What should I do if I don t dare to fall in love What kind of psychology is it to dare not fall in l

I feel that your mentality is a bit problematic, first of all, there is no economy at our age, but why are there many choices to fall in love, if they are as afraid of spending their parents' money as you are, then don't talk about falling in love, but have you thought about it, this is not the case, maybe now you need to spend your parents' money to fall in love, but when you have the economy, don't you still have to support your parents, isn't this an equivalent exchange? In addition, now, what kind of food, clothing, housing and transportation do you not depend on your parents? Isn't it still dependent on your parents for your spiritual and material consumption?

Love, from a macro point of view, still belongs to the field of spiritual consumption, and besides, I think, since your father said, "You are 21 years old, you can't even find a partner... In this case, it means that he still supports your love, since this is the case, what else do you have to worry about? Another topic, you think that instead of spending money on girlfriends, it is better to use it to honor your parents, this is another misunderstanding, if you subconsciously feel that falling in love is a waste of money, then what else to say?

I suppose you wouldn't hurt her much mentally, would you? In fact, if two people really love each other, they don't need to spend too much money at all, money just plays a catalytic role, and you may have to spend some money to coax girls in the early stage of love, which is understandable, but after this stage, when your relationship foundation has reached a certain level, do you still need to spend money? Even if you want to spend it, she may have to restrain you, even if you are together and you have to spend money for her, don't hesitate, because you spend it for her, she knows, and when you have no money, she will not hesitate to spend it for you.

To sum up, in fact, it is not a big deal for two people to be together, that is, to find a partner for each other, as well as a partner who supports and encourages each other, supports each other, relies on each other, encourages each other, and then makes progress with each other, so simple, why think so much? It's not easy to meet someone who really loves you, and it's even more difficult to meet someone who really loves you, everything needs to be cherished and prudent. I hope you can find your partner soon.

My buddy found a rich girlfriend, and that girl kept spending money on him. You can find a generous and rich girlfriend.

Actually, you don't need to worry about this. It's good to follow your own fate. If you really like a girl, let alone spend money on her, the whole world you want to give her. There is no need to think about this.

I'm the same as you.,Others have asked friends and I don't believe it.,In fact, it's best to talk to someone during college.,I'm a sophomore now.,I'm definitely looking for a girlfriend this year.,You're a junior.,You have to hurry up when you're in college.,There's not much time left in your senior year.,In fact, it costs money to fall in love whenever you want.,You usually buy a few packs of cigarettes less and you can give a small gift to a girl.,Spend your parents' money as long as you don't waste it.,You don't go to work now and don't spend your parents' flowers, Besides, if you go to work in the future, you will have the opportunity to honor your parents, so seize it this year, you will have the opportunity to go on, come on!

It's a boy to talk about, but whether you talk about it or not depends on whether you meet what you like, rest assured, one day you will meet the other half of your life, but if you want to be alone, then don't think about it.

Teach you how to buy things for her parents, such as buying something her parents like to eat, saying more good things, it will definitely work, people in this world, don't take money too seriously.

Brother, what is your QQ Let's have a good chat I am in the same situation as you My QQ is 1009075583

If everything is AA, then it is better to be friends. You must spend money for her, which shows her status in your heart.

Your problem is that you want to fall in love but are afraid of spending money, in response to your question, I think the more important thing is that you have someone you like? If not, you might as well communicate with the girl more to find a suitable one, and when you want to chase her, if she agrees to eat with you, will you still care about the cost of that meal? In fact, love doesn't have to spend a lot of money to play every time, but it can be romantic and beautiful every time, as long as you treat this love with your heart, since you haven't been in love, how do you know that love costs a lot of money?

If you really feel that you can't spend it, you might as well work to reduce the blame in your heart (besides, the money is your parents', and I don't think I'm qualified to fall in love.) And your love will be deeper. Let's enjoy love...

You haven't met someone you really like. If you really come across it. Will definitely spend money willingly.

