At the age of 25, he lost interest in life, painful interpersonal relationships, and excessive self

Remember one sentence: no one will help you remember what you are not good about, and you don't need to deliberately please anyone, be true to yourself, and do whatever you want. If you want to think that anything is not a big deal, you will not feel nervous with this mentality, and many things will be solved naturally when the tension is removed.

Cultivate your own interests, you are a girl, most girls like to watch Korean dramas, like to go shopping and buy clothes, you can watch a few more Korean dramas, pay more attention to some girls' dressing and dressing** beauty, so that you have a common language with others, are you afraid of having no friends with a common language? Don't deliberately please others when dating, just keep your personality, people like to associate with real people, the more real you are, the more others will like you.

You don't have to deliberately express yourself, you don't have to deliberately cultivate any interests, do your job well, and strive to do well, there will definitely be people who will pay attention to you, as for other hobbies, and especially hope that others like you, you can't get it by doing it deliberately. In short, you can do whatever you like and cultivate your own personal charm (including many aspects).

I'm 25 too, so let him go with the flow

I've had that kind of mentality in you, but I'm much better now.

I'll tell you the conclusion that I ended up with:

One: Don't show all your strengths in front of others.

2: When chatting with others, pay attention to the expressions and movements of the other party.

Three: Find some topics that the other party is interested in communicating with the other party, is to look at the other party's eyes to show that you are listening carefully, and you must not be half-hearted.

Four: Don't make fun of each other's flaws and don't praise each other too much.

Five: We must respect each other, be honest and trustworthy, and we must not be careless about this.

Well, for the sake of time, I won't say so much, so if you have any questions, just come to me.

My QQ name is Smoke and Rain Hazy Born in 91.

People can't live for others, live their true selves, and see the mystery of happiness!

Go find a job to do, steadfast, serious, and responsible work is the best publicity. Sincerely help others, think about others, and if people don't like you, then you can listen. Listening is good - a way to make friends.

Be honest with others. Be nervous, I've been nervous for 20 years, and I'm living a good life.

Play more with those cheerful friends, and you will also be influenced by them, otherwise you will learn some interests or something, you are a girl, you can learn yoga, the key is to let yourself take action, and the more you think about it, the more you don't do it.

If you really can't, just leave the problem to time, time is the best antidote!

Concentrate on what you need to do, such as studying, working, etc. Don't worry too much about anything else. Books that focus on people and things.

I think life has to tell you that there is something you need to learn. Evolution is needed.

I feel like you should read more positive books and don't focus on that.

Look at the ordinary world with a normal heart, and everything will go naturally!

Bodhi has no tree.

Nor is Spiegel a platform.

There is nothing in life.

Where to stir up dust.

I'm much younger than you, but I'm sicker than you...

Is interest cultivated? You train me to see. The ferromagnetic position of the sofa is also self-adjusting.

Who can self-adjust and want to speak out about their privacy to ask for help? Upstairs, the mentality is not adjusted well, and when he is asked to work, the pressure is even greater, and in the end, the Bodhisattva can't save him. You want me to see ...

Go to the psychiatrist and go online for online dating should be able to help you.

Do the work first, and with the work, the heart will be comfortable!

Where. Talk to me.

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It's you growing, give yourself some time. Being able to reflect and not back down is the most effective way to crack it. Do you think you're still old? If so, you don't have to blame yourself, this is the process of growth.

Because I care too much about what others think, and I pursue perfection too much, that's why I'm like this, and I'm also such a person, so I often feel tired, and then I try not to care too much, and I don't have to think about what others will think, so it's a lot better.

Think it out beforehand, don't regret it, and good luck.

Just be careful in the future.

There are gains and losses, and many books talk about seeing what people say, and there are more sleek, but I think it's not better to be yourself.

If the happiness of another person is the root of your happiness, then this is love, love is tolerance, understanding, responsibility, or maybe a look, a hug, a word of concern, in fact, love is in everyone's heart, so please don't let joy only appear in your dreams.

This person has a strong sense of responsibility, but his ability is weak, so he will take his temper on others.

Or you encourage him to do what he can, and if you succeed a few more times, he may slowly improve.

This is a person's character, without your help, your help will not work, wait for the people around him.

Take a look at a psychiatrist, it's not a shame, counseling and counseling.

Encourage him more and advance and retreat with him.

Recognize your mistakes, it means that you have grown and matured, then change it slightly, avoid similar situations in the future, and wish you a happy life! Don't worry too much! Just learn your lesson.

Just apologize and tell yourself not to make similar mistakes in the future, and not to blame yourself too much.

Remember this matter first, it will not be so easy to do it again in the future, and then find something that interests you to do, just divert your attention, and you won't think about it all the time.

Everyone makes mistakes in relationships, just learn to reflect and avoid repeating them next time.

Believe in yourself and continue to look forward, the past is dead, it has been decided, it can only be used as a reference, but it cannot make you progress, only the future is alive and can be changed.

Is it bad for others or bad for yourself.

Do more things that make you happy.

Do a few more! You'll get used to it.

Sincerely apologize If you don't forgive, just look at it yourself.

Go and apologize and take the initiative to admit your mistakes.

Let go of your troubles, and your troubles will let you go.

There will be mistakes, be steadfast, and you will be fine.

Be happy and forget about him.

Alas, you have a misunderstanding.

Why do you want to talk all the time? Are you afraid of embarrassment? You also have to give the other person a chance to talk. If you say that you can't talk about it anymore halfway, you ask: What about you?

