My parents in law don t believe what they say, and my husband doesn t care, what should I do?

Your request itself is excessive, and most people in the family like boys, and they will definitely rob them after you give birth to a son, and this is also legal. What you said was just a verbal agreement, and it didn't count at all. You can let the child grow up in the future, let him be closer to his mother's family, and help take care of his mother's family, but you have to think about how heavy the burden of this child will be in the future.

Did your husband marry into your family? Normally, when a man marries a woman, the first child is with the woman's surname, but there are also cases where the parents negotiate this matter. In fact, it is not all your children whose surname they belong to now. Alas, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read.

You just take a step back, and then have a second child with your surname, in fact, whoever has the surname is your child, and in China, the general tradition is to follow the father's surname, if you follow your surname, what will others think of your husband, think more about him.

No way, in Chinese tradition, this is the case, the grandson must have the husband's surname. Even if you say yes beforehand, it's probably just a verbal promise. You might as well consider having a second one, and then make sure they agree to have your surname.

Alas... The surname is just a code name, and the child is the same as everyone else, isn't it still close to you? If you want to open up, your husband has already married into your family, give them a little self-esteem, which will be good for you in the future.

Are you saying that you didn't marry into their family, and that your husband is a son-in-law who is in the middle of the door? Since it's an upside-down door, it's naturally your surname, and if you don't want it, no one can force you.

The surname is just a symbol, there is no need to be so serious, discuss it with your husband, if you really don't agree, there is no way, just let the child take his surname.

Since it is your husband who comes to your house, and says that he has your surname in advance, if you can't negotiate with them, you can just go and put the child's household registration on your household registration.

It doesn't matter who you have the last name, no matter who you have the last name, it's their grandson's grandmother's grandson, don't worry about it so much, the blood is the same, and the surname doesn't matter.

In fact, it doesn't matter which surname is the surname, which surname the child has is the child of the two of you, the important thing is the health of the child, so be optimistic.

It's not a way to make trouble, the old man is unreasonable. Either divorce, or let the children choose by themselves, anyway, you can't be cheap people who don't speak honestly.

Then the second one is your surname, in fact, the surname is just a symbol.

It's hard to explain this kind of thing clearly, but since it's the son-in-law who comes to the door or, okay, you just go directly to your account.

must be done according to the agreement, they saw that it was the son who wanted to continue his family's incense, just have another one.

Generally, the son-in-law and children who come to the door follow the woman's surname, no matter what is still discussed by the two families;

Then the first one is for your mother-in-law, and the second one is with your surname, but I don't think it's okay.

Then you want another one, and the second one is your surname, right? Boys, girls, what's important.

Since your husband doesn't care about it, then you can just take your surname when you go to the child's household registration.

In fact, it doesn't matter what the child's surname is.

I don't think it matters who the child's surname is, it's important who the child grows up with.

Hehe, that's impossible,

It's hard to say, in fact, isn't it the same as anyone's surname, it's your own child?

Just getting married and living together must go through a run-in period, your mother-in-law is so excusable, your husband needs to understand a situation like this, how is your relationship with your husband? Was it a flash marriage? If you are in free love before marriage and have a good relationship, then your husband has a big problem, and if it is still like this after a while, you can consider leaving, but it will be difficult for ordinary people to leave, and the pressure is very high, but if you don't leave, you will not feel happy.

If you get married in a flash and the emotional foundation is not deep, you can only rely on time to run in.

This is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which needs to be solved by your husband, communicate with your husband well, if you can't do it, you will rarely see your mother-in-law, out of sight is clean!

It's useless, my husband is the same, he often beats me and scolds me, and now I'm thinking about divorce.

In fact, your mother-in-law is prejudiced against you and thinks that you will rob his son, and at the same time, your husband listens to your mother-in-law too much, I can only say it, and I can't pass it.

Hello, there is something wrong with your husband's approach, so you can only talk to your husband about it.

It means that your husband doesn't love you and doesn't have you in his heart.

After marriage, your parents-in-law will look at you and your husband won't help you speak, and you may also feel isolated in this family at this time.

If this situation continues, it will also affect the relationship between you as a couple, and there is nothing good about it in the long run. In this case, you should try to avoid getting along with your parents-in-law too much, for example, you can move out to live alone with your significant other. The so-called distance produces beauty, and it is also very reasonable in the family, under the same roof, there will always be friction, and I can't stand the other party's glance, so I can only stay away.

Of course, in this process, the husband may not support it, because he will always feel that he is also a part of the family, he will not have any strange feelings, he will not be able to understand your feelings, and when facing your proposal, he will feel that it is a waste of money, and he will also feel that it is inconvenient for him to leave his parents. At this time, you need to use certain ways and means to get the other party to accept your offer. Men sometimes need to be soft, they need to be treated gently, and at this time, you choose to treat him.

Coax well, persuade each other with good words, and communicate when it is time to communicate, and also inform the other party of your thoughts, so that you may be much more comfortable in the process of getting along, and there will be more and better ways to solve the problem, so as to solve your problem.

The English of my parents-in-law is really hard to end, and living in such a family will only have a sense of suffocation. Many daughters-in-law will have this feeling after entering a new family, so that they do not have a sense of number, which eventually leads to the breakdown of the marriage, so that in the long run, it can only end in divorce. Therefore, for the sake of family harmony, you should also communicate well with your husband and let him know that your situation is very difficult, so that it can be beneficial to you.

Only when two husband and wife get along can they have a more harmonious family and feel happy and happy in marriage.

