Tell me about the moment when you suddenly forgave your parents or understood them, right?

There wasn't a moment. When you become a father, every joy you get is your father's satisfaction, and every trouble you encounter is your father's regret. You copy your father's footprint all the time.

It's just that most people can't push others with themselves, and they just blindly feel that they are the most unlucky and unlucky.

No face to blame for not giving me a better life. After all, they have given me all the best they can give, and I have met some people from better families, who need to study hard, perform, get grades, gain trust, and dare not slack off, dare not be excellent, dare not be willful, and dare not make their own choices. On the surface, they are versatile, quick thinking, erudite, well-off, and have a lot of resources, but they are cautious step by step, carefully consider the words, it is best not to have their own interests, and get along with their fathers like a boss to a subordinate, excellent is favored, give you more resources, give you opportunities for self-cultivation, not excellent is a waste.

My parents didn't give me much, but I wasn't good enough to get it, and even if I was in a wealthy family, I was an outcast, and that's it.

After half a year of internship in an early childhood English institution, the parents of the post-80s generation attach great importance to their children's psychological education, so they will have a lot of requirements for teachers, and they are often exhausted when they get along with these children, and they have no energy to care about whether their behaviors have an impact on them. Realizing that it is not easy to bring up children, I can understand them more empathetically, and now I have a good relationship with my parents, and I am really happy.

After I left home for the first time and came out alone, when I made money for the first time, I understood their difficulties, and even felt that they were stronger than me, better than me, this is great, not how much money is made, but the tribulations that life gives them, so much, they are still optimistic about living! Life is already so difficult, they still let their two children live so well, they can't see the wind and frost!

I was dating an ex-boyfriend when I was about to graduate from college. The education is not high, there is no stable job, not high and not handsome, the family is in the countryside, but the character is good, the temper is good, the business is self-motivated, down-to-earth, hard-working, and willing to work. At that time, my parents were very opposed, and they did not hesitate to threaten to sever the relationship, and they were physically and mentally exhausted.

Later, I didn't get together with him, but the reason for the separation was not that my parents were against it, but that even if my parents didn't object, he was very good to me, and I wouldn't be able to get through my part from the bottom of my heart. Now, my brother is about to graduate from college, and when I talk about his finding a partner, the first thing that comes to my mind is not the importance of true love in the foundation of marriage, as long as he likes it. What I value more is some realistic hardware, such as academic qualifications, family background, and work personality.

That is, after realizing my expectations for my future brother-in-law, I understand my parents. The content of marriage is not only love, nor is it just firewood, rice, oil and salt, and no one can say how much influence their respective proportions have on marriage. In a word, your parents are the people who know you in the world, and they know better than you what you like and dislike, or in other words, your three views come from their words and deeds, and what you like and dislike are formed by their influence.

In this way, I understand why parents attach so much importance to practical issues such as economic foundation when their children talk about marriage.

When you will one day find out that you will also become them, it turns out that a person will really leave you, and it turns out that the words "parents", grandparents, grandparents and grandparents will really be eliminated from our dictionary.

It wasn't until one day, when I saw my dad coming back tired and speechless, that I suddenly understood how much this man had paid for me.

After graduating, I stubbornly stayed in the first-tier city to rent a house and start a business, and raised my own pet. A feeling of raising a child by yourself and worrying about it, I really understood a lot of things in an instant.

Probably when I was thinking about choosing a career, I thought about the compromises I had to make for the family, well, probably at that moment, I understood the difficulty of my parents.

Actually, I have a good relationship with my parents, but they have also done some things that I can't forgive, although I don't talk about these things now, but there is actually a hurdle in my heart that I can't get over.

The first is the blind guidance and restraint given to me in my studies. My parents have been suffering since childhood, and they don't have a high level of education, so in their opinion, reading is very important for a child. And in the eyes of their generation, they are not afraid to learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well and go all over the world, this is what their teachers told them, so they have always been very convinced of its correctness.

When I was in high school for Chinese and science, I really didn't understand physics and chemistry, so I really wanted to be assigned to the liberal arts class. Before the liberal arts and sciences division, my academic performance was not bad, and the school I attended happened to be a better science subject. So my parents didn't approve of me enrolling in liberal arts classes at all.

I also tried to communicate with them, but in my father's opinion, as long as you study hard, there is nothing you can't learn. So even though I went to sign up for a liberal arts class myself, he went to school and changed it to a science class for me. After the liberal arts and sciences division, I really couldn't study physics and chemistry, and my academic performance plummeted.

But I had worked hard, but I failed in the college entrance examination and ended up only going to a junior college. Although my work and life are not bad now, every time I think of their arbitrariness, I still feel very aggrieved. They weren't particularly good communicators, so they always put what he thought was good on me, which suffocated me.

The second thing is that my parents urged me to get married。My parents were very conservative parents, so when I was in school, they were adamant that I wouldn't be in a relationship, but when I graduated from college and went into work, they immediately urged me to get married. During that time, they always arranged all kinds of blind dates for me, even if the man had 180 pounds, even if the other party's income was only half of mine, but in their opinion, when they reached the age of marriage, they should get married.

