When educating children, how do you be patient?

Think about how you want others to treat you if they are you.

In the process of parent-child education, we will all encounter problems, every child will make mistakes, parents can not control their temper, every time after making a child angry, see the innocent dissatisfaction on the child's face, regret very impulsive behavior, then parents lose patience in the process of parenting, what should I do? Dissolving the accumulated feelings of both parties is the first step, and in the process of parenting, dialogue is very important, and after the child has accumulated feelings for his parents, he will rebel. Parents lose patience when they develop cumulative feelings for their children.

Parents should lead by example, identify problems in time, apologize without being distressed by each other's feelings for right and wrong, and release each other's feelings in the course of the conversation.

Always want to focus on the child's physical deficiencies, and constantly change the child to make the child better. When the child does not change, the parents may lose patience and the feelings will become more and more rough and difficult to control. So we have to accept the incompleteness of the child.

You must know that it takes a process for a child to go from bad to good. Change the focus, don't focus on the child's mistakes, focus on the things that the child didn't do well, and help the child how to solve them. If we do things well ourselves, we will no longer look at children with such critical eyes.

Naturally reduce the rejection and emotion of the child, and then give the child a tolerance, the emotion will naturally decrease.

Parents can try role reversal. When you ask your child to do what you want, you will remember what your parents used to look at you, what tone of voice they used, and how they said it when you didn't work well and made mistakes when you were a child. When our own hearts are nourished, no matter how hard we try to carry out parent-child education, this kind of education is still meaningful.

The process of parenting is also a process of self-growth and re-growth. We can see the shadow of our own childhood in our children. Then we can also raise children to make up for the lack of affection in our childhood.

James rarely received his father's love as a child, but there is no denying that he is now a very good father. So we want to thank the children. He is awakening us with his life, and we are growing with each other.

In fact, parents are making progress while educating their children, and adults must have full patience to be able to teach their children to get twice the result with half the effort, so we must learn to restrain our emotions and not get on the top because of some small things.

In such a situation, I think that I should adjust my mentality when educating my children, and I should also communicate with my children calmly, and I should also change the topic when I am emotional, and continue to communicate with my children after calming down.

You should not be impatient, you must be patient when educating your children, if you are impatient, you should regulate your emotions and then educate your children, otherwise it will affect your children.

You can do a psychological construction for yourself, tell the child that it is your own, you must take the child well, and it is very important for you and him to take care of the child, and I believe that you will gradually have patience.

First of all, you have to change your attitude, don't hit your child, don't scold your child, and you must cultivate your child's learning methods and thinking skills, so that your child's academic performance will improve.

You should not educate your child when you are very impatient, because your mood is very bad at this time, and it may make your child very tired of you when you educate your child.

When you don't have the patience to get angry, don't get angry in front of your children, go outside for a walk, calm down your emotions, and control your emotions as much as possible.

You can reflect deeply on your own problems, think about what you were like before, and you can also find someone to enlighten you, so that you can restore your patience.

If you are impatient, you can change his father's education, and the child will feel according to which parent, so that he is obedient, and the child is like this.

Then you should reflect on your own problems. And calm your heart. If you do this, you can make your child like you more.

You can train your children to change themselves. Tell yourself not to lose your temper easily.

Last week, one of my small articles "Who Strangled Children's Talents" caused a thousand waves with one stone, attracting the attention of many parents and friends. I spent the whole weekend poring through the hundreds of comments and questions I received from all my bloggers and questions in the Ask Jane section. Although there are mixed tastes, under the careful tasting, "helplessness, worry, and bearing" overflow between the lines of many bloggers.

I've summarized three of the more general points:

Viewpoint 1: Helpless, only choose to adapt

Poor children, education follows the national conditions, and we can't do anything about it", "In fact, everyone understands, but in this country, what can be done? Two of the bloggers left a message. They are also very dissatisfied with the current education system, but how can a grasshopper shake a tree?

In desperation, I have no choice but to adapt and adapt with my children.

Viewpoint 2: Worry, worry that his childhood is no longer worry-free

China's education, since my son went to kindergarten, I am disappointed with you and the teacher, now the kindergarten can not hear the children's laughter, hear the sound of reading aloud, can not tell whether it is kindergarten or primary school, education ** and teachers, return to the children a happy childhood" This is a portrayal of the true voice of parents: worry that their childhood is no longer worry-free, but also worried that it has not started to be eliminated.

Viewpoint 3: Bear and skillfully circumvent the drawbacks of mass education

As a parent, I tried my best to make up for the lack of school education, and Liming would not regret it so much in the future. Under the condition that the overall environment cannot be changed, it is still possible to improve the small environment as much as possible. Under the premise that it cannot be solved now, many parents choose to bear it silently and skillfully.

Carry out targeted training for your children other than daily learning, and avoid the disadvantages of mass education as much as possible.

Personally, I agree with the third point of view, the general environment is not something that can be changed by individuals, but the degree of "following" and "integrating" into the general environment is something that parents can decide. I couldn't sleep all night last night because I read a good parenting book "Slow Parenting - Give Children a Good Character", and some of the incisive words in it couldn't help but remind me of the heart of the parents who left a message to me and the parenting ordeal they were experiencing. I would like to excerpt a few paragraphs here, and at the same time encourage you to encourage your parents and friends to protect their children, so that they can still have a warm home and a reasonable mother under the high pressure of the exam; Let their childhood and adolescence not be afraid to make mistakes, let them make the mistakes that should be made at this age.

As a mother, when we think back on our lives, do we still remember the test questions we did? Learning for life is a lifetime, and taking exams is only temporary.

