How are nest in the nest children formed? How should I be disciplined?

Children in the nest are formed because they are often used to being used to at home. They should be encouraged and guided in time, and they should not be in the nest and put away their temper.

Children in the nest are generally the pampering and various doting of parents. As a result, he doesn't know the sky and the earth is thick, and he is unreasonable in everything. Do things in an orderly manner, and don't pamper her too much.

Children in the nest are parents who overspoil their children at home, making children feel that they are the boss, and they should let their children recognize their status.

Most of the children's "nest horizontal" is due to parents spoiling their children too much, and a small part may be that children are naughty and disobedient by nature, but it is also due to the pampering of parents that children will be too "horizontal".

Some parents are overly pampered by their children, slack on their children's cultural education, and are not easy to deliberately set rules for their children, and they also rarely control their children's personal behavior. In the long run, children are casual to perfection, do whatever they want, and even in the end, parents can't control their children's personal behavior, and they have to rely on scolding to teach their children.

But even if you scold, it is difficult to have an effect on the child's already stereotyped temperament, and the child's "horizontal" will also gain inches. That kind of education will make children lack a sense of order. Once you go to the world and feel the great ups and downs of the outside and at home, it will definitely create a bad state of mind.

At this time, if the parents rush to urge, the child is likely to become more and more timid and weak.

When the child is at home, all the rules of the parents for the child are met, and even the child has a look, the parent understands what he wants to do, and the child has a posture, and the parent actively hands the child the necessary items in front of him.

Although many parents feel that they are extremely close to their children and take pride in it. But over time, it is likely that the child will become more and more "unable to chat".

The child has the items he wants to think about, and he looks directly at the parents, and the parents do not understand, and the children will make trouble, and they will not know what they want, until the parents continue to figure it out, and then find the child's requirements.

However, when a child is outside with other children, who will have such and such patience to continue to speculate? Once a child loses his temper, other children will inevitably avoid him. There are too many frequencies, and children are unable to communicate and unwilling to communicate, and when they grow up, their children's EQ and IQ will also suffer great harm.

When the child is at home, parents can always give the child no dead end maintenance. Once the child has a problem, parents will also do their best to help the child and let the problem be dealt with. When encountering problems that are difficult for parents to solve, children cry and make trouble in addition to them.

There is no other solution to the problem of losing your temper with your parents.

Outside, no one will protect their children like parents, and no one will always help children solve difficulties, so children's insecurity has skyrocketed.

The next time your child goes outside, he will think about the previous experience that was not so good. The big difference between the family and the outside of the family will make the child more sensitive, and the child can only be "horizontal" at home.

"The baby is cowardly when he goes out?" Don't blame the child for everything, some parents see that the child behaves very differently outside than at home, so they recommend everything to the "recognition", and all the main manifestations of the child's "small bag" are understood as the child's "recognition".

When the child is in the nest, you must not pay attention to him, tell him that this kind of temper is not used to him, and tell the child to improve his self-confidence, but not to lose his temper at will.

At this time, it is necessary to educate the child, and the child should be taught to be his own family, so he should be kind to him and treat this practice to outsiders.

Because parents spoil their children too much, so the child's personality has become like this, parents should seriously educate their children, set rules for their children, have family rules, and tell him what kind of things can not be done at home, otherwise there will be punishment, so that he will not be in the nest.

Teach the child directly. Parents reason with their children, tell them stories, let them understand that this behavior is wrong, and teach them how to solve problems.

IP camp output (1) family education: what should I do if my child is "in the nest"?

The child's "nest in the nest" is a headache

The phenomenon of "horizontal in the nest" is relatively common, many children are timid and cowardly outside, and when they return home, they are like a different person, and once the family does not meet his wishes and requirements, he yells, which makes many parents very headache.

Of course, children may also behave differently. For example, at home, children's attitudes towards grandparents, parents, and siblings may be different.

Some children are afraid of their fathers and only dare to contradict their mothers; Some children do not directly confront their parents, but they do bully their younger siblings ......

Many parents think that it is necessary to "set rules" for their children and let them form good behavior norms, but it seems that they have little effect.

