Is it innate to have poor interpersonal skills?

It is generally caused by acquired reasons.

Human beings are thinking animals, and in the interaction between people, we must improve our communication skills, so that we will be like a fish in water in life.

Honesty: Don't brag, the biggest taboo of being a friend is bragging, as the saying goes, it takes a hundred lies to brag about a bull. Bragging doesn't do you any good at all, and it will be annoying after a long time.

Don't tell right and wrong: Don't always say that this person is not good, that person is not good, once the wall has ears, others will think that you are narrow.

Credit: If you can't do something, don't promise others, otherwise others will blame you if you don't do it, so do what you can.

Smile: Always keep a smiling face so that others will feel comfortable seeing you, even if you're not pretty. If you're beautiful, you have a natural advantage socially.

Politeness: No one likes to swear friends, unless you are often out of the mix will have a ruffian, otherwise less swearing, will make you appear a lot more mature. When you see someone, you have to take the initiative to say hello, and when someone greets you, you have to respond.

Empathy: Thinking about a problem from the perspective of others and yourself can improve the depth of your thinking about the problem and the way you deal with the world. You can gain the trust and patience of your friends.

Patience: Friends trust each other and rely on each other, if friends are in difficulty, they must be enthusiastic and patient to help, when friends are in a bad mood to chat with you, we must have patience to listen and speak less. Just like parents are as patient as they are with their children, only with sincerity will they be patient.

Diligence can make up for clumsiness, and the natural ones do have some advantages!

No, a person who lacks socialization, no circle, and no friends, if he continues like this for a long time, will close himself off, become less confident, and dare not go out to communicate and interact with others. It is even possible that finding a job has become a problem. A lonely person without friends and friends has a great impact on his growth.

For example, if you can't get in touch with people and things, you can't grow faster, and you don't even know how to communicate correctly when you communicate with others. This is the state of a person who has no circle and is often alone. Of course, it's not completely absolute.

The meaning of the above content is explained As the saying goes, self-cultivation, family harmony, and governing the country and leveling the world mean that everything starts with oneself. Such people often don't have a very good temper, and they may be a little patient with others, but they are very bad for their families. Always remember not to leave your worst temper to the people who love you the most, your loved ones, your friends, who sometimes point out your shortcomings and shortcomings directly, and only they will tell you.

Because they are genuinely good to you, and they want you to correct it. So, don't be impatient, don't lose your temper, calm down and think. What they say is right must be accepted with an open mind, and if you think what they say is wrong, you can also communicate, and losing your temper will never solve the problem.

For poor social skills, no one can be born a social master, they are all slowly trained. The more afraid you are, the less confident you are, the less confident you are, the less you dare to communicate with others, you must break this vicious circle, dare to try, read more books in this area, and learn some social skills. Say it out loud!

Nothing, I believe you will get better and better!

Do people really need to socialize?

The answer is yes.

Psychologists have done isolation experiments, where they put people in specially made jars, one jar for each person;

Wear plastic glasses that blur vision to reduce the use of vision;

Wear cardboard gloves and sleeve coverings that limit your sense of touch to reduce your movements;

Strengthen indoor sound insulation to reduce hearing;

They were cut off from everything but their minds.

What will happen to them?

They are restless, distracted, distracted, and unable to think as a normal person.

Through the analysis of brain waves, it was found that all their activities were seriously out of balance, and some even had hallucinations.

This experiment proves that people are inseparable from the environment.

Lost contact with the real world, and lost contact with yourself.

To be connected to others is also to be connected to ourselves.

People are inseparable from social interaction.

From the time we babble, we are influenced by our environment, and even at home, we are still connected to the world.

So how do you socialize comfortably?

1.Speak with your brain; Sometimes the mouth is faster than the brain, but the brain is prone to error, so don't answer the call too quickly and think about it.

2.Stay away from people with ulterior motives; Adult interactions, often with utilitarianism, some people have more eyes, with this kind of person is easy to be used as a gun, meet this kind of person to play 200 spirit, really can't play, you have to keep your distance.

3.Don't complain about established facts; For example, the leader's remarks and opinions, for you there are only two options, implement or timely advice, many things to complain about is useless, it will only consume yourself.

4.Don't talk too much about your own personal affairs; Private matters will only be told as jokes to others, and it will not do you any good, but everyone has a desire to talk about it, maybe you can write it down, or talk to someone you trust.

There will always be things in life that you don't want to do, don't like, but you have to do.

You have two options; One is to do it with emotion, and the other is to find a way to make it acceptable to you.

People with poor social skills are easily flustered, lack of assertiveness, open-mouthed, jealousy, and self-pity.

1. It's easy to panic when something happens.

Poor interpersonal skills are manifested in the inability to effectively control and manage one's emotions in the face of difficulties or emergencies, and become the master of one's own scattered emotions, but are controlled by emotions, which may cause great stress and emotions to the body and mind.

2. Lack of assertiveness in case of trouble.

People with high emotional intelligence can quickly find and establish a balance between people and things, control their emotions, and will not mess up other things for emotional reasons, and will not affect work and other people. They can create an appropriate sense of distance between people, which has the power to control the initiative and assert their own claims.

3. The mouth is not blocked.

People with high emotional intelligence should consider some words before speaking, whether they can say this. Instead of spit out quickly regardless of the occasion or the crowd. An open-mouthed person, it is easy to see from the details of life that his attitude towards life is not serious, unsteady, and an unreliable person.

