What are the psychological contradictions that the elderly often have in their lives?

Family. The elderly are most concerned about family affection, and the elderly generally want to spend more time with their children, but now children generally do not want to live with their parents, resulting in loneliness and no support.

Love. Young people pursue love, and so do the elderly. Because of loneliness, widowed or divorced elderly people need more emotional comfort. For some reasons, the children interfered to prevent the old man from remarrying and make the old man miserable.

Social-emotional. After retirement, many elderly people are prone to the idea that they are useless and that they have no value to society.

At present, the trend of aging is gradually rising, especially in large cities, where the elderly over 60 years old in Shanghai have nearly 5 million people, accounting for about 35 of the city's population, so the life security and happiness index of the elderly have become a common focus of the current and the whole society, and for the elderly themselves, with the increase in age, all aspects of the body gradually degenerate, inconvenient mobility, think that they have no place to play, at this time as a young person should be how to dredge their sense of dredging, I think it should be done from the following two aspects.

1. Give full play to the residual heat.

Everyone has such an experience, when people have nothing to do for a long time, there will be personality changes, temper short, and often have language conflicts with family members, in order to avoid this situation, we as children should try our best to arrange for the elderly to do something within their ability, so that they feel that they are still valuable, have value to society and family.

For example, you can ask your parents for some historical knowledge, and children in rural areas can ask their parents for some methods and skills of farm work, etc., as long as you can make your parents happy, believe that they are still valuable, and successfully divert their attention, so that they will not always be silent in an atmosphere where they can't do anything because they are old, and over time, their personalities will change, and the whole family will be filled with harmony and happiness.

2. Answer questions and solve doubts.

The mobility of parents is not only reflected in the physical impairment, but also in the heart. For example, now is the era of electronic equipment, many elderly people can not use new electronic devices smoothly, after a long time, there will be frustration in the heart, thinking that they used to be a skilled worker in a factory, and now they can't even play with a five or six-year-old child can not play with things, so they feel very uncomfortable, and at this time we need to "help".

On the one hand, we can tell him that people as old as you, they are not very good at using them, at that time, these things were not developed, and everyone had not come into contact with them, so you can learn slowly, and when you learn, other old people will not be able to, you will be one step faster than them, and the comparison between the elderly is still quite powerful, so we can successfully solve the problem by grasping their mental activities.

On the other hand, we need to teach them seriously, sometimes they are not obsessed with playing this thing, they feel that we as children ignore them, especially after young people have their own children, this makes the elderly feel the most obvious, so we should teach them as much as possible, treat them as children, let them feel warm, this method I personally think is the most effective. That's my take on this matter.

This is because they need the company of their families very much, and they also want to learn how to use electronic devices, but they are also afraid of being derailed from the world, and they also want to find someone to spend the rest of their lives with.

For the elderly, they usually have emotional and psychological confusion, that is, they will worry about their bodies, they will worry about their accidents tomorrow, and they will worry about their children, and there is no way to live a better life, so they think more.

Fear of loneliness. This is one of the most common psychological abnormalities in the elderly, and its main manifestations are low self-evaluation, negative sense of survival, and frequent dissatisfaction and complaints about others. In the long run, the elderly with this situation will strengthen the restraint of their own behavior, strengthen the closure of their own hearts, gradually alienate themselves from society, and eventually form lonely living habits and behavior patterns, and will silently bear the pain brought by loneliness.

This kind of elderly people not only want others to care for them, but also fear that there will be too large psychological gaps and disappointments due to excessive expectations, so they often refuse to interact with others, so they will become lonely, withdrawn, and more and more distant from the people around them.

Older people generally feel that life is idle, lonely and lonely, and there is no one to talk to them about. And when I see that the juniors are busy and can't help, I will feel irritable.

When people reach old age, they will become suspicious and suspicious, thinking that they will become a burden to their children, and their mentality will be more pessimistic.

I often miss the old days and friends, and I often see things and think about people, and my heart is full of sorrow.

When the elderly get older, they will be very lonely, but they don't want to communicate with each other, in fact, they want the other party to care about them.