Am I thinking too far? I don t want to hurt some of the people I care about!

After so many years, you still remember it and can't sleep at night; As soon as you say "release the pigeons", your brother reacts very much. This shows that you all care about this matter, but you care from different angles.

Let's start by analyzing your behavior. You keep emphasizing that you can understand him, but releasing pigeons is a fact. This shows that you are a reasonable but at the same time a reasonable person, but from this point of view, it is clear that you are a little "unreasonable", which is mainly reflected in the fact that you keep repeating your brother "release the pigeons".

And the real problem between you, I think, arises precisely with the word "release pigeons". Let's take a closer look.

Analyze your brother again, he actually knows that he can even say that he did not follow the agreement, and the reason why he reacted so much is only because he does not like to hear you describe his behavior as "releasing pigeons". Although he knows in his heart that he is wrong (he gives you reasons beforehand, and this act itself means that he knows that it is wrong not to fulfill the contract), when you describe this behavior with a word that he does not like (pigeon release), he is very unhappy, and this unhappiness leads him to start justifying his actions (e.g. he lists the reasons he has given beforehand). What he really wants to defend is not that he is not wrong in this behavior, but that he is wrong but not wrong enough to be described as "releasing pigeons".

I think your real problem is that the word "pigeon release" is not understood in the same way, at least to a certain extent. You can try not to use this word anymore, as it is a meaningless and negative "negative word" in your relationship. When you use this word, it exacerbates your conflict, and instead of solving the problem, it leads the issue to another point of contention.

I can't sleep well for this at night, and it can be seen that you love your cousin very much, and this kind of family affection is worth cherishing. You are anxious to know who is right and who is wrong, and what the reasoning is. You are very aggrieved, and I understand this feeling.

But please understand that in emotion, it is not appropriate to say that one is one. Although you are very aggrieved in this matter, don't worry about it anymore. The boy has a thin face, you apologize, and don't mention the word "release the pigeons" in the future.

Have a nice day. o(∩_o~

It's all wrong, but you go and apologize first and see what he does?

Your thinking is indeed extreme, and there are some things in this world that cannot be measured by money (special commodities), such as: how much do you say your parents' love for you is worth? However, in a commodity-economy society, the vast majority of them are mainly measured by value (interests), and it is not surprising that "no profit can not be early", which is currently the most important driving force for social development, or the most important criterion for measuring success.

However, just because interests are the main criterion and the main driving force, we should not make it absolute --- extreme. In daily life, most of the interactions between people are the exchange of interests, which is normal, but sometimes you need to communicate without the main purpose of interests, so that you can adapt to this society, and when you figure it out, there is no need to worry about yourself.

1. Explain that you fully realize the ancient legend that knowledge is power.

2. Prove that you believe too much in what you learned in school, such as measuring value in terms of goods and money.

3. It is related to the current situation of society or the situation you are in, because you do not believe in true love, you may have been hurt by love.

4. Your behavior is related to your character, and you are withdrawn and lonely all your life.

5. If you don't even believe in family affection, it is recommended to go to the Central Nervous Department of the People's Hospital to have a look.

Well, this question is not for you to ask other people, but for yourself.

You think commodities are measured, so how much do you think your life is worth?

How much do you think feelings are worth? Family, friendship, love, do you think you can earn such money in this life?

How much money are you going to pay back???