How to educate your children well as parents of junior high school students

Be friends with your child, not a paternalistic look.

It's 16 years old, and in fact, today's children are also early. He himself felt that he was already one inside'Adults'Finish. Adults follow'Adults'It is necessary to establish a relationship of equality and opposition. It is only on an equal footing that the bitter words of you and your parents will be useful to him.

First of all, respect him, don't go into his room casually, don't take his things casually. To buy him clothes or something, first ask his opinion. Talk to him, ask him what he wants to do in the future, help him analyze the feasibility, and then instill in him the importance of learning step by step.

Over time, it will have a certain effect.

Junior high school students copy is a strong sense of self, rebellious for a period of time, at this time he does not know how to be responsible for himself, immature, this is a specific period of human psychological development, most of the other children at this age are like this. During this period, you should pay attention to communicating with your child, and do not order him to do things like he did when he was a child, because the tougher you are, the stronger he will be than you.

Now we must teach how to behave and establish ideals and goals.

Family education plays an irreplaceable role in the healthy growth of children. There are 6 main ways to do a good job in family education for children in middle school:

Method steps.

1 6 Step by Step Reading.

1. Ideological guidance method. Middle school students have basically shed the childishness of primary school students, but they are not as mature as adults, they are energetic, intellectually curious, and self-motivated; At the same time, due to the undefined development of ideas, there is a great deal of plasticity. Therefore, when educating children, families should closely link their children's thoughts and conduct ideological education in terms of will, morality, discipline and law-abiding.

2 6 II. Goal Encouragement Method. Goal encouragement in learning is to help children design learning goals according to the principle of "rising tide lifts all boats", so as to stimulate enthusiasm and enable children to continue to climb to a higher peak of knowledge. There is plenty of evidence to prove that the goals of a realistic learning plan can be motivating.

Therefore, parents should formulate realistic learning goals according to their children's ideological quality, cultural foundation, and ability to bear. The goals set for children should not only adhere to high standards and strict requirements, but also be achieved through hard work; There should be both annual goals and monthly and weekly short-term goals. While clarifying the overall goal, it is also necessary to formulate small goals to be completed day by day by subject, achieve and break through in turn, and constantly "add oil" and encouragement, so that children can be like going up the stairs, one step at a time.

3 6 III. Image Inspiration Law. Educational practice has proved that "it is better to set realistic learning goals than to shout loudly."

The goals set for children should not only adhere to high standards and strict requirements, but also be achieved through hard work; There should be both annual goals and monthly and weekly short-term goals. While clarifying the overall goal, it is also necessary to formulate small goals to be completed day by day by subject, achieve and break through in turn, and constantly "add oil" and encouragement, so that children can be like going up the stairs, one step at a time.

4 6 Fourth, the method of heart-to-heart counseling. As the saying goes, "A son is better than a father." Parents should talk and counsel their children in a timely manner for the psychological and ideological problems exposed at different times and for different reasons.

In daily life, parents should achieve "three diligences", that is, to understand the children's thoughts in learning; Observe the child's mental state during learning; Talk diligently and channel children's thinking knots in a timely manner.

5 6 V. Reward and Punishment Incentive Law. Under the premise of ideological education, the use of reward and criticism is also an effective method to arouse students' enthusiasm. Rewards should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.

For example, if the child has outstanding test results, on the basis of school awards, parents can praise them verbally, and they can also inform relatives and friends to expand the scope of praise.

6 6 6 Life Adjustment Method. Being physically strong and full of spirit is the basic condition for doing a good job in studying. Parents should take advantage of holidays and work and study breaks to organize and carry out family cultural and sports competitions, story meetings, knowledge competitions, and hiking outings to regulate their children's lives.

At the same time, it is also necessary to scientifically arrange learning according to the child's physiological capacity, so as to achieve a combination of work and rest, so as to ensure that the child devotes himself to learning with full enthusiasm and vigorous energy.

Actually, there is no need to force it.

He, many people in China (including parents) pursue meritocracy, or reading-only theory. A lot of things are fate, and there is no way to change them. It is often said that three points are destined, and seven points depend on hard work.

In fact, it is wrong to say this, it should be the other way around. Seven points are fate, and three points are variable, but it is difficult to change these seven points with these three points. It is recommended that you take a look at "Those Things in the Ming Dynasty Part 7" written by Mingyue back then:

The finale Chapter 21 is over", and the story of Xu Hongzu (Xu Xiake) is told at the end, Mingyue wrote his opinion, there is only one way to succeed: that is, to live life in your own way! Don't be stumped by reading-only theories!

How many people have been harmed by meritocracy! Since he doesn't learn, let him be! Don't read well and play without having fun.

If you want to play a game, let him be. Reading is not the only way out, all roads lead to Rome (I am like this, not only did I read it, but I also read and read stupidly!). Don't laugh at me! ）！

Try more, see what you are interested in, what special preferences you have, guidance is very important, if there are bad habits must not be tolerated!

First of all, let him love learning, this is an important stage, and the foundation is the first priority.

I'm a high school student now. But I also have some views on this. The little ones in junior high school have been released.

Beat, beat. Recognize that he knows how powerful ( If you don't give money, how can you make money, but only then can you make money.

Encourage your child and don't skimp on praise.

Being too serious and harsh on children will breed more inferiority complex and lack of self-confidence in children's hearts, which will not be of much benefit to children's future learning and life. And encouraging your child often will make you more confident, more optimistic, more like challenges, will make more friends, and will be more interested in things.

Knowing your child is the only way to "prescribe the right medicine".

Sometimes, when holding parent-teacher meetings or taking walks, I will meet some parents of students who will ask questions about teaching their children to be obedient or educating their children to study well. There are too many parents who will talk about bad things about their children, but from what I have observed, those children are not exactly what their parents described.

Excessive protection brings incompetence to children.

We have actually heard a lot of examples of not being able to peel eggs, prodigies will not take care of themselves, girls will not protect themselves, etc., so first of all, our parents should pay attention to the cultivation of children's ability to take care of themselves: let your children "become" a little more ordinary, ordinary, this is not to abuse children, but to give children a safe living space. With a good body, there is a safe foundation to have something else!

If you want to let the birds soar in the sky, you must first let them learn to fly, right? So can he "fly" with an overprotected child?

Setting an example Role models are an important way to influence and educate children with the good thoughts and actions of others. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroic and exemplary figures, positive characters in literary and artistic works, and the excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Regardless of whether a parent's words or deeds are wrong or correct, they have a very profound impact on their children.

Therefore, parents should always check their words and deeds in their daily lives.

Persuasion Education The specific methods of persuasion education: First, in the conversation, parents should lay out the facts and reason according to the ideological reality of their children, so that their children can understand certain truths, and the conversation should be pertinent and flexible, and the attitude should be kind, and not with a straight face, condescending reprimand, sarcasm. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together.

When discussing, we should respect the child, listen patiently to his opinion, and be patient in reasoning if there is an incorrect point of view, so that the child can distinguish between right and wrong. Parental views are not Zen and sensitive, and they must have the courage to admit it.

The above is how parents educate their children in junior high school.