And you've got to find the right person. Look at it clearly. If that girl is really as serious about feelings as you are.。。

It's definitely not going to cost you money. I'm sure I'll feel sorry for your money too. That's what I'm like.

I don't want to spend my boyfriend's money. But sometimes it takes time to spend what is necessary. You're 21.

It should be clearly distinguished. Love begins. Don't think of it as a game.

Be serious about each other. Who says it must be fruitless? Of course, it's not certain that there will be a result, but if you already think so from the beginning, the chances of success are definitely much smaller.

Some things don't mean that they may not be done if they don't have results.,After all, it's quite rare to get married after falling in love.。。 Good luck with your stay. Hehe..

Don't be afraid to fall in love. It's a beautiful thing to meet the right person.

Don't worry, it's good that you haven't been in love! I think such a boy is real! It is said that boys only have one true love, and you haven't given how lucky you are, maybe your cherished love is your wife!

According to what you said, I think you are a down-to-earth boy, such boys and girls will like it very much if they like it, and they won't care so much about the money piled up! Of course, such a girl should also be down-to-earth! As for being good to one's parents, this is human nature and a virtue...But I think when you actually meet the girl you love, you won't want to spend money on him so much!

Hehe.. Very filial, but you need a love, school love is very simple, maybe a little more realistic than before, but that is much simpler than the real society, no one will care about you at your age, like your dad said your family will support you. Let's fall in love once, the love in school is much sweeter than the love in society, and when you get to society, you can't find the feeling of reality.

Maybe get married.

really love a girl, not with money, but with heart.

You need a hurt love, to be honest, otherwise you won't grow up, and it is impossible to find a woman to live for a lifetime, try to contact a girl who has a good feeling, take one step at a time.

Does loving a girl care about money, and does loving a girl have to use money? Think for yourself.

1. No encounter.

When it comes to the person we like, we don't want to fall in love, we will have such a mentality, that is, because we haven't met the person we like, because we won't fall in love with someone we don't like, so the psychology of not falling in love is that we haven't met someone we like.

2. Fear of falling out of love again, fear of not being able to afford to be hurt, and not wanting to fall in love, and the fear of falling out of love again will make us almost unbearable, because the loss of love in the last relationship makes us sad for a long time, so we don't want to fall in love.

3. We are afraid of being deceived, we don't want to fall in love, and we are afraid of being deceived again, because we have been deceived by our lovers when we are in love before, so now, we will be cautious, and we will not want to fall in love.

4. Accustomed to the life of single, we will have the psychology of not wanting to fall in love, and we have gradually become accustomed to living alone, although sometimes we will feel lonely and lonely, but we feel that we have become accustomed to living alone, which is also the psychology of not wanting to fall in love.

I am afraid that I will be hurt if I meet someone with a negative heart. Or maybe they are afraid that falling in love will disrupt their living habits.

This is a phobia of love, which refers to the fear of falling in love, and entering the age when you can fall in love but dare not fall in love, which affects your emotional life.

The reason for the phobia of love is mainly related to life experience, for example, I have been hurt in my previous love history, or my relatives and friends have been hurt by love, and even because of some love movies and TV series, I have misinterpreted my views on love, resulting in psychological shadows and fear of love.

But love is one of the emotions of human beings, a normal person should be able to have normal love, love is also an emotional need of human beings, and rejecting love is not conducive to a person's mental health growth.

Maybe there is no sweeter love around me, and what I see is the bad side of love, so I feel scared and don't dare to fall in love.

I don't dare to fall in love because I don't have the courage, I am not confident in myself, and I am afraid of being rejected.

1. Fear of losing friends.

Some of the girls are there.

When you fall in love, it's easy to follow your boyfriend, and the whole world is only a boyfriend, and the relationship with a good friend will become weaker and weaker.

2. Afraid of family opposition.

What if you are already in love and cannot be separated, but you are opposed by your family, and from now on your family will be noisy and quarrelsome, or even break off the relationship?

