My boyfriend and I are separated and we don t want to give up our current jobs, what should I do?

It depends on how far you are, but no matter how far you are, it seems that you are talking about 2 cities, and in this case, ......There is not even a compromise. If the two places are going to be very close together, then you can use a middle point as a ......Well, "caravanserais", I can say that, or a makeshift nest. It's just that there will be a little more delay when commuting to and from work.

It's the best thing I can think of, maybe not the best. But what I want to say is that it's easy to find a job nowadays, whether you have a skill or not, you can find a job almost anywhere, can't you make a small sacrifice for love? Or is your job a state-owned enterprise that pays salaries?

For this job, can you even come to lover or not? Or are you not deeply in love with each other at all? Or maybe ......You can imagine what I'm trying to say below.

Of course, if you're not what I say. Then it is best if one party can give up the job, after all, love is not so simple to have! Or, just give up on the other person.

Can you understand what I say?

I don't know what you think, if it's me, put me in your shoes, if I love him, I think if he is not willing to give up, then maybe I will give up my job and go to him to find another job, anyway, the current job is easy to find; The reverse is also true, if he loves me, then I believe he can give up his job and go to my city ......Of course, these are all on the premise of loving each other. Specifically, we outsiders can't give you quite good advice or opinions, think about it yourself and think twice!

Separation is a great test for relationships. Many people end up unhappy because of each other's work prospects. For two separations, if you want to be together, there is always one person who has to sacrifice a little more.

And now that you don't want to give up your current city and work, you have to weigh who has a better future in the future. Try to make the other person sacrifice in this way, not only for emotional considerations, but also for your future survival.

Long-distance is a test question for every pair of lovers, and after patience makes their own careers, life will be very good for the two of them in the future.

Then you will definitely give up love.

<> long-distance relationship for many years, and my boyfriend and I refuse to give up our jobs for each other, can this relationship continue? How to say it, whether any relationship can go long-term mainly depends on whether the two of them love each other enough and whether they are suitable to get along. Especially in long-distance relationships, this word alone will already make many people retreat.

If you don't have firm confidence and a good attitude, it's actually quite tiring. He may be busy when you need him, he may be busy when you think about him, everyone has their own work, and no one can hold a mobile phone all day. You can only find things to fill yourself in your leisure time, and you can only enjoy the tranquility of relaxation alone after a busy day.

But this is not necessarily bad. For example, I've read a lot of books I like and learned what I've always liked in the past year or so. We all have busy goals, and even though we are not in the same place, we all feel like we are all growing together.

It's just that a long-distance relationship must be more attentive than usual, it's not like lovers who are together, if there are contradictions, you can coax and hug it, it can only convey your mood through ** and words. So be sure to have enough trust and no difficulty in communication. Morning, noon and good night are a must every day, during which I will take time to tell each other what I am doing, I will say a few words if I am not busy, and most importantly, it is ** every night.

Even if there is nothing new to share that day, we will do our own things with **, such as when he plays games and I brush**, and I write when he makes things. If it's a busy day, we'll either take the time to play early or talk less, and there will be an exchange anyway. It's my daily routine with my boyfriend.

Any relationship must be managed with heart, as long as there is love, all difficulties encountered can be faced together. Don't be pulled by emotions, don't think about it, there are many long-distance relationships that have achieved positive results, calm down and clear your mind, try to solve the trouble first, and then plan for the worst if you can't solve it, everything must be considered in combination with reality.

Such a relationship cannot continue, because sooner or later there will be problems in the relationship between the two people, so it is better to break up as soon as possible.

No. Because neither of you is willing to make sacrifices for each other, it means that you don't love each other very much, so this kind of relationship cannot continue.

There is no need to continue to be together in such a relationship, because neither of you can give up something for the other, and neither of you will be fruitless.

I don't think it's necessary to continue this kind of relationship, because the other person is simply not willing to give up something for you.

If you've been together for a long time, and it's time to talk about marriage, and he's doing a better job than yours and can take care of you, then you can choose to give up your current job for him and go to him.

If you haven't been together for a long time, you don't know each other, or he doesn't work as well as you, then I don't recommend you to go, after all, you gave up your job for love and went to him, although the two of you are together, but you go to a strange place, there is no and no job, so the economy ** is given to you by him, in case he breaks up with you, you really have nothing.

I gave up my big city life for my boyfriend, and now he is going to break up with me, first of all, I will figure out the reason why he wants to break up, if the reason for his breakup is his own reasons, and he loves him very much, then you can find a way to redeem him, because I came to his city for him, I must have thought about his future, and I have made such a big sacrifice, so I must work hard again and not let myself have regretsYou can try your best to redeem the other party and see if the other party will change their minds, if the other party is hard-hearted and says nothing will work, then I think you have done your best.

