Differences in Family Culture between China and the United States 20

Differences between Chinese and American family education:

1. American parents encourage their children more than they protect, while Chinese parents are overprotective rather than encouraged.

American parents encourage their children to try things out to develop their abilities and interests, as well as build self-confidence.

Chinese parents are overprotective, resulting in children's dependence on their parents, making children doubt or lose the correct understanding and evaluation of self-worth and self-ability, and everything depends on their parents. Parents. Parents are afraid that their children will be injured or bullied, and parents do not let their children participate in many things or dangerous activities.

Second, American parents guide their children more than indoctrination, and Chinese parents preach more than guide.

American parents pay attention to guiding their children to gain experience and lessons and draw conclusions through practice or even after hitting a wall. Always say to your child, "You decide for yourself."

Go ahead and try it. "I think ......Maybe better, right? "My advice is ......"Wait.

Chinese parents like to tell their children directly about their lessons and lessons, so that their children will avoid detours. I often say to my children, "You are still young, you have to listen to adults."

You don't understand, do what I say. "I'll tell you ......Why don't you listen? "Wrong, you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you.

Listen to me, I eat more salt than you eat" and so on.

3. American parents demand all-round development for their children, while Chinese parents often replace everything with good learning.

American parents encourage their children to participate in public welfare activities in schools and communities, and parents also act as participants, organizers, and service providers of activities, requiring their children to do volunteer work twice a week. However, American parents do not require their children to learn the piano, painting, and dance, and it is all up to their children's volition.

Chinese parents only focus on their children's learning, and parents do all the housework, let alone let their children do volunteer work. If there is no extra point evaluation, even the class cadres are unwilling to let the child serve. But he never relaxes or even forces his children to learn the piano, painting, and dance, and accompanies them around the clock on weekends.

Fourth, American parents build their children's self-confidence, and Chinese parents hit their children's self-confidence.

American parents say to their children, "You're the best. But I know you can do better, I know you. "I'm far worse than you when I'm your age. It's okay if you don't do well in the exam this time, I'm sure you'll be able to do it next time. ”

The Chinese parent said, "You're so stupid, you can't answer such a simple question." "You see, other people's children are better than you.

I've told you how many times, but I just can't remember it. These words, intentionally or unintentionally, are often on the lips, which greatly hit and destroy the child's self-confidence.

China's patriarchal style is common, and the United States has not been to know much about it, but it should pay more attention to cultivating children's independent personality.

China cultivates people based on self-concept, while the West cultivates people for the benefit of society and the trained.

One is that Westerners attach great importance to their own family, before marriage, they may be more casual with boyfriends and girlfriends, but after marriage, they will be very loyal, the ring does not leave their hands, not at all like some people describe, everyone is looking for a lover.

The second is for children, this is the biggest difference, parents treat children really very patiently, and very equally, really like friends. They always respect their children's choices, while Chinese parents say, "You do what I say, what do children understand?" In addition, the biggest difference between them is that they love their partner more than they love their children (in China, on the contrary, parents love their children more than their partners, and most parents have a very strong desire to control their children).

The third is the elderly abroad, because the social insurance is better, they all live alone, and the children visit from time to time to cook together. And the elderly without children are very well taken care of, living in a clean and beautiful apartment, full of flowers and plants on the balcony (I am talking about a relatively rich country, of course), but they are very independent in their thinking and do not want to rely on others.

Fourth, in foreign countries, relatives call each other by name, when everyone chats, men and women, love, sex, everything is discussed, and the children present are also very happy to express their opinions, and when they eat, they will feel like a more warm gathering of friends. I really envy this kind of equal but loving family. Hope to adopt!

There are indeed differences between China and the United States in terms of educating children, and it is absolutely appropriate for Chinese children to accept the concept of American-style parenting in the United States. On the contrary, if the concept of American parenting is moved to China, due to different national conditions, people will think that it may not be suitable for Chinese children. Examples:

1.In the U.S., even preschoolers who do something for their elders, such as carrying shoes or sharing their own snacks, are thanked by the elders. But China will not, thinking that this is the way it should be, and thanking the younger generation is the elder.

2.China is patriarchal and dogmatic (including kindergartens and schools), and it stipulates that children must behave in everything they do, what they should do and what they should not do. But often they don't explain or guide, which completely stifles the child's personality.

The United States is just the opposite: let children give full play to their individuality, and what should and should not be explained and guided until the child understands. This is important for children to build self-confidence.

3.A Chinese child falls down while playing, basically crying and waiting for a parent or kindergarten teacher to help him or her up; Although American children also cry, they all get up on their own, and parents or kindergarten teachers will not help them, which is really "let the child fall and get up where he falls".

4.Chinese children.

At the age of four or five, parents still feed them, and even chase after the children who are eating and playing with the bowl to feed. Even if a child in the United States has not yet learned to walk, as long as he knows how to grasp the food with his hands, his parents will not feed him, and he will make it all over the floor. Therefore, Chinese and American children of the same age have stronger independence ability than Chinese children in this regard.