If you break up with your lover, do you want to be friends with it?

Don't do it, there is no point in hope.

Do it, because you have loved.

It depends. <>

1. You are really relieved of each other, and you have a very pleasant feeling in the process of getting along, but the underlying core is not satisfied, and the two people are not suitable.

This kind of incompatibility is often because two people are very similar. can understand what the other person desires, but there is no attraction caused by differences, so the previous mode of getting along with two people is similar to the role of friends, rather than getting along with each other in the mode of partners.

In this case, there is no problem in being friends. Because you became friends, you continued the previous mode of getting along, but you found a more suitable identity, and you no longer get along as lovers.

2. One of you owes something to the other and wants to compensate the other party as a friend.

In this case, it is not suitable to be friends. Because the real motivation of the party who wants to be friends is guilt, maybe they already have a partner, and the other party may not let go, and the one who leaves has also caused harm to the other party.

After a breakup, the relationship between friends is still a blurred sense of boundaries. I don't know my sense of boundaries, I don't take the initiative to cut off relationships, I want to play the role of a "good old man", and I don't want to feel guilty. But to be truly responsible for each other is to have their own futures and achieve happiness for each other, rather than continuing to break the thread.

3. I still love each other, so I want to approach each other in the name of friends.

This kind of situation can't be put down, still in love with each other, but afraid of the other party's rejection, so retreat to the second, in the name of a friend, not to disappear in the other party's world, and at the same time let yourself still have a fantasy.

In this case, both of you will be miserable and will not be able to truly be friends at all. Because lovers are lovers, not only to have the identity of lovers, but also to each other's future. So if you can't let go, what you need to do is to find the problems in the previous relationship, repair the relationship, re-establish the relationship, and get back together.

If you want to be friends after breaking up, then you will never forget it, and it is easy to rekindle the old love in the end. The breakup should be complete, and the departure should be chic, what do you think?

Even if you can become friends after a breakup, they are just friends, not even ordinary friends, let alone close friends.

I've been thinking about this question for a long time, and the answer I came to at that time was: no, and three years later, the answer I give is still no.

Why? Because the scars of the past, the hard work of the past, are difficult to write off, as we said"It's hard to recover when covered with water".。Therefore, even though the former lover continues to associate as friends, their relationship with each other is not as satisfying as in other friendships.

Because the intimacy of the past still haunts their minds, and those unpleasant memories have never been resolved, they have always been uneasy.

And when one party has a new relationship, the friendship often fades away. After allFor the incumbent, a qualified predecessor should be like dead. Although this sounds unpleasant and a bit extreme, it is not unreasonable.

The existence of the predecessor still has to keep his duty and not disturb the lives of others, which is the least reservation of his own dignity and the most basic respect for a relationship.

Lovers and friends can't be confused, and how can the vigor of a relationship be compared to the friendship between friends.

If you can still be friends after a breakup, it can only mean that in that former relationship, I only regarded you as a friend, and the people who can still be friends after a breakup are either two people who love very shallowly, or one person loves shallowly, and the other person loves very deeply.

Two people come to the fork in the road of separation, the distance between the two people will only get farther and farther, not to contact is the greatest blessing to both parties, there is such a lyric in "Gentleness", do not disturb is my last tenderness,Being friends is not a kind of open-mindedness, and it is not in vain to be able to do it without disturbing.

As special as the friendship after a breakup is, in general, as long as they last, the reasons for their rise and fall are no different from ordinary ones. OnlyThose who consistently provide value to each other are the ones who maintain a close friendship

Can't be friends anymore.

Just after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend for a month, he thought we were more suitable to be friends, and I thought so too, so we jointly decided to return to being friends. We also have a common circle of friends, playing in a circle. But that's where the real pain begins.

Since he is still in your WeChat circle of friends, Weibo, NetEase Cloud, Douyin and other accounts are still closed to each other, and you will associate yourself with any song and status of unknown meaning posted by him after the breakup. Every time you convince yourself that you have done a long time of psychological construction and determination to restart a new life, you are repeatedly recalled and missed. Your world just crumbles and repairs, rebuilds, and then collapses and repairs.

Even when it is serious, as long as we meet, I will be cranky because of his eyes and behavior.

I believe that people who have loved deeply cannot be friends. Because you can't control yourself from thinking about him, contacting him, wanting to know his every move, and caring about him at every moment. If you don't have another right person around you, it's fine for you to do it, but if there's another girl around you, he's very nice to you, but you've been thinking about your ex-girlfriend,When you can't strip yourself from this relationship at all, you will hurt the person who cares about you the most, likes you the most, and deserves your love the most, but you don't have love.

Only when you block all the ways will you feel like you are starting to let go and be free. Don't give each other any hope, just return to strangers. I may still like you, and I may still feel when I see you, but since we have chosen to separate and not go on, we should not give each other a chance to repeat the mistakes of the past.

Otherwise, continue to be lovers. Don't be involved in the name of friends, it's a responsibility to each other.

Love is actually like a puzzle. He is divided into many parts, such as meeting, acquaintance, embrace, warmth and parting, and parting sometimes does not make the puzzle complete, but rather completes the puzzle of love.

It depends on the reason for your breakup. If it is according to the normal procedure under the society, there will generally be no contact. Good for both sides.

But the decision on this issue is always you, only you know best how you want to do it, and other people's experience is always someone else's other

It's best not to break up, it's boring.

