Why do I hate visiting relatives?

I don't have relatives to hate, and the more relatives go, the closer they get!

I don't hate it, it's just that I don't have the money and the ability to visit.

I don't have time to receive, I have a class to go to, I have a wife to accompany, I have a daughter to coax, I have a game to play, I don't have time to chase after the anime, you say I'm free to take care of your seven aunts and eight aunts!

My husband's uncle is separated from our house by a wall, the family has no other hobbies, is particularly greedy and cheap, uncle is driving a bus, every time he encounters a person on the car dropped his mobile phone, he will pick it up immediately, according to himself once the conductor picked up a mobile phone and asked out loud who it was, he was still very dissatisfied, thinking that the conductor was a fool, although this has nothing to do with me, but I don't think he has any professional ethics at all.

There is a family in my neighborhood who is domineering and pointing fingers, and the affairs of relatives should be solved by themselves, and you can help, but you can't be above others, and you should also discuss with them, and as a result, things are messed up, and the relationship between relatives is also stiffened.

The concept of "relatives" was too sacred to me, but when I came into contact with my relatives, I found that almost none of them could understand me, so I decided to keep my relatives in my heart and not want to face them.

Blindly asking: As long as you know some people in society and have some resources, you can't wait to find you for everything. And it won't be just one thing.

I will find you every time something happens, and I'm sure many of you have heard of some strange relatives who live at home for a few months. This is the kind of person who has seriously disturbed the lives of others.

My dad's biggest wish now is that my brother can compete a little harder, study hard, and be able to do more in the future! Because I was much older than my brother, my grandmother didn't like me very much when I was a kid because I wasn't a son.

My husband and aunt belong to that kind of special power of people, when my husband was still studying before, the family was poor, how far away was I hiding, it was the feeling of despising you very much, after my husband started working, he began to be close to you again, and it was really difficult for me to have a good impression of such a family.

My mom was very fond of his siblings, which is why she contributed to these trends! He doesn't like his aunt and uncle very much, because she herself feels bullied in the years she used to get married, but she will do what she has to do, every time she will buy clothes for the children and food, and buy clothes for the second aunt.

Not generous enough. Relatives should be generous and generous, if the family is angry, things will not be good. I know that there is a family of relatives who often chatter about some trivial things that can't catch chopsticks.

As a result, people were also offended, and nothing was done. The main reason is that it is not generous enough and not atmospheric.

Hating the poor and loving the rich: These can be felt at the family gathering for the Chinese New Year every year. The good mix is always the center, and those "relatives" will often gather around them, and at the same time flatter, they will also elevate a person by belittling others.

Treat people who are not particularly good, and there is no good face. Even if you're better off than they are.

The seven aunts and eight aunts who celebrate the New Year and the holidays get together to discuss this and that, and I feel like I am being interrogated, which makes me disgusted, like a prisoner.

Some relatives are afraid that you will have a better life than her, so they deliberately come to get involved in your family affairs, and never give any good advice. If you can sow discord, you can absolutely sow discord, and if you can't sow discord, you have to choose to create opportunities. Such relatives, if they are far away as soon as possible, there is no need to come and go again, it will only add to their own troubles.

Showing off in front of his relatives, and all kinds of comparisons and sarcasm, such behavior will only make others very disgusted. After all, for 30 years in Hedong and 30 years in Hexi, I don't know who is good and who is bad in the end, so why do you do this job? Show off in front of you, and make all kinds of sarcasm to you.

Such relatives still stayed away from him early.

In life, the relatives who look down on you in their hearts will treat you in this way, so stay away as soon as possible.

For example, he will like to get involved in your family affairs, and he will also love to come up with bad ideas, and he will not see that you are better off than him; He will also show off in front of you and make all kinds of sarcasm to you to prove that he is better off than you, or has the ability, etc. When you meet such a relative, it is better to keep your distance, and if you come and go too much, you will add to your heart.

Besides, such relatives would not have been of any help to you, so there is no need to give up just because they are relatives. Life is so tiring, why bother for unnecessary people? Even if you are a relative, you don't have to interact with each other anymore, you can only add trouble to yourself.

01 Ignore it and calm down.

We can ignore the pointing and contempt of the people around us, and we have nothing to be sorry for them.

The more you deal with unreasonable people, the more you feel like a fool, why? Because those people's time is not valuable, they have a lot of time to look down on others, point fingers at others, and also have a lot of time to entangle with you, instead of wasting their precious time on these bad people and bad things, it is better to do something useful for their present or future.

Ignoring bad people and bad things can also put yourself at ease, there are more bad people and bad things in this world, and there is no shortage of them, as long as you put your mind at ease, these little things are nothing, as long as they don't directly offend us.

The more you entangle with those people, the more you will gain more than you lose, and it is the king to calm down and live yourself, how can Jin Yu be mixed with the mud.

02Learn to forget about things that may affect your mood and focus on improving yourself.

Isn't it to humiliate you by looking down on the people who point fingers at you? Their purpose is to influence your mood, and the worse your mood is, the happier they are, and the more they have a sense of superiority.

Therefore, let's not let them succeed, as long as the heart is stronger, their bad intentions will not make us feel bad.

For the things that affect our mood, we must learn to forget, focus on doing our own things, we live for ourselves, not for the eyes of others, we only focus on constantly improving ourselves, and some people look down on it is only sour.

03 Compare with yourself, not with others.

When you're at a low point, compare yourself to others.

