The 10th anniversary of the deceased is to pay tribute in advance or later

How to worship, what else needs to be done.

For the first three years of the old man's death, he had to go to the sacrifice on every anniversary of his death. Our general custom is that the death day of the third year of the death of the old man is more solemn, and after three years, it is not the death day to worship, generally on the Qingming Festival, October 1 of the lunar calendar and the Chinese New Year's Eve to worship it.

In the Changzhi area, if the old man dies, the anniversary of the sacrifice should be sacrificed for ten consecutive years from the first year, and then to the twentieth year, thirty years, fifty years, but the anniversary of the fifty years is very rare, and the children need to live to an advanced age. If it is a sacrifice for the birthday of the deceased elderly, you need to sacrifice until the third anniversary, and then no more sacrifices!

The customs and habits of this kind of thing are different in each place, people leave grass and roots, and worship the elderly is to express their nostalgia for their relatives, and the second is to abide by local customs and habits.

It is generally like this, expressing mourning and longing for the deceased. However, some of them do not go for a few years due to time or various reasons.

Well, the old people are used to it

When the old man died, Qiqizhou had to go to the technician every week, and in many places it was a custom like this, and everyone did it.

The tributes placed on the grave, steamed buns are mandatory, and some fruits can be prepared. Tributes should respect religious, ethnic, and regional customs.

After three weeks of burning, there is no need for an anniversary memorial for the deceased, and it is enough to pay tribute on the usual festival. For example, the Spring Festival, the Lantern Festival (sending lanterns), the Qingming Festival, and the Zhongyuan Festival (Ghost Festival). The same is true of the ancient memorials to the dead.

In ancient times, there were many regulations on the memorial of the deceased, and what is still continued today is: you cannot wear red clothes during the period of wearing filial piety, and you cannot paste red couplets during the New Year within three years. The rest of the rules have changed:

For example, if you get married, you can get married after 100 days. Dai Xiao, after the burial, you can take off the filial piety cloth. Haircuts, baths, etc., can be carried out after burning seven.

The core of traditional customs to commemorate the deceased is to educate future generations and establish a good social atmosphere of "respecting, loving and respecting the elderly" through the teaching of words and ears. As long as we can internalize it in our hearts and externalize it in our actions, we have met the core requirements of traditional customs.

On the 10th anniversary of the death of the elderly, according to the custom, it is not simply to go to the grave, but should be sacrificed according to the situation of the family in accordance with the practice of serving for three years. To the grave of the elderly, it is also necessary to pay tribute, burn paper, and fire cannons, but there are more than usual, and relatives can go to the hall as much as possible, and do it lively, and the scenery is good.

According to the custom of the northerners, it is past noon to go to the grave of the old people, and the 10th anniversary of the Yin people (13 o'clock) is a big festival, and more tributes should be placed than usual.

Generally speaking, we all follow the lunar calendar, but there are some people who like to follow the solar calendar because they feel that it is more convenient, in fact, these are different from person to person, the most important thing is their own heart for their loved ones.

China's tradition is generally according to the lunar calendar, especially in the vast rural areas, such a tradition is still relatively common, and now there are some according to the solar calendar, such as the national memorial party and government dignitaries, celebrities are according to the solar calendar.

According to the lunar calendar, because all kinds of things in the general world will be calculated according to the lunar calendar.

You can go, in any form, don't burn any paper money, just keep it in your heart.

Whatever you want, bai actually commemorates a du person, no matter what way you follow zhi, just dao wants you to remember it, if you really inside.

If your belief is Buddhism or Taoism, then of course it is according to the lunar calendar, but if you are Catholic or other, of course, it is according to the solar calendar, but I think it is good to keep it in mind, the rituals are all done for others to see, there is no need, the real respect for the deceased is to silently remember.

The situation of each family is different, like our family is calculated according to the solar calendar, and there is no habit of counting according to the lunar calendar.

Hello, the anniversary should be regardless of the lunisolar calendar.!I guess it's based on the day the deceased died.

Foreign countries follow the solar calendar of which day, China, now some according to the lunar calendar of that day, some according to the solar calendar!

Anniversary.