3. Fear of having other purposes.

For example, if the family is rich, I am afraid that the boy or girl is just asking for money or something.

4. I'm afraid that boys only like their appearance, if they happen to be beautiful and handsome, they will be more worried that boys and girls just look at their faces and figures, and they are afraid that if they are no longer young, boys and girls will be not interested in themselves.

5. I have been hurt so I am afraid of falling in love again.

Some girls have been deeply injured, and even if they meet a good partner, they may not be able to open their hearts again because of the previous shadows.

6. Fear of losing dreams.

If you have a dream to achieve, you may have to give up because you are in a relationship, for example, if you want to work abroad, you may give up for the sake of your partner.

7. Fear of being too possessive.

Some guys are very jealous, or they have a lot of rules, such as not wearing short skirts or going out with boys, which can make some girls feel stressed.

8. I'm afraid of being too distracted.

If the boyfriend girl is distracted, the girl and the boy will have an inexhaustible polyamorous relationship, which is very painful.

9. Afraid of being dumped by boys.

After falling in love, many girls will inevitably start to worry about the day of breakup, usually because they are not confident enough in the relationship.

Introverted and afraid of falling in love. Don't exaggerate the difficulties that you may encounter before falling in love.

Afraid of being hurt emotionally, this type of person has a strong sense of self-protection.

I'm afraid of being hurt, and I'm afraid of hurting others, that's how I feel.

is afraid of rejection, so you can only bury your love in your heart.

It's normal to be afraid of being hurt in your relationship, afraid that your efforts will not be reciprocated, so you don't dare to fall in love!

It may be psychological, influenced by the people around you.

Low self-esteem, feeling unworthy of love, unworthy of love.

Fear of getting hurt. Fear of loneliness in the end, fear of loneliness after dependence.

Accustomed to being single, accustomed to freedom, what your partner brings is not necessarily dependence, care, etc., most of it may be accommodation, trouble, etc., which needs to be fully prepared.

People who don't dare to fall in love are afraid of getting hurt! I have an imperfect family or have been hurt. Now there are many people who dare not love anymore, but I think we still have to believe in love, be brave, and I can't stop it when love comes.

One, they actually want love the most.

It seems that the lights are bright, it seems that the mirror is full of flowers, they actually long for a sincere love, maybe they have been hurt and let down by a man, or perhaps, they have not started to fall in love and one-sidedly see all kinds of bad things in men and dare not open the investment of real feelings. From a psychological point of view, it is the incompleteness, it is caused by the stereotype of early experience, the girls are defensive, the so-called spiritual world, the two extremes are actually the same, the more you are arrogant and don't care about anything, the more it shows that your heart is lacking in love, and you are longing for love.

Second, they are also afraid.

Fear and desire are mutual, the more eager you are to find a true love, the more afraid you are that the feelings in your hands are not the best, maybe she is single and meets a heartwarming person at some point, and then what? Ordinary people are then in love, and their hearts will continue to ask: Is this person worthy of love?

Does this person really love me? This man ......

If it's a woman, I think it should be like this

One. She's seen so many stories that she's scared

Two. There are too many tragedies like this around her

Three. She has been hurt by the opposite sex, (not in love), and has a resistance to men. She may be very special (a personal issue).

Fear of rejection: Many people are afraid of facing rejection, fearing that they will be hurt or embarrassed if they are rejected by the other person.

Social anxiety: Social anxiety is a common psychological problem that can cause people to feel scared and uncomfortable in social situations and with people.

Unsure of their feelings: Some people may be unsure of their feelings for someone or whether they are interested in the relationship itself, which can also cause them to be afraid to fall in love.

Fear of having a bad experience with a relationship: Some people may have a fear of the relationship itself because of their previous bad relationship experience, and they dare not try again.

Work or school stress: Some people may be too stressed to take care of their relationship or think that it will affect their work or academic performance.

Not confident in themselves: Some people may lack confidence in themselves and think that they are not good enough or attractive enough to be afraid to fall in a relationship.