First of all, I think you still have to communicate with your husband, if your husband really doesn't help you, then I think you have no reason to stay in this house.

I think you should choose divorce, because after getting married, your husband doesn't think about things from his own point of view, but helps his parents to bully you, which means that this will be the case in the future, and you need to be wronged for a long time, so I recommend choosing divorce.

I think you should have a good communication with your husband, analyze the pros and cons of this matter, and tell your husband that if you keep doing this, you will choose to reconsider your relationship.

I think at this time you need to communicate more with your husband, express your thoughts, and strive to get your husband on your side and help you speak more. If you really can't do it, you can live separately from your mother-in-law, so that you can avoid a lot of conflicts.

should take the initiative to divorce the other party, if you don't divorce the other party at this time, you will only let yourself be more wronged, because the other party will never help you talk in life, and will only make you feel very aggrieved in life.

You must divorce each other, because such a man is irresponsible and has no sense of responsibility, so he is not worth relying on at all.

Your husband never speaks for you in front of your mother-in-law, you can do that.

1. Self-improvement and self-reliance, and the rights that should be defended should be maintained by themselves.

When you have a conflict with your mother-in-law, or your mother-in-law scolds you for no reason, at this time, if your husband does not occupy your side, then you have to protect your own rights and interests, don't swallow your anger all the time, otherwise others will trample you under your feet on dates, and you must protect your rights and interests when you should protect them.

2. Talk to your husband.

When you are alone with your husband, ask him what he thinks when his mother-in-law bullied you, if he blindly favors his mother, indiscriminately thinks you are wrong, then this kind of husband does not need to pay him wholeheartedly, he will feel that everything you do is deserved, you should be a cow and a horse when you marry them, and if you don't fight back and scold and don't pay back, then you have to plan for your future, and it's not interesting to live with such a person, Maybe you can be happier by living alone.

3. Move out and live alone.

If you always have conflicts with your mother-in-law, but your husband is not on your side, if the economic conditions allow, then move out and live alone, there will be fewer opportunities to get along with your mother-in-law, there will not be so many contradictions, your husband will not be caught in the middle, and you don't have to see your husband's attitude and get angry.

In short, if you have a conflict with your mother-in-law, if you want your husband to stand by your side all the time, it is impossible to always favor you, after all, it is also his mother, so you can endure it when you can bear it, and if you can't bear it, you can either live separately, otherwise you will be angry with yourself. If your husband can't be trusted, you can only rely on yourself, make your own decisions in your own life, and don't pin your hopes on others, so that you can live freely and not rely on others.

You should talk to your husband about your feelings. You tell him that when he doesn't talk to you in front of your mother-in-law, you are embarrassed and helpless. If he still doesn't speak for you in the future, then you don't have to pay attention to your mother-in-law.

Divorce is the best, and your husband doesn't speak for you. It shows that you are worth nothing in his heart. There is no need to insist on such a relationship at all, it is better to separate early.

This is the tangled point in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, family is not a place to be reasonable, it is a place to talk about love, as long as your husband loves you, there is no need to be entangled so much.

Then you should think carefully about whether there is any problem between you, you must know that after getting married, only your husband will contact you at your in-law's house, if your husband does not help you, then your future situation will be very embarrassing.

You have to deal with the problems between you and your mother-in-law, you have to tell your husband that you can't listen to your mother-in-law in everything, and seriously discuss your future life with him

You can have a good talk with him and remind him to speak for you in front of your mother-in-law next time, don't leave you alone, he will understand.

Go back and let him kneel on the washboard. And tell him that he also needs face and self-esteem. If you don't even maintain your wife, you will be very angry.

I think this requires me to improve my ability to interact with liveliness, and I must improve myself and not let myself suffer.

Look at the situation you said, I deeply sympathize, you should reflect on your own principles of life, is everything too tolerant, people at any time, must maintain their dignity, when your dignity is violated, you should boldly maintain your dignity, in a word, people can not be too temperamental, whether it is in front of relatives or outsiders, when appropriate, you still have to show some temper, show them.

The attitude of your in-laws towards you depends entirely on your husband's attitude towards you, why do you think your husband doesn't care about you, some men have big nerves, unlike women who are delicate, it is also possible that he is busy with work, women are more sensitive when they are pregnant, and they are easy to get angry, children are the best gift from God to themselves, no woman who gives birth to a baby and doesn't like her own child, no woman will regret giving birth to her own child, so don't go easily, he is also a life.

It doesn't matter if your in-laws look down on you, even your husband doesn't treat you as a person, what else is there to be nostalgic for, kill the child as soon as possible, get rid of everything, and when you have a child, you are even more ruthless.

Are you doing something wrong? If not, what are you afraid of, face it bravely, leave without emotion, good people grind more.

My question is, you'd better get a divorce, and you're talking about the same problems as I do. My mother-in-law was only okay with me before. After giving birth, blame me for this and that.

It's like when I give birth to a difficult birth. My husband didn't dare to care. Just listen to the fuck.

I almost died with my child. After giving birth, my mother-in-law said that I was useless, and I wouldn't even have a child. Let you think about what you would do if this was your mother-in-law.

My husband has been saying nice things to his mother. I also gave birth to a child for him, and every time my mother scolded me, my husband would only say that it was not easy for my mother to raise me so big. Never said help me once.

You'd better not be like me, I'm leaving him in a very special way right now.

What did you do earlier? said a little immoral thing, saying that the stomach was still small and left. Otherwise, I don't know what will happen to the two of them after giving birth to a girl, can the children in such a family grow up healthily?