If you compare yourself to others, it means that you want to be someone else, and you will never be someone else. If you compare yourself to yourself, it means that you want to be a better version of yourself, and one day you will really become a better version of yourself.

Besides, compared with others, it is compared to endless troubles; Compared with oneself, it is the progress of one day at a time. If you make a little improvement today compared to yesterday, then you have won a lot of people; If you improve this year compared to last year, then you have achieved a lot; If you make great progress in the future than you do now, then you will succeed.

Comparing yourself with yourself is progress, and comparing yourself with others is infuriating, because you will never be sure to become someone else, but you may become a better version of yourself.

04Be content and be happy, stay positive and optimistic.

People who are not content and happy generally like to compare with others, and they are most afraid of being looked down upon by the people around them, but in the end, because they are enchanted in their hearts, they can't change their state and can't arouse their positive and optimistic attitude.

Contentment is not actually to stop you, but to lower the unrealistic desires in your heart, too many desires are pressed on your heart, too many desires and can not be realized is no different from fantasy, how can you feel happy? How can you possibly be positive?

For those who look down on you, no matter who you are, there is no need to associate with them, because if you associate with them, he will also dislike you, so that he will be very depressed and unhappy. If relatives take the initiative to associate with you, you can get in the way of interacting with them, but if they don't take the initiative and look down on you, don't come to them, try to do your own thing with less contact.

Interactions between people are still based on dignity, and they will not interact without dignity. What's more, relatives, relatives look down on you and buy it is a trampling on your dignity!

The elders are not respectful to the elderly, so why should you respect him, disrespect but you can't say anything, after all, it is an elder, there is a generation there, in this case you can only turn around and leave, there is nothing to talk about with this kind of elder, a cut is the best way!

If it is a snobbish relative, when you are developed, he will come back and take the initiative to recognize your relatives. At that time, he will help you regain the dignity you lost in him, and he will pay it back even more!

Young people, work hard for your dignity! Relatives can be discarded for a while, for the sake of their own career, do not focus on such boring things!

Of course, you won't move around a lot anymore, because you feel that you have been hurt, and the other party looks down on you, so why let go of your dignity? Unless you really need their help with something, you can put it down and be patient.

No, because the premise of moving around is that the relationship is better, if relatives are like this, there is no need to move around at all, and even not as good as friends.

I don't move around often, it's good to be able to pass on face, work hard quietly, and surprise everyone.

My relatives always felt that they looked down on me and didn't want to communicate with me. They don't want to ignore the fact that too many rich people look down on their poor relatives.

If they feel uncomfortable, they can try not to communicate with the other person. However, people's marriages fall under normal kinship. If they don't go, it's not good.

If they don't go, they may actually break off the relationship.

There will be no contact. Finally cut off contact with such a snobbish relative.

If your problem is due to your financial problems, which causes your relatives not to move around with you, then your relatives may be more material and do not need to interact with each other anymore.

If they look down on you, then I won't contact them, unless one day I make a fortune, then maybe I'll tell him that you all looked away back then.

Every year during the Chinese New Year, in addition to the family reunion and reunion, visiting relatives and friends is also a thing that everyone does, but during this period, we always meet some annoying relatives and don't want to associate with them at all.

It is a big custom to visit relatives during the Spring Festival, when relatives get together, some relatives will always ask some strange questions, compared to these, it is better to stay at home alone or go out for a walk. When I was young, my relatives would always ask, "How did you do in the final exam?" Did you make it to the top three?

Can you get into a good school?"

I thought that after we graduated, we would not be asked those questions again, but when we went out to work, they would ask, "How much is the salary a month?" Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend? When I have a boyfriend or girlfriend, I will ask when I will have a baby and so on, sometimes it is really a headache, in addition, there are some relatives who are also annoying!

Relatives who borrowed money.

Every time it comes to the New Year, in fact, it is the time when everyone wants money, for example, if someone borrows your money in this year, they may care about this person during the New Year. Because this is also a custom of the Chinese, if the money cannot be recovered, the development may not be very smooth next year.

And if there are relatives who will borrow money from you during the Chinese New Year. Then I believe that the person who is borrowed will not be happy, because the Chinese pay the most attention to these customs, and they are afraid that they will not gain anything in the next year, so they definitely do not want to lend you. So it's really annoying not to ask others to borrow money during the Chinese New Year.

Greed is bottomless, a relative of a white-eyed wolf.

It is appropriate for relatives to help each other, but it should also be for emergencies rather than the poor. If you help him, but he doesn't know how to be grateful, and asks you to help again and again, once you stop, he will treat you as an enemy. The relative of this white-eyed wolf, it is best to stay away from it.

Relatives of the complaining type.

No one can always have smooth sailing in life, but after some people come to your house, they can't wait to confide in you all the grievances she has suffered in her life, for fear that you will not be able to empathize with her experience. Like no money, children are not angry, husbands are disobedient, etc., when you encounter this kind of relative, you must branch your own children, don't let your children accept too much negative energy, it is not good for children's physical and mental development.

However, visiting relatives is indeed a must-do for the Spring Festival, and we must also be polite, greet adults first, and smile even if you don't know how to call them, so that you are a polite person in the eyes of others. In short, there will be a bunch of things to deal with when going to relatives, to deal with a bunch of problems, and to be entangled by many, many children, but we still have to have a good attitude, after all, they are all relatives.