Should I comfort him, and why wouldn t I?

Think about what he uses that is worth not letting go of, and then do it well, what is love, you may not understand it.

Men are the same, once there will be twice, don't be soft-hearted to such a man, cherish your current feelings, after missing it, you will find that you are wrong, don't do such regrets. I'm thinking about why you can't let him go. Be sure not to act impulsively.

Don't go for good, hurting your current boyfriend will also make you miserable.

What about your current boyfriend? What is he now? Alternatives?

If you think about it, you should know what to do!

It's very tangled. I think you should still love the person you should love now, and cherish the current feelings! If your current boyfriend loves you very much).

When I saw this question, my scalp tingled because I bumped into my roommate secretly crying in the dorm room several times.

Once, on the weekend of my freshman year, we made an appointment in the dormitory to sing K, and roommate Z suddenly couldn't go.

I felt unwell on the way, so I went back to the dormitory early, but I met Z secretly wiping her tears.

At that moment, I leaned against the door and called, neither entering nor retreating.

Also a little embarrassed, he hurriedly wiped his eyes and asked me why I came back.

I said what I wasn't comfortable with, and we sat back down at the table.

I glanced at her on the table, not knowing what to do.

I didn't ask her why she was crying, and I didn't tell anyone else about it.

Another time, I got up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom and heard another roommate crouching on the balcony crying.

And that time, I didn't ask her why she was crying.

Just patted her on the shoulder and told her, "If you're sad, you can hug me." ”

For a long time, I felt like I was too stupid to comfort others.

Many times, crying is seen as a fragile and ineffective thing.

We don't want our friends to be immersed in such negative emotions, so we take it for granted that it is our responsibility to make our friends happy.

But in fact, on a physiological level, for that person, crying is useful.

Someone studied the reports about "crying" in the past 100 years and found that 94% of the reports mentioned that crying is good for the body and mind.

In Japan, there is a "crying club".

Members regularly get together to watch sad movies and read sad books to release tears.

Don't think of someone who cries secretly as a vulnerable person.

Perhaps, they are just releasing the unpleasantness.

Liang Shuang, played by Guan Xiaotong in "Twenty Don't Confuse", has a strong appearance.

Whether it's finding out that he was a junior, or when he moved several large bags of bits and pieces from his ex-boyfriend back to the dormitory.

She didn't show a trace of vulnerability in front of others.

But they will also let themselves get drunk and cry bitterly on the night of emotional breakdown.

When she wakes up the next day, she will still be back to her previous state.

I still get up early to run, actively look for a job, and don't indulge in a low mood.

After getting acquainted with Z, we once went to the counselor together to hand in the materials.

She took the initiative to mention the night I bumped into her and secretly cried.

Z blinked, "Actually, at that time, silence was the best comfort for me. ”

This sentence made me realize that I, who thought I would not be comforting, was already using my actions to give her the best comfort.

It's like a cousin accompanying a lovelorn friend, sitting on the roof of the dormitory all evening.

Because the most sincere comfort is probably like them.

I'm worried that my friend will be difficult to call and care about the other person's emotions.

Don't take other people's unhappiness as a joke, accompany silently, and do your best to help friends get through the low mood period.