In fact, we should not also use the current situation to judge the child's future good, now the child's homework may be very good, but it does not necessarily guarantee that the child will be successful in the future, and now the child may be very bad at homework, repeater or may even make some bad friends, but in the future he may become a very outstanding person, don't make a decision for the child's life now! Children should take their time in their upbringing and give them more space to slowly shape their own life blueprint.

The family is the courtyard, the children are the seedlings, and the family style is the silent drizzle of moisturizing things. Good family style is the accumulation and inheritance of good quality in the family, and it is the precious spiritual wealth left by the family to each member.

First, let the children understand the truth more.

This is a palliative, not a cure. The children understand the reason and do things according to the reason, of course, we can save a lot of worry. Rather than drinking soup and not boiling, it is better to pull wages under the kettle.

When a child is planted with many seeds of morality, filial piety, kindness, diligence and other qualities, he will naturally blossom. It's easy to turn love into a lotus, but moving forward after knowing the difficulties is the only way. For the sake of the children, we work together to extinguish the fire of troubles in our hearts, infuse cool and mild spring water, and provide peaceful and peaceful counseling to the children.

Second, create a harmonious and civilized family environment

Parents should have good living habits, read more books, listen to world famous songs, etc., and parents should set an example to indirectly improve the quality of their children. Usually pay attention to the emotional cultivation of parents and children, and educate children to improve their affinity and sense of responsibility for their families. Families must have democratic determination and rational arrangements for their economic expenditures, and they must pay attention to the principle of hard work and action to prevent the occurrence of family disputes.

Parents are the invisible force that shapes their children.

Third, it is the responsibility of parents to control their children before they reach adulthood

Raising the fault of not raising the godfather" is everywhere. Minors are not yet mature in their self-control, and parents are held responsible. However, this kind of control should be affectionate, humane, scientific and rational, and children should not be repaired at will as private property.

You can't use simple and crude imperatives, completely ignore the child's thoughts and personality, and respect the child. On the other hand, if a minor child sees his or her parents as a backer and disfellowships them reasonably, it will bring them a sense of security and support, and they can seek help from their parents if something goes wrong. Parents usually listen too much to everything about their children (academics, expressions, hobbies, etc.) and it seems that they will give their children more freedom, but children will feel that their parents "don't care" about them and feel alienated.

I am very patient when educating my children, when I am in a bad mood, I will choose to do something I like to do with envy, to relieve the pressure of self-esteem, and I will not lose my temper with my children, and when my children do wrong things, I will also give my children patience and reasoning.

I usually educate my children very gently, and I will also talk to them gently, so I will not be in a hurry at all. They don't yell at their children.

In the process of the child's growth, I will teach the child well, and at the same time, Lu Meng will tell the child some things about the loss, so that the child can have a better growth and better development for the child's future development.

When educating children, of course, the most important thing is the patience of the parents of my blind stools. To communicate with Xunlu children, you must be patient with yourself, slowly understand the children, educate the children, and tutor the children.

Patience means not being impatient and not bored, and it is important to teach children patience.

The younger the child, or the worse the student, the greater the need for great patience.

Because they don't understand anything, they don't understand, at this time they should be patiently guided, timely encouragement, and if they do a good job, they should be praised in time to enhance their self-confidence. If they don't do well, they should also be allowed to make mistakes, and they should not be dampened by their self-confidence.

In this way, the seeds that are patiently watered will take root and sprout, and eventually bear fruit.

If we try to educate in a brutal way, the result is often counterproductive.

Many students who are struggling to learn and who are not interested in learning have lost their confidence and interest in learning because of the rough education methods.

I hope we can be a little more patient on the way to educating our children.

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I'll answer that question for you. 1. Words are not as good as teaching by example Children's growth is a gradual process. But in real life, many parents are in a hurry, too eager for their children's growth, and even make many actions that are not conducive to the healthy growth of their children.

This lack of patience on the part of parents. It leaves a bad impression on the child, making the child feel afraid and isolated from his parents. They also feel avoidant and bored with learning.

As a qualified parent, you must be patient with your child. How to be a patient parent? First of all, parents should lead by example and set an example for their children in their daily lives.

Children are like a blank sheet of paper, and parents are the closest people to children. Their every move will also be deeply imprinted on this "blank paper". Parents need to pay attention to their words and deeds and strive to be a cultured person.

As a well-bred parent, you must have the conditions for self-control. Don't bring negative emotions to your child. Learn to respect, integrity, and tolerance.

Communicate with your child and establish a set of rules that everyone must follow each other. Second, be patient with your child. As a role model for children, how can you educate your children well if you are not even patient?

Children will encounter many problems on the road to growth.

Teaching children to be patient is what is needed.

Hello <>

I'll answer that question for you. 1. Words are not as good as teaching by example Children's growth is a gradual process. But in real life, many parents are in a hurry, too eager for their children's growth, and even make many actions that are not conducive to the healthy growth of their children.

This lack of patience on the part of parents. It leaves a bad impression on the child, making the child feel afraid and isolated from his parents. They also feel avoidant and bored with learning.

As a qualified parent, you must be patient with your child. How to be a patient parent? First of all, parents should lead by example and set an example for their children in their daily lives.

Children are like a blank sheet of paper, and parents are the closest people to children. Their every move will also be deeply imprinted on this "blank paper". Parents need to pay attention to their words and deeds and strive to be a cultured person.

As a well-bred parent, you must have the conditions for self-control. Don't bring negative emotions to your child. Learn to respect, integrity, and tolerance.

Communicate with your child and establish a set of rules that everyone must follow each other. Second, be patient with your child. As a role model for children, how can you educate your children well if you are not even patient?

Children will encounter many problems on the road to growth.

When children encounter difficulties and make mistakes. Parents should not blindly blame their children, but should help them analyze the problems and find out the root cause of the mistakes. Face it together and make corrections.

Only in this way can children grow up happily in a good environment and grow up to be an independent and responsible person.