I promised to like him for nine years, but after we got together, I felt different

It feels like you don't like him, and your attitude is always changing.

How can this be blamed for his unclear attitude?

It's that he doesn't have faith in you.

Time can change a lot, and when it matters most, you don't have to cherish. If you want to know the result, pick and say.

I can feel that he is really true to you because some people have been talking for seven or eight years or have broken up, and they can be together forever like their current girlfriend Nine years he can abandon her, nine years he can abandon you, you have.

It feels like you are lyrical, and you are already very clear about your current situation, in front of this kind of man, you must be determined to be a strong person.

Don't be so demanding of him, he's a good man, if you don't really love her, break up quickly, or just live well together, you let me let you have nothing to do.

Well, things are not so bad, he went abroad, and the thoughts he received are different, because you have to know that the environment can change a person, and foreign thoughts are a little different from ours, which I have experienced, many of my classmates are seafarers, and their thoughts are generally different from ours when they return to China, it is normal for men to be ambitious, and a man is not ambitious, then he is not a good man, from this point of view, your other sea is good, I think you still have to support him, If a woman wants to tie a man's heart, the best way is to be good to him, so good that he thinks about you in everything he does, and to learn to tolerate and forgive. Okay, that's all, it's up to you how you do it.

I think the first thing to do is to make sure that he really doesn't like you, and if not, you have to force it. On the other hand, it is to make yourself better, stronger, and more capable. In short, don't take the problem too seriously.

Maybe I'm wrong, I'm tight to express my personal opinion.

Distance produces beauty, when you are not together, you will always beautify each other in your heart, and after being together, you may find that he is not so good and will be disappointed. And you have liked him for 9 years, which means that you are familiar with him, and you know more about his personality and preferences.

And I guess he shouldn't be a particularly romantic person.,Maybe it's down-to-earth.,In this way, it's not particularly romantic or something.,It might be more bland.。 Or he usually treats you well, so after being together, you don't feel that because you are boyfriend and girlfriend, he has made any major changes to you, so you feel flat. Everything is to be compared, if he used to be very bad to you, or ignored you, and then he was very good to you together, then you must be very happy, but it turns out that he is good to you, although he will be better to you after being together, but you will not feel anything.

So it will cause you to be lost.

You're not so happy, maybe you expect too much from him, or his shining point has been discovered by you, and there is no new shining point for you to discover after being together, and it doesn't meet your expectations (it must be expected that there will be something new to discover after being together), so it's a little unaccustomed to something, but you definitely still like him, and you need to cultivate more feelings after being with him, and when you get used to it, it's fine.

It's normal, in fact, to put it simply, you just rely on your own imagination to look at this person during the 9 years, but when there is no distance, you will find that this person is not the person you imagined, and there is a big gap with the image in your memory, so this sense of gap makes you feel unhappy.

I don't know the difference between liking and loving...

If you are not together and like him, you only see his goodness, and it is easy to form an imaginary beauty; Together, you will get to know him better, maybe he is not as good as you think. It feels different.