My mom told me directly that it was a shame for him not to get married. Their forced marriage method makes me feel very cheap, and as long as a man is willing to marry me, they will be grateful to Dade.

Although I once forced myself to tell myself that they were urging marriage because they were afraid that I would not marry and be lonely, it also seemed to be for my sake. But their urging to marry really suffocated me, no matter what we talk about, it can be related to marriage. In the end, I just wanted to run away from this home, and in the end I chose to get married because of their pressure.

Even if life is straightened out now, there will be pimples in my heart.

But most of the time, my relationship with my parents is still good, but these two things are the hurdles in my heart that I can't get over, and they are also unspeakable pains.

My parents abandoned me because I was a girl, took me home and slapped me, and no one helped me when I was sick, all of which I still can't forgive them.

One winter I was seriously ill, with a cold and a high fever of nearly 40 degrees. I feel uncomfortable when I sleep at home at night, I cough constantly, and I cough when my family members lie down. Then after coughing for about a few minutes, my dad jumped up (because he slept in the same room because he was poor), slapped me, and yelled at me for making him sleep.

The mother watched coldly from the sidelines, and did not say a word to stop it, and did not say a word the whole time. The vicious look in his eyes when he slapped me was like he saw something so nasty that he wanted to kill me at any moment. I will never forget, dare not forget, and will always remember.

It was then that I had a hatred for my family that was carved into my bones.

No, it's just that they love face more than they love me.

My parents were very patriarchal, and whenever my brother and I quarreled with me since I was a child, they would beat me up first, no matter what the reason. I thought that I would get out of the sea of misery when I grew up and got married, but I didn't expect my parents to secretly take my bride price money and buy a car for my younger brother. It's hard for me to live alone with my children right now, they don't care, and I will never forgive them.

For parents, we have no reason not to forgive, no one is perfect, parents are also ordinary people, and it is inevitable that there are inappropriate places in the process of educating us to grow up, as we are also fathers and mothers, we will find that it is not easy for parents, and we will truly forgive our parents.

What is it that keeps you from forgiving your parents? When I said that as long as they helped me pay the tuition for my freshman year, they didn't listen and didn't allow me to take the college entrance examination, and then the two younger brothers didn't get admitted to the university and let them study, and I paid the tuition.

What is it that keeps you from forgiving your parents? I have an older sister above, and then I was born to my parents who didn't expect to be a daughter again, and I was particularly disappointed, and then I chose to give birth to a third one, and finally a son, I was not treated by my parents at home since I was a child, wearing the clothes that my sister wore, cooking for my younger brother every day, and then junior high school told me not to study, but my grades were better than my sister and my brother's, and I had money to spend money to buy them a key high school, and I had no money to study.

I feel like I have a very good relationship with my parents, and there is nothing that I can't forgive my parents, but I have a friend who really can't forgive my mother.

That's one of my best friends, when she was four years old, her mother was gone, and now he barely knows his mother, and he feels like he was very young, we left him first, and he really can't forgive his mother. But she is still living a good life now, very well alive and well, and I hope he will never care about these things again.

I hope that everyone can be safe, healthy, and happy with their parents.

When I was a child, my younger brother was naughty and was knocked over, but my father beat me up indiscriminately, accusing me of being playful and not taking good care of him.

I defended myself a few words, and my dad kicked me in the back, hitting the door frame with blood streaming down and still a visible scar in the corner of my eye.

If it's a little more off, my eyes won't be saved. Every time I look in the mirror, I inevitably think about it, and I can't forgive my dad.

I think it's just that parents always ignore their children for their own benefit. For example, my family was very poor, and then they didn't let me go to school, and I had to do very well in my studies at that time, and I felt that they ruined my whole life, and I really can't forgive them.

"Let's divorce, and the daughter is yours."

If you want a divorce, then you will take this oil bottle with you! I'll pay for child support, you take her away".

My parents divorced when I was very young, and other families were fighting for custody, so why did it come to me that the two of them were fighting to give up custody.

I had no choice but to grow up with my grandparents, because I couldn't forgive the two of them for the rest of my life, because they didn't deserve it.

This situation is very common in China, and I think you can try to forgive them.

First of all, your parents don't subjectively want to give you away, they are forced, because if they don't send you away, they can't have a son, and in the whole incident, you are the biggest victim, and secondly, they are the ones. After giving birth to children, they were separated, and they were also deeply affected by feudal ideology.

Originally, they don't want to send you away, but they are forced by reality. And you also said that they had said before that they would recognize each other in the future, so you should accept their love.

In fact, your situation is similar to that of many left-behind children who go out to work today. Parents are largely away. This is also forced by life, but as long as they love you in their hearts, you should be considerate of them.

I don't think there are parents who don't love their children, every parent loves their children, and I think they have a hard time. We can't explain why, because it's been so long, and we should be forgiven. When you have children of your own in the future, you will understand that there are no parents who abandon their children without reason.

I think you should forgive your parents if they really love you, they are also your parents after all, aren't they?