No wonder foreigners can bring so many children with two people, it is worth learning

Because foreigners with babies belong to the free-range style, and there are not so many rules, while Chinese with babies are captive, for fear of bumping, as if in the palm of the hand.

Because China attaches great importance to children's education, many Chinese families need to take care of their children.

I think it may be cultural differences, because Chinese people value their offspring more.

Foreigners are more open-minded, and Chinese treat children completely differently from foreigners, especially now that there is only one child in each family, so they will be supported by the whole family.

Because foreigners pay attention to children's independent self-care ability, while Chinese are always afraid of taking care of children, there is a deviation in the education of the two.

The main reason is the difference in social concepts, foreigners are more independent and family affection is relatively indifferent, while Chinese family concepts are very strong.

We often see this in movies: A foreign mother is alone at home doing housework and taking care of several children, without the help of the elderly, and her husband is not by her side, but she can still handle it. On the other hand, in China, many families are now a pair of old and young parentsFour adults revolve around a child, and they are often in a hurry

What is the reason for this discrepancy? Recently, my old friend Li Hui came back from abroad and shared a few of her experiences, which just solved my doubts.

Neighbor Mrs. Jones gave birth to her third baby this year, and although the workload of caring for the children has increased, she is still used to doing everything with her husband. Her parents, who live in a small town dozens of kilometers away, don't usually come over to help, except on weekends, when they occasionally invite Jones to bring their children over for reunions. Li Hui thought it was incredible at first:

Why didn't the old man come over to help take care of the children when he was free, so that his daughter was busy alone?

Compared with China, foreigners are accustomed to using various childcare aidsFor example, baby high chairs, diapers, bibs, baby carriers and strollers. This saves parents on the care experience, washing time, and improves the space for infants and toddlers. At the same time, foreign parents are accustomed to using a variety of canned infant complementary foods when their children are only two or three years old, which also saves a lot of time in cooking.

And we are still accustomed to doing it ourselves, for example, diapers are not popularized in some places, and baby pants are still washed by hand every day, and the supplementary food for infants and young children is generally made by themselves, which also takes up a lot of time.

Foreign subsidies and benefits are more perfect, and we are under great pressure to take care of the baby full-time.

And our policy in this area is not perfect enough, generally speaking, the addition of a new member to the family will generally bring greater financial pressure, and the work of parents will be affectedSecond, the child's education and living expenses will increase significantlyTherefore, many young parents in many families have no choice but to ask the elderly to help them take care of their children.

What foreigner can take care of a baby by one person, and Chinese want a family to take care of a baby? Recently, on the Internet about different parenting in China and abroad.

While foreign countries value personal self-reliance, we value family solidarity. Obviously, foreigners pay more attention to making children independent ,..I can only ask the old man to help, and the family will take it together.

Because the customs and habits of these two places are different, the Chinese attach too much importance to it, so they are in a hurry.

Because foreigners are more at ease with their children, they believe that one person will take them.

Because life abroad is relatively simple and the pressure of life is relatively small, I can take care of my children alone.

Because the way foreigners are educated is very different from us.

This has something to do with their independence, and they are all very independent.

This is a way of independence abroad, while in China it has been like this since childhood, a family with children.

This is because there is less pressure from foreigners, so you can bring it alone.

This may be decided according to the customs and habits of each country.

We Chinese mothers can do it too. In the fifties and sixties, each family had several children, and three or four were not many. There are seven or eight children. Because there are too many Chinese people and family planning, there is now only one or two per family.

Text|Cheats Jun.

I once brought my child to the age of three by myself, and I know all too much about it. But when I see a foreign mother on TV or parenting shows that it is very easy to bring a few babies alone, I feel puzzled. It's the same women, how do they do it, and is there any mystery in it?

After understanding the reason, I found that some of their practices we Chinese mothers really can't learn.

Foreigners make good use of high-tech equipment

Foreign mothers make good use of high technology, sweepers and mopping robots that are usually used for housework, and dishwashers in the kitchen do not need to be mentioned. Supplementary food machines, baby washing machines, baby fitness racks, game fences, etc., have greatly liberated mothers in housework and bringing babies. Even the super labor-saving diapers came to China from abroad.

Some people may say that they have money, and who doesn't know how to buy good things if they are rich. But how much are baby high chairs and baby plastic bibs worth? In the final analysis, our concepts are different.

Many people think that a mother's job is not to take care of children, what are you doing when you buy so many things that burn money, are you lazy? Some mothers don't know that there are so many "high-precision" weapons with babies, let alone buy them.

Foreigners raise babies with big hearts and are extensive

I have to say that foreign mothers with a team of babies also rely on their extensive baby raising methods. As soon as the baby is born, he sleeps alone in a room, and his parents only install cameras in the house to check at any time; When the baby is over a year old, he can eat as much as he wants, and he is hungry if he doesn't want to eat; How many hours do you spend making complementary food for your baby? It does not exist, and some foreign mothers even buy bags of baby food, and open a few packs every day to feed them.

Is Chinese mothers willing to do such an extensive method of raising babies? Can't learn.

In China, it is more common for parents to rack their brains to coax their babies to eat, even at the expense of chasing and feeding. In order to make healthy and delicious complementary food for the baby, some mothers must strive for excellence from material selection, cleaning to practice, and a meal of complementary food takes nearly an hour. This kind of meticulous method of raising babies, who are you tired of?

Foreigners live alone, and the children are brought by themselves, so they don't need to be educated by the next generation, get along with their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and don't feel tired

Many people envy the calm and relaxed posture of foreign mothers when they go out with their babies, but in China, many mothers are exhausted and haggard. You must know that raising a baby is not only physically tired, but also mentally tired. The biggest difference between foreign and domestic bends is that foreign mothers are fighting alone, although it is hard but "my baby is my master", how to raise me can come by myself, no one is talking nonsense.

And domestic mothers are different. A lot of them are the older generation who come over to help with it. The living habits of the two generations are different, the parenting concepts are also different, and the delicate mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship that cannot be escaped, these triple mental pressures are tiring.

Want to learn from a foreign mother? BTG Min: First, your family must have the spare energy to support you as a stay-at-home mother, and secondly, people around you will not point fingers at you at home. And these are difficult to achieve at home. This is also one of the reasons why we can't learn from foreign mothers.