The question of dowry It s not that I can t marry a wife, and I m not buying a wife

The ancient Chinese rites have always been like this, this is not what the woman wants, the man should take the initiative to give, it doesn't matter how much, but it is a popular custom, and the man should respect it. If you don't have that much money, you can talk to your parents about the reason and trust that they will understand you. But it's not a good attitude for your boyfriend to talk like this, find an opportunity to advise him, which will also benefit your life in the future;

This is the difference in customs caused by regional differences.

What should I do if I have to take into account the feelings of my parents?

Old customs kill people

Don't be too extreme, want to elope or something, the two of you are comfortable leaving, how can your parents face the eyes of relatives and friends? This problem should give each other a step, both sides communicate well, can be the best for the woman, can't and don't mind too much, I believe that there are not so stubborn parents, but in the end you still have to live with your husband, make your husband unhappy, it is not good for yourself, as you, you should play a role in solving the problem, don't leave it alone or add fuel to the fire, communicate well, there is no problem that cannot be solved.

Hehe, actually, I had a problem.

Your family is a little ...

Hehe. Really, don't delay your love because of your family, right?

Big deal, you two run away, find a quiet place, and live a good life.

In fact, I don't think it's too much for your family to ask for a 1w dowry. It's not about selling a daughter at all. This has been a custom for thousands of years.

You have to give them a little money after you get married, and your parents can live a better life, and they can feel more psychologically secure. I think your husband has a bit of a problem, just think that 1w is to honor your parents for raising you as the person who made him happy, so what? Money can be earned in the future, there are many men and women in the world, but can parents and children find another one, do it again? ?

Write a dowry pledge.

I guarantee to give 1w yuan at a time after marriage.

I'll lend you tens of thousands!

Just kidding

I can't figure it out, it's time to change it.

Damn, elope, don't go into debt for money, can such a marriage be happy.

Bride price is a custom commonly known as the ancient convention, thousands of years down to put the Buddha to marry and marry a wife to give the bride price has been a common name of the matter, but with the progress and development of society, the bride price seems to have gradually changed the taste, no longer the past dowry, the object of love, now there are people who marry and marry wives do not want to give the bride price is also because the pressure of life is too great now, it can be said that it is a helpless move.

Someone once put forward such a suggestion: it is recommended that the blind date when the brand is marked with a bride price**, so that everyone saves trouble, the words are full of questions about the bride price, and its disrespectful attitude towards women has also been criticized by many people, from acquaintance to acquaintance and love, it seems that it has always been so logical, but every time it comes to talking about marriage, there is always a secular vision: it is necessary to consider the opinions of the parents of both sides, the customs of both parties, and the various questions and questions of relatives on both sides. Even when it comes to getting a marriage license soon, disputes over the bride price still abound.

Maybe many people think that the woman's bride price is a bit of a selling daughter, but think about it from another perspective: the girl is so big and has made you a wife, so what's wrong with asking you for the bride price? And most mothers-in-law are not greedy for this bride price money, and in the end, they are not tinkering with some money to marry.

Therefore, the bride price for marriage is not a matter of more money and less money, but a blessing and sincerity of both parties and their parents for the marriage of two people, and it is also a bridge for both parents to trust and understand each other.

Of course, it is not excluded that the sky-high bride price in some places has been reported that marriage in some poor areas of the country is equivalent to selling women: in addition to the bride price money, you also need a house, a car, etc., for many middle-income families, the cost of marriage requires a few years or even a dozen years of savings, so that the traditional "patriarchal" view has been changed, because the cost of marriage when the boy grows up is too high.

I believe that with the continuous progress of society, some traditional feudal ideas in some areas will definitely gradually change, and the younger generation should also change their own ideas and views, treat the wedding bride price correctly, find the right one, and find their own suitable, both sides work together to fight, as long as the parents of both sides see the determination of the two to be together.

The bride price issue is related to the region, let me first say, my family is in Jingdezhen, if you marry a local person, you have a house that has already reached the standard of marriage, the bride price can basically not be discussed, and if you marry a neighboring county, you still need about 200,000 bride price. Next, I stand on the male side (because I am a boy myself) and analyze how to view those who do not want to give a bride price.

First of all, let me tell you what I mean by the bride price. In general, after the man gives the bride price to the woman, the woman will give it back through the dowry, and if the woman's family is better, even the dowry will be more than the bride price. At the time of marriage, as the groom, I really don't have enough savings to give the bride price, the main thing is that the parents take it out, and through the bride price and the dowry, the money will be changed from the parents' money to the newlyweds' money, which is the idea of the woman's parents.

Because, in the eyes of the woman's parents, their daughter did not suffer with me when she got married, but had a certain material basis and could enjoy it as much as possible.

Then let's talk about those who are reluctant to give the bride price. One is that the family really has no money, and relatives and friends have also asked all over it, and it is really not enough to make up the bride price money, which is also a helpless thing, but marriage always has to be married, otherwise it is embarrassing to get along all the time without getting married, isn't it? Therefore, only the in-laws are constantly communicating and negotiating.

The other is that I have money but I don't want to give, this idea is that I give a lot of bride price money, and you give a lot less dowry, so that you are equivalent to selling your daughter to make a lot of money, and their husband and wife have not been supplemented in the future, of course, there is also a kind of simply do not want to give money, marriage is a matter for both of them, why give money? When the raw rice is cooked and matured, you have to get married if you don't get married.

As for the second one, I feel that giving a bride price is a loss, my opinion is that in the face of love, money is not worth mentioning, and doing so will only make me look down on it. If we meet the right person, but choose to stick to the gold mountain because of the problem of money, and are unwilling to take a step to choose love, then you will eventually lose love, or face loneliness. We even analyzed that if the other party's family has an unmarried son, this gift is likely to be kept by the other party as a bride price for their son.