In fact, only focusing on the improvement of children's external behavior is a way to abandon the basics, and we should fundamentally understand the psychological characteristics and needs of children.

Why are children "in the nest"?

First, children are under great psychological pressure and need to vent at home.

The second is that the child seeks attention at home and regains a sense of control.

The third is that the family is too doting, and the child has no sense of awe.

What should parents do?

The first is to cultivate children's self-confidence in interpersonal communication.

Cultivate your child's confidence in interpersonal communication and encourage your child not to run away or retreat.

When necessary, parents can invite other children to play at home, and let their children entertain friends at the "home field", which can make children more confident.

The second is to teach children interpersonal skills.

Teach your child some interpersonal skills. For example, how to greet people proactively, how to express their opinions appropriately, etc.

For younger children, picture books, dolls and other demonstrations can be used, and parents can also role-play with their children directly.

The third is to seek help for psychological counseling.

Storytelling, role-playing, family games and other ways can be used to let parents fully understand their children's emotional feelings at home and school, and improve the way they get along in the family. Guide children to learn to express emotions and opinions, and improve interpersonal skills.

In fact, "lying in the nest" is not a child's behavior, and there are many adults who grovel outside and go home to command, and they need to reflect more.

Take your children out to enjoy nature and participate in some group activities, so that children can find fun in sports, change their personality, and no longer be in the nest.

Parents should guide their children correctly, teach them to respect others, control their words and deeds, and take their children out to play more, so that children can have more contact with people outside and learn better behavior habits.

It is necessary to correct the child's behavior, and to tell the child that when facing the family, he must have a kind attitude and choose to resist the bullying of others.

Tell children that they should also have a particularly straightforward personality in life, and that they should decisively refuse when they encounter some bad things, so that they can become very happy and should not be in the nest.

In life, there are many parents who have nothing to do, treat their family and children as a garbage can for their own bad emotions, interfere in their children's lives, and desperately scream with their spouses and children, making the family chickens and dogs jump, and there are still many parents who are not at peace. This type of parent is a typical "nest in the nest".

The reason why parents like to create trouble at home and hurt their family members without scruples is because they lack good humanistic qualities, lack a healthy lifestyle, lack a sense of accomplishment and self-worth outside the home, are trapped in the fighting room all day long, have nothing to do, don't know how to pass the long days, and have nowhere to vent their enthusiasm and energy.

Because of the inability and irreplaceability of parents, it is a great misfortune in the child's life to encounter the parents of the "nest", because the parents of the "nest" are most likely to turn the home into chaos, bringing deep harm to the family, especially terrifying: many of them are not aware of the existence of this kind of harm, and they also enjoy this feeling of saying everything at home and being a blessing. As everyone knows, this feeling of joy is based on trampling on the dignity of the family and distorting the child's character, and what it brings to the child is a life full of blood and tears and unbearable burden.

It is difficult for young children to live independently without their parents, and most of them passively and helplessly bear this kind of damage. In this regard, we should not only hope that the conscience of parents will be discovered and restricted, but there should be a strong legal protection and restraint mechanism.

The wisest choice for adult children is to live separately from their parents, keep a distance, and retain their living space, because the truth of "far fragrance and near smell" is often separated from each other, and the courtesy is still going, which can show the value of family affection.

The reason why the child is like this is caused by rebellious emotions, children will have rebellion, but what motivates him is the improper control of his parents, such as everything he does is monitored by his parents, from getting up to washing his face and brushing his teeth to eating, parents will stare at almost everything he does in school, and find out what's wrong, so that he feels that he doesn't have any freedom, and slowly begins to fight back.

Because parents do not set the right example for their children; Because parents have not respected their children's self-esteem; Because parents always yell at their children and use them as their own venting tools.

is because the people in the family are used to him, and he has developed the character of a paper tiger; Excessive protection of children, excessive spoiling of children, so that children cannot be high.

Too much spoiling of children, children have no social skills, and the concept of education is different, so there will be a situation in the nest, usually let the child be independent, don't spoil the child too much.

If you realize that you have set a bad example for your child, you must first correct your own bad habits before you are qualified to correct your child.

This is due to the fact that we spoil our children too much, so we should also take them outside to meet strangers. Improve their guts.