What it s like to have high self esteem

To have high self-esteem is to take yourself too seriously, to take others too seriously, or to look down on others at all. In my understanding, self-esteem, as the name suggests, is a state of mind that respects oneself. If you have too much self-esteem, you want to fight for everything, and if you don't reach your goal or don't get the results you want, you will be very disappointed or frustrated.

This in itself is not a normal psychological phenomenon. In my brother-in-law's words, this is a pathology. Living a super tiring life, others will think you have a problem if they don't understand.

My understanding of self-esteem. Too much self-esteem is not good (it's actually nonsense), just as every personality has its own strengths and weaknesses. It's not always better.

People with strong self-esteem have the advantage of being very motivated to do things, have high self-requirements, and are easy to do some difficult and challenging things. The disadvantage is that it is sensitive, easy to hurt the people around you, unable to accept other people's jokes, and some words that others say intentionally or unintentionally are particularly easy to go to the heart, which leads to excessive concern about other people's opinions and inaccurate positioning. I myself am like that, cold on the outside and fiery on the inside.

Self-esteem is too weak, I think this is very little or non-existent, who doesn't want others to pay attention to their own goodness? I think there are only two cases, either the self-esteem is too strong, or the self-esteem is average.

One of the obvious signs for me is that I care too much about what others think of me, and I can't be myself well. I didn't understand why I was particularly sensitive to some small things, but I found out that sensitivity is because of high self-esteem, and strong self-esteem is because of low self-esteem, and low self-esteem is closely related to the growth environment and education of each of us.

If you take yourself too seriously, you will become less and less serious about others, and if you don't take others too seriously, you will take yourself more and more. Like human energy, attention is a very limited resource. If you don't take others seriously and take yourself too seriously, it will lead to taking yourself too seriously and not taking others seriously.

Just like the relationship between the previous 12 corresponds to the second 21. This creates a vicious cycle that, over time, can lead to a sign of high self-esteem.

In daily life, I don't know how to greet people who are generally familiar, and I turn my head slightly when I see it, I hope that others can greet me first, and I will respond very eagerly, not coldly or something, but I'm afraid that if I greet others, what if others ignore me, what if others don't know me? What should I do if someone sees it and doesn't react? It's embarrassing, it's embarrassing, you can't take the initiative to say hello, you can't take the initiative to say hello.

I don't like to take the initiative to know others.,But I'll respond to someone who takes the initiative a little bit.,It's not an introverted character.,Everyone's evaluation is a big grin.,Lively and cheerful.,More enthusiastic.,But it's definitely not going to take the initiative.,It's more skinny after a little familiarity.。 But that's the case, when I talk to my friends, they say that they think I'm so cold when they see me for the first time. When I'm with a group of friends, it's funny.,It's more fun.,But when a friend wants to introduce me to her other friends.,When I'm eating and playing, I feel very embarrassed.,I can't let go at all.,I think others won't want to know me.,Most of her friends here know each other.,I'm so embarrassed so I don't talk.。

My husband is such a character. He takes everything he says very seriously, but in fact, many words in life are said casually. And I don't trust people, it takes a long time to trust people, and I don't know, even if I trust, I have reservations.

Life seems like a lot, but remembering all the details he cared about, I was quite scared when I thought about it. I think it has something to do with the family environment, the upbringing, the lack of love, the lack of communication, the lack of security, and the setbacks that I have experienced. Of course, this is also related to personality and personal talent, and people with strong and conceited personalities don't want others to say that he is not at all; Poor communication comprehension skills, unable to express the obvious, and some situations are particularly sensitive.

I wonder how to change it.

I don't know when I've become this kind of character, and I'm particularly annoying. It has something to do with the family, the parents are poor couples who mourn everything, the mother is always complaining, and the father is angry at every turn. I am sensitive and suspicious, even though I have been an honor student since elementary school, but I still have low self-esteem, I think no one will like me, and I will use flattery to make friends but I always feel that my friends are not so sincere to me, so in the end I have no true friends.

If you start a relationship very early, even if you know that there is no result, it is easy to fall in love, as long as the other party is kind to me. always thinks that he is a brocade night walker, but in fact, his qualifications are mediocre.

Sometimes when someone whispers something behind my back, I think he's saying bad things about me, and then I get really angry.

When I was a child, I always found some quiet friends to play, didn't stay with those small groups, and after school, I never liked to go out to play, I liked to stay at home, watch TV and read books, engage in small productions, and I couldn't get out. Sensitive, someone inadvertently laughs at me and points out to me, they will think a lot, does he not like me? Am I doing something wrong?

When he was a child, he was introverted, sensitive, and precocious. I read a lot of books, wrote well-written essays, and was often regarded as a model text, which was the only way that my little me could fight back against them and maintain my self-esteem.

If you have a strong sense of self-esteem, you will feel that you will take many things more seriously.

My self-esteem is relatively strong, sometimes I like to express myself in the crowd, I am not afraid of failure, I like to work hard all the time, I think this can increase my self-confidence.

A very strong person can compromise on anything, but don't do anything that hurts his dignity.

People with high self-esteem tend to be overly demanding, overly sensitive, concerned about what others think or evaluate, don't like to be ignored, and crave attention.

People with particularly high self-esteem are self-absorbed, stubborn, and disrespectful of other people's opinions and feelings; The loss of self-esteem can lead to self-esteem, self-inferiority, and even self-abandonment, leading to depravity or sin.

Self-esteem is a person who is often in a position of respect in the family, group and partners, and thus often produces a sense of pride, superiority and forms stable emotional tendencies and personality traits.

The establishment of self-esteem is not only related to a person's many merits and honors, but also to his superior status.

A child with many shortcomings who has done a little good deed, if he is noticed, praised and respected, and his position in the group is restored, his self-esteem will make him more self-loving and therefore more demanding of himself.

The British psychologist Mak Duhu called self-esteem"Self-esteem"He also believes that self-esteem is the key to understanding volitional activity, and is also the basis for self-respect and the cultivation of morality.

Respect oneself, maintain one's own personal dignity, and not tolerate insult and discrimination from others.

Self-esteem: Able to actively fulfill one's obligations to society and others, conduct oneself in a fair and upright manner, and have a strong sense of responsibility for one's work; In terms of learning, they can carry forward the spirit of self-consciousness, diligence and hard work.

It is a psychology that is gradually formed in the acquired environment, everyone has self-esteem, but do not distort it to form vanity, which will cause endless harm.

Children with strong self-esteem are generally better and stronger, and do not admit defeat, but it does not mean that children with strong self-esteem are not good, it depends on the child's self-control, if the child can control himself well and do not do anything to hurt others, then it is nothing, if he can't control himself, then there may be some problems, so parents should pay attention to the psychological changes of their children.

When others say that your shortcomings are wrong, you will feel hurt and will want to defend yourself. When you are accused and criticized, you will feel embarrassed, and you will be compared with others, worse than others. I will be motivated, and I will definitely be happy when I am praised.

It's all a sign of high self-esteem. In fact, everyone has self-esteem. We all like to be encouraged by the praise of others to nourish our self-esteem.

We don't like the criticism and accusations of others, which can weaken our self-esteem.