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I thought I would be able to go home once a quarter, but it's actually nice to be able to go home once a year.
Parents are always reluctant to approve of their daughters marrying away from others, because it is a kind of torture for both parents and children. Relatives miss each other but can't see each other, and they want to go home, but they are always unable to make the trip due to the obstacles of reality.
I thought I would be able to go back to my parents' house once a quarter, but time never allowed. At that time, when I got married, I actually planned very well, saving a few days off work every quarter to take a few days off and take a few years of annual leave.
Take advantage of this time to go home and spend time with your parents.
But in real life, all thoughts are really just ideas. Even in a foreign country, the pressure of work is still very high, and of course I want to live a better life, so I can only keep working hard. In this process, even if it is off-duty, it is not a safe and stable day, and it is not necessarily when I will be called back to the company to work overtime, and the time really does not allow me to leave the city for a long time, even if it is only for a short week.
I feel like I have to go home at least once a year, but it's always frustrating. When you settle in a distant city, when you have your own children, and when you have your own life circle, there are not only all kinds of burdens in life, but also all kinds of responsibilities that you should bear.
I can't drop everything and go home, but it's impossible to arrange everything. When my children were young, I was afraid that my children would suffer, and when my children grew older, I was afraid that it would affect their learning, so I could only watch my distant parents grow old, but I couldn't go to their side to accompany them.
There are no words to describe that feeling, and there is always a sense of indebtedness in my heart. I didn't want to live like this at all, but the choice I made made pushed myself onto the cliff.
Imagination is always much better than reality, and if possible, don't marry far away. When you choose this path, it may really mean that you are getting farther and farther away from your parents.
Spend more time with your parents, you don't have much time to spend with them.
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I go back once a year, recently I go back every year, before I got married, I said that both sides spent a year, and we also did this, usually go back when there is something, take a few hours in the car, my parents live with us now, it doesn't matter if you go back or not.
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After getting married, you generally go home about once a year, and go home to see your parents during the most lively Spring Festival every year, and secondly, the distance is too far, and you don't have the time and energy to go back.
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Since I graduated from university, I have been married to Hunan, because Hunan is so far away from my mother's home, I can only return to my mother's house almost every two or three years, even if there is something urgent in my mother's house, I can't rush back in time, at this time I feel really sad.
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If it's really far, you may not go home until the New Year, after all, you have to take care of your family and work, and you don't have time to go back to your parents' home, but if the distance is good, you will often go back now that the transportation is developed.
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The elders of many girls are very reluctant to marry their daughters far away, because although their daughters have grown up, they will not worry about their daughters, and many people will come back once a year after marrying far away.
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After getting married, I can only go back to my parents' home once a year, the first is that the transportation is inconvenient, the place where I live is very remote, there is no direct car, it is not easy to go back to my parents' home once, and the second is because of the family's financial troubles.
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Judging from the examples of the elders around me, I usually go back for the Chinese New Year, and I don't usually go back if I don't have anything important, unless my family members over there may have a happy event or a funeral.
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There is a second-married woman from Yunnan in our village who married us in Sichuan, and the children born here are now 12 years old, and they only returned to their parents' house last year, and the woman's father came to see her, and she couldn't even understand what her father said!
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The reason why I got married and went back to my parents' house as little as possible was because of too much financial pressure. After all, I have already started a family, and it is impossible to go back to my parents' house empty-handed, so for some women whose families are not very wealthy, it may be very simple to go back to their parents' home, but the gifts and various expenses they have to bring every time they go back to their parents' homes are what they are really embarrassed about.
When you get married, you try to go back to your parents' house as little as possible.
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The reason why I got married and went back to my parents' house as little as possible was because of too much financial pressure. After all, I have already started a family, and it is impossible to go back to my parents' house empty-handed, so for some women whose families are not very wealthy, it may be very simple to go back to my parents' home, but every time I go back to my parents' house, I want to bring gifts and various expenses that are really difficult for them.
Of course, it's not impossible to go back to your parents' house without bringing anything, if you only have Xun Jian's parents, it's better, but if your mother's family has an older brother or younger brother, especially when they also become a family, you can't bring nothing when you go back to your parents' house as a married daughter. It is precisely this reason for the resale that makes many women less active about returning to their parents' homes.
