You're not good, I'm okay!

2. The law of reciprocity: If you want to make a good impression on others, you must first have a good feeling for others.

Someone asked me, what if I don't have a good feeling for him, but I have to face him?

That's just the use of "pretending": pretending that you have a crush on him! Pretend he's ready to give you a million and believe that your feelings will change 180 degrees right away.

3. Enhance the self-worth of others: make the other person feel important!

1) Start with a friendly attitude.

2) The best way to do this is to be sincere affirmation, affirmation, affirmation!! Please read it out loud! Sincere compliments, compliments, compliments!! Please read it out loud! ）

3) Three nos: no criticism, no blame, no complaints!!

4. Remember the other person's name: For him, the best voice in the world is his name.

When Li Ka-shing was a waiter in a restaurant when he was young, he used a notebook to write down the names of customers, their favorite dim sum or dishes they often ordered, and the habits of their seats. Memorize it several times after making a note of it.

5. Talk more about topics that the other party is interested in: focus on the other party's interests, there is a saying:

The words are not speculative, more than half a sentence. We have a generation gap with our parents and children, and that gap is dug by us, because the conversation must be a gap between each other's different topics of concern! Produce a reluctance to talk!

In short, this is what the saying goes, "When you see people, you talk about people, and when you see children, you talk about children." ”

6. Respect the opinions of others

I used to have a student come to my house, no matter what I said? He's all: Yes! Teacher Dai, what you said makes sense! No matter what I say? He's right: That's right! Teacher Dai, what you said makes sense!

Later, I felt that what he said made sense!

You respect me, and naturally I respect you!

Respect, respect, respect!! Please read it out loud! ）

7. Think more about the other party's position

1) What do others really want?

2) If you do what you want, what will be the benefit of the other party?

8. Attention should be paid to communication:

1) Ask more: Talk less, understand each other more, and ask more questions, which can also represent our concern for each other.

2) Listen more: Learn more about the meaning and motivation behind the other person's words.

3) Look more: Look more at the meaning of the other person's facial expressions and body language.

4) Sincerely show praise, appreciation and gratitude to each other!

5) Think about it again!

How to build a good network? Rockefeller, the billionaire: That's the point.

To establish your own network, you may need to use Reed's assistant to send blessings during the Chinese New Year and holidays to get closer, and you should also maintain new and old customers and communicate with them more.