You just go back to live in the big city, I think you can definitely continue to work in the big city with your own strength, this thing also taught me a lesson, don't make such a big sacrifice for the other party after you Lu Lao, you still need to find a person who is the right person, you can't give up your future for love, this is very worthless. <>

After he returned to the big city, he focused on his career, let his career slowly improve, and make himself better, after the ascension of God, he regretted it, lost such a good girlfriend, was willing to give up life in the big city for him, and suffered with him, but he couldn't get his cherishment, and he would definitely not meet a girlfriend who was so good to him again. Then I will not have any regrets, because I have worked hard for this relationship, I have tried my best, but there is still no result, so I will give up Sidzen. <>

I will also meet people who love me more, now I need to make myself better, put myself first, don't sacrifice my future for love, the people who love you will come to your city and work together with you, instead of letting you give up your future to suffer with him, when he lets you do this, you can know that this man is not worth your doing, so girls must keep their eyes open, don't make some so-called sacrifices for each other, so that the last hurt is yourself.

You should ask this boyfriend why he is doing this, because you have paid a lot and made a lot of sacrifices for him, and he is too self-conscious to do this.

At this time, it is time to break up, because he has proposed to break up, which means that he no longer loves you, and if you two people are together at this time, there will definitely be a lot of contradictions in the clan.

You should break up. Because your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore, you have to let go and maintain your last dignity.

You should find the other party to understand the situation clearly, and if you insist on breaking up, you can also break up and choose other feelings.

A girl asked: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and there are differences because of the settlement **, should I compromise for the other party? I think whether to compromise or not needs to be looked at comprehensively, first of all, if the boyfriend chooses a place of settlement with a higher level of development, then you can choose to compromise.

Secondly, if the boyfriend chooses to settle in a small 18th-tier city, then there is no need to compromise. Thirdly, if you can find a better job in his chosen place of settlement, then you can compromise. Let's analyze this topic in detail.

Since the two have been in love for three years, they have a certain emotional foundation. Since there are different opinions on the choice of the place to settle, it is better to choose according to objective conditions. If the boyfriend chooses a place of settlement with a higher level of development, then he can choose to compromise.

If you can live in a bigger, better city, you will be better for the future, so you might as well compromise.

If your boyfriend chooses to settle in a small 18th-tier city, and he chooses it there only because it is his hometown and the housing prices are cheap, then you don't need to compromise. Because we don't recommend girls to marry far away. If the place he chooses is still a small city, then don't compromise.

You can offer a compromise and choose a new city that is about the same distance away from both of your chosen settlements.

If you can find a better job in your boyfriend's chosen place of residence than you do now, and you have better room for advancement, then you can choose to compromise. All in all, if a girl wants to marry far away and settle in the boy's birthplace, she must have something to rely on, or a house or a job, there must be a condition that satisfies you.

I think it should. There is always one side to compromise, and if you compromise, then you should also let your boyfriend compromise on the other side. For example, he pays more rent and helps you find a job.

It is not necessary to compromise for the sake of the other party, but to discuss with the other party, and it is best to choose a compromise solution.

Intransigence. As a woman, you shouldn't listen to him for everything, you have to stick to your dreams and work hard.

If you want to have a good future with the other person and love each other very much, then you should make compromises so that the relationship will last for a long time.

If it's just a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, I don't recommend that you give up your stable job and go to his city to find a job.

First of all, the job is stable, which means that you like the job very much, and the time you have been working is not too short. Another advantage of job stability is that the chances of promotion are more advantageous than those of newcomers. Because of stability, the boss will also value you very much.

The boss of any unit benefits from employees who have stable work, and stability means that you can devote your energy to your strengths, give full play to your strengths, and contribute your strength. There is a saying that practice makes perfect, and the passage of time has created you, and you can control your professional skills with ease, and you can shine in the position you hold.

There are too many uncertain factors in life, although they are boyfriend and girlfriend, but they have not really entered the palace of marriage. When you give up your stable job, you have to move from one place to another city. This brings us to the adaptability to future life.

Not to mention whether the relationship between the two of you is strong or not, it takes a lot of courage to go from one place to another. Everyone has a visceral dependence and habit on something. We always have a sense of dependence on the original habitual habits, and then live step by step, even if life is particularly tiring, we also experience the joy and happiness at the same time.

For example, I have been in the first-tier city of Beijing since I got married, and I have become accustomed to the fast-paced and bustling city life, and now I am asked to return to the local town for the sake of my children and accompany them to kindergarten. From the bottom of my heart, I have 10,000 discomforts. Just like in "Thirty Only", Manni returned to her hometown from the big city, although she was not emotionally lonely, she still had a wordless emptiness in her heart, and began to miss all kinds of things in the first-tier cities, even if the crowded subways and buses were so haunting.

Slowly begin to understand the kind of attachment in the heart, familiarity and habit have become an inseparable part of life, want to start all over again, that is a kind of difficult to let go of the macro feelings. Old Cong.

The above is just a reference for me, of course, the decision is still up to you, love really takes courage. Love is sometimes a kind of giving, if you recognize that your boyfriend is the true love of your life, and he is worthy of your giving, then you are brave enough to take this step, the big deal is to start all over again.

If you have a life that accompanies love, you will not be afraid of the wind and rain in life. Just do it if you want to. Ask your heart, make a choice with sincerity, and keep your original intention of love, so that you will have no regrets in life.