Help me overcome my low self esteem, how can we overcome it?

Actually, it's nothing, you're only 15 years old, and you haven't reached the age of change I have a lot of classmates When I was in junior high and high school, they were all so-called beauties Many boys chased But after college and even after work, they are very ordinary Belong to the kind that can't be found in the pile of people On the contrary, the more those girls who are mediocre in middle and high school or chubby are not beautiful When they get to college or even work, their knowledge grows **Success Learn how to dress and dress up It's really like a changed person It's very beautiful And they are all beauties who combine temperament and beauty.

So, now you think it's a very serious thing, but it's nothing, the most important thing for a girl is not her appearance, but the feeling of temperament that emanates from the inside out, you're only 15 years old, and this is the best time to absorb cultural knowledge and enrich yourself, and when you have knowledge, when you're a little older, the charm that naturally exudes will be different from other girls, and now you don't feel inferior because of her appearance, and if you feel sad again, encourage yourself to read more Read books in all aspects, study more, you must believe that as long as you continue like this, one day you will become more attractive than her, and one day, all girls will feel inferior when they see you

Hehe, you are due to a kind of comparison psychology, so that your self-confidence has declined In fact, you only see the surface, you take physiognomy too seriously, and then you pay attention to the physiognomy caused by some problems

Did you only see that your grades were better than hers? Actually, no, you have a lot of things better than her, it's just that you are temporarily blinded by the problem of appearance, and you blindly think about this aspect and ignore the others

Don't compare with others, so you will live a very easy life, people's biggest enemy is yourself, I think you should have heard the sentence, so it is not interesting to compare with others, only by comparing with yourself, you can always have a goal, don't measure yourself by other people's standards!

You haven't been ignored, it's just that you feel that those boys are so enthusiastic about her, you feel that you are being ignored, but it's not, people who know that you care about you are secretly silently watching you and caring about you, you don't see this side You have to be strong, in fact, what is this? Calmly, or calmly Actually, self-confidence will make you change from an ugly little Y to a little swan! Be confident In fact, you are very good, how many people admire your achievements Study hard, let everyone see you as a goal to be pursued in your studies and move towards you!

Be confident, I believe in you

In a word, if only she liked you. If I don't like you, forget it. There is no grass to live in the end of the world.

This is that you care too much about your appearance, and your appearance can't be eaten, right?

I'm a boy.

I have a friend. Also very good friends. He's on his own. And I'm always behind him.

Just like that friend of yours. My situation is also yours.

I'm also confused. Little by little, my self-confidence is being worn off.

Actually, it's because we have low self-esteem.

It's inferiority. It's like this if you don't have the self-confidence. Sometimes I really feel useless.

I ran away for a while.

Just found some articles on self-confidence on this. I recognized.

I realized that I had the confidence that I could be on my own. And I don't expect to go to the sky in one step, but from the small things to the big ...Do what is around you first.

I believe that I can also be on my own.

What about you?..

Be happy. Show a smile to everyone.

Get along with people for a long time.

Everyone will find your charm.

Read more books about psychology.

Carnegie ---"The weakness of human nature"

It's not pretty, it doesn't seem like a big deal, people always have to have something of their own. It is recommended that you choose some specialties to develop, and if you can stick to them, I am afraid that the results will be hard for you to believe.

In your own heart, you have to remember that you are always the best.

As for others, you don't care about them, they do whatever they want.

Don't bird him, it's okay.

Remember, you're always the best^-

Often beautiful people can't get true love, because the people who chase her are just greedy for beauty, and such people are too superficial and not reliable enough.

And people with mediocre looks always rely on their inner beauty and personality charm to attract others. This kind of love is the most stable.

Because inner beauty is eternal.

So, from now on, you need to polish your heart.

Go your own way, believe in yourself, your mother must be useful for you to be born, what's the use of being beautiful! will always become an old lady with a wrinkled face, only knowledge Think of those mature and attractive women who stand on the high point of human beings Their figures will not change Think about those charming female stunners Movie stars Retired from the screen in less than two years Old So you have to study hard for your motherland, for your parents, and for yourself not to live in vain!

Low self-esteem**In many places, the influence of the family of origin, the way of education, the "poverty mentality" of parents, and negative influences will cause children to feel inferior

We have seen too many people with low self-esteem, who seem to be withdrawn, or that they need companionship, but they don't know what method to use to communicate, and they don't know what method to use to improve their psychological defects.

What are the manifestations of people with low self-esteem?

1.Not active and not brave.

2.In the face of problems, choose to escape.

3."Emotional violence"Ten levels.

4.Interpersonal skills are "declining".

5.Suppressed for too long, irritable constitution.

6.I always feel inferior to others and lack self-confidence.

7.Such a personality generally appears as a "potential stock" person.

8.Too "demanding" on oneself in pursuit of perfection.

9.Care about the outcome of the event and have expectations for the outcome.

10.Always look ahead and look backward in doing things.

After the child has these negative emotions, he will gradually wear out his courage to face life a lot, in philosophy, parents to the child's family education, and the process of education to the child cold violence, this is the behavior of the perpetrators. Because an individual is a person who is not loved from childhood to adulthood, and will not learn to feel "love" or "love people", there are some details that parents may not pay attention to, or they will not educate their children, so the children still do not talk much.

How are we going to deal with this mental emotion?

