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I think that a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is inseparable from these. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a big problem in traditional Chinese marriage. Since ancient times, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has plagued countless couples.
It is not difficult to see that Western countries are not troubled by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because their national history and cultural heritage do not impose some restrictions on traditional marriage.
However, we have a long cultural history. In the same way, we have a long tradition of marriage. In this culture, the way of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a topic of endless discussion.
When a daughter-in-law becomes a mother-in-law, she will in turn "make things difficult" for the new daughter-in-law, which makes people ask: why do women embarrass women? In fact, this is not true either.
Be filial to your mother-in-law just like your mother. Children are filial to their parents, which is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, but in real life, few women can be as filial to their mother-in-law as they are to their mothers. Although love is a matter between two people, marriage is not.
Marriage is about the families of both parties. If a woman wants a happy life, she can't help but get along with her mother-in-law. Honoring your mother-in-law is not just the husband's responsibility, but the responsibility of both parties.
A woman should treat her mother-in-law like her own mother, treating both parties equally. In this way, even if the mother-in-law has any dissatisfaction with her daughter-in-law, she will eventually be touched by the daughter-in-law.
Actively integrate into the family, learn to expand the strengths of your mother-in-law, and be less picky. During a marriage mediation project, a girl publicly complained about her mother-in-law's partiality. In daily life, when her mother-in-law cooks, she always makes something light and never thinks about her spicy food.
In addition, her mother-in-law always likes to say that she is not in good health and may not be able to help them raise their children in the future. For these behaviors of her mother-in-law, she always thinks that the other party deliberately targets her, and does not treat her as her own. As a result, the two would quarrel regularly.
Hearing the girl's complaints, I think the girl's emotional intelligence is really worrying. She married her mother-in-law from elsewhere. If she only has the option of living with her mother-in-law, she must do her best to fit into the family structure.
Therefore, I think that a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is inseparable from these.
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It is inseparable from the trust between two people.
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I don't think I can do without my husband's adjustment.
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It is inseparable from treating each other sincerely.
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It should be two people who understand each other.
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See if he cares about you all the time.
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Qualified mother-in-law:
If you want to be considerate of your son, don't look down on your daughter-in-law. You must make it clear in your heart that your daughter-in-law is the one who will accompany her son through the birth. It's not the old society anymore, two villains work hard outside for a day, if you have time, the house is simply cleaned, and underwear is not involved.
If the coat can be machine washed, it is not a big deal to dry it. Even if you really have emotions for your daughter-in-law, don't put it on your face, find an opportunity to talk to your son alone, don't accuse in person, and don't chew your tongue in the community. Not to conflict with your daughter-in-law is the best love for your son.
Qualified husband:
What the old lady said to you, your left ear goes in and out of the right ear, she is a woman first, and then your mother. If it is a woman, it will have some feminine nature. If you feel uncomfortable, you have to give her a chance to vent.
Although it is politically correct to help your relatives or not, after all, it is your own mother who gave birth to you and raised you, so you can not favor anyone in person, but be more obedient to your mother in private. Wife's pillow wind 9 must learn to filter, as a man, some words can only be listened to but not said, and some words can be said appropriately and euphemistically. But be sure to pay attention to the tone of voice.
Don't have any ideas when you are wronged, after all, this society is a patriarchal society, and men do need to take on more responsibilities. Moreover, doing a good job as a buffer between the wife and mother-in-law definitely outweighs the disadvantages. In fact, the most abusive conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still the husband, who knows who is splinted and angry.
Qualified Wife:
In person, when the interests of principle are not harmed, it is still necessary to respect the mother-in-law, after all, she is an elder. Although she may be a little princess at home, since she has formed a new family, she has to bear the corresponding responsibilities. After all, a mother-in-law is a mother-in-law, not a mother-in-law.
If it weren't for her husband, this woman would be a stranger, so it was inevitable to have opinions. But don't clash head-on, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the original sin, and it is difficult to end the conflict. Make good use of her husband's microphone, and let him mention any reasonable requirements.
It's okay to call mom more, it doesn't take any effort at all, the old people often want a sense of existence, you call twice is absolutely only good and no harm. Think more empathy, after all, you may also be a mother-in-law in the future.