I think this kind of thinking is too narrow-minded, and now there are a few people who are really willing to let their children suffer. For those who believe that marriage is a matter for both husband and wife, and that the bride price or the material foundation in the future should be fought by themselves, I personally think that this should be analyzed in specific situations. The average working family needs to spend a lot of money to raise and educate their children from buying a house and getting married, and the bride price relieves a lot of pressure for their lives.

For couples with high salaries, or couples with perfect medical and educational protection, the bride price can be appropriately reduced or even none. For those who don't have the money to give the bride price to the woman, they can't give it if they want to, so it's another matter here.

Therefore, on the issue of bride price, you must not give in, and you must not lose any point, otherwise people will think that you have a bad brain, and the kind of man who does not want to give the bride price should also stay away as soon as possible.

The bride price is a gift money given to the woman by the man when he marries the woman, and it is a kind of etiquette to respect the woman since the ancestors. When the man marries his wife, considering the emotions of the woman's family, he should give the woman a certain bride price. However, the true meaning of this kind of bride price is to express the man's respect for the woman, rather than deliberately pursuing the amount of the bride money, after all, the amount of the bride price and the degree of respect are not necessarily proportional.

It's not that many men's families don't want to give, but they can't afford to give!

For example, in a family, the man's family conditions are not good, and he only has savings of 50,000 yuan, so the bride price for the woman can only be 30,000 yuan, and the remaining 20,000 yuan will be used for the wedding. In the other family, the man's family has hundreds of millions of property, but when he got married, he only gave the woman 100,000 gifts. Do you think that the latter man's family must respect the woman more than the former man's family?

Let's do the math, the former gave 60% of all his own to the woman, and the remaining 40% was also used for the wedding; Although the latter gave the woman 100,000 yuan, far more than 30,000, he only gave him one-ten-millionth of what he had. In comparison, the 60% of the former is significantly higher than the 1 millionth of the latter. This means that the latter is more respectful of the woman's family in the man's family.

Therefore, we cannot simply judge by the amount of key money. The man doesn't give it because the family has no money, not because the family has money and is reluctant to give, so it seems that the man's family is actually quite difficult.

On the other hand, those who have money in the family but are reluctant to give the woman a bride price, such people are generally more picky and do not attach much importance to the woman. In their eyes, money is the most important thing, and the woman can enjoy Qingfu with her, and she still wants to ask for a bride price, which is simply wishful thinking. For such a man, the woman should decisively choose to let go.

Because even if they get married, with such a character, the relationship between the two people will not be better, and the days will not last long.

If you want to give no money, it doesn't matter if you have money, bargain if you are not too rich, get married, how much bride price can you give to show whether the man loves it or not? I feel ridiculous, and sincere, is the woman blind during the relationship? When it's time to marry a wife?

What intentions? Is it a person who will see it as selling his daughter, right? Of course, these things happen to people whose families are not wealthy, and the man cannot afford the expensive dowry, and wants to reduce the dowry by communicating with the woman.

In fact, marriage is just a very simple ceremony, that is, because of the dowry, many marriages are not established, and the woman is afraid of marrying and suffering, so I want to ask, are you blind or brainless? What are you doing when you're in a relationship? You didn't find out all the circumstances of the man and talked about marriage?

Mentally retarded? Or do you deliberately take advantage of the marriage to make more money on the dowry? All in all, I think that the bride price of the woman must be measured according to the actual situation of the man, and she can't say as much as you want.

Nowadays, society is more powerful than inviting ancestors.

If you have a bride price, you won't marry.

That's the reality.

If you have good conditions, the woman will post the money upside down, and many women will compete to give the money upside down.

You're a fool too.

What is a wife, not a mother-in-law?

A dowry, two women have married together.

To marry a woman is to marry to love and enjoy, not to marry to be filial.

But the mother-in-law can also it.

。。。If you don't borrow money, you have to turn money out again. **Come on.. Think about it for yourself. You are not Liu Qian.

What more could you want? Her family is unwilling, so what does she think herself? Just ask her how she feels, they're all husband and wife!

You ask her? What do you think of the dowry?If she insists, you can borrow money.,Discuss with your wife not to tell your parents.。。

In this case, you can only be thick-skinned, discuss with your girlfriend, ask her to do the ideological work in her family, and then you also talk about it, and finally say that I will love her well or something, and now the house is still paying back, I don't have money but I will earn it, hey,,, I don't have money to do things!! I'm still going to raise money, I wish you a dream come true.

The queen mother can't stop the seven fairies from going down to earth, communicate with your wife more, she will naturally communicate with your mother-in-law! If she loves you very much, there should be no problem! Be honest with your mother-in-law!

Make it clear to your in-laws that there are no more men who love their daughters as much as you do! Miss you and they'll regret it! That's what you say to them.

If that doesn't work, you ask the woman if she's willing to elope with you, and if she really loves you, she'll agree. If she doesn't agree, break up early! Don't hurt the harmony, find a new woman who doesn't want material demands and is dead to you.

The customs are set by people, when I married my husband, his family didn't give a penny, I gave birth to a baby or the money my mother's family gave me, since the two people really love each other, why care so much about the dowry, you married their daughter, you are also their son, and it is not to say that the daughter will be bought from now on to you, I think you can sit down and discuss it together. The most important thing is to go back to your parents' house often. I wish you all happiness.

This money must be paid, there is no way, the face is a problem, and the woman's family can't raise their heads if they are missing. I think you can discuss it with the woman's parents, and then come back secretly after giving the money. Of course, if the woman's family is greedy for money, then there is no way.

If conditions permit, then you will be a door-to-door son-in-law, and the woman will give you money, food and clothing for the woman's family.