I thought I d been talking to my boyfriend for four years, and now my family doesn t agree with it,

Parents still take pictures of their children no matter what.

So do I.

But I thought I agreed.

You must have not talked to your parents right away when you were dating.

That's your mistake.

Work hard. Talk to your parents about its advantages.

I wish you every success.

I'm going to face your current problem in the future, I've been in love for three years and my family doesn't know yet, and it's unfair to my boyfriend when I think about it! But there's no way I'm still studying now, and my family didn't allow me to fall in love before I graduated, they always told me to come out to work in the future and then look for it slowly, and it has to go through the consent of many relatives, do you think I'm miserable?

Actually, I didn't dare to tell them because my boyfriend and I had the same surname, which is not recognized by us, so I was so conflicted! But I really love him, and now that I'm about to graduate, I don't know how to tell them about it!!

Are you getting married or are your family getting married? Of course, ignore the family.

I've been together for four years, I should be the right person for you, why give up? Don't let your family dominate you.

You know what you feel best, and if you feel it's worth it, work hard, and don't let yourself regret it.

I wish you all happiness.

It depends on what you think is more important over there. Or choose for yourself.

1. You must suppress your troubles now, because in this case, you will target your worries at your parents, and your parents will disagree. Because they feel that it was your boyfriend who taught you "bad". will exclude your boyfriend even more.

2. You should find an opportunity to ask your parents calmly as much as possible about what they want you to look for. Remember to endure the process, even if they say something that upsets you, hold back the fire.

3. After knowing what your parents value from time to time, you have to deliberately pretend from time to time that you have no intention of saying that your boyfriend is good, and other good things can also be said.

In fact, parents don't want their children to be happy, they just want them to live happily in the future, everything is safe, you have to use your words and deeds to show your parents that your boyfriend can make you happy.

Go more with your own feelings Don't want your parents to want to give up when they say something.

As long as your relationship remains the same, you don't care what your family says, they will definitely accept it in the end, maybe now they are testing you!

Why did your family disagree after four years of talking, did you ask what the reason was?

Since two people love each other, they have to work together to overcome difficulties.

It is your husband who will live with you for the rest of your life, not your parents.

Therefore, your parents should not interfere too much in emotional matters.

As long as you think you'll be happy with him.

Let your parents know that you're making the right choice.

Hold on with him and hope you are happy.

Living is a matter for a pair of lovers, not a matter for the parents of lovers, so you two have to cherish it yourself.

It's that you're getting married, you're choosing a boyfriend, and he's going to spend the rest of your life with you. So who else would you like to hear now?

I think that after the breakup, under normal circumstances, the parents already knew, and it can't be said that the parents broke up without knowing it, and generally the contradictions before the breakup have been very intensified, not to say that the breakup happened to one thing, so the parents have heard about it, and they already know it.

1. Parents will know sooner or later, and when parents know instead of knowing from you for the first time, what kind of situations and phenomena do you imagine will appear.

2. Parents are the people who know your character best, from childhood to adulthood, parents are the people who have been with you for the longest time, and they can see at a glance what you are thinking. So when you communicate with your parents, you can get more comfort from them.

3. Parents will communicate with you verbally, help you relieve the sadness in your heart, analyze the reasons for your breakup, analyze the inappropriateness between you, and avoid the same mistake last time when you are dating.

So as to sum up the experience, instead of being sad for someone who does not belong to you.

4. Sometimes, there is still a certain generation gap between you and your parents, and they don't understand your current life, so when you communicate with your parents, try to be easy to understand.

5. If you don't want to disappoint your parents too much, you can re-associate with someone who is suitable, and as a parent, I just hope that you will start a family as soon as possible, and I hope you can find a reliable person who suits you, and it doesn't have to be with anyone.

If you don't know something, you can tell your parents directly, and there is no need to hide anything, because sooner or later they will know.

Hello subject! First give you a warm hug in the air to soothe your flustered mind. Let's take a look at your question.

You say you're 25 years old and have a boyfriend you've been talking to for over 5 years. During the relationship, there were no major quarrels or conflicts between the two of you, but now you two have reached the age of talking about marriage. Your parents know about the two of you, and your parents have also seen the boy, and they think that the boy is very simple, very smart, and sensible, but they just think that his own conditions are not good.

To have academic qualifications without academic qualifications; To look good and not look good; If you want a family background, you don't have a family background; To work there is no good job. The parents really don't look down on the boy, they can only say that he is a good person and can allow the two of you to talk to him, but they can't marry their daughter to him. The boy asked to come to the door many times to talk about marriage, but your parents refused, so it dragged on for more than a year, and your boyfriend was also under pressure from his family, and now he especially wants to come to talk about marriage.