A qualified ex should be like hanging.

Let's break up, after the breakup, we're still friends, right? In addition to showing their general's demeanor, they are more eager to be able to love the old and the new and get together.

Lovers who originally loved each other, in the face of a breakup, may have unavoidable reasons, or have unspeakable reasons and still want to be a pair of friends after the breakup, wouldn't they bring everything in the past back to their lives? Why bother? Of course, I don't approve of breaking up and becoming enemies and enemies, slandering each other, and wanting to kill each other.

When you see your former lover living happier than you, will you be jealous? When the former lover excitedly brings the new lover to make an introduction, even if you pretend not to care, but the taste in your heart. Why do you bother to find a yellow lotus to chew yourself?

If the life of the former lover is not happy, your old love plus compassion will definitely think a lot. After all, you used to be lovers in love, and you also used to have a good love life, in the face of the frustration and confusion of your former lovers, will you lend a helping hand? Will you fall into that emotional vortex again?

In the end, everyone has a new half, you continue to be friends with the old love, what will the new lover think in his heart, the thread is broken? The new love must be dissatisfied, and what is even more terrifying is that in the suspicion and justification, a geometric relationship is generated. Of course, there are some successes, but it always sounds like there is a slight embarrassment.

has never been unforgettable, how easy is it to be friends after a breakup? Look at your former lover, kiss me and me with others, and rejoice, you will definitely have.

Why bother making your own drama for yourself and for them? If you've already broken up, why do you want to deliberately maintain a relationship that borders on friendship? It's better to seal it in your heart, miss it, or throw it away and welcome a new life.

If you break up, why bother to be friends again?

Otherwise, what a breakup.

I objected to the upstairs: "After a breakup, you can only be the stranger you know best." ”

There are many reasons for a breakup:

Because there is a strong sexual relationship between lovers, and a friend relationship is just friendship.

It's not that lovers break up and they have to hurt each other. Who said that two people who are in love must have to get married?

Since you can start to develop a romantic relationship from a friend relationship, you can also turn a lover relationship back into a friend relationship.

The change of roles is not a fundamental problem.

Emotional matters are uncertain.

Philosophically, it is believed that movement is the eternity of material existence.

Do you understand? Hehe...

Suppose both parties have a new love after breaking up, but you are still friends with your old love, what does the new lover think. Who doesn't think you're disconnected from your old love? The new love must be dissatisfied, and he is even more afraid of creating a diagonal relationship in the pulling and pulling.

Although there are some examples of peace and quiet, these stories are inevitably a little embarrassing to hear. When you see your old lover, how can you forget the days you have walked with him through thick and thin? Unless it has not been unforgettable.

You can't be friends after a breakup because you've hurt each other. You can't be enemies after a breakup, because you have loved each other.

So you can only do the most familiar stranger ......After breaking up, don't be friends again, if you can still be friends, it can only mean that you haven't loved deeply. If it's a friend, it needs care, and if that's the case, then why choose to break up? A relationship, a journey, a journey together, too much joy and touching, too much helplessness, heartache, from true love to hurt each other, to the moment of breakup, can you still be friends?

If you can, you must not have really loved, or it is the result of a person's grievances.

There is no floodgate for feelings, and it is not a ...... that can be closed with a single pullIt is difficult for two people to love each other at the same time, and it is even harder to not love each other at the same time......There is no love or hatred in the heart, and only when the throbbing in the heart is indifferent can we become friends. Lovers are so close, friends are so far away......If you can't be a lover, maybe he will say that he will be friends, but the car obviously drove away, even if he returns to the original point again, it will be a different time......Different characters, different landscapes. We've already taken a step forward, but how can we measure the same size and go back?

It's better to keep moving forward and keep going ......

Until you meet up again with someone else you can love.

Don't love him her.

Let it go, don't make excuses for your selfishness. Don't keep if you still love her, don't expect her to turn back ......Therefore, when you break up, you can't continue to be friends or enemies, and you can only be the stranger you know most ......

You can't be friends after a breakup. The reason why I chose to be a stranger is: since I broke up, I don't want to have an ambiguous relationship, that will only make me sad and uncomfortable, neither can I advance or retreat, since I have broken up, I will completely quit, a happy life, and happiness is the only pursuit now.

I can only say sorry to him, whatever the reason, we broke up and broke up, and since we can't love each other anymore, let's be strangers.

You can't be friends after a breakup. If you have ever loved this person deeply, he was once an inseparable part of your life, then how to switch roles to see him as a friend casually? This is probably difficult for most people to do.

You can't be friends after a breakup. If it is said that after a breakup, they will keep in touch, it can only mean that one party has not really let go of the other party, and he is not willing to completely disappear from the other party's life, so he will find all kinds of seemingly high-sounding reasons to approach the other party. However, ask yourself, if you have really loved each other, if he is really sorry for you, can he really be friends?

No, because the reality is cruel and not as colorful as we think.

It varies from person to person, but it is possible to be friends after a breakup.

However, it is rare to be friends, even friends may only be ordinary friends, because if they are separated, they will have their own lives and partners, and it is not excluded that there is a kind of breakup that is very good and reconciled.

If you have loved each other deeply, at least one party will feel deeply hurt, he may be reluctant to contact again, he may be more hurt when he sees each other again, and it is better for the other party not to force it.

It seems that after the breakup, everyone must understand the reasons for the breakup, learn a lesson, and recover as soon as possible in the next time.