Do you know the story behind the poor couple s mourning?

The story behind the poor couple's pepsi mourning is very intriguing.

The important point of poor couples is that they are poor, and when they are poor, they will quarrel.

It's hard to do anything without money, because without money, there are many contradictions.

I haven't seen it, but it should be full of bitterness.

In today's society, if you have money, you have everything.

I think it's hard to do anything without money, and there won't be so many contradictions when you have money.

Generally yes, material is the foundation of a family.

Money is not everything, but no money is everything.

Where is the superstructure without an economic base?

It can be understood from the following three aspects:

1. Poor couples mourn for all things refers to the marriage of poor couples, although they are happy for a while, but if the days go on for a long time, they will quarrel over firewood, rice, oil and salt, and then face any practical problems are "all mourning".

2. According to the literal meaning, that is, if the family economic foundation is poor, it is easy to have conflicts between husband and wife.

3. According to the current parlance, it means that the husband and wife are poor, and even if they try their best to do something, it is still difficult to complete it, which is too sad.

The mourning of poor and lowly couples comes from the Tang Dynasty poet Yuan Zhen's "Sending Grief Huai", the main purpose of this poem is to mourn the deceased wife. The original sentence is "Honest socks are rotten and everyone knows that everyone has this hatred, and poor couples mourn everything", which translates to the meaning: I sincerely know that the hatred of death is shared by everyone in the world; But recalling that our husband and wife shared weal and woe in the days of poverty, I feel even more sad.

Obviously, the pretending Yuan Zhen is not lamenting that the life of the poor couple is very sad, so he feels that everything is going well and sad. Yuan Zhen lost his father since he was a child, his family was poor, he was angry and studied, and he successfully won the fame; But after he became rich and rich, he still did not forget his bad wife, and the couple had a deep affection. It's a pity that his wife died early, and Yuan Zhen remembered that his wife had suffered so much with him, but he had not had time to enjoy a good life, so he died.

Therefore, he felt very sorry, so he issued a lament of "poor and lowly couples mourn everything".

"Poor and lowly husband and wife mourn" is the last line of the poem in the great poet Yuan Zhi of the Tang Dynasty in "Sending Sorrow", which has been tempered by thousands of years of early fiber and has been passed down to the present day, and is often used as a reference for quoting scriptures. If it is not combined with the context of the whole poem, it is understood literally, roughly referring to couples who do not have a certain material foundation, who will slowly sink into firewood, rice, oil and salt over time, and even have a lot of suspicions, complaints, and dissatisfaction because of these trivialities in life. The complainant omitted from this sentence is often a woman, a resentment against a man who cannot provide for his family.

However, this is not what Yuan Zhen expressed in the poem.

The full text of this poem "Sending Sorrow" before the review is as follows:

In the past, the jokes were behind the scenes, and now they are all in front of us.

The garments have been exhausted, and the needle and thread are still unopened.

still wants to pity the servant in his old love, and he also gave money because of his dreams.

I sincerely know that everyone has this hatred, and poor couples mourn everything."

Combined with the context of the whole poem, it can be seen that this poem mainly describes the "sorrow of Pepsi" after the death of his wife. The poet writes about several things that cause mourning in everyday life. The immortal has passed away, but the relics are still there.

In order to avoid seeing things and thinking about others, he gave away the clothes that his wife had worn. The needlework that his wife had done was still kept intact and could not bear to open it. The poet wants to use this negative method to seal the memory of the past, and this practice itself proves that he cannot get rid of the longing for his wife. In addition, whenever he saw the servant beside his wife, he also aroused his own sorrow, so he also added a feeling of pity to the servant.

During the day, everything touches the scene and hurts, and at night the dream soul flies through the underworld to find each other. Sending money in a dream seems absurd, but it is a touching infatuation. The wife who has suffered all his life has passed away, and the husband who is now living in wealth does not forget the old love, what can he do for his wife except for "resuming the camp and fasting"?

So the dream became a dream, and there was a dream of giving money to his wife. The last two sentences, from the general statement of "I sincerely know that everyone has this hatred", to the specific reference of "poor couples mourn everything". It is inevitable for people to die and part, but for couples who share the hardships of the poor, once they die, it is even more sad.

Therefore, the real meaning expressed by the poor couple's mourning is to mourn the deceased wife and praise the deep love of the husband and wife who share the suffering, rather than the discord between the poor couple and the disharmony of everything goes well.