4. Be jealous of others.

People with low emotional intelligence are prone to a sense of imbalance, and even lead to slander and hurt others, and ultimately bring unnecessary trouble to themselves and others.

5. Self-pity.

People who are depressed, have negative thoughts, and have high emotional intelligence will never fall into it after making mistakes or problems, but actively learn from them and improve themselves without doing anything, let alone fall in the same place twice.

1. Participate in various sports activities.

Sport is a group activity in which people are directly in contact with and compete. Physical activity requires not only wisdom and strength, but also courage. This courage is an essential element of interpersonal communication.

Regular participation in various sports activities is not only conducive to improving physical fitness, but also conducive to cultivating interests, and also conducive to improving communication skills.

2. Travel.

In the tour, you can directly contact some new objects, understand the new communication content, the end of the tour, the knowledge is broad, and there are more things to talk about, which adds a topic to the future communication.

3. Consciously train the ability to speak.

The core of communicative ability is the ability to speak, because the most direct form of communication is to speak, not to speak, not to speak, how to communicate? If you can say it skillfully and answer it well, the possibility of success in your communication will naturally be greater. can often come up with some ambiguous debate questions for others to argue; It is also possible to deliberately put forward some incorrect or one-sided points of view and refute them with reason; Don't be so deliberate about the mistakes in your usual words.

Fourth, overcome incorrect understanding.

In dealing with communication issues, we should strive to overcome such incorrect understandings: for example, we believe that communicative skills are innate, and it does not matter whether they are cultivated or not; thinks that being able to speak is not a skill; It is believed that communication affects learning.

1. Make a list of people you must contact every day, smile and say hello when you meet them every day, good morning or hello.

2. The deepening of the first step is to transition from a simple greeting to some long sentences of greetings, for example: Today is in good spirits, is there any happy event? The weather is so nice today, what's the plan? How did you spend Sunday?

3. Find someone who is compatible and not a deep friend, have an in-depth conversation, and listen more for the purpose of establishing an intimate relationship.

4. Have an in-depth chat with everyone you come into contact with.

5. Talk to someone you have a misunderstanding with.

6 Pay attention to give yourself mental hints every day: I'm fine, I'm happy, I'm popular, I'm going to do better, etc.

Of course, that's only part of it, but it's absolutely effective to do it every day.

"First of all, we must learn to praise others, encourage others, and praise others sincerely; It is also necessary to actively communicate with people, and initiative is the most critical point; Also learn to be humorous and talkative. In fact, you don't need to read books on interpersonal communication, you need to read more books to increase your cultural heritage, cultural accomplishment, know more, and get along with anyone. When interacting with people, you should also pay attention to your image, appearance, and gestures.

All pay attention. Don't be too perfect, no one likes to associate with someone who is particularly perfect and high. It is also necessary to establish an open mind, have a spirit of cooperation, listen carefully and reflect on feedback.

Take the initiative to actively participate in activities, communicate with people, be good at talking, make friends, find some people with common hobbies and interests, and slowly become cheerful, should be open-minded, and should be humble and polite, so as to make good friends and establish good contacts. As a leader, 1. People-oriented, formulate a humanized system, do things according to the law 2, be anxious about what others are anxious about, think about what others think 3, maintain a good relationship with superior leaders, and maximize the ability to seek the highest welfare for the personnel of the unit. Boost productivity.

Nature is both sides of the source, invincible, to achieve the greatest purpose of interpersonal communication. How can I become cheerful and improve my interpersonal skills? First of all, read more books and think more to cultivate your own connotation (this is the internal cause) Secondly, make more friends, see how others are doing, imitate first, and then innovate (external cause) Finally, as your ability improves, you will have a sense of accomplishment, and you will gradually become cheerful and active.

If you want everyone to like you, you must first like everyone, there are many means of communication, in fact, you just need to be yourself, and then change it First of all, you must be generous, no matter what you do (emotional self-care), you must be generous.

Second, you should be a little mature and calm, that is, you can't get angry so easily.

3. Have a sense of humor, which is also very important, than to tell jokes, but to laugh genuinely when others tell jokes.

Fourth, the face is full of smiles, smiles, ten years less, smiles are easy to get close.

First of all, find fault (your own), think about why your interpersonal skills are very poor, 1, you feel inferior, and communicating with others is high. A2. I still feel that I can't fit into other people's circles.

3. Thin-skinned and afraid to take the initiative to communicate with others.

That's all I can think of at the moment, welcome to add)

Second, find the problem and solve it.

1. Everyone is equal, when communicating with people, it is good to be modest, but not to be excessively inferior, the status of people should be equal, since you can communicate well, it means that you have a shining point, inferiority will lead you to be in a weak position when communicating with people, often let others occupy a favorable position, and it is not good for your own development.

2. There are big and small circles, don't worry about not being able to integrate into other people's circles, you should take notes in advance before integrating into them, for example: whether this circle is suitable for me, what should I say when I go in, what kind of benefits and disadvantages will this circle bring to me, etc.

3. In a very popular phrase on the Internet, it is "you take the initiative, we have a story", which is often not the case in reality, which is not as a great philosopher said, opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared. You taste, you taste.

The above views are purely personal opinions, don't spray if you don't like it).

How to improve interpersonal skills? Keep these three points in mind to get you out of trouble.

It seems to be like this, there is no topic, I am also such a friend who may not be contacted once in half a year, I like to be alone, this kind of character is a bit bad, it is easy to have no friends, sometimes I find friends to eat, chat.

Contact more people, communicate more, don't suffer from gains and losses, be more cheerful, and after a while, it will make a big difference.