The family conditions are not very good, the child always has low self esteem, how to enlighten it?

The inferiority complex has a great impact on children's growth, and some inferiority complexes are caused by vanity. The most helpless thing is the disagreement with my living environment and relatives around me from the heart, such an inferiority complex is difficult to change! Speaking of low self-esteem, I have a vivid case here:

Xiao Xu is a sixth-grader at our town center school, and a few years ago, his father died young, and his mother has not been seen since she remarried. Xiao Xu's grandfather has also passed away, and the old couple only has a son like Xiao Xu's father. Xiao Xu's grandmother was helpless, and ** took her into a nursing home, and Xiao Xu followed his grandmother to live in the nursing home.

When the classmates went home happily after school, Xiao Xu could only go back to the nursing home and look at the old people. There is no problem in life, because Xiao Xu's family situation is difficult, so he is a poor object of the establishment of a card, there is no charge for studying, and the ** subsidy is basically enough to live. But in Xiao Xu's heart, he is different from other classmates, and he feels that his life is gloomy.

Although the teacher enlightened many times and deliberately cared for other students to have more contact with Xiao Xu, it did not have any practical effect because it could not change his living situation.

Finally, on a weekend, after Xiao Xu and his grandmother quarreled, he ran away from home, and his grandmother was too old to look for it, and the school, the village committee, and the town searched for it in many ways and still haven't heard from him. This is the consequence of low self-esteem, and this kind of inferiority complex society is difficult to intervene in, because he has relatives, and there is no problem with life, but the living environment is not good.

The inferiority complex mentioned by the subject is obviously vanity, and before you do it, it's good to take a beating! Now, of course, beating and scolding children is not advocated. Just own a luxury car, eat big meals from time to time, how many families are there for travel?

If you really want to compare, you can compare learning, self-cultivation, mind, courage, etc., this is the real wealth that belongs to you, and the ability to ensure your future life!

Now that information is developed, young people think they have seen the world, so they are generally more impetuous, and the heart of comparison is more serious. Internet celebrities spend a lot of money, celebrities hug each other, ask about the ideals of children now, and the idols in their minds are no longer doctors, teachers, scientists, but Internet celebrities and celebrities. In the minds of children, they are full of desire for money and traffic.

In such an environment, children compare with each other, housing, cars, parents' occupations, family income, etc. have become items for them to show off and compare. Once they feel that there is a gap between them and others in terms of family conditions, some children begin to have low self-esteem.

Children who like to compare have no sense of gratitude, they complain about why they were not born in a rich family, and they blame their parents for not creating superior conditions for them. As everyone knows, there is absolute fairness in the world? You envy the superior conditions of others, and perhaps others will envy the harmony and health of your family.

Conclusion: Everything is arranged for the best! The rich have the troubles of the rich, and the poor have the happiness of the poor.

We can change the status quo through our own efforts, to the point that there is no need to complain, feel sorry for ourselves, and there is no need to feel inferior!

Low self-esteem is generally due to lack of self-confidence, and we can't change family conditions, but we can strengthen the cultivation of children's areas of expertise, so that they can be confident in some aspects first.

The child should be told that there is no way to change the family conditions. But children can change their lives through their own efforts.

Let children focus on learning, be confident and optimistic, and believe that knowledge can change destiny.

I think the best way to persuade is to give examples. And the example should be the people and things around her, the example of the poor family conditions but the self-confidence and success, such an example with the result is the most convincing.

Children feel that the family is not good and feel inferior, so they should communicate and encourage them more. Parents should also tell their children that those who ostracize him or even look down on him because of family conditions are not worth making friends. Because of this kind of communication, there is not much real friendship in it, and it is difficult to develop into high-quality interpersonal relationships.

The ones who are really worthy of his association should be those who can abandon the family conditions. Only in this way can people pay more attention to something beyond economic power, thus making friendships more pure and valuable. Children with low self-esteem need guidance and help from their parents to help them get out of their low self-esteem and become confident.

1.A child's inferiority complex may also be pushed out by those around him. Although children are not as snobbish as adults, they also know how to compare, and naturally know how to make better friends in material terms.

Therefore, once the child does not get better material enjoyment because of poor family conditions, he will be excluded by the people around him, and it will be difficult to make friends. Only the child has a full sense of security.

If you feel the love of your father and mother, you will not easily deny yourself and fall into low self-esteem. Children with a sense of security, even if they are inferior to others in some aspects such as academic performance and family economic conditions, will not fall into deep inferiority.

2.Sometimes low self-esteem really stems from the poor financial ability of the family, and some parents do not tell their children that they can obtain good financial ability through their own efforts, or tell their children that they have missed many opportunities because of poor learning. These parents, they will turn a blind eye to financially capable families, not only for themselves, but also for their children.

