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The most important thing about the harmony of the dormitory should be the relationship between people. From this, I can't avoid the vulgar and skip it.

People are complex and contradictory, we all have friction between us to a greater or lesser extent, don't be busy denying it, twins are still different, let alone us. Whether it is ideological friction, friction in life philosophy, or differences in ethics, it will affect our evaluation of others. People need to be affirmed, so when we evaluate the behavior of others, we will always use our own approach to the same thing as the standard.

Acknowledging this fact, we will understand that we all have errors in our impressions of others, more or less, but they must all be. Modern scientific research has found that your impression of a person is determined as early as the first time you meet, and this impression will always influence your perception of other people's behavior later in life. Therefore, my advice is to try to think of each of your new friends in a positive way, so that your attitude towards others will naturally get better, re-evaluate your friends every once in a while, and give the most objective evaluation with rational thinking.

It's very difficult for me to talk about denying others. Su Dongpo, a talented man in the Song Dynasty, was talented and famous in society. At that time, a great Zen master came to visit and discussed the scriptures with Su Shi.

After washing the lamp several times, Su Shi smiled at Zen Master and said: "In the eyes of you and me, it is like a straw bale." The Zen master smiled and said:

In your eyes and mine, they are like flowers. After the Zen master left, Su Shi was very proud. The next day, his sister heard about this and reprimanded Dongpo to:

Others are a mirror of yourself, others look at you like flowers, because they have flowers in their hearts, you look at others like straw bales, because you are straw bales! Dongpo realized this. Therefore, I dare not indulge myself in denying others.

Remember to reflect on yourself when you rebuke others. Here, my second piece of advice, others are a reflection of your own heart, and to easily deny others is to deny yourself.

The dormitory life of the university, where many people live together, will be more or less influenced by others. How to discard the chaff and extract its essence, I believe that the teachers and teachers have mentioned these points to us. What I want to say here is to be firm in yourself and have your own thinking.

There are a lot of people around us who are happy to pick on other people's behavior, which makes some of us lose self-confidence. It's a strange world where people with pride are ruthlessly suppressed and people with low self-esteem are sympathized. Because of this, some of us would rather choose inferiority than pride.

In my cognition, inferiority and pride are both the same nature, and those who do not have self-confidence are not inferior in nature, just because they are not aware of their own abilities and do not affirm themselves. In this regard, my advice is to have a skill, socializing, sports, singing, ......Either way, as long as you are better than everyone else, you can use it as the capital to have your self-confidence.

You look at me for a while, look at the clouds for a while, and I feel that when you look at me, it's far away, and when you look at the clouds, it's close.