And after marriage, I don't live happily, I go back to my parents' house too often, I worry about my parents seeing the problem, and the second elder will worry more, and some girls go back to their parents' house less often after getting married, because they are not very happy after marriage. The girls are worried that they will always go back to their parents' homes frequently and their parents will see that there is a problem with Yu Xingxiang, and they don't want the second elder to worry about their own affairs when they are old, so they choose to report good news and not bad news, and in desperation, the number of times they return to their parents' house can only become less and less.
Married life is too trivial, it is true that there is no time and no suitable opportunity to often go back to their parents' homes, and some women after marriage, especially after having children, the reason why the number of times they go back to their parents' homes will become less and less is that they really have no time, after all, after having children, women have to be busy with work and take care of their children when they are resting, and when the children are older, they have to take their children to various cram schools and training classes. So I always say that I want to go back to Hanzhou to see my parents, but the number of times I really go back is only a handful.
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Look at the mood, this question is not worth discussing at all, okay, aren't you your parents' daughter when you get married? You are marrying him as a wife, not as a slave to their family, it is your freedom to go home when you want, your husband has no opinion, you can even live in your mother's house, of course, provided that you don't have a younger brother or your younger brother is not married.
If your brother is married and lives with his parents, then you can't go home whenever you wantAfter all, your brother has also established a new family, which is not only your home anymore, but also a new home, although it is a bit cruel to say this, but it is true, it is definitely not suitable for you to live here permanently, but when do you want to come back to see, it is not particularly frequent, your younger siblings should not mind.
But if you are an only child or if your brother or brother is not married, you can go home as you likeAfter all, it has been so many years of reform and opening up, the Qing Dynasty is dead, and the saying that women are not allowed to go back to their parents' homes is really too old, so I feel that whether to go back to your parents' homes is completely up to your wishes, and no one can force you or stop you!
I feel that even if a girl gets married, it is appropriate to maintain the previous relationship with her mother's family, not only to become someone else's wife, but also to be their daughter for the rest of your life, and parents will want their daughters to go home more often, this is the wish of parents, or why parents do not want their daughters to marry far away, just to make it convenient for their daughters to go back to their parents' homes, now that the traffic is so developed, in fact, it is really good to have the conditions to go back to their parents' homes more.
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The girl who marries out, spills the water. This is a true portrayal of marriage and family for thousands of years, but with the development of society and the progress of human beings, this common saying will no longer be the present.
In the past, in the three outlines of impermanence, three from the four virtues, marrying a dog with a dog and marrying a chicken with a chicken, formed the idea of male superiority and inferiority, married out of the girl, just like a grafted tree, although your roots are in your mother's house, once you marry into your mother-in-law's family, you are the daughter-in-law of your mother-in-law, and you have given birth to a little filial piety here, and your mother's family has since become a relative from home, that is, she has become a relative, and you can't often string relatives, many movies and ** reflect, the daughter-in-law is angry at her mother-in-law's house, and after returning to her mother's house, her mother has to send her back to her mother-in-law's house with tears, afraid that she will leave a bad reputation, and she is afraid that her aunt will leave a piece of paper and leave the girl, Afraid of social discussions, afraid of people's guidance, the girl just wants to save her mother's family, and she has to steal like being cheap, she can't give it openly, she is afraid of her mother-in-law blaming, the key problem is that the social status of the daughter-in-law is low, the man can have three wives and four concubines, and the woman can only strictly abide by the woman's way, and there are three unfilial pieties, no queen is great, many rules make the daughter-in-law not afraid of being right, giving birth to a girl daughter-in-law like a child who has done something wrong can't raise her head, science was not developed in the past, as long as the daughter-in-law can't give birth to a boy, she may be divorced, good man, remarry, And a woman is not allowed to divorce and remarry. As a result, the woman's mother's family seems to be born with no reason, so the girl who married out splashed the water. It's a portrayal of the past.
The times are different, both men and women are the same, after the founding of New China, the status of women has been improved, men and women are equal, now in the family, the status of daughters-in-law is sometimes higher than that of men, the daughter-in-law of the millennium has become a mother-in-law, especially now that there are more men and fewer women, the advantages of daughter-in-law in the family are more prominent, the divorce rate is increasing year by year, daughter-in-law accounts for 60% of the factors, some daughters-in-law live in their mother's house for a long time after marriage, and some daughters-in-law take their aunt in their mother's house during the Spring Festival, and the daughter-in-law era has become the norm. How long to go back to her parents' house, who has a rule, is the daughter-in-law according to the actual situation.