3.Parents' excessive demands for perfection will make children feel inferior, and will stifle a little bit of courage to work hard to do well. Encourage children to actively discover themselves, encourage children to do more for society, tell children that helping others is an ability, so that children can feel their own strength and build inner self-confidence while helping others.

The above is the answer to the question of how to enlighten children if they feel bad about their family and feel inferior.

We must communicate patiently with our children, make our children's hearts richer, enrich our children's spiritual world, let our children grow up in a healthy family, and improve our children's social skills.

Children should be enlightened with a rational attitude. It should also let the child understand that his parents love him very much, and he should also provide the child with enough security, and should also let the child resist inferiority complex and make the child more cheerful.

You can often joke with your child, and you should also understand your child's personality in life, and to understand your child's interests and hobbies, you can take your child to some parties, or take your child to participate in outdoor activities.

You can take your child to help some people, so that your child can feel loved and feel some sense of achievement, which can make your child feel very confident.

Children think that the family is not good and feel particularly inferior, parents can give their children some care and encouragement, and motivate their children to study hard. Instead of letting children learn in oppression, many children will feel that their family is not good because the people around them have made a comparison with him. That's why he dislikes his family conditions and feels a little inferior.

Use children to see the outside world, let children not focus on the family environment, so that children can learn hard at the same time, know that knowledge can change fate.

Let the child improve his current state in his own way, learn to support the child, encourage the child, and tell the child that the family situation does not determine anything. But if you don't work hard, then it's a kind of sadness. After the child understands this situation, I believe that the child will also improve.

Because many children do not realize what path they should take, they will have some bumps in the road.

Because they feel that their family conditions are not good, they feel inferior, so they will especially dislike their family. It is necessary for children to become confident and strong, to be able to face their families correctly, and to face everything around them correctly. After the child improves this imagination, I believe that the child will also re-examine everything around him, and the child will not have confidence in his family, which is actually a normal performance.

Because of their family, they have no social connections, so they will have special low self-esteem. In fact, at this time, parents must improve their children's psychology, and do not let their children develop a timid and fearful performance. Give your child confidence so that he can smile and face what everyone thinks of him.

After the child has changed the adversity, the child will be able to understand the parents' intentions. Therefore, poor family conditions are not the main reason for poor study, as long as you find the right method, you can also improve the current situation.

Parents should encourage their children, parents should not say some words without money in front of their children, and do not cry poor in front of their children, they should let their children see more of their parents' love for their children, and parents should not quarrel or fight in front of their children, so that children can slowly become confident.

If you can't change what you already have, then change the future, work hard, and create your own world.

Parents should enlighten their children well, and should also give their children a correct education, which will have certain benefits for the growth of the child and can also make the child have more changes.

Introduction: Children feel that the family is not good and easy to feel inferior, then at this time parents need to give their children a certain guidance and understanding, give more encouragement to children, regardless of whether the child succeeds or fails, parents should not take a negative attitude first, as long as the child has a little progress, to give encouragement in time, do not say something that shocks the child's self-confidence, and avoid comparing the child with other children. Parents should not play with mobile phones or computers for a long time, you can read books and play games with your children to exercise, and you should communicate more with your children to let children express their ideas, so that children are willing to express themselves on some occasions, and they also have enough self-confidence.

If the child has a serious inferiority complex, parents must not be too anxious, they can slowly adjust the child's psychology, communicate more with the child, tell some stories to encourage the child, and usually take the child to contact more outside things.

Some parents like to hit their children very much, always scold their children, always say why are you so stupid, this little thing can not be done well, in the long run, children will lose self-confidence in the criticism of parents, think that they are inferior to others, it is easy for children to have an inferiority complex, so that they do a lot of things without confidence, and will also encounter failure, in the scolding of parents, children's self-confidence is gone, more inferiority, this is a vicious circle.

Thrift is a good character, but some parents will be too frugal when educating their children, so it is easy for children to cause a psychological idea, thinking that the family is very poor, which will make children easy to have inferiority complex in the process of getting along with others, even if they see what they like very much, they dare not tell their parents, afraid that their parents will say that they are not sensible.

Finally, many times children's behavior and language are learned from their parents, and the behavior and style of parents will also affect the child's life.

At this time, you can take your children to travel, you can also take your children to eat, you can also take your children to the movies, and you can also take your children to go shopping, if you have free time, you can also enroll your children in an interest class.

At this time, we should communicate more with the child, get rid of this inferiority complex, and tell him that it doesn't matter if the family is not good, and our family can improve the family situation through hard work.

In such a situation, parents should actively guide their children, establish a correct three views for their children, do not let their children feel inferior because of family problems, encourage their children more, and let their children see some shining points in themselves.

Children should be given some psychological guidance, and children should understand that family background is not the most important factor, and children should learn to work hard to create their own lives. It should also improve the child's self-confidence and let the child learn to struggle.