What blows have you been hit in your life?

I remember that I was only in the third grade at that time, and at the end of the year, the village was filled with a festive atmosphere, and every household was cooking Daqi, and we had a kind of New Year's food, I never expected that I would suffer such a big blow on this day. Cooking Chinese New Year food is made with straw as fuel for the sake of authenticity.

In the evening of that day, I played hide and seek with a few friends in the village who were usually familiar with me, and agreed that the forage house was more fun. A group of children went in noisily, and after a few rounds, it was finally the turn of a few of us to hide, and another little friend was a ghost.

10 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes passed, and at first I was complacent and felt that I was hiding and had not found it. The raindrops outside the house were beating on the tiles, and I began to panic, Xiaojia, Xiaomin, I heard a sentence of ah, no, nothing, and the response to me was the sound of the insects drilling through the hay, and I got up and wanted to open the wooden door to go back, but the door did not move, and I looked out from the gap and locked it.

The rain is getting heavier and louder!! Thundered!! A flash of lightning crackled towards the skylight, and I was not afraid, I wanted to wait slowly for someone to come to my rescue. Looking at the walls surrounded by yellow mud blocks, the mottled marks tell of their long years.

Suddenly, I will never forget that moment, when my eyes fell on the shelf above, a lightning crackled and hit the skylight again, I clearly remember that there were some portraits in court clothes enshrined on it, the lightning flashed, a bright will clearly see those people, the lightning flashed, a bright light will clearly see those people, that picture I still remember a muffled thunder plus a series of lightning and the portrait of the late Qing Dynasty, I was almost scared to pee.

The rain is still falling, I am terrified, but there is nowhere to hide, even because of the nightfall, some hateful little creatures from all around to me, have you ever been crawled by rats and cockroaches? I have! Have you ever been so desperate that you thought you would starve to death in a hay house?

I have! I was standing and walking, not daring to stand and sit down for a long time, and as soon as I stopped, those horrible things would come and harass me.

Later, the owner of the hay house took the grass to cook and let me go, and as long as I was alone indoors and there was thunder, rain, and lightning, I would be afraid. To this day, I still can't understand why my friends locked me in. It was only from then on that I planted the seeds of distrust.

Luckily, I met her. It was another thunderstorm day, I was home alone, she called, attentive and gentle.

It's night thunder

The fears of childhood haunt me

But remembering the day she said

Apples can be made into canned food

Do you say pears are OK? 

I said yes, what do you think about it? 

It's normal, I'll go back. 

yes, that's normal.

It doesn't seem to have suffered too much blow, but my father's sudden death made me very regretful, but fortunately, my father was in his seventies, a few years have passed, think about everyone's such a day, I feel that my father's sudden is also very good, at least he is not like his mother to endure the long-term torture of illness and finally die. So it doesn't seem like there's been any blow that can't be forgotten.

In fact, at different times, there are differences, and I feel that it is the biggest blow, but fortunately, I have survived! As an elder said, in fact, life has to go through many difficulties! But another elder told me that there are no hurdles in life that cannot be overcome!

I really thank them for the teachings they have given me, the methods they have given me, the strength they have given me, and the motivation that has inspired me to get out of the lows of my life.

When I was a child, I had two family blows, I didn't understand anything at the age of seven or eight, and the second time I understood something in the second year of junior high school. After college, the blows have been continuous, all kinds of failures in interviews, and the failure of the graduate school entrance examination in a daze. Graduate students have been failing in experiments, and they have completely lost confidence due to continuous blows, feeling hopeless in the future, and having no confidence at all.

After a long blow, it is like a drum being broken, and the ability to resist blows is quite poor.

It shouldn't be you, it's probably for me that I'm going through the fatal blow that life has brought me now. Usually people say that the eyes are the windows of the soul, but now I have to rely on glasses and a magnifying glass specially equipped abroad to complete reading and writing. Due to the loss of eyesight, what to see and write has become a wake, every day can only live at home by listening to books, the original distance, poetry, fields have left me, I only seek the vague scenery in front of me, but at this time I still want to thank God He did not turn me into a blind man, he also made me full of expectations for the future life, full of confidence, full of hope, full of hope.

I remember that at that time, I had just graduated from university, had not worked for a few years, was full of ambition, gave infinite hope and beautiful vision for the future, and was preparing to show my strength in a state-owned enterprise and have a good experience. It was at this time that the bell of reform rang. In the structural reform and the transformation from a planned economy to a market economy, because the state-owned enterprises to which I belong cannot meet the needs of the market, there is a backlog of products that cannot be sold, and wages cannot be paid.

And we are also in the embarrassing age of being old and young, facing the children who are waiting to be fed and the parents who are old and sick, what kind of despair is that?

1. Keep thinking and don't run away. Running away won't solve anything, and it will set the stage for making the same mistake next time.

2. Give yourself time, try to comfort yourself, and know how to forgive yourself and encourage yourself often. I think it's better to be alone than to talk to your friends right away, because if you can't figure out your situation, you won't be able to express it clearly with your friends, and you'll get more and more chaotic.

3. Don't stop reading, especially some highly recognized books, if one of the paragraphs talks about things similar to yourself, then as a reader, you will be deeply encouraged, and you will greatly dilute your sadness, because you will think that this kind of experience of mine is just the most ordinary experience of many people in the world, so that you will not feel that you are particularly unlucky, especially lonely, and you will not be particularly unable to think about it. Because there are some things that are - only people who have the same experience can feel the warmth of each other.

4. After the personal mood becomes better, try to contact more things that can enhance personal value, such as reading, listening to public classes, you have to believe that the world is still very realistic, and I now believe that it is difficult for people with low self-worth to get the real dependence of others, so any long-term and stable relationship must be that everyone basically maintains a rhythm and speed of common growth. There is no unavoidable pain, there is no sinking that cannot be ended, and all that is lost will return in another way.