The imbalance between men and women, which leads to distorted social phenomena, should be taken seriously.
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It depends on how far away your in-laws are from your mother's house, and if you are not far away, you can even come here once a week.
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It still depends on the distance, if you live close, go back once a week, and live far away, once every six months.
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I think it's appropriate to go back to my parents' house once every six months or so.
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This number of times can be seen depending on the mood, and if you can, you can go back often.
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After getting married, it is more appropriate to go back to her parents' house once a month.
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At least half a month or a month, don't take too long, otherwise it will break your parents' hearts.
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If you want to go back, where did you come from so much exquisiteness, what age.
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It's very casual, mainly to look at yourself and look at your family.
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No. 1. It is difficult to adapt to water, soil and diet.
Eating habits can be a more troublesome thing, and it can be appropriately accepted for people who are not picky about eating, but for picky people, they can only cook their own meals alone.
Adaptation to the soil and water is difficult, not only will cause physical discomfort, but also bring emotional irritability, if there are some special customs and habits, it is even more difficult to adapt.
Second, the feelings of longing are difficult to understand.
If you think about the long-awaited figure of your parents, you can understand that no matter how frequent the phone call is, it is better to see your parents with your own eyes, hold your parents' hands, and eat the meals prepared by your parents.
After all, people pay the most attention to feelings, and the love of blood will become deeper and deeper because of time and distance, but because of distant marriage, you can only find an appropriate time to go home to relieve your longing.
3. There is nowhere to go after a quarrel between husband and wife.
No matter how loving a husband and wife are, they can't escape the quarrel and quarrel, and when people are angry, it is reasonable to say "go back to their parents' house", or to talk to their girlfriends.
But at the moment when I got married and slammed the door in a quarrel, I felt a sense of loneliness that instantly surrounded my whole body, and I didn't know that I wanted to go, and I didn't know if I could go.
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Absolutely. It's okay to stay at your mother's house every day.
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Definitely, if you miss your parents. It's okay to have time. It's all about people. Everyone is different.
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Distant marriage is a matter that is discussed a lot now, and distant marriage generally refers to marrying to a distant place, so how many hours do you have to go back to your parents' house to marry far away?
1. Different people have different views on the issue of long-distance marriage. Some people think that the province is not a long-distance marriage, and some people think that not being in a city is also a long-distance marriage. Therefore, everyone's definition is not passed, because how many hours back to his parents' house is considered a long-distance marriage, and it is based on everyone's opinion.
2. Because society is developing, some people will go to a farther place to study when they are in college, and then stay and work, and finally meet a local person, and then choose to get married and have children. It is already a very common thing to marry far away, some people think that going back to their parents' house for two hours is far away and marrying, and some people think that going home for five or six hours is considered a long marriage. Nowadays, many people travel by high-speed rail, and it may only take three or four hours from within the province to outside the province, so the definition of long-distance marriage is also different.
3. Generally speaking, if you marry far away, I think it takes more than five hours to drive for more than five hours, but everyone has different ideas. As long as the other party is the right person, then marrying far away will also be very happy.
Is 300 kilometers in the province considered a long-distance marriage?
1. If long-distance marriage can be calculated by car, then 300 kilometers in the province is indeed considered long-distance marriage, but the definition of long-distance marriage is also different. If you marry 300 kilometers in the province, there are planes, high-speed trains and cars, then the time to go back and forth is about half a day, so it feels like it is not far away.
2. If the local economic conditions of the long-distance marriage are average, and you need to take a train, a car to transfer to a bus, then the distance of 300 kilometers in the province is a real long-distance marriage. Because of the inconvenient transportation, girls will not be able to go back to their parents' homes often, and they will miss their parents and hometown even more. Parents regret that they are getting older, and they can't accompany their parents, and sometimes they feel very guilty.
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I also want to soak a stupid sister like you, women are all soaked out, and it turns out that the more ruthless a man is, the more affectionate a woman is. Who plays with what birds, I don't go to hell, who goes to hell, the sea of bitterness is boundless, and the shore is back.