I met some people who were more embarrassed to meet, "chatting, busy at work, physical health, and some recent small plans."

When you don't have anything to say after chatting, "Withdraw, do you have to keep talking?"

What topics can't be talked about for what type of people" is too broad, you should have this awareness, right? Don't talk about it in front of people, and don't talk about topics that people mind. And salary, salary increase, marital harmony or not should not be said.

Is there some talk and information to find the topic after the words are finished, "The landlord takes this too seriously, I think it's still a matter of mentality, and there are two purposes for talking to people: one is to greet and avoid silence, and the other is to solve and communicate a certain problem." The time for greeting does not need to be very long, just three or two minutes, and you can leave after chatting.

If it is the second case, there is no need to worry about finding a topic or the like.

Again, a problem, if you don't treat it as a problem, it's not a problem. When communicating with people, landlords need to adjust their focus to how to achieve their goals, rather than focusing on how to avoid embarrassment and find topics.

The first case, which is common, is that there are so many things to talk about in life, and you have to be good at discovering them. But then again, sometimes there is nothing to talk about, and it's normal, don't burden it too much. I guess you may often take the initiative to find something to say for the sake of communication and fear of cold spots, but if you talk too much, you won't be able to pick up the words.

In fact, sometimes you don't have to say so much, let the other person talk about it too, and if the other person doesn't want to say it very much, you don't keep talking.

Embarrassed person, is it your feeling or both? I'm afraid it's yours. This shows that your relationship is average, then say hello, just say a few words, if the talk is speculative, of course you can go further, if not, it will end here.

Because the other party doesn't want to continue the topic at this time.

Without a book on this, life is a book. How can anyone speak to people according to the script? You may be an introvert by nature, and forcing yourself to say to others is not necessary.

Listening and speaking are important.

When you don't know how to go on.

It's better to choose to listen patiently to others.

Sometimes backing back actually gives yourself more space.

Communication is a multi-person affair.

It's not your thing.

If you really want to break the awkward atmosphere.

Then choose a topic that the other person is also interested in.

In this way, everyone's enthusiasm can be aroused.

The chat becomes a lot of fun.

As for the topic. People tend to talk about entertainment, weather, food, news, and so on.

A person's communication skills are excellent or not depends on his knowledge of the whole environment.

LZ also asked one less question, that is, what environment on what topic, for example, at the beginning of the chat must be something that happened to you and what happened to the other party, and when these things are finished, you feel that there is nothing to talk about. In fact, when you are chatting about family life, you should observe the surrounding environment, extract some topics from the surrounding environment, so that it is easier to talk, and the topics extracted from the environment can give you enough time to spend the communication time, and at the same time, through such topics, sometimes it will inspire you to talk about other topics, so that the conversation is endless.

I don't think it's possible to be in a state of non-stop talking all the time in interpersonal communication, looking for something to say, or looking for something to transition, but it's more embarrassing than having nothing to say after talking. In fact, even if you are cheerful by nature, you can have countless topics, and it is quite noisy to talk all the time. Try to get used to the silence between chats, and feel more comfortable with each other.

Whatever you do, do your homework beforehand to avoid the worst outcome. This is especially true when dealing with people.

You will ask a question that shows that you value relationships and enjoy observing people. That's it.

In life, it is necessary to observe carefully, observe a person's personality, type, preferences. Pay attention to your words and expressions when you speak.

I don't think it's necessary to prepare anything in particular, just play according to the mood, environment, and what I see and hear at the time.

Jokes, weather, current events, TV series, **, movies, **, sports are all fine, it's very relaxing.

In general, because of your narrow knowledge and interests, I have a suggestion, you can try, I increase my knowledge in this way, that is, I insist on reading a newspaper every day, for example, I am reading Beijing Youth Daily now, so it will be very effective to persist for half a year, really!! The cost is low, and the effect is good. This kind of problem is not something that can be solved in a short period of time, but as long as you persevere, you will find that your progress is really great.

Look for recent major accidents, such as the Olympics some time ago.

When I meet some people who are more embarrassed to meet, I will offer condolences, such as how are you doing? You seem to have lost weight, and your friends can talk about what is on their minds, and your colleagues and ordinary friends will talk about ordinary things, what happened when you came today.

Don't take the issue too seriously, or say something useful. It's just a chat with a bunch of little brothers. Give it a try!

Reading more newspapers and learning more about current affairs is a good talking point. In addition, communication is a matter for both parties, and the other party is also thinking about how to communicate with you, so don't blame yourself too much if the atmosphere is not good. The key is to have faith in yourself.

Why don't you read more books!!

I think you belong to the knowledge of the poor ...

Be a talkative person and these problems can be solved.

So how to be a talkative person, please see the following description:

A talkative person must first have a wealth of knowledge, which requires frequent reading of books and newspapers, reading more news and magazines, and secondly, having good expression skills, that is, eloquence, what he knows is in line with his ability to be expressed in a way that others are interested in, and he can be witty and humorous at the right time.

If you can be a good listener, listen carefully to others, and respond to key points, so that you are very serious and willing to listen to him, not only can you receive a lot of information and knowledge, but also make the person you talk to feel that you are very talkative.

Say something indifferent, it's like nonsense, the kind of expression that doesn't matter about pain should be natural, preferably with a smile.

It's also good to collect more talking points, and the rest is also related to the personality and, of course, the other party's reasons.

Deduction to buy speech and eloquence magazines, but this problem is difficult to solve for a while! It also has to do with your personality!