About breakups, hurts, how to hurt yourself in a breakup

Such a person can't be a friend, and there is no other role to play except a lover. At first, it was a deception to you, and you became emotional about him, so you will believe it. The end of this story is that he still lives his life, and you continue your life, and the injuries you have suffered are a lesson at that time.

Don't have anything to do with him anymore, there's no point.

There are many good men. Why bother!! Women have to learn to love themselves!!

Speechless, this kind of man is not worth anything for you.

You don't have to have illusions in the first place, because of course women are very fantasizing, so when he stresses it, you have to ask him, why is it stressing this to you? Do you have a crush on you? Why didn't you ask?

Such people should let go sooner and hurt less, and there are some things that some people can't force themselves.

The most important thing in love is honesty.

Since he can't do it to you, it means that he doesn't love you enough.

Let it go sooner, and at least don't let yourself be overwhelmed.

I wish you happiness. Let's go to the good urban community when you have time.

Knowing that you are sad, find a good boy from a new place, and it will be fine soon, I have seen a lot of this kind of scum, and one day I will be struck by lightning, and I know that it is really ...... to deceive people

I can understand your depressed mood, you can change the environment, or you can deliberately force it away, slowly find your own life, and treat him as an ordinary friend.

Vent your emotions appropriately.

Some people believe that adults should control their emotions. Admittedly, this is true, but convergence is not the same as repression. When you fall out of love, you choose to hold all your sorrows in your heart and don't tell others, and it's easy to hold back internal injuries.

In fact, it is not a sign of cowardice to face up to the difficulties encountered by oneself and appropriately seek comfort and advice from relatives and friends. We are not born to be isolated, and sometimes we need a shoulder and a hug from someone else. Why do you cry after falling out of love?

Because crying can push us to face up to the breakup and the fact that we are not superhuman. Only by recognizing yourself can you find a way to change yourself.

2.Learn to be tolerant of yourself.

Making one's heart tough and being tolerant of oneself may sound like a contradiction, but the latter is a prerequisite for the former. It's normal to feel sad, hurt or even scared after a breakup, and venting your emotions is also normal, so if you do, don't feel ashamed or regret about your actions, and accept the other side of yourself tolerantly, and we actually have the power of the other side.

3.Be gentle with everything around you.

Sounds cruel and unfair, right? It is you who are hurt, you who are sad, and you are still expected to be gentle with everything, accept everything, and forgive the imperfections of life, is this reasonable? But you have to understand that not being impatient, not complaining, and living in peace with the world will make our hearts rich and strong, and ultimately we will really benefit.

Note that gentleness here does not mean that you are deliberately suppressing your emotions. Emotions are forced on the heart and not released, and the suppression of emotions makes the surface seem calm, but the heart slowly collapses in the anxiety day after day. We need to digest our negative emotions in order to achieve true inner peace.

A person who is often willful and unreasonable does not actually love himself, and it is precisely because he does not know self-love that he will constantly torture each other and ask for love from the other party. A person who has always been depressed after a broken love does not love himself, because even if you torture yourself, he will not let you return to his side out of pity; Even if you pretend to be strong and don't let others see the flaws, you always pretend to be bitter in your heart, which is not good for yourself.

How hurtful is the breakup? So today I will talk about the topic of breakup in detail, we all describe the breakup as a heart-rending pain, I don't know if you have considered this problem in a moment, that is, the pain caused by the breakup, is it a real pain, or just a psychological effect. In 2003, the University of California.

A study done at the University of Berkeley showed that the pain was real. We say heartache, and the heart really hurts, and every time you think about breaking up, that heartache comes again. Next, let's talk about how much psychological damage a breakup has.

First, I think there's a best analogy for an invisible amputation. We often compare our partner to a part of ourselves, so when you break up, it's like you suddenly lose one of your hands, or lose one of your legs. We are used to the person around us, just as we are used to doing things with our hands, and we are used to having two feet on the ground.

When we lose him, we also lose a part of our self-identity. In addition to sadness, we will also have the strongest feeling, that is, we don't know how to live, our work seems to have no direction, we don't know why, and we become helpless when we return home, and we don't know what to do. Then I started thinking back to what I was doing when the two of us were together.

When you get through this period of confusion, you will enter the probationary period, and we accept the fact that our partner no longer exists, but it will take us quite a while to learn to live alone, and we will get used to it as if this person never existed.

Second, on a deeper level, the breakup actually deeply hurt the self-esteem of both parties.

If you are the party who proposes to break up, you may be annoyed by your impulsiveness, you will question your cruelty, and you will feel guilty about the harm you have caused to the other party, if you are the party who is proposed to break up, you may feel that you may not be worthy of love, you may feel that you may have many shortcomings, and you may feel that you are unable to grasp your feelings, this kind of self-esteem damage is actually difficult to win back through realistic achievements, and you may only be able to make up for such trauma through the next relationship, and in the end, no matter how deep the hurt is, what I can't kill will eventually make me stronger.

We don't need to stop at regrets, but also focus on growth, through this relationship, we understand ourselves more deeply, what do we need? What do we lack? And what do we get?

The breakup is very hurtful, and it will make the whole person very sad, very sad, will often fall into sad emotions and can't extricate themselves, will make their mood very depressed, and will often miss each other.

If two people have a very strong relationship, it is indeed sad for them to break up at this time, but even if they break up, we should work hard to help ourselves get back on the right track of life, and don't be too attached to some things that we can't get, which is very irresponsible for our life development.

It can be very sad for men and women to break up, and they will not be able to get out for a long time, which is a huge blow to some persistent women, and it may also be sluggish.