How to see through a stranger, how to enhance your ability to observe

See more people.

When it reaches a certain level, it is natural to feel it.

After seeing a person, I think of what I have been exposed to before, and analyze what characteristics she has.

Socializing requires gaining experience. When the number of common contacts in your phone exceeds 500, you will graduate.

You can start by introducing yourself to the other person, talking about what you like, when you say something you like, observing his facial expression, whether he feels impatient, or perfunctory, or listening carefully to what you say, if it's the first two, this person may be less interested in what you say, and his personality may be more direct. If it's the latter, then this person either has a common hobby with you or the city is very deep If you want to understand more deeply, you need more contact If you want to understand a person, you can't conclude from the first impression You can only make a general judgment from his behavior and expression If you want to analyze this person in detail, you need more contact!

If you look at TV, the expressions of the characters on TV are all exaggerated amplifications of the expressions of the characters in reality.

But first you have to be careful.

Books can be read, but it's better to observe them carefully. The book is a theory, and you have to be able to apply it.

Buy the book and go for ---Face Analysis".

Recently, there is an American drama that is more popular, and the translation of "lie to me" into Chinese is "Don't Lie to Me" or "A Thousand Lies", which should be very helpful to you

I recommend you check out Conan Doyle's book "Sherlock Holmes".

Look at his expression, look at the details of his dealings. Don't just take the other person's word for it.

Learn more about her background, talk more, say something tentative, and observe her reactions (language, voice, speech rate, expressions, behavior).

Observe more, think positively, summarize in a timely manner, and be prepared.

You can talk with every gesture.

In order to develop and improve observation skills, pay attention to the following:

1. Clarify the purpose and task of observation.

Before observing things, you should understand what you want to observe and the results you want to obtain, and make a careful plan to make the purpose and task of observation concrete. In this way, in the process of observation, we will distinguish priorities and focus more attention on relevant things, so as to obtain a clear and deep impression.

2. Learn to observe things in all directions.

In the process of observation, we should not look here and there, but should observe in a planned and orderly manner according to the purpose and task of observation, not only pay attention to the combination of surface (overall) points (details), but also pay attention to the similarities, differences and connections between various parts of things, and learn to observe things from different angles and sides. You know, sometimes you can get different impressions when you look at the same thing from different angles, sides, and distances.

3. Carefully keep a record of observations.

In the process of observation, it is necessary to make a record by means of words, drawings, tabulation, or photography. In this way, the information written down can be used when needed.

Fourth, we should be good at accumulating knowledge and experience, and pay attention to accumulating knowledge and experience through study and practice.