1. The official calculation is based on the solar calendar.

2. Folk traditions are calculated according to the lunar calendar.

According to the lunar calendar, of course. In traditional folklore in our country, the date of mourning for the deceased is determined according to the lunar calendar. For example, the common way of writing burning paper money (dao burning blankets) can prove this.

New Year's Month: Write the beginning of the year or the period of the first yuan.

Qingming: Write the period of worship or Qingming.

Half of July: Write the period of Yu Lan or Zhongyuan.

Wax Moon: Write the period of the twilight or the lower yuan.

Anniversary: Write a small auspicious silk.

Two years: Write Daxiang Huabo.

Three years: write the period of removal from service.

The third anniversary commemoration is as follows:

1. According to traditional etiquette, it is usually necessary to go on the day of the third anniversary, that is, it cannot be advanced or postponed (if there is a relative built here, in order to show respect for the relatives, it should be handled one day forward).

2. On the day of the memorial service, the children and family members (or siblings and family members) of the deceased should attend. The commemoration of the deceased usually does not take the initiative to inform relatives and friends, and relatives and friends can inform the time arrangement and invite them to participate when asked about it.

3. In order to highlight the grandeur of the third anniversary and the family's thoughts about the deceased, the blessing of the deceased should be decorated with flowers. At the same time, according to the personal preferences, personality, occupation, and style of the deceased before his death, the overall arrangement is carried out according to the actual situation of the park.

If you're in an urban area, there's no need to pay too much attention to customs, because they're subject to conditions.

If you are in a rural area, the first thing to do is to inform the relatives concerned of the specific time and place of the event. In addition, prepare burning paper and paper horses or something (or not), and then find a black pen and white paper to write something. When the time comes, prepare some wine and food, go to the cemetery and cry for a while, and burn paper.

Then everyone had a meal together and talked about each other's sadness.

During the memorial service, all participants can recite Nam Mu Amitabha Buddha for the elderly for ten or twenty minutes, which is the greatest filial piety and help to the elderly. Pronunciation: na mo a mi tuo fo

In this way, the host proposed: We will now recite Nam no Amitabha Buddha for ten minutes for the elderly, please recite with me: Nam no Amitabha, Nam no Amitabha, Nam no Amitabha...

People are immortal when they die, and chanting Buddha for the elderly is of great help to the elderly.

OK.

Basic information on the memorial service.

Title: Sacrifice.

Pronunciation: jì diàn

Sacrifice: A ritual to pay tribute to the deceased.

Lay: Offering sacrifices to the deceased.

Memorial: A ceremony held in memory of the deceased.

For example: Paying homage to the Heroic Spirit.

Extension: It expresses a kind of remembrance or reflection on a person or thing in the past.

Detailed explanation. 1.Basic explanation.

obit;offer a sacrifice to;Hold a memorial ceremony for] to honor the memory of the deceased and to appease their heavenly spirits.

2.Explain in detail.

Offerings are placed in front of the spirit or at the grave.

Jin Gehong's "Hugging Puzi and Saving Troubles": "The ceremony of the guests and hosts, the changes of the funeral, the law of the suburbs, and the gifts of the mountains and rivers can all be reduced, and the order is frugal." Southern Dynasty Liang Liu Xian's "Wenxin Carving Dragon, Zhu Meng":

The memorial is to be respectful and mournful. Ming Feng Menglong "Yu Shi Mingyan" Volume 1: "There is a prince in this county, who is Brother Xing's new father-in-law, who also came to the door to pay respects, and there are few relatives of Jiangmen who accompany him to talk.

Dream of Red Mansions" Chapter 19: "I often pay tribute. "The third act of Lao She's "Teahouse":

Fourth master, let us pay tribute to ourselves, scatter the paper money, and count us three old men! ”

Basic introduction. Early in the morning of the next day after the funeral, Jinnan Wenxi and other places paid attention to the family to send food to the grave to pour the memorial, indicating that the deceased and his family had a light meal again. In the area of Yicheng, when the family goes to the cemetery to pay tribute the next day, they should use a shovel to add new soil to the grave, so that the tomb mound is upright before and after, not biased or oblique, commonly known as "Fushan". Since the burial in Taiyuan, it has not been allowed to add soil to the mound until three years later, when the Qingming Festival is sweeping.

