The game of love and marriage Is marriage? Or is it faint?

The love of two people is a marriage satisfaction.

The best love is that the two are built on the basis of equality, and the other party will tilt to make this love unstable and swaying, love is not a person willingly, both people must pay for the other scumbag, and those who can't get it are always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear, which is the weakness of human nature. That's how people are, they don't care about what they can easily get. If any love wants to last for a long time, there must be a balanced state to maintain.

Let me talk about my relationship experience, my last relationship was based on an unequal relationship, I met my ex-girlfriend in high school, I loved her very much at that time, I treated her like a princess, because my ex-girlfriend is still very beautiful, so there are also some suitors, she is also a person who likes to chat with others, so as long as someone takes the initiative to chat with her, she will not refuse, as a boy, of course, I can't stand other men talking to their girlfriends, So I told her very tactfully that I would be upset, and she agreed to me.

Actually, I'm not against her not being allowed to talk to the boy Yinliang, I didn't care when her former boy friend looked for her, but I was unhappy when a strange boy took the initiative to find her, but even if it was like this, every time I was supposed to be angry in the end, it became me to please her, I really love someone to the point of humbleness, the fuse of our breakup was that she fought with her ex-boyfriend behind my back for one night, and I never broke it through, because I knew that even if I said it, I wouldn't get what I wanted. The decision to really let me go was because I didn't take the initiative to find her much one day, and I had a lot of classes to do that day.

During the period, I only replied to her simply, she was sullen until the night, I didn't know what was going on at first, so I amused her, she was still lukewarm, I knew the reason later, I apologized to her, she said that her previous boyfriend would never be like this, no matter when she would take the initiative to find her, I was angry in my heart, her former boyfriend was separated because of the split, I thought that I was better to her than myself, I felt very uncomfortable, I was silent for a long time, Then I told her about breaking up, and she was stunned all of a sudden, but she still said arrogantly Are you sure? I said yes, and then she said okay, and we parted.

Later, she took the initiative to reconcile with me, I didn't agree, because I knew that our love was out of balance from the beginning, and I felt that even if I came back, I couldn't change the long-rooted habit, and I later understood that loving someone should not be too full of love, just like a cup of boiling water will overflow and hurt yourself. The best relationship is that two people have the same vision and pattern, they have some of the same values, the circle of the rich will always be a group of rich people, because they have the same way of thinking, if you want to be friends with excellent people then you work hard to improve yourself to become excellent, then your relationship is more stable and long-lasting, things gather people in groups, lions can not let tigers live in them, rather than chasing a horse, it is better to use the time to chase horses to plant grass, and wait until the spring is warm, The large meadow that grows attracts many horses.

It is necessary to make the stare slip and the balance of the enemy, so that the two people will have a common goal, a common topic, and the relationship between the two people will get better and better, if one party is too weak, there will be a lot of contradictions and destruction and generation gaps.

It is best for both parties in a marriage to be evenly matched, so that the marriage can last longer.

Yes, indeed. If the status of two people in a marriage is unequal, or if the gap is very large, then the party who leaks the stove will definitely pay a lot of money in this marriage, and even pretend to be uncherished.

If marriage is understood in this way, then it is necessary to redefine the meaning of marriage.

From natural reproduction to matrilineal marriage (there are reservations in Yunnan and other places), to the establishment of patrilineal society, to the equality of men and women in civilized society, free love and monogamy, the social law should be a kind of civilization progress.

In a civilized society, regardless of the purpose of marriage, as far as ordinary people are concerned, marriage should be equal and inclusive for both parties, not a game.

Of course, there are also many new situations in modern society in which the equality between men and women and the improvement of women's social status have emerged. For example, how to view women's employment and women's career achievements. It is not possible for a woman to fully devote herself to the care of the family when she is employed.

There is also the one-child policy, and daughters are also the treasure of parents, and parents will not tolerate their children suffering when they come to their husband's house.

But no matter what kind of society, the home (marriage) is not a place of reason, and the husband and wife just ignore this. They all think that they are reasonable, and they all hope that the other party will give in, and the matter of chicken feathers will be unavoidable.

Home should be caring, warm and inclusive. If marriage is seen as a game, then it would be happier not to marry. Wish.

Marriage is a back-and-forth race.

In recent years, there has been a popular saying that getting married is like doing business.

The exchange of interests of two people, the trade-off of gains and losses, both satisfied is happy, and both parties are not satisfied, but they are together for some wrong reasons, this is unfortunate.

This statement is actually very one-sided and extreme, because if you think about it carefully, you will know that emotional things are actually inexplicable many times, and if it feels right, the feelings will come, and if it feels wrong, the feelings will not accept it.

With those who have experienced unforgettable first love, to regret the improvisation, and then to the marriage inside and outside the walls, people have gradually discovered that the original love in the end is an account that cannot be calculated no matter how it is calculated.

And what's even more interesting is that this is not one account, but two people, each with their own accounts to calculate.

The game in marriage, the surface is harmonious, and the calculation behind the scenes, it looks like it is murderous.

This may sound a bit alarmist, people who don't know much about marriage relationships will think that I am exaggerating, how can it be so terrible to get married? ”

Marriage is not terrible, what is terrible is the game in the name of marriage, when the game begins, whoever first realizes that the essence of the game is to divide the winner and lose, who can often seize the opportunity.

Here's an example. Let's take one of the most sensitive and indifferent things as an example, and that is money after marriage.

In many marital relationships, the party in charge of money often has two conditions, either strong or favored.

In layman's terms, the strong party is in charge of money, which often means that the weak party has always had a passive acceptance relationship in the distribution of property, and if the favored party is in charge of money, then this feeling of being favored will be solidified for a long time and become a "conventional" relationship.

What does this lead to?

Whether it is strong or favored, because the main wealth of the family is mastered, there will be a kind of "I am the master of this family" consciousness positioning, maybe this sentence will not be said, or no one will say such a point of view, but subconsciously many families understand that being in power is to hold money.

The question then arises, is the person in charge of the money really trustworthy?

This is a very sensitive issue, because everything involved in this issue will affect the quality of the marriage and even the conditions of divorce, and those who are on the weak side of the relationship, once they find that things are going in an irreparable direction, they will suddenly realize that the seriousness of the problem is that they can only accept, yes, because the "steering wheel" of this family is not in their hands.

Sometimes, they can only watch the car of marriage sprint wildly in the direction of losing control, and the only thing they can do is to fasten their seatbelts tightly and then resign themselves to fate.

Is the relationship of marriage a game?