There are many examples of poor couples mourning in real life, and many times we look forward to what is said in the marriage vows in the movie, whether poor or rich, we will never give up, but in real life, there are not many people who can persist in the moment of poverty, and more often we choose to maximize profits.

1. Poverty restricts food, clothing, housing and transportation, and reduces the quality of life.

The economic foundation determines the superstructure, and many times the life of an hungry person is busy and hard-working, which will hollow out a person's expectations for life. One can always love poverty, but two people can't, because they always think that poverty is caused by the other person. Poverty and embarrassment in life will always trample on your self-esteem again and again, and when your economic strength can't keep up, you will have a heavy back.

The mortgage is tight, the clothes and food are tight, and they can't develop their interests, and the meager salary is only suitable for the daily expenses of two people, and the taste of life becomes bitter. The reduction of the quality of life will cause a high probability of the fragmentation of the relationship between husband and wife, because dealing with poverty is a matter that requires too much courage. When life becomes survival, how much love can still be held onto.

2. Material deprivation leads to spiritual deprivation.

People can be poor for a while, but if they remain poor, they must consider their own abilities and patterns. Persistent poverty, which is caused by ignorance, short-sightedness, and lack of progress, will lead to a stagnant life, like a pool of stagnant water. It will not give people humane things, so the endless cycle brought about by poverty forms a closed loop, so that material scarcity and spirit can not be enriched, when spiritual deprivation is invisibly, it will also miss several opportunities to turn over and improve oneself to improve the environment.

3. Poverty brings difficulties to the education of future generations.

The embarrassment caused by poverty makes it more difficult to give birth and raise children, and in order to save money, it is very likely that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be conflicted by not hiring nurses. And the simple production process experienced by the mother has to be put into the middle of raising the baby, and the father has to support the family. Still in a difficult situation, the young couple who are about to lose their fighting spirit have become father and mother in a daze, and they have another layer of responsibility.

Poor couples mourn everything, mourning is not only the regression of the quality of life, but also the passing of a beautiful youth, just like the dream made up when they were young has become fragments, but they can only keep running around to maintain their lives and are smoothed by life, and finally bury their youthful selves.

The basis of love is material conditions, and this is because love without material foundation is like a plate of loose sand. I saw it when I was a kidPoor couples mourn everythingcan be said to have seriously affected their quality of life. The first is that they often quarrel over cooking; The second is that they often quarrel over their children's tuition fees; Then there is the fact that they often quarrel over the daily expenses of making a living.

It is necessary to elaborate and analyze the following three aspects: I have seen specific examples of poor couples mourning in my life.

First of allThey often quarrel over cooking, as a childWhen I was staying in a rental house, I saw my male neighbor cooking a big pot of noodles and putting a lot of meatballs, hot pot ingredients, eggs, and vegetables in it, and then I happily ate it, but when his wife came back, he was furious and said that it was too extravagant, and the economy was not good, so he should be a little tighterThen an argument began

In fact, the food cooked by the male neighbor is just home-cooked food, not some delicacies from the mountains and seas, mainly because the economy can't keep up.

And then there'sThey often quarrel over their children's school fees, due toThe male neighbor works in a factory, but the female neighbor works as a supermarket shopping guide, and her job is relatively stable, andThe male neighbor also has a bad gambling habitSoEvery time I pay my child's tuition, I am in a dilemma, and my wife will quarrel with each other about it

The reason why this is like this is essentially that the male neighbor himself has some malignancy, and he is a little lazy.

And againThey often quarrel over the daily expenses of life, as a childI often see male and female neighbors arguing, and the topic of the argument is basically related to money, so their relationship has always been very unharmoniousI have had to get divorced many times, but considering the children, I still haven't divorced.

The couple was unhappy due to financial reasons and often quarreled and sometimes got into fights.

ActuallyWhen I was a child, the neighbors in the environment where they often quarreled for financial reasons, the reason why they quarreled frequently was that the male neighbors themselves had a lot of viciousness, and the female neighbors also had a more traditional view of marriage and obeyed the arrangements of their parents.

Precautions for choosing a marriage partner:

You should choose the three views that are compatible, and have sufficient financial ability, and at the same time need to have empathy.

The loving partner chooses to enter the palace of marriage, because marriage is not child's play, and choosing the right person to marry is more important than planning for the future.

In yesterday's news hot search, the wife and mother-in-law lent money to the child Kai Hao to buy milk powder and closed Sun Huai, and her husband bought cigarettes and gave them away to return the favor. I can't afford to drink milk powder, and I still want to repay the favor. It is sad to advise those who have no money not to have children.