5. Find the reason to clear your mind, calm down when you are frustrated, find out the possible causes, and then find a solution.

I don't know if you've ever had such a similar experience, when you want to change yourself through learning and hard work, you are often hit by the blows around you. That's what happened to me.

I used to be a person who didn't like to learn, and after graduation, I basically didn't read any books, and I didn't take the initiative to learn anything.

At the beginning of 2020, I started studying online for a number of reasons, hoping to change myself through learning.

However, in the process of learning, various voices emerged.

For example, "You have been reading for so many years, and you are still like this, it is useless to study", "If you had worked so hard when you were studying, you would have been admitted to a key university a long time ago, who are you trying to show now?" "The most important thing for you right now is to take care of the kids", etc.

Teacher Xue Bottle of Qingchuang Stars shared her thoughts on "there are often negative blows around you": when you surpass others, there will be a lot of negative voices, and when you surpass others, there will be no negative voices.

I couldn't agree more, because there are so many negative voices around me, that is, I am not good enough.

Start from small things, start from developing good habits.

I believe that as long as I persevere, I will become a better version of myself!

It's true, as people often say, the ideal is beautiful, but the wallet is empty, so we have to work hard to defeat reality.

That's true. Because there will always be unsatisfactory in life, there will always be a lot of setbacks waiting for us, but this is life, of course we have to experience the colorfulness of life, so that we will grow better.

Yes, it is indeed very cruel, it is very different from what we imagined, and our tolerance is also very weak.

When I used to go to school, the teacher ranked the grades, how could I find it for a long time and didn't see me? It turned out that the exam was too bad and I was ranked at the back, and I turned the page.

I was actually rated the worst in the same period, and I really felt like a bolt from the blue.

The biggest blow I have ever suffered in my life is the failure of my business, I always thought that I could succeed, but I didn't expect to fail in less than a month, and it really hit me hard.

When I wrote **, I thought it was good, but it turned out to be ......Don't mention it.

After graduating from university, I started my first business with my classmates, but because I had no experience, I failed, and I suffered a lot of blows at that time, and I also lost a lot of money, and I didn't come out of the shadows for a long time.

When I was in high school, I was very fat and was often teased by my classmates.

The boy I like, a boy who is too conventional, can only be described as such, very clean, smoking and drinking, in an Internet café every day, swearing, but he is not too bad a boy, really not, just emotionally scumbag. I like him, at that time it was still popular to write love letters, I wrote a lot of words, please give it to him at the same table, and then, he divided a girl at the time, and then, this male classmate, he showed the love letters I wrote, three pages, one by one, to his ex-girlfriend, and they reconciled, and then, I became everyone's joke, because his ex-girlfriend read the paper almost twice in the class, which was a blow, and this blow caused me to rarely dare to fall in love again. <

Senior year of high school, learned art, spent a lot of money, and said a lot of big talk to the family, what to say that you can go to a book or something like that (at that time, my grades were difficult to go to undergraduate), I went alone, of course, my art examination is good, I took a book of the top three in the province, the head teacher knew that after I reasoned with me every day to relieve pressure, I was afraid that I was stressed, and I said a lot of big things in the class at that time, as a result, the third year of high school played the craziest, no brake, the college entrance examination results came out, the college was proper, and there was no face to meet with my parents, I don't dare to fight with the teacher, my classmates rarely contact me, no way, I'm just a stupid lack of face to live and suffer, this is the most striking thing in my life, so that I haven't slowed down until now.

There are a lot of things that hit me in life, now a sophomore, I haven't reached the age of standing, I haven't been confused, I don't know the destiny of heaven, how old am I, I will suffer a little loss, there is still such a long way to go in the future, I don't care how much I have to suffer, I am not afraid, even if it is a very embarrassing past or a very difficult past, as long as it is the past, I am not afraid, so, I am not afraid of how much loss, and I am not dead, shake the pain on my body, and continue to go.

After I graduated from university, my business failed, and then my friends and family left me and were unwilling to help me, and I was devastated.

I was told that I was stupid and had no emotional intelligence.

Because of my own affairs, I didn't get into my dream university.

Although I haven't been in college for a long time, I have experienced a lot of blows, for example, I have always been very sure that the scholarship application was not successful, in fact, I am always very low in the face of blows, low for a long time, usually I am a person who loves to talk and make trouble, but when I experience a blow, people I am familiar with will be able to see it, but I will comfort myself, I will write down my thoughts, what I want to say and all the experience I have summarized, after this is over, there is no need to always be in the shadow of this matter, Because life has to go on, it is the most important thing to sum up experience! ‍‍

I dare to say that as long as people live in this world, they will definitely be hit by some people or things, and people who have not experienced blows will not grow. Therefore, we should not hold grudges against those who have hit us, but should be grateful to them, because it is because they make us realize our own shortcomings, so that we can continue to make up for ourselves and improve ourselves. ‍‍

2015 was a very important and difficult year for me. This year there are bar exams, postgraduate exams, and graduation**. And it just so happens that I didn't do all three.

The judicial examination was not passed directly, and the life and death of the graduate student in the preliminary examination are now uncertain, and the graduation ** was also written at the time. I am a person who can't resist the pressure, and the review process for the bar exam is very happy, but the result is not good, so I was sad for a long time, but it was fine in the afternoon, and I still reviewed for the postgraduate exam the next day. The graduate school entrance examination is more boring, and I am alone the whole time, I still get up so early to study for so long, but I just can't take the exam, and a classmate who is in the same school as me hardly works hard and is almost the same as me.

However, I was only sad for half a day before I threw myself into something new. ‍‍