If you can't deal with the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you can find a counselor who specializes in family relationships at the Good Mood Counseling Center.
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As a husband, you should ease the conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that the relationship can be eased, you can come up with some ideas, there will always be some small things in life, men have certain responsibilities, no matter whose position you stand on, you have to be a suitable one, don't fight for reason.
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If you want a good relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, try to live separately as much as possible. Try to get away from the original family and avoid living with your parents, so that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will meet less often, then there will be no quarrel, and the so-called distance produces beauty.
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The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be allowed to live separately to reduce the occurrence of conflicts, and the mother-in-law should be made to understand the difficulties of the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law should also be appeased.
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The best state of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are like mother and daughter. The mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law as a daughter, and the daughter-in-law will also treat the mother-in-law as a mother. Hello!
The ideal relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be one of mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual respect. The best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that mother-in-law is like a mother and a daughter-in-law is like a daughter, don't look down on each other's shortcomings, and tolerate each other's small shortcomings. The ideal relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to understand each other, tolerate each other, and respect each other.
The best mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are like mother and daughter. I think the ideal relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one that respects and tolerates each other, and does not quarrel over trivial matters. The best mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is one in which the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can coexist peacefully and respect each other as guests.
I think the best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is particularly harmonious. I think the ideal relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is particularly harmonious.
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The essence of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the way between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gets along with each other is correct.
watched everyone get along all day long for their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It's all self-inflicted, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't need to get along at all. If you agree, you will come, and if you don't come, you will politely keep your distance.
1. It's good that everything in the world lives according to fate, not to mention mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, even adult children and parents should also follow the interpersonal aesthetics of "get along if you can get along, and keep a distance politely if you can't get along". I found that many women got the point wrong and chose to fully open the battle mode in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as if whoever controls the man and who holds the power is the winner, in fact, the focus is on what the man's family concept is.
2. There are always people who teach us that after getting married, we should treat our mother-in-law as our own mother, and in the same way, our mother-in-law should treat our daughter-in-law as her own daughter.
After forcibly treating each other as mother and daughter, the Chinese delude themselves into thinking that this can resolve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But the biggest problem with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that they are too invisible. How can a mother-in-law be a real mother? Your mother can beat you and scold you, and you will still be very close to your mother after crying.
But if your mother-in-law beats and scolds you, you will definitely always have a pimple in your heart, and maybe you will still hold a grudge, not to mention that you will be very close. Some mothers-in-law will think that I treat you as a daughter, but you still talk to me about respect and privacy, my daughter is like this? Who's Mom?
3. In all relationships, "pro-sparse" is the best state, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will always exist, but as long as the method is right, this contradiction can be reduced to the lowest value! The mother-in-law should not compete like this, but it is the husband himself who must be more conscious, and the attitude of the daughter-in-law at this time is also very important. If the daughter-in-law shows that she cares about it at this time, sometimes it will make the mother-in-law feel:
That's what I want.
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Such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is very good and enviable! Let's talk about this situation: a woman has a fever of 41 degrees and her husband has a fever of 39 degrees, so she asked her father-in-law to take the two children to her in-laws' residence quickly, and they asked her mother-in-law to go back quickly to avoid infection here.
At this time, her mother-in-law was reluctant to leave and insisted on staying to take care of her son and daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law found a floor mat, found a quilt, and prepared to sleep on the floor. When Ms. Chen slept in a daze, her mother-in-law would go to the end of the bed to warm her feet, and when she woke up in the middle of the night, her mother-in-law would ask her if she wanted to go to the toilet or drink water.
When many people saw this, they praised this mother-in-law for being so good, she was simply a fairy mother-in-law, she was not afraid of being infected, and she took care of her so carefully, she took care of her better than her own mother. Some netizens saw this** and thought of their experiences in the past few days, and tears were about to flow. A mother said
When my mother-in-law heard that the child and I were both impotent, she directly said that she was afraid that she would be infected and would not come to take care of the child. That's human nature, and fortunately, I survived with my children. A netizen who also survived by himself said:
What a good mother-in-law, my mother-in-law was so scared that she didn't dare to come to my house, she hid far away when she saw me in the yard, and I still took care of the two children when I had a fever, and the two children were yang one after another. "Yes, we often say that adversity sees the truth, usually it is said in a wild way, and at critical moments, behavior will betray a person's true thoughts, making you feel that her words before were just jokes, but now she is the real her. During the day, I saw a **, a woman with a fever and wanted her mother-in-law to help take care of the child, but her mother-in-law said that she was pretending, how could she be so sick that she couldn't even get out of bed?