1. Cognitive Method.

Have a new understanding of yourself and understand how you behave.

2. Transfer method.

Although we will have this kind of inferiority complex when we encounter problems, we learn to use some methods to divert our attention and do things that we have not done but dare not do.

3. Comprehension of the law.

With the help of others to empathize, if it makes sense, it will make sense, and if it doesn't make sense, you have to learn to figure things out.

Fourth, the operation method.

Give yourself some tasks each day and try to learn to do them.

5. Compensation Law.

Promote strengths and avoid weaknesses, study hard, recognize your own shortcomings, and learn some relevant knowledge by yourself to make up for your shortcomings.

We first understand ourselves and change our thinking and attitude towards things, and then through later learning, we can improve ourselves and gradually become more confident.

Look for God, people will not be inferior when they have faith.

Understand what causes him to have low self-esteem, and then prescribe the right medicine to address the root cause.

To save low self-esteem, first of all, you need to find the cause of low self-esteem. For most people with low self-esteem, it is mainly due to material deprivation, childhood trauma and lack of love, appearance defects, lack of ability and other aspects. Physiognomy, family, and intelligence are a major part of the congenital causes, while the rest are mainly acquired.

Secondly, if you understand the reasons for low self-esteem, you need to solve it in a targeted manner, specifically in four aspects:

Raise material conditions. There is no doubt that money can make people more confident to a certain extent, generally speaking, society is material, material is the most recognized and accepted by the public, and it is also an important factor in maintaining a person's life and dignity. Can make money, make more money, can effectively ** material scarcity, such as:

When I was a child, I was financially scarce, and many things could only be seen and not bought when I was a child, but when I had the financial ability, after the desire to buy was satisfied, the psychological subconscious could make up for the lack of material, which was conducive to physical and mental health. In addition, it is possible to make certain adjustments to personal appearance defects to improve self-confidence.

**Love. No matter how rich or famous you are, you will still deeply feel the anxiety caused by inferiority in terms of emotion. Therefore, a person who lacks love in his heart is the root, only when he feels completely loved in his heart, can he love others better, it is recommended to find a warm lover, family or friend, give love, tolerance and encouragement.

Yao Yuan is the best example in the TV series "Far Away", although he has become the boss of the group, he will still face the inner conflict caused by the lack of love, and he will wander between his lovers.

Become an excellent person in a certain aspect or a certain field. For the lack of ability, having a certain outstanding ability often brings people an inner sense of pride, which makes people more confident, especially in their work, and excellent performance will win more recognition and respect from others. From the essence of society, the ability and status are measured by the creation of value, and vice versa.

It takes an excellent skill to make a person stand out from the crowd. Jobs was born because of Apple, he made Apple, and when it comes to Jobs, people will never forget the glorious history of the Apple empire he once created.

Independent personality building. Some people, timid in their hearts, afraid of making mistakes or being hurt, often avoid the eyes of everyone, and be restricted from an early age, especially girls who have been taught to be obedient and sensible since childhood, and it is easy to become well-behaved, assertive, and easy to feel inferior. Therefore, you can try some extreme sports, challenge yourself, bold attempts, and unbridled hard work will make people more confident and self-reliant step by step.

I once met an eldest sister, nearly 45 years old, but she still looks like a little girl, it is difficult to leave the protection of her parents and partners, many things are decided by her family, and the loss of independence always feels a little weak.

Therefore, "being able to make money and making more money" is an important foundation for a person's inferiority, but the method of a person's inferiority complex also needs to give warm love, tolerance and independence, as well as something that is extremely lacking in the depths of the heart, so as to make it a panacea for soothing the soul.

1.Recognize your inferiority complex: First of all, you need to be aware of your own inferiority complex and try to understand the causes and causes of your inferiority. Only by consciously thinking about these problems and understanding your own shortcomings can you find solutions to them.

2.Discover your strengths: While everyone has their own weaknesses, everyone also has their own strengths. You need to find your own strengths and strengths from yourself and improve your self-confidence.

3.Learn new knowledge and skills: By learning new knowledge and skills, you can continuously improve your abilities and make yourself more confident. This ability can be improved by reading, attending courses, exchanging experiences, etc.

4.Facing challenges positively: Facing challenges positively can help improve self-confidence. Don't be afraid of failure, but see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. By going through and overcoming difficulties, you can continuously enhance your self-confidence.

5.Communicate with others: Communicating and communicating with others can help reduce feelings of loneliness and anxiety, which can lead to increased self-confidence. Communicating with friends and family, seeking support and encouragement, or joining social groups to make new friends can help alleviate low self-esteem.

In short, improving self-confidence is a long-term process that requires continuous effort and practice. As long as you consciously try, I believe that everyone can get rid of low self-esteem and become more confident, self-esteem, and self-love.

Lack of self-confidence, then you can do it.

First of all, we must dare to behave in front of the closed public, dare to speak, and make a few good friends. Take up some hobbies.

Then participate in more social activities and physical exercise.

If you don't communicate with your teachers and elders, you can improve your trust in the long run.

You yourself said it very clearly, empty-handed, there is no way to be confident, but if you want to make your hands not empty, you have to work hard to earn money yourself, chain annihilation, not we help you to be able to be confident, how can we help you across the space? You should learn from the successful people around you, I don't know how old you are now, if you are still a student, you should study hard, and then find a good job after graduating from college.