The so-called poor couples are in financial difficulties, their lives are insecure, and there are many families with banquets. This kind of family should be poor due to various reasons, and after economic difficulties, all kinds of things cannot be solved, forming a vicious circle, the family will not be harmonious, go to extremes, and bad things will continue to be repeated.

One is that there are too many Li Mo, that is to say, the husband and wife can be poor at the beginning, they can be naked, and they can marry naked, but if they let him live a life of eating and sleeping in the open for decades, they will inevitably complain.

Being a human being, being happy is the most important thing. You have to earn more money and spend more money. The premise of saving money is that the monthly salary is at least tens of thousands, and learn some financial management to make money.

The economic base determines not only the superstructure, but also the harmony of the family.

Poor couples mourn everything, not to say. First of all, in today's society, no matter what industry is willing to work hard, it is not too bad. It's not that you buy a car or a house in a first-tier city, after all, don't bully young people to be poor, what I mean is to see that their family is not the worst in their family situation, which is the bottom line.

My cousin and her object were together in college, and the relationship between the two has always been very good, after graduating from college, they both planned to get married, but my aunt disagreed, she felt that my cousin's economic conditions were not very good, and after marriage, the pressure would be great.

After getting married, it didn't take long for me to get pregnant and give birth to a child, with the birth of the child, the importance of the economy immediately appeared, because my cousin had to take the child and couldn't go to work, all their economic ** is my cousin-in-law's salary of 8,000 yuan a month, in addition to paying the car loan and mortgage, and the child's milk powder diapers, there is not much left after these expenses, I dare not buy the clothes I like, I dare not eat the snacks I like, and I can't wait to break a dollar into an eight-petal flower, What impressed me the most was that once my cousin bought a fifty yuan snack, and my cousin-in-law was very angry and scolded my cousin for spending money indiscriminately, not knowing how difficult it is to make money, and often quarreling over trivial things, which is really itHow sweet it is when you fall in love, how bitter it is after you get married.

Marriage is fundamentally inseparable from material things, and love cannot live without bread. The material level controls the quality of marriage to a certain extent in the celebration, "poor and lowly couples mourn", from the moral level, people despise this statement, but often this phenomenon exists in large quantities, which reflects human nature, seeks advantages and avoids disadvantages, and the same is true for marriage. "Material" cannot be equated with "happy marriage", but "emotional foundation" plus "material" is sufficient.

My understanding: There is some truth in this poem.

People in the world look forward to the righteousness and understand that "poor and lowly couples mourn everything" to mean that the husband and wife have no stable economic foundation, which is very unfortunate, and it is easy to produce pain and disputes in life, which makes people sympathize. Some people even say: "The rich are happy for a thousand years, and the poor and lowly couples mourn everything".

It's not just Liu Xiang who doesn't read!

However, perhaps the pressure of life makes people more willing to look at this poem from another angle, Yuan Zhen did not expect that this famous sentence he wrote casually is precisely the voice of the life of poor couples in the world.

Poor couples mourn everything", in fact, it is not necessarily, love is a very wonderful feeling, just be happy, isn't it?

Forget what you should forget, and don't rehash the past.

When the sweet love matures, the lover in love enters the marriage hall.

Young people who have just started a family, you are humble and respectful, and considerate of each other, and as time goes by, the behavior of the husband and wife gradually increases, and of course there is more friction.

When the time comes to test the feelings of husband and wife, the more coarse and cheerful the harmonious and pleasant family life can show the charm of tolerance.

A tolerant person can make us see the beauty of life, and at the same time, it can effectively reduce the number of quarrels.

Many people find that after marriage, housework is increasing day by day, and the wife is chattering more than before, and the husband should be considerate of his wife from the bottom of his heart and say more reassuring words.

Wives should also be understanding of their husbands' laziness, and be more considerate and communicative.

A tolerant heart enables people to understand each other, accommodate each other, and make husband and wife feel peaceful and family harmonious. Acts of tolerance. One for cooking, one for dishwashing, one for laundry, one for mopping the floor.

At all times, we should try to "speak well and do beautifully". When we strive to put our commitments and vows into action, not only do we want to let each other do less and cover our wisdom with less burden, but also reflect it through practical actions, the two hearts can be closer and the warmth of home can be fully released. Quarrels between husband and wife are mostly caused by friction caused by small things such as economic expenses, trivial matters of life, and children's education.

If the two sides quarrel and "go to the bottom of the old thing," "expose the scars," and "settle the old accounts together," the contradictions will inevitably intensify.