In such a comparison, Ms. Chen's mother-in-law is really a good mother-in-law, and then looking at her previous **, I found that her mother-in-law has not only been good to her in the past few days, but has always treated her like a daughter. Because she was married far away and was not familiar with her life, her in-laws said that they would treat her as their own daughter, and they really did it. That's my opinion.
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I myself was lucky enough to meet a warm-hearted and kind mother-in-law. I have been married for more than 20 years and have lived with my mother-in-law for more than 20 years. Our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a very harmonious relationship. In my mother-in-law, I have summarized several characteristics of a good mother-in-law.
1. Don't worry about daily trivial matters, be more tolerant, don't be confused about things at home, and discuss more.
The mother-in-law is middle-aged and widowed, raising three children alone. The hardships can be imagined. My mother-in-law is a vegetarian all year round and usually doesn't cook meat dishes. But we don't need to cook meat in another pot like she did, or buy it to eat at home.
As for daily chores such as what to eat, when to eat, and whether what to buy is good or bad, everyone does whatever they want and never restricts each other. When it comes to educating children, my mother-in-law knows that the old way of education is not fully adapted to the current times, and she often respects our opinions.
My mother-in-law rarely does housework, she is very relaxed, and we are also very free. For big things, such as buying a house, my mother-in-law is more experienced than us, and will give opinions and suggestions to help as much as she can.
In March 2016, my father fell ill in the middle of the night, and I was so grief-stricken that I couldn't do anything but worry and helplessness. My mother-in-law didn't say a word to help me contact the car to go home, pack my things, and tell my husband the precautions. During my pregnancy, childbirth, confinement, and when I encountered major difficulties at home and needed help the most, my mother-in-law always did not hesitate to lend a helping hand.
I will always remember my mother-in-law's love for her. When it comes to big events, my mother-in-law is the pillar of our family.
2. Don't compare, don't talk about your family's shortcomings in front of outsiders, and don't participate in discussing the shortcomings of other people's parents.
Mother-in-law often says: Happiness does not lie in having everything, let alone in comparison. Contentment and joy are happiness.
Mother-in-law said that people don't need too much material in this life, and a healthy body and a simple life are more important. So she rarely compares herself to others. There are also neighbors who brag in front of their mother-in-law about how filial their son and daughter-in-law are and how smart their grandson is, and the mother-in-law always laughs at it.
If the neighbor complains to the mother-in-law that the daughter-in-law is not sensible, the mother-in-law will persuade: the times are different, it is not easy for young people to go to work now, it depends on the face of the boss, the elderly should be more considerate, etc., and they are often complained by the neighbors and come back safely. My mother-in-law is very friendly, not to mention our family, very warm and caring.
It's a blessing in my life.
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Ji Chong calls people to feel that the relationship with their mother-in-law is very good, and the father-in-law and mother-in-law always speak to me, whether they are from the heart or not every time, but at least as a daughter-in-law, they are happy in their hearts, and they feel that they are not outsiders.
1. In the eyes of the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is like her own mother, and sometimes she is even better than her own mother. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, this ** is marrying a daughter-in-law, and she has picked up a daughter for nothing, and she is closer than her daughter.
2. A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will make the whole family very happy, and the two people respect each other, so that the daughter-in-law feels that it is a blessing to live in this family.
3. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very good, just like mother and daughter, the two can communicate very casually, and this relationship is really warm.
4, is the kind of Bo Kai who will not be noisy when he comes back to the house, he can live peacefully with his mother-in-law, and sometimes he has conflicts with her husband, and her mother-in-law will also sentence me to help me.
Summary: I feel like she is like a good friend of mine, I can still talk to her when I have a conflict with my husband, and she will help me scold my husband.
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Can't you remember their birthdays? Maybe your best friend was too busy to forget. It's nothing, true friendship doesn't lie in these who don't remember birthdays. It is to share weal and woe, to share hardships and hardships, and to share blessings. Don't get tangled.