Why do you always encounter the same thing after a blind date?

First, your own problems, which you can only think about yourself, when you get along with the girl, what things you have said, which ones are problematic, or which ones will cause misunderstandings.

Second, you said that the number of blind dates you have is not much, so what's the hurry, if it's really so easy to pull one directly on the street, this kind of thing is on both sides, you and I can, so don't be discouraged, you haven't touched your half yet.

Third, girls nowadays are very practical, your job, your parents, whether you have a car, whether you have a house, I don't know what your situation is, although the above things may be too materialistic, but wouldn't it be better to have them, which woman doesn't like self-motivated, powerful men?

Don't be too inferior, it's nothing. Isn't there a next time?

Blind dates are skillful

First of all, the parents and elders introduced it, and they are really stressed to stare at it.

Mainly because the elders are also acquaintances of acquaintances, the object of their introduction has at least a basic understanding of the situation, and then you and the blind date are still in a state of confusion, and the parents hope that the two of you have become a matter of course, this pressure is unbearable for ordinary people, so it often forms the effect of the opposite of things.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is not the same as that of young people.

What parents see is that it is better to have a stable job and a house, and the aesthetic standards are even different, and young people hope to gradually understand each other in getting along, and it is important to be able to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents cannot participate in, so the success rate of blind dates is even lower.

Clause. 3. Stage fright, or maybe it's embarrassing.

Everyone's personality is different, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a bucket of ants and strangers, as calm as a nobody, like facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, since childhood, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers, so they resist the contact of strangers in their hearts.

It's like a person who is afraid of heights, and he can't see heights; It's like a person with a phobia of density who can't see dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of the heart, not to be controlled and changed.

And many parents don't understand very well, thinking that blind dates are just a trivial matter, is it necessary to be so repulsive?

There are also some people who are not good at words, although they are usually very arrogant, but when they see strangers, they are immediately timid, unnatural, and do not know what to say or what to talk about. So it made the atmosphere very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape, and after experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different, and what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

Clause. Fourth, the most important reason is that you will feel very shameless.

Men and women, sometimes vanity is at work. In the face of blind dates, many people will have this mentality: "It's not that I don't want it, why do I have to go on a blind date?" ”

As a result, many people think that only people who can't find a partner will go on a blind date.

Why can't I find an object? It shows that he is not good enough, so everyone will think that if he goes on a blind date, he proves that he is not good enough.

Then I was worried that my relatives and friends around me would find out about it, and they would laugh at themselves, and I would feel very shameless after being passed on.

Even if blind dates are already very common, even if many people can accept them, but in the deepest part of their hearts, there will be more or less such scruples and worries.

Especially young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger, and everyone is so good-looking, so no one wants to lose face.

1. When you reach the age of marriage.

Although many people think that there is no age to get married, only the feelings of marriage. However, for most ordinary people, if they have not yet married at a certain age, in addition to the anxiety of the family, they are actually very anxious. Some people reach the age of marriage and have no partner, so they want to find their other half through blind dates, and the ultimate goal of their blind date is to get married.

2. Don't want to waste time.

Some people choose to go on a blind date just to find a suitable person to live with. If you fall in love step by step, it will waste a lot of time, and you will not necessarily get married in the end. Simply, at the age when others are in love, study hard and work hard, and spend all your time in these places, naturally you don't have time to fall in love.

The purpose of the blind date is very strong, that is, to get married, which is very suitable for these people. If you go on a blind date, you can get married if you get along properly, and if you don't want to separate, no one loses.

3. Find the right person.

It is undeniable that blind dates are not accepted by young people. However, there is an essential difference between falling in love and getting married, and the purpose of a blind date is to get married, so as not to waste each other's time, and to be able to quickly find the right person. After all, a blind date requires both parties to explain each other's situation, and then the two people get to know each other well, if appropriate, marriage is a quick thing.

If you get married, you will be more likely to be happy with the right person.

Although the ultimate goal of blind date is to get married, you need to have such a cognition in your heart, that is, the blind date is just a way to broaden your understanding and find a partner, just a channel to know the opposite sex, not that you don't need to get married if you don't need to know each other well, the most important premise of blind date marriage is to like each other and have an emotional foundation.

1.Inconsistent expectations: Parents and elders often have very high expectations, and this expectation is often based on the imagination of the future daughter-in-law or son-in-law, but in reality it is difficult to find a quarrelster who fully matches the expectations.

2.Differences in personal tastes and hobbies: Different people have different aesthetics and hobbies, and parents and elders may misestimate their children's inner independence because of their religious beliefs and different social circles.

3.Mismatch of the other party's identity: The reason why parents and elders are introduced to blind dates is because they feel that the background and experience of the other half are consistent with their children, but sometimes this kind of matching is only based on superficial factors such as education, annual salary, family background, etc., and ignores whether the two people really have something in common and attractiveness.

4.Lack of communication and understanding: The role of parents and elders is to act as introductions, but their understanding of each other is often very limited, and may only be some fundamental information, and it is difficult to fully express a person's personality and characteristics.

The lack of sufficient understanding and communication makes it difficult for two people to find opportunities to find common topics and exchanges.

5.Time and place restrictions: Parents and elders often only arrange blind dates on specific occasions, such as festivals, class reunions, etc., and it is difficult for two people to have enough time and space to get to know each other.

In addition, the work and life arrangements of two people may also make their time and place less free and flexible.

I have a few insights:

1.Know your needs and the criteria for finding a partner: If you go on a blind date many times, you will be more aware of your needs and the criteria for the partner you want to find.

2.Enhance your awareness of interpersonal relationships: The blind date process is to come into contact with many people who are not brothers, which can give you a deeper understanding of the complexity and difficulty of interpersonal relationships, and can also improve your social skills.

3.A more rational and mature view of love: Blind dates will increase rational thinking about love and marriage. After the blind date has been promoted many times, more and more people will look at their feelings and the object of their future choice more rationally and maturely.

4.Learn more about people and experiences: Blind dates may allow you to meet more people and have more life experiences, which can broaden your horizons and improve your life experience and life wisdom.

5.Learn to refuse and accept: After a blind date many times, you will know how to reject an inappropriate person more clearly, and you will be more courageous to face and accept your feelings when you are smiling.

6.Don't give up hope: Although you may encounter many failures and setbacks during the blind date process, through this process, you can cherish your feelings more and at the same time firmly believe that you will find the most suitable partner.

In short, although blind date is a challenging process, it is also an opportunity to grow and improve yourself. Don't give up hope easily, it is worth looking forward to and waiting for the person you are most suitable for will eventually meet.