What is self limiting??? What does it mean to be self limiting?

There are two types of self-limitation: one is to directly tell yourself that it is impossible to accomplish something; The other is to tell yourself that there is a chance that something will fail.

The two sentences seem to be the same, but in fact, there are essential differences.

For example, I hadn't exercised for many years, and one day, I saw my son doing planks in elementary school.

So I wanted to give it a try.

My son told me that every time they were coaching, they were required to stick to 1 minute, and the best child in the training class could do 1 minute and 30 seconds, and he suggested that I try 1 minute first.

Although it was the first time I had done it, I wanted to tell my child: your mother is the best, so I set a time for myself for 1 minute and 30 seconds. Although I still want to be better, because I haven't exercised for too many years, I feel that I can't go beyond this time.

As expected, at the moment of 1 minute and 30 seconds, I immediately couldn't support it. And from the first time to a long time after that, my ceiling really didn't exceed 1 minute and 30 seconds.

And this is the first self-imposed limit: directly tell yourself that it is impossible to exceed 1 minute and 30 seconds. (impossible to do).

I'm just, just a little confident will immediately feel that this is a fart, others can do it, or even better, I won't send much light, because others also have light, and the body has no strength. If you have low self-esteem, it will have a great impact on people.

Confucius. Youyun: "Those who are not strong will be abandoned in the middle of the road, and this woman will paint."

The translated meaning: "The reason why you can't meet my requirements is not because of your lack of ability, but because you have set boundaries for yourself, otherwise, you should be exhausted halfway, and there is no reason to be afraid of difficulties!" In today's parlance, it's "self-limiting."

So why do we often limit ourselves? That's because we're afraid of failure, which leads us to subconsciously set up psychological barriers in our minds.

Let yourself not do it, or use other excuses to excuse yourself, and finally comfort yourself. Zen key.

There are too many such cases in life, such as when you prepare for a professional title exam.

The exam is more difficult and there are more competitors. At that time, you don't just give up, but give yourself an excuse every time you have a slight setback, and you are too tired to go to work today, so you will put it off for a day. Slowly day by day, in the end, you just don't pretend, when the exam is approaching, you think that you haven't prepared much before and the exam is difficult, so you will comfort yourself and say next time, this time it's too late.

At the beginning of this matter, you planted a seed that was too difficult, and subconsciously thought that maybe there would be no results if you tried hard. Rather than not being able to take the exam at that time, I can't give an explanation to the people around me. It's better to make some excuses for yourself, and praise yourself for your own unwarranted failure.

It doesn't seem like a loss at all, because at least not seriously!

However, although this situation is not a disease, it is also a psychological phenomenon that hinders our growth. It should be noted that this kind of self-limitation is still hierarchical, and some people just "claim self-obstruction", that is, they make excuses for themselves; The more serious is the "action-based self-obstruction", that is, stumbling on oneself in practical actions, and the more pressure you have, the more stressful you are.

If you don't work hard, the sooner you face the key choice, the more you will do irrelevant things, which can also be said to be "rotten" in the more popular word now. On the other hand, some people are "situational self-obstruction", they only interfere with themselves at certain times, such as exams, critical decisions, important events, etc. And there is one and the most serious one is "idiosyncratic self-hindrance", this kind of person self-limitation has become his personality trait, and whenever Oga Sakura is clever or small, he will set limits for himself and make excuses for himself.

Basically, at this stage, such a person is already very dangerous.

Hello Mr. Luo, I really enjoy listening to your class. I've been thinking that the root of self-limitation, maybe it would be better if I wasn't the way I am now. After all, I can't speak clearly, and although I like to try to break through myself, I am always looked at by others and cannot be treated positively.

So how else can I break through?

If you don't have enough knowledge, you can set limits on yourself.

If you want to get out of your self-imposed limitations, you have to know enough about what you do, but now I am also very confused and don't know how to learn.

The reason why people will set their own limits, is only because of the environment we have been exposed to since childhood and the inertial thinking mode caused by the education we received since childhood, this kind of heart is deep-rooted, if you want to change, it is impossible to have any effect if you do not make up your mind to peel off the skin, now I will tell you that you will immediately understand, after a while, the heart will return to the previous mode of thinking about the problem and set limits for yourself, so, in addition to having great perseverance, great wisdom is possible to succeed, challenge your own mental limit is not too much, here is a sense of proportion, If you don't grasp it well, you will crush yourself all at once, first change your cognitive problems, correct your mistakes, and slowly make changes to the wrong cognition of human beings in the world, and if your way of thinking and heart change, then everything will also change.

Self-hindering, also known as self-blocking, self-limiting: any action or choice taken by an individual in a performance situation that increases the chances of externalizing the cause of failure in order to avoid or reduce the negative impact of poor performance.

Self-obstruction is an individual's deliberate resistance to his or her own success, which can be said to be an attribution strategy for self-preservation. But attribution is the individual's interpretation of an achievement outcome after it has come out.

Self-obstruction behaviour is often seen in everyday life, such as when a student is playing around or claiming to be unwell before an exam, when in fact the individual is likely to engage in self-obstruction.

Summary. 1.The label features both front and back, the key depends on when and how to use it.

2.You don't need to be someone else, you can do well with your own characteristics. 3.

Don't set limits on yourself, take it slowly, step by step, step out of familiar areas once, and you'll find that you can do a lot too. 4.All roads lead to Rome, and there is not only one characteristic that can lead to the desired result.

Do you "set limits" on yourself?

1.The label features both front and back, and the key is to see when and how to use it. 2.

You don't need to be someone else, you can do well with your own characteristics. 3.Don't set limits on yourself, take it slowly, step by step, step by step, get out of the familiar area once, and you will find that you can also do a lot of Zen Posture.

4.All roads lead to Rome, and not lead limbs are the result of only one characteristic that can get the goal.

Can you add, I don't quite understand it.

Hello, 1The label features both front and back, and the key is to see what is contained and how to use it. 2.

You don't need to be someone else, you can do well with your own characteristics. Talk about rough 3Don't set limits for yourself, take it slowly, step by step, step out of the familiar area once, and you will find that you can also do a lot.

4.All roads lead to Rome, and there is not only one characteristic that can lead to the desired result.

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