The customs of the two places are so different.

The 30 most basic principles of tomb sweeping during Qingming should not be ignored:

On the first anniversary of the death of a loved one, it is generally necessary to pay tribute to the grave of the loved one to express the first anniversary of the loss of the loved one.

On the first anniversary of the death of a loved one, you can go to the cemetery to burn paper, gold ingots, silver ingots and other coins for the deceased. Steamed bread, fruits, etc. need to be prepared for the offering, and the steamed bread is a must-have for the offering. At the same time, the festival must follow local customs and religious beliefs.

Paying tribute to the deceased can increase the contact between relatives and promote family harmony and social harmony. Through this form of silent teaching, the younger generation can be educated to respect, love, and respect the elderly, and a good social atmosphere can be formed.

The memorial to the newly deceased relatives mainly includes: three days of round graves, burning heads.

Seven, burn three. Seven, burn five.

Seven, burn seven. 7. Burn for 100 days, burn the head week, and burn for 3 weeks. The three-day round grave is counted from the time of burial, and the day of burial is counted as one day; The rest of the memorial service starts from the time of death, and the day of death is counted as one day.

After the three weeks of burning, the memorial service is the same as that of the deceased. Mainly include: Spring Festival, Lantern on the 15th day of the first lunar month, Qingming Festival, July 15th Ghost Festival, etc.

It's a year old on our side, and it's like going to the grave.

Just go to the grave and put some sacrifices or something. The customs of each place are different, alas, in the north, it is generally to burn paper money during the New Year's Festival, and here in the south, I see that there is a table at home to invite people to chant the scriptures and chant the Buddha.

The local folk customs are not very different, and the cities and rural areas are different.

Russia also has a festival similar to the Chinese Qingming Festival, and some documents about Russian festivals even call it the Russian Qingming Festival. Every year on this day, Russians go to the graves of their deceased relatives with their families to visit the graves of their deceased relatives, and this holiday is known as the Day of the Dead in Russia.

At the end of the century, the Russian Orthodox Church established such a holiday in honor of the dead, the date of which is the ninth day after Easter, a major Orthodox holiday. Since the date of Easter is not fixed, it is the first Sunday after the first full moon after the first spring equinox every year, so the date of commemoration of the Day of the Dead is also not fixed, but it is usually from the end of the month to the beginning of the month. This year's commemoration of the Day of the Dead is the day of the month.

The name of the Day of the Dead in Russian is "Radonica", which literally does not mean melancholy. According to Russian linguists, the name derives from the words "birth" and "happiness". From this point of view, this holiday is deliberately arranged after Easter so that people should not grieve the loss of their loved ones, but should rejoice that they are resting in another world.

On the Day of the Dead, Russians visit the graves of deceased loved ones with their families. Traditionally, they offer eggs painted with colorful patterns in front of the grave, which is said to pray for the blessing of the deceased, as well as sweet cheese cakes, pies, fruit soups and other foods, and flowers and plants around the cemetery. After the memorial service, the whole family gathers for a simple meal at the tomb, and everyone is asked to drink a glass of vodka, but they are not allowed to clink glasses or talk while drinking.

Devout Orthodox believers go to the church to light candles for the deceased before going to the cemetery, pray for the rest of the souls of the deceased, and then receive holy water to sprinkle in front of the cemetery.

For centuries, Russians have traditionally honored the dead, but some details have changed. For example, in the past, Russians placed flowers in front of cemeteries, but now they are increasingly using beautifully made fake flowers, which can be placed for a longer period of time, and second, fake flowers are relatively cheaper than real flowers. In addition, since the commemoration of the Day of the Dead is not an official holiday, many working Russians have begun to choose to visit graves during the Easter holiday.

The time for Russians to pay tribute to the dead is not limited to the day of the dead. Ceremonies are held on the ninth, twentieth, and fortieth days after the death of a loved one, as well as on anniversaries. Since then, around major holidays such as Christmas, New Year's Day and Thanksgiving Day, some Russians have also visited the graves of deceased relatives.