Your boyfriend also thinks that your parents don't want you to be together at all. If you go with him then, your boyfriend will accept it; If the marriage can't be negotiated and you can't decide, then break up. Don't you know what to do?

Do you feel that the relationship between the two of you is really inseparable, but you don't understand that you feel inseparable? Or does your boyfriend feel? Or do you both feel it?

You have to understand if he is the person you are going to marry in your life? This is very important, because if you get married, it means that you have to live with him for the rest of your life, and the person you choose is the person you want to spend your life with. From your description, from your parents' point of view, it seems that you don't like your boyfriend at all, so from your point of view, what do you like about your boyfriend?

Although you said that your parents are very strong and conservative, I believe that your parents absolutely love you. They pull you up with a handful of and urine, and raise so much, they must love you, and of course they hope you can be happy. You can tell your parents about certain characteristics of yourself that you value your boyfriend, see if he will recognize the good things about your boyfriend in your heart, and whether he will change his opinion of your boyfriend, and then make the next steps according to the situation.

Subject, good luck! May mine be helpful to you! The world and I love you!

Love represents this pain. There are also a lot of waves.

Believe that you can cross these waves.

Your happiness is in your own hands, not your family's hands.

As long as you really love each other, no one can separate you, unless you have been shaken, why don't you agree without your mother, it's strange, the main thing is to see how this person is, my friend's father is an orphan, her father is super good to her mother, she always shows off how happy their family is, in fact, people who lack maternal love will treat you better.

You tell your parents, "I've cooked raw rice with him."

The scolding is ironclad, but there is no way to do it.

Unless you have a way to find another man

I can accept this from you.

My personal opinion.

The best way to stay with him is to elope.

However, I advise you to hide your love in the bottom of your heart! I'm from here, my experience is the same as yours, I was with him, started a business together, and then the career was successful, he took out the old saying, saying how my parents looked down on him, he didn't want to see my parents anymore, always looking for trouble, and in the end, we divorced, and the family was mainly because you were too young.

And the purpose of your boyfriend's family letting you get the certificate.

It's just that I want to ask for more money for Lagao.

The family's opposition is not unreasonable.

You are too young to enter into marriage early at the age of love.

You will regret it in the future. Although you have been in love for three years.

How do you know if he's going to change?

What if he gets the certificate and gets the money, and he regrets it.

If you go to divorce, you are married for the second time.

You understand who is looking for a boyfriend. It's you, not your family. Your boyfriend came over for you.

Ordinary people can't do it, and what your family's impression of him depends mainly on what you tell your family. I don't think you have figured out the family, who else is perfect? No one, just because of stinginess?

It's ridiculous. Just because of this, you don't stay with others? You'd better enlighten your family and discuss how to behave with your boyfriend.

Make a good impression on your family. My wife and I were like this at the beginning, because we were not in the same city, and there were many things. Her family didn't agree either, and now with the efforts of my wife and me, her family is kind to me and helps me in sometimes quarrels.

Actually, the main person is you. Hehe, think about how to do it.

Let's listen to your parents first.

Separated, her face is important or your happiness is important, and it is not easy to be a stepmother. Believe me. Hurry up.

This seems to be able to call the police and say that he is sexually harassed.

Hello subject! From your description, your boyfriend is very good to you, you want your parents to recognize his goodness, you want to get the support and blessing of your parents, but your parents' dissatisfaction makes you feel very uncomfortable, and you understand your feelings very well.

In the description, you listed the age gap (maybe a wife), the family is out of town, the family does not have a house, the other parents cannot give financial support, what do you think you can change in the points that these parents are not satisfied with?

In addition to the age gap and the fact that the family is out of town, the two factors of no house at home and poor family conditions can basically be attributed to the lack of money. This aspect can be changed through its own efforts, so the key is whether it can be changed? Think about it.

Your description is full of patience, there is no description of the boyfriend himself, and the parents did not say whether his character is suitable, whether he is motivated, whether he has character problems, and whether he has responsibilities are not mentioned, but he vetoed this person according to his economy and age, is it too one-sided? And a person's personality is a very important factor in your future married life, which is directly related to whether you can have a happy life.

It's like arguing like you find a man with good family conditions, but after getting married, let you do housework alone to raise children, talk to you machismo, or have character problems, do you want this to be the day?

Suggestion, according to your own situation analysis, whether your boyfriend can become a qualified boyfriend and husband, and whether you can bear the pressure of your married life is actually more important.

